I'm Pallavi.. I got married just 4 months ago but I'm not interested to continue with this relationship.. So what should i do?

Ans: Pallavi, marriage is not a coat you can just casually try on and then cast off because you don’t like it. If you weren’t sure of what you were getting into, why did you make such a huge commitment? “Not interested” is usually what someone says to cut off ties before the wedding, not after! It’s not like you want advice on saving the relationship, so there’s no point in consulting me; I’d suggest you consult a divorce lawyer instead.

Ans: Dear KKR,
Beauty or Wealth seem a bit of outdated criteria while choosing a life partner. It surely seems important but to base it solely on either of these two will lead to a marriage where you are banking on things that are here today and gone tomorrow.
Why not instead focus on virtues that your life partner has? You might be surprised that what was important to you when you were younger seems to dull in comparison to qualities that shines from within her. Both of you can do this as an exercise and come up with a list of 'good' and 'strong' points in your spouse. It will help you both see each other in a new light that may give her a chance to appreciate you more for who you are and for you to see things in her that you never focused on. And one such 'good' point is enough to keep the marriage rock-solid and happening.
Why I ask this of the two of you is my belief that: Make an honest attempt to put your marriage together. It can seem difficult but with the right intent, it can happen very beautifully and reset the marriage. Give it your best shot!

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I don't know what pushed you to seek a relationship outside of your marriage; I am also not assuming that you have an open marriage- keeping that in mind, I don't see how you are not okay with the guy getting married. You are married, and you can never have a marital relationship with the guy. The relationship you share with him is not legitimate and it won't be unless you leave your husband. You didn't mention divorce, so I am assuming you don't plan to do so. Then why do you expect him to stick with you without any prospect of a future? Please consider what I said. I am sure you already know this, but it's time you come to terms with it.

Best Wishes.

Ans: In any relationship, especially a marriage, emotional connection and communication are just as important as physical intimacy. It's completely valid to feel uncomfortable if those aspects aren't being nurtured.

The first step would be to acknowledge your feelings as real and valid. It's important to honor what you're feeling, rather than trying to push those emotions aside. If you're not interested in the marriage and feel no attraction to him, it's okay to express that.

If you feel safe doing so, you might want to have a conversation with your husband about how you feel. It doesn’t have to be confrontational, but explaining that you need emotional connection and communication, not just physical intimacy, could open a path for more understanding. If you don’t feel comfortable doing that alone, consider seeking counseling, either individually or together, to help navigate this delicate situation.

Ultimately, your well-being, emotional comfort, and sense of security should be the top priority. If this marriage doesn’t feel right for you, it's okay to take steps to reevaluate what you want for your future. You deserve to be in a relationship where you feel respected, understood, and comfortable.