How can I rebuild broken relationship of 6 years with my wife

Hello I am 38Yrs old and married for over 10years. One year back i discovered about my wife getting involved with another man. I was shattered as we have two kids. I initially thought of straight going for divorce but our two kids were always a priority for me and opened up conversation with my wife on what inclined her to take this step. She was shocked that I am aware of her situation. She then opened up that she felt lonely at times when I was away extremely busy with my office and at times she required emotional support for which I was not there. I explained her no reason in this world can explain her act. She felt apologetic and I decided to give another chance to our relationship keeping in mind our kids future. Its now more than an year and our physical/emotional relation have intensified since the incident. We miss each other when I am away and get into steamy conversations to compensate whenever we are distant. Despite of this I still cannot take the past out of my mind and at times it disturbs me. I feel really cheap that despite of moving ahead in our life's why I still keep bringing the past in between our relation. Although I don't discuss anymore about the incident with my wife but she can very well sense the reason when I feel disturbed. I want your help on how to best overcome of such incidents emotionally and rebuild the lost trust with your partner.

Hi I am married for 24 years. Our was a love cum arranged marriage. But within 3-4 months of our marriage we had to leave my father's house due some dispute between me and my father. We shifted to a rental home. We have two sons who are now grown up. Our family life was good. In the year 2019 I got a job in Kenya. I was working there on bachelor status. My family was staying back in mumbai and wife was also working. I visited my family very year for a month on holiday. In December 2024 I lost my job and came back to Mumbai. I was jobless for 6 months. Since July I have started working in a small firm for survival. Physically both of us are not active since 4 years. Now I feel like reconnecting with her physically and emotionally. But I feel like she is a changed person. She doesnt have any emotions for me. If I try to even touch her she gives me a scary look. Please tell me how to handle this situation. I want her back in my life.

Hello Dr, I am married for 24 years. Our was love cum arranged marriage. But within 3-4 months of our marriage we had leave my fathers house due some dispute between me and my father. We shifted to a rental home. We have 2 son who now grown up. Our family life was good. In the year 2019 I got a job in Kenya. I was working there on bachelors status. My family was staying back in mumbai and wife is also working. I visited my family very year for a month on holiday. In Dec'2024 I lost my job and came back to mumbai. I was jobless for 6 months. Since July I have started working in a small firm for survival. Physically We both are not active since 4 years. Now I feel like to reconnect with her physically and emotionally. But dont know she is a changed person. She doesnt have emotions for me. If I try to even touch her she gives me a scary look. Please tell me how should I handle this situation. I want her back in my life.