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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 10, 2024Hindi
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I was in livin relationship from past 2 years , and few days before our parents got to know about our relationship and due to family pressure I said her no , but I can't live without her , she's my everything and I lover her soo much . But I did my life biggest mistake by saying "No" . Now her love has turned into hate and anger and she'd blocked me from everywhere and her parents are not ready for marriage. Now what should I do , how can I show her what she means to me ? She'll will never talk to me

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Give it some time. She is hurt. I am sure with time things will calm down slightly and only then you should approach her. Let her know that you panicked and said no; express in words that you regret doing the same. Say your sorries and give her time to forgive you. Speak to her parents as well and explain to them what happened. They are parents too; I am sure they will understand. And if you are ready, let them know that you will come clean to your parents and introduce her as your partner.

Don't worry, things will get better soon.

Best Wishes.

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I started a relationship with a girl. First we thought it just a relationship no marriage. But as days going we fell deep into each other that we cant live without each other. I found one thing that she loving more than needed. Im so scared of her, what will she do if i run out of her life for my marriage. This thought killed me. So I decided to leave her without telling a reason. I left her with a small issue. I really dont want to loose but i had to. I just said good bye, she also said good bye. Later i never texted her. She too never texted me. But after 2 months i felt guilty of leaving so i came back to her. Previously her parents decided to marry her to their son in law. I know this when were in relationship. So after our breakup i came back to her. But she said no to me because she is committed with her brother in law. I cant take this. Its killing me. After i said good bye she never tried to contact me for patch-up. Even no texts. Her brother in law told her that im ready to marry you. So she too said i too like you and im also ready to marry you. But their marriage will happen in 2026. I told her that untill marriage please be with me and this is our deal when we started our relationship. But she said no. I begged her many times but she always said no to me. And still now i cant believe that she said no to me. All this happened 3 months ago but still i cant forget her. Recently she deleted my number also. Everything making me feel low. What should i do now?
Ans: Dear Srikanth,

To me, it sounds like you broke up with her. No, you ghosted her. How you put her on trial isn't clear to me, given the fact that you stopped contacting her after a mere goodbye and no proper explanation. Why did she not try to contact you? Maybe she has enough self-respect to restrain herself from doing so; I cannot speak for her but judging the events, you were the one who broke up and you need to own up to it.

Moving on to her deciding to get married- I am assuming she told you she's happy to marry her intended; if so, please accept the reality and move on. Next, why is she not agreeing to be in a relationship with you till the time she gets married? To expect otherwise from any sane, self-respecting person is delusional.

You knew that the two of you could not end up together and took a decision; immature as it was, your intentions were good. Similarly, your ex chose to move on. I don't see either of you making any considerable mistakes here. Both were right in their ways, except for the "you leaving her without a word" part. It is time you move on, and let her live her life in peace. You might feel low for a while, but nothing feels worse than hurting the people you once loved, and compelling your ex to commit to you when she doesn't want to is the same as hurting her. Make the right choices.

Best Wishes!

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Hi i am 30yr old man i was in relationship with girl from school time since15 year with different caste in 2023 marriage proposal from another girl comes that time i talked with my family about my love they refused for marriage to her i did not put aggressive effort as i also don't want to hurt them after my marriage in a month i am remembering her continuously and start taking to her again i also told my wife about it she doesn't want to leave me (i also told her before our marriage but that time i told her that we broke up) after a year in this November her marriage is fixed by her parents now she is married since 2 month but she also don't want to live with her husband and want to come back We both wanted to come back to each other what should we do.??
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I understand that it is a tricky situation. I am sorry I cannot tell you what you should do, but I can tell you that you have to handle this very carefully because it's a sensitive matter and involves too many people and their emotions. You can discuss the same with your family; you might be worried about upsetting them but at the end of the day, it's your life and you will have to live a long long time with the decisions you make. Sort your priorities- ask yourself these simple questions: what would hurt you more- hurting your parents and making your wife collateral damage because of your confusion or not living the rest of your life with the woman you love? Once you can answer these truthfully, it will be easier to make a choice.

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Hello please help my gf agree with marriage of her parents choice of men forcefully.. she said she gave her 100% efforts but no one care about her opinion ..she said she lost all the hope her parents said yes to them but no further steps taken till now i said dont loose hope that easily but she keep saying i already tried my 100% but her parents not care about her opinion i said you have a chance to talk with the boy personally you can say that i am not ready for marriage my parents pressuring me.. may be he understand i dont lose hope if even 0.1% chance but she lost hope i dont know i should think that way but can you tell do you think she did her 100% efforts? And i cant move on whenever i think of moving on by trying to hate her but her caring message like i want you to get all the happiness in the world, please do study , she motivates me then after this i cant stop thinking about her because no one ever care about me that way.. my heart cry i got anxiety when ever i think about her marriage with someone else please help what should i do .. how do i move on.. please read my previous questions to know more about my story
Ans: Dear Solar,
I understand how difficult it must be for you to go through all of this- please stay strong. Coming to your question whether your GF gave her 100% to stop this wedding- no one, other than her, can truly answer this question. If you doubt it, you can ask her, but I don’t think that will help at all. Right now, your only focus should be on your wellbeing. If there is a chance to stop this wedding, it is on her. You really are not in a position to do anything about it. I know it is frustrating, but that’s the truth. If you try anything, you might ruin her relationship with her parents.


You have to focus on keeping your mind off her and the wedding and focus on yourself. Surround yourself with your loved ones. Try to pursue a hobby, keep yourself busy, and focus on your studies/career. I understand that you have anxiety and seeing a counselor about it can help more than you can imagine. But if you are not ready for it, for now, do the things I asked you to do.


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Hello, i am 15 years old......my 10th result just came out and i got 97%......actually i have always been a topper since i was small but in 9th i started getting bored of always studying and i got tired .....so i started drifting away from studies.....my grades dropped continously......and when the results came for 10th boards.....i have scored less than many people that i know were not toppers rather some were even below average.....my parents are really disappointed and are telling me that if i would have gone to classes for subjects, i would have gotten better marks......i didn't go to any classes in 10th standard for studies.....because i was very tired of constanty trying to be the best.....now i have joined coaching for NEET preparation to give neet in 2027......i really want to get the best attitude and marks back which i lost and became a phone addict......i want to show the world that i can do it.....i want to be successful......pls guide me.....i didnt tell this to my parents because i am really dissapointed in myself.....pls help
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First of all, congratulations on scoring a fantastic 97% in 10th grade! Now, forget all your worries, problems, and what your parents and others are saying. Don't compare yourself to your friends who scored higher than you in 10th grade. If you are a hard worker, then there’s no need to worry; hard work always pays off. Your upcoming target is to crack NEET with a high score. Focus more on the syllabus for NEET, and aim to achieve what you feel you missed in 10th grade. You're not the only one who is a phone addict; many others are more addicted to their phones. Schedule your time to use your phone for a limited period to help overcome the addiction. It’s always better to share your feelings with your parents if they understand you well and create a comfortable dialogue between you and them. There’s no need to feel disappointed at this early stage. 10th grade is not the end of life. Many people who failed in 10th grade went on to build their empires. Be courageous and give your best to the upcoming NEET examination. Set a target of 700+ and prove that HUM BHI KISISE SAM NAHI. Best of luck for your bright future!
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