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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 11, 2024
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i am married with kids however i still feel infatuated seeing young girls and even tried approaching them/her . however that guilt acts like a catalyst which force me to redo those silly things. i dont know hwo to come out of such thoughts + acts. note - i still care and love my wife .

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your note: I still care and love my wife...
If this were true, what would be the reason to waver and find all this infatuation boosting you to do more. It's the excitement that is the catalyst, the excitement that you possibly miss with your wife. You still care and love her, then invest time in actually building that excitement with her...it will be very fulfilling...

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