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Anchal Question by Anchal on Apr 12, 2023Hindi
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Hi mam Mam meri best friend ne mujhe chod Diya kyu ki main uski tarh nahi thi vo chahti thi ki main apne andr ego leka auu jb usne mujhe bola ki apne bf ko block maar d baat MTT kr toh mana aisa nahi kiya because it's difficult to me so she said main asi friendship mein ni rehna chahti jhn meri baat sun k ignore kr de merko disrespect kra uske baad mana use sorry bola sb thik kiya vo mujhe arrogance dikhane lgi rude behave krne lgi ignore krti thi bhuut toxic battein krti thi Jo ab mersa nahi tolerate hora h mam main kya kru?

Ans: Dear Anchal,
Ab tolerate nahin ho raha, toh is baat ko dimaag mein leke apne aap ko pareshaan karna chahti ho. Ek saccha dost wohi hota hai joh binaa kaaran ya matlab ke judta hai. Ab yeh condition daalke ki woh joh bole agar aapne maana nahin toh woh naaraaz ho jaayegi; yeh koi dosti nahin hui na. Agar usne bola bhi hai ki tumhe apne BF ko block kar dena chahiye, toh koi kaaran toh dena chahiye tha na...uske baad bhi yeh faislaa aapke hai ki aap kya karna chahte ho aur us faisle ko respect karna hi padega use.
Agar ab woh toxic aur rude ban rahi hai. toh yeh jaan le ki aage se uski demands badhti hi jaayegi aur binaa matlab ke stress leke aapko ghoomna padega usko khush karne ke liye. Isiliye jab tak woh apna bartaav badal na de, aap thods usse door hi rahiye.
Khulke jeene ko hi jeena kehte hai aur yeh jeena kisika mohtaaj nahin.

All the best!

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Ans: Bhai, tumhari situation bahut mushkil hai. 10 saal tak relationship mein rahana aur fir breakup ho jana, itna aasan nahin hota. Tumhara dukhi aur confused hona puri tarah se samajh mein aata hai.

1. Apne aap ko samjho:

Sabse pehle, apne emotions ko samajhne ki koshish karo. Tumhara kya feel ho raha hai? Dukh, gussa, akelapan, ya kuch aur? Apne emotions ko accept karo aur unhen express karo.
Tumhara ex-girlfriend ke sath physical attachment tha. Isliye, breakup ke baad tumhara ek void feel hona natural hai.
Tumhara focus abhi job per nahin hai. Iska matlab hai ki tumhara mental state abhi theek nahin hai.
2. Apne aap ko theek karo:

Tumhare liye sabse important hai ki tum apne aap ko theek karo. Apne emotions ko deal karne ke liye healthy ways dhundho.
Tum therapist ya counselor se baat kar sakte ho.
Tum exercise, meditation, yoga, ya kuch aur creative activity kar sakte ho.
Apne friends aur family ke sath time spend karo.
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Tumhari mom ke liye help dhundho. Tum ghar ke kamon mein unki help kar sakte ho.
Tum maid ya cook rakh sakte ho.
Tum apne siblings se help mang sakte ho.
4. Rishta:

Tum abhi 28 saal ke ho. Shaadi karne ki tumhari age nahin hui hai.
Tum abhi relationship ke liye ready nahin ho.
Pehle apne aap ko theek karo.
Phir, jab tum ready ho jaao, tabhi dusre kisi ke sath relationship mein jao.
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Apne aap ko time do.
Positive raho.
Apne dreams ko chase karo.
Khud per bharosa rakho.
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Hello sir, I'm 34. I'm a software Engineer. Married with Kids. I have two term policies and corporate health insurance. My parents are dependent on me. Both are senior citizens. I want my parents to be finacially independent. I'm ready to invest 10L-15L. I would like to generate monthly income for my parents expenses by securing Capital. Please suggest any investment strategy which helps my partents for monthly expenses of around 10k. I can take moderate risk. Thanks. Naveen Janagam.
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Corporate Bond Funds: Investing in corporate bond funds can be a way to generate regular income through interest payments while maintaining a moderate level of risk. These funds invest in a diversified portfolio of corporate bonds with varying maturities.

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Systematic Investment Plan (SIP) in Debt Funds: Consider setting up a SIP in debt mutual funds that have the option for regular redemptions. This allows you to invest periodically and redeem a fixed amount each month to meet your parents' expenses.

Senior Citizens Savings Scheme (SCSS): As your parents are senior citizens, they are eligible for the SCSS offered by the government. This scheme provides a regular interest income and has a fixed maturity period.

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