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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 06, 2024Hindi
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Dear Love Guru, I am married and 18 and 9 year old boys. I am married for 20 years, and my wife lost interest in sex from last couple of years. She also doesn’t like to sleep in same bed. I have tried to convince her, but she says , this not now age to have sex and she not young girl. Without sex, I am into depression, my wife says, she is happy to give divorce, if required. What would be best in my situation, should I go for divorce ?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Maybe your wife belongs to the group that believes that with age, one must reduce sexual intimacy OR that sex is only a means to having children.
So, just because your beliefs don't match, divorce is the only option? Work through your differences please. If on childhood, you and your siblings fought, did you think of separating from them, then why does this take place within a marriage?
Also, as a spouse you can make an effort to understand and work through this...sexual intimacy is not the only way to be close...foreplay, hugging, kissing etc are also ways to be close as a couple. This fixation that sex is the only way is what is causing you to be low (not depressed). Attend couples therapy; it will definitely help.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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Open Communication: Try to have an open and non-confrontational conversation with your wife. Choose a time when you both can talk calmly and privately. Express your concerns and let her know that you want to understand what she's going through.
Listen Actively: Encourage her to share her feelings and thoughts. Listen without judgment and be empathetic to her perspective. Sometimes, there may be underlying emotional or psychological issues that need to be addressed.
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Is this like a meal? Where you can't have food at home and so you can go outside and have it?
Please use your wise mind and when there is a problem, instead of running away, as a grown man act maturely and try to solve that problem.
So, if your wife is uninterested in sex, what's the point going all over town and sharing that with everyone. What will they do? Isn't marriage about taking care of each other? So, do just that. Clearly, your wife has some kind of a mind block when it comes to sex and sexual intimacy. Please help her instead of seeking sex outside...
First to a good gynecologist who may then refer her to a specialist who can help her if she carries any mind blacks. She needs help from you; so be with her...

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