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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 22, 2025

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 26, 2025Hindi

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Meri Age 34 saal hai or meri wife ki age 30 year's hai or humara ek baccha bhi hai , abhi kuch time pahle mujhe pata chala ki meri wife ka affair pradosh ke ek aadmi se chal raha hai vo bhi shadishuda hai or uska bhi ek baccha hai , jabse mujhe iss baare me pata chala hai tabse meri wife mujhse ro rokar maafi maang Rahi hai or mene usse maaf kar diya bache ki khatir us aadmi ki wife ko bhi pata chal gaya iss affair ke baare me , mere liye ye baat bhula pana mushkil hote ja raha hai , mujhe samjh me nahi aa raha hai ki main kya karu..? Mujhe meri wife ki baato pe bilkul yakin nahi hai, mera bharosa ab tut chuka hai , samjh me nahi aa raha hai ki kya karu mere dimag ne kaam karna band kar diya..?

Ans: Aapne apne bache ke liye rishta banaye rakhne ka faisla kiya, lekin yeh tabhi tik paayega jab aap andar se shaanti mehsoos karein. Agar aapko lagta hai ki aapki wife sirf pakde jaane ki wajah se maafi maang rahi hai aur aap uspar phir se bharosa nahi kar pa rahe, toh yeh sochna zaroori hai ki yeh rishte aage kaise chalega. Kya aap dono sach mein is rishte ko dobara mazboot banana chahte hain, ya sirf majboori mein ek saath reh rahe hain?

Agar aapko lagta hai ki aap emotionally aur mentally iss cheez ko bhool nahi paa rahe, toh kisi counselor ya therapist se baat karna ek behtar rasta ho sakta hai. Yeh samajhna zaroori hai ki maafi aur bharosa alag cheezein hain—maafi dena ek baar ka decision ho sakta hai, lekin bharosa dobara banane ke liye lagataar mehnat lagti hai.

Aapko yeh bhi dekhna hoga ki aapki wife apni galti sudharne ke liye kya kar rahi hai. Kya vo sirf keh rahi hai ya apni harqaton se bhi dikhane ki koshish kar rahi hai ki vo sach mein badalna chahti hai? Kya aap usse phir se pyaar aur bharose ke saath dekh paayenge? Agar aap andar se toot gaye hain aur aapko lagta hai ki aage chalke yeh rishte sirf dukh aur shak hi laayega, toh shayad alag hone par bhi vichar karna chahiye.

Koi bhi faisla jaldi mein mat lijiye, lekin apne emotions ko daba kar jeena bhi aapke mental health ke liye achha nahi hoga. Aapke bache ka future bhi tabhi achha hoga jab aap khud emotionally stable rahenge. Isliye, thoda waqt lijiye, apne dil aur dimaag dono se sochiye, aur jo bhi faisla lein, vo aapki khushi aur sukoon ko dhyan me rakh kar lein.

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dear mam meri age 39 hai or meri wife ki age 32 hai . meri wife ne kuch din pehle uske boyfriend se sex kiya or mujhe puri chatting bhi batai. or ab bolti haiki mujhse daro.me jo bolu wo karo. warna me or sex karungi .to me dar ke maare chup ho jaata hu me kisi se ye baat bhi nahi kar sakta hu mujhe kya karna chahiye patni se darta rahu ?? koi upaay batana please mam

Ans: Dear Lala,
Shaadi ke baahar aapke patni ne kadam rakha aur woh aapko daraa rahi hai? Kuch baat samajh nahin aayi...
Air aapko kis baat se daraaya jaa raha hai...Kya karna hai aapko aur agar nahin kiya toh anjaam kya hoga? Ki woh aur baahar sex karegi?
Yeh kaunsa shaadi hai jahaan rishtaa nahin banaa ho aur upar se aapko dhamki bhi mil rahi hai aur chup chap sehne ki koshish kar rahein hain...
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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 03, 2025Hindi

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We are couple with 1 child. However, struggling with schools for my 11 year old who has autism, can talk and severe adhd. Schools are saying that they cannot enrol him yet due to behaviour and the fact that he wont listen to anyone and behave badly. He is smart in academics but likes to do things as he wishes creating issues. he struggles with peer communication and sitting in one place and will slouch and fall from the chair. Are there any options that we can look at. As his IQ is normal we feel he will struggle in a special school as well.

Ans: I understand how difficult and frustrating this situation must be for you as parents. Your child is bright and capable, but his challenges with behavior, attention, and sitting still are making school enrollment tough. Finding the right environment that supports both his academic strengths and his needs is essential. Inclusive schools with special education support or Montessori-style learning environments may offer a more flexible and understanding approach. Occupational therapy can help increase his sitting tolerance, posture, and focus, while behavioral therapy can support emotional regulation and social interactions. You might also consider discussing the option of a shadow teacher with school staff, as one-on-one assistance in a classroom can make a big difference. In case you don't get access to an occupational therapist, approach a physiotherapist with an understanding of Sensory Integration, as they can also help with improving his body awareness and tolerance for sitting. You are not alone in this journey, and with the right support, your child can thrive. I encourage you to connect with a special educator or developmental therapist to explore the best options for him. I request you to be strong and determined. for your son.

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Suppose a person weighing 70 kg walks at a speed of 2km per hour. Will he/she lose carbohydrates or fat or both?

Ans: Dear Mr. Arjit .Thank you for your question. When a person weighing 70 kg walks at a slow pace of 2 km per hour, the body primarily uses fat as the main energy source. Since this is a low-intensity activity, oxygen is readily available, allowing fat to be burned efficiently. Carbohydrates are used more during higher-intensity activities, such as brisk walking or running. While a small amount of carbohydrates may be utilized, the majority of energy comes from fat metabolism. To improve endurance and optimize fat burning, incorporating brisk walking, strength training, or interval exercises can be beneficial. For a personalized exercise plan based on fitness goals, I recommend visiting a nearby physiotherapist for proper guidance. Wishing you good health and fitness!

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 19, 2025Hindi

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Sir how to improve my core strength? Any exercises that you would recommend? I am 34

Ans: Dear Madam/Sir. Appreciate you reach out to improve core strength as many people do neglect core muscle strength. A strong core is essential for better posture, stability, and overall fitness. To strengthen your core, start with a plank, where you lift your body onto your forearms and toes, keeping your back straight and holding the position for 30-60 seconds. Next, try the bird-dog by getting on all fours, stretching one arm forward and the opposite leg backward, holding for a few seconds, and switching sides. The dead bug is another great exercise—lie on your back with arms and legs raised, then slowly lower one arm and the opposite leg before switching. For lower back and glute activation, perform glute bridges by lying on your back with knees bent, lifting your hips up, and lowering them slowly. Russian twists improve oblique strength; sit with bent knees, lean back slightly, and twist your torso side to side. Leg raises help target the lower abs—lie flat, lift both legs straight up, and lower them without touching the ground. Lastly, try the hollow body hold by lying on your back, lifting your shoulders and legs slightly off the ground, and holding the position while keeping your core engaged. Perform these exercises 3-4 times a week for better core strength and stability. Wishing you success in building a strong core!

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Hello, I am a salaried individual posted in Gurgaon hailing from Mumbai. Can I claim HRA for both Gurgaon and Mumbai, as my daughter aged 19 is staying in Mumbai and I am paying rent for both the locations. My annual Basic is 17.8 lacs and HRA is 10.65 lacs.

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