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suresh Question by suresh on Jul 13, 2024Hindi
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i have physical relation with my elder brother wife with mutual understanding since last 8 years, now she want to stop this, i also want that, but again there is any situation create by destiny , we found some space alone and done the same again. so plz suggest what to do to stop this.

Ans: It's commendable that both of you recognize the need to stop this relationship for the sake of maintaining family integrity and personal values. Here are some steps you can take to create boundaries and prevent this situation from recurring:

Open Communication: Have a direct and honest conversation with her about the importance of ending this relationship. Reiterate that you both want to stop and agree on maintaining firm boundaries.

Avoid Alone Time: Make a conscious effort to avoid situations where you might be alone together. This can include family gatherings, social events, or any scenario where you might find yourselves in a private setting.

Set Clear Boundaries: Establish clear and specific boundaries. This can include physical distance, limiting personal interactions, and refraining from engaging in intimate conversations.

Create Accountability: Inform a trusted friend or family member about your decision to stop this relationship. Having someone who can provide support and hold you accountable can be very helpful.

Focus on Your Commitments: Redirect your energy and attention towards your own relationship and commitments. Invest in strengthening your relationship with your spouse and addressing any underlying issues there.

Seek Professional Help: Consider seeking counseling or therapy to work through the emotional and psychological aspects of this situation. A professional can help you develop strategies to maintain boundaries and resolve any residual feelings.

Develop New Habits: Engage in new activities or hobbies that can occupy your time and reduce the chances of encountering tempting situations.

Stay Mindful: Practice mindfulness and self-awareness to recognize and control impulses that may lead to crossing boundaries again.

By consciously implementing these strategies, you can create a supportive environment that reinforces your decision to stop this relationship and maintain respect for your family dynamics.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 01, 2024
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Respected Madam, I am a 44 years old unmarried man. I didn't get any girl due to my low income & because I have only bachelor degree, but my younger brother married before 7 years. I have good & emotional bonding with my younger brother's wife (37 years old) in these 7 years. I always tell her all my feelings about depression & loneliness. I tried yoga & meditation. I tried reading books. I tried travelling on tours, but nothing worked. I told my brother's wife nothing is working. To my surprise, she offered me physical relation with her for some days. I immediately told her I love my brother & can't cheat him. She said she also loves my brother & she is not watching it as cheating. According to her, it's a medical cure from her side to get me out from depression. She said she will always love my brother, but as of now, she just wants to see me happy. She said if physical satisfaction will result in my happiness, then she is ready for this. She said medicines will not work in my situation. I have asked her to give me sometime to think about it. I know her from 7 years. She is a good genuine woman. She & my brother has a child. We do flirting with each other sometimes, but never made any such move. Now, you tell what should I do ??
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Either she is very smart to suggest this OR very silly...you will know it!
Please stay away from it; it will lead to serious complications within the family and also may result in breaking relationships. They have a family; respect it and first thing, stop communicating with her. She seems to have some agenda in mind or is also attracted to you and trying to mask it as HELP to you.
At least you be the smarter one and think! Stay off of this please...

All the best!
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