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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 29, 2024
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Hi , male happily married for 6 years . I find my ex collegue very attractive. Part of me is yearning to have some good sex with her. She is also married and a good human being, she likes me but still bit sure if she really wants to have sex with me. She loves being with me.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Do you have an open marriage? If so, I understand what you are saying. If not, do you understand what you are saying?

I am assuming that you have an open marriage- even so, if you are not sure about your colleague's feelings for you or have no idea about her marital arrangements, it would be a terrible idea to approach her with this. Moreover, she has never voiced her interest in you- “loves being with you” is not the same as she loves you romantically or lusts for you. Please tread very carefully.

I am saying all of these considering you have an open marriage. If that isn't the case, I don't think I have to tell you how wrong all of it is, and how much you should focus on your marriage and whatever is lacking in it; you can even try marriage counseling.

Hope this helps.

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I am 41 and happily married, I and my ex (36 yrs) are stills in contact, we share almost everything as earlier. She has a problem with his husband as her husband is a sexual, she did not have sex with her husband from last 4 years in her 5 years of marriage and she even don't have kid with him. He has desire for sex and she wants to have with me (pre my marriage we both evolved in sexual), she told that she is facing depression due to noon full fillment of sexual desire. she told me openly that she want sex with me, not with anyone else. she talked about her sexual issue with her husband but he is not interested. What should I do? should i do as she wants and should I denied her and ignore her?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What are you doing? Are you some sort of a savior for a lady in distress?
You have mentioned that you are happily married...then why are you complicating your life by getting into the drama of someone else?
Sure, you know this person, but she is from your past and honestly the two of you do not owe anything to each other. She has a problem with her husband...what are you planning to do about it? Fill in for him? Is this some kind of joke? Do you understand the consequences this will have on your marriage?

Be a friend to your Ex and do the right thing...enable her to handle her problems...by involving you, she is just distracting herself away from the problems that she should face and overcome...instead by involving you. Temporary pleasure and some sort of permanent damage in your respective marriages is possible...
Act wisely...

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My son has got CSE in Thapar..and ge will get Smart manufacturing at IIIT jabalpur and Mechanical at NIT delhi. What should we prefer and why Career
Ans: Yogesh Sir, Thapar Institute’s CSE program is recognized for its robust curriculum, strong industry connections, and nearly 100% placement rate for CSE, with an overall placement rate of about 90% and average packages between ?7–12 LPA, and top recruiters like Microsoft, Amazon, and Deloitte regularly visiting campus. The department emphasizes innovation, research, and hands-on learning, ensuring graduates are well-prepared for both core tech and interdisciplinary roles. IIITDM Jabalpur’s Smart Manufacturing is a modern, interdisciplinary course blending mechanical, electronics, and computer science, with a 60–72% placement rate and average packages around ?15–19 LPA, but most graduates secure IT/software roles rather than core manufacturing jobs, reflecting limited core opportunities in India so far. The curriculum is industry-aligned and future-focused, but company awareness and core job availability remain limited, though prospects are expected to grow as the sector matures. NIT Delhi Mechanical Engineering offers a solid academic foundation and improving reputation (NIRF rank 45 in 2024), but its placement rate for mechanical is around 40% and overall placements for core branches lag behind CSE, with most top offers in CSE/ECE. While NIT Delhi’s brand and central location are advantageous, the mechanical branch currently offers fewer immediate opportunities compared to CSE and IT-driven fields.

The recommendation is to prioritize Thapar CSE for its nearly 100% placement rate, strong industry reputation, and broad tech career opportunities, followed by IIITDM Jabalpur Smart Manufacturing for its interdisciplinary, future-oriented curriculum and good IT/software placements, and to consider NIT Delhi Mechanical only if there is a strong passion for core mechanical engineering, as its placement outcomes are less competitive. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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