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Ganesh Question by Ganesh on Feb 01, 2025Hindi
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Hi mam, I liked onw girl whose iet in my office 3 years back . We didn't talk much as she is speaking different language. We used to talk oly work related thinav.i texted her many time personally and she is not responsible properly.but she will reply anyways.one day we all oru team went to mall and played a bowling game including her..that day that cherish moment everyone is happy..that day I fell for her. Use to text her random days regularly.one day I asked her that do you have bf.. she said no and asked me like this" did you saw anay post i put with a guy ". So we used to talk 3 to 4 days a week.the main thing is she and me not at the same location. She left the city afterwe all went to the mall and enjoying one day evening at there. She resigned job because she wanted to do mba..so she came to office where I was at to submit the laptop. I met her..went canteen had some snacks she is in hurry anyways she submitted laptops and she left..after that she called me to take the photos..but we didn't meet. She left the city saying that she will meet next time. One day while chatting I opened up about I liked her. She is laughing

Ans: Dear Ganesh,
She may not have feelings for you like the way you have for her. The only way is to find out by telling her how you feel and see how she responds.

All the best!
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I’m 36M, I met a girl in my office, who works in the same department. It was love at first site for me, but I was scared to tell her that. As time passed, I used to strike some casual conversations with her or her team to connect with her and there were some clear signs that she liked me, for example, she would call me or text me why I’m not talking to her if I didn’t message her for some time (a week) or she would ask me if I was coming to office as we were working Hybrid if not she would also not come to office. But she always refused to come out with me for a movie or date/meet saying she had a very strict family and cannot come out other than office. I used to think that this was a real thing. But all this went on until her birthday arrived. I got some gift to give her on her birthday only to know that she suddenly stopped talking to me, no replies to my messages, calls or anything. At first, I was bit concerned if there was any problem or if she was in any trouble. But little did I know it was not the case at this time. After few (many) attempts trying to reach her. I though maybe she could be busy or something and I understood may be if I did not disturb her, she might call back. Time went on I again met her after 4 or 5 months in Office with no contact. By this time, I had already realised there was something wrong and she had already lost interest in me. But still I felt like I wanted to have a closure on this and I went on and gave the gift and proposed her, that is when she told me that she was in a relationship with some other person for 4 years. This blew my mind to pieces, as I was thinking why would someone shows any sort of interest on someone when they are already in relationship with some other person. I tried to move away from her after this incident, but fate we still are working in the same department and that I have to see her more often than not. I still have strong feelings for her, but I cannot show this to her and worst act normal. Whenever I see her, I want to talk to her and If I talk to her, I fall for her again and again. But she is happy and casual about all this as if there was not casualty in whole of this thing. Even now she asks me if I’m coming to office so that she could meet me. So, through all this, I have some questions 1. Why does a women show any sort of Interest on someone else when she is already in a relationship, so she can use me as a options and throw away when done 2. How do I move on, as I did not love her for some superficial features, rather I really liked her character, and that is the worst as I feel like I’ll never be able to find anyone like her in my life. Feeling down for a long time now. I’m already 36, feels like all the doors have closed for me.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that you are hurt and upset, and rightfully so. You thought she liked you but turns out, she is with someone else. It's a good enough ground to be upset. But I want you to understand one thing- you thought; she never gave you verbal confirmation. You assumed it all. So to answer your first question- all of her interest in you might have been friendly. It is difficult for me to say it with confidence because I have not seen any of this while it happened; I am only hearing your version of it. But my guess is that she thought of you as a friend or maybe, for a while there, she might have had feelings for you, but then realized that she was committed and pulled herself back. Again, all of these are my assumptions. We do not know the truth. Only she does. The next time, whenever you think someone likes you, get verbal confirmation before you act on it.

I understand that whether she showed friendly interest and you mistook it for romantic interest or she actually showed romantic interest and ghosted you, your pain remains the same because everything was real and romantic from your end. I suggest that you focus on yourself. It's unfortunate that you have to see her every day, but so be it. Take it one day at a time. Stick with your friends in your office. Find some hobby that makes you happy and when you are ready to move on, be open to finding love. I understand that this experience was bad, but it won't be the same way every time.

Best wishes.

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Hi Shalini! While travelling from city A to city B in India, I met this young girl. I say young because I am 44 and single. She seemed much younger. It was basically on the airport bus from the airport to city center. She was the one to initiate conversation and once it started, 2 hrs just went by in a breeze. I really enjoyed the conversation. It seemed like a proper date! :D So, while boarding off the bus, I asked her if she would join me and my friends (2 boys) for a get together the next day. (I was in the city only for a very short time). She said shez fine with it and exchanged nos. But next day she very politely refused to meet me/us. She also said 'next time'. I agreed and thanked her. That's it. No more interaction. She also seemed to like my reply as she put a heart on it. However, later in the day she blocked me on whatsapp! :D Then a couple of days later, I sent her a text/SMS that it was a nice surprise to see me blocked on whatsapp! She read it and never replied. Issue is I think I have fallen for her and would like to at least squeeze 1 date with her. What do I do now? I don't think messaging her on SMS is cool as she never responded the last time. How do I let her know that I want to meet her without any stress for her. Shez in Bangalore.
Ans: I read this a few times and here are my views

1) you both got along and spoke for 2 hours does not make it a date as you imagine it to be.
2) you are overthinking too much and making a lot of assumption based on her response sent over text message.
3) how do you she was single- just because she is not married does not make her single.
4) if she has blocked you - it shows she is not keen to interact with you - respect it by giving her the space.

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