Hi ma’am My family is not accepting my boyfriend as he is not well settled and doesn’t have any savings. His parent are also divorced and father has a second marriage. The first children custody is still with parents however my boyfriend and his brother live with his mother. He is 5 year younger than me. My family is not accepting my relationship and showing me new proposals every day. To borrow some time i am just refusing the proposal my giving some excuses but now they know that i am still not out from him and waiting for him to get settled. Kindly let me know how can i convince my family to accept my relationship. My boyfriend is working day and night to get settled and have a good account balance. Please advise.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Any parent will worry for the future of their children.
The responsibility of making a marriage work, bringing in the money now rests on both the partners and maybe your parents are unable to still see that as a possibility. It only means you and your BF need to go that extra mile to actually address their concerns whatever the concerns maybe.
Once you address their concerns and find solutions, you will not need to convince them and they will easily accept your relationship. Address and work on their concerns...

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Convincing someone especially if they believe and have decided that your boyfriend is not the right one for you, is a difficult task. My question to you is: How old are you? Are you financially independent?
These two answers will determine how and where you can lead your life. Assuming that you are a major, understand that money is an essential part of life. DO NOT look at your boyfriend earning and then supporting you...is this the reason that your family does not support you? Are they worried about your future?

Love can become impractical and make a person numb in the head; so think first about how the two of you are going to plan your life. Love is not enough to pay bills and start a family. What kind of a job is he going to look for?
But since he is still preparing for his competitive exams, he has a long way to go...You are both young; focus on your studies first...
Maybe when he starts to study further and focus on his life, your family may accept him BUT well caste differences etc, is a very strong belief that can be difficult to overcome.
Start by focusing on studies and making a future first. Who knows, things may get better!

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Don't try and convince them but simply address their worries and concerns. Surely, they wish you well and want to see you comfortable. So, sit with them and address every worry and concern rather than force them into a decision.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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