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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Dec 31, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 29, 2024

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Hi , male happily married for 6 years . I find my ex collegue very attractive. Part of me is yearning to have some good sex with her. She is also married and a good human being, she likes me but still bit sure if she really wants to have sex with me. She loves being with me.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Do you have an open marriage? If so, I understand what you are saying. If not, do you understand what you are saying?

I am assuming that you have an open marriage- even so, if you are not sure about your colleague's feelings for you or have no idea about her marital arrangements, it would be a terrible idea to approach her with this. Moreover, she has never voiced her interest in you- “loves being with you” is not the same as she loves you romantically or lusts for you. Please tread very carefully.

I am saying all of these considering you have an open marriage. If that isn't the case, I don't think I have to tell you how wrong all of it is, and how much you should focus on your marriage and whatever is lacking in it; you can even try marriage counseling.

Hope this helps.

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What are you doing? Are you some sort of a savior for a lady in distress?
You have mentioned that you are happily married...then why are you complicating your life by getting into the drama of someone else?
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Hello, I m 45 years old (Man) divorce and a collegue of mine who is 29 year old (Female) we get along nicely but since last few day i thing she is interested in me and now even i have develop feeling for her but i want to be in healthy relationship her but dont wannt to get married due my failed and bad experiece of my previous marriage. Pls suggest what should i do and dont want to loose her. Pls reply at the earliest

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