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I have problem with my wife from last 10 months, she is not interested in sex.

Every time I told for that she denied me and reason that in winter she says chilling and in summer she told any other reason. Please give some solution to me what can I do?

Ans: Dear HS, Isn’t it time that you actually asked your wife what she wants rather than just focusing on what you want?

Since you haven’t mentioned her age, I may not be able to relate a particular phase of a woman’s life and sex in relation to that age. But broadly, I can say that for a woman to be in a mood to have sex/make love only when she is emotionally well and fit.

Maybe there is an underlying stress condition that must be looked into as this might make her lose interest in sex.

Also, certain hormonal changes with age can make women less responsive in bed. And sometimes a few medical conditions may also cause this challenge.

Whatever, it maybe, she is your partner and spouse. I would suggest that you first get down to a peaceful communication where the intent is not to drive your agenda of sex but instead being there for her and understanding her as well.

This will create a space of trust where she will be able to share her feelings and what she is going through.

Do get a basic blood work done where a few medical conditions can be ruled out as well.

And if it still persists, then it’s perhaps time to seek a professional out who can help put things into perspective by going deeper into what exactly is going on.

A strong emotional distress maybe the cause for this too.

Whatever it maybe, be with her through this entire journey. She will need a friend to fall back on for sure.

Happy bonding and all the best!

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Hi I'm 26 and my wife also same age, my wife is not interested in sex past 1 year. I tried to talk too many times for knowing what's the reason and the real issue and tried to speak tell what main issue she is facing and also tried to talk with her sister and parents and tell the situation we are facing. But she not interested to tell anybody , so i tried her phone and all details related to my help but noting in my hand. So after a 1 year i helpless so I asked directly to her can I go outside sex with any another women she not agreed so I complained the same tell me why are you not interested with me in sex . Not respond And once day I talked again can I go to sex with another women she cried in front of my family members Please help me for this situation
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Is this like a meal? Where you can't have food at home and so you can go outside and have it?
Please use your wise mind and when there is a problem, instead of running away, as a grown man act maturely and try to solve that problem.
So, if your wife is uninterested in sex, what's the point going all over town and sharing that with everyone. What will they do? Isn't marriage about taking care of each other? So, do just that. Clearly, your wife has some kind of a mind block when it comes to sex and sexual intimacy. Please help her instead of seeking sex outside...
First to a good gynecologist who may then refer her to a specialist who can help her if she carries any mind blacks. She needs help from you; so be with her...

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You may invest 20 L in Arbitrage type of mutual fund(low risk) earmarked for marriage of your sons.

Also you may invest 3 Cr into equity savings type mutual fund (moderate risk).

After 3 years it may grow into a sum of 3.89 Cr considering modest return of 9%.

I suggest that you redeem this corpus by paying LTCG(~11 L) and buy an immediate annuity for balance corpus of 3.78 Cr from a life insurance company.

I am not recommending you to do an SWP because for your required monthly income SWP rate will have to be 4.5%+ annually and I ran this on an swp calculator which shows depleted corpus of less then 1 Cr after 30 years.

Considering annuity rate of 6% you may expect to receive monthly payment of 1.89 L(pre-tax).

Seek joint annuity for yourself and your spouse with return of purchase price to your nominees.

Some life insurers offer increasing annuity at fixed intervals to account for inflation.

Also if you shop around and negotiate you may get a better annuity rate.

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*Investments in mutual funds are subject to market risks. Please read all scheme related documents carefully before investing.

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