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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 13, 2023Hindi
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how to get a date of my choice with whom i can interact

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Here are some tips to find the date of your choice-

• For your bio, use the 70-30 method. Use 70% of the space to write about yourself, giving people a good look at who you are and what you have to offer. The remaining 30% should be about what you are looking for in your partner. This way, you will only attract people whose requirements and intentions are aligned with yours.
• Be very clear about your relationship preference from the very beginning. If you want a casual relationship, mention that. Or if you are interested in a serious and long-term relationship, be sure to tell your match the same in case that's not something they want.
• Be curious. If you don't put an effort into getting to know your match properly, you will never know if they are the right choice for you.
• Be genuine. If you are pretending to be someone else to impress your match, you will never find a genuine connection.

As for interaction, when you have the right match, the interaction goes seamlessly. The two go hand-in-hand.

Best Wishes!

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Me and my girlfriend we both are in relationship from about last 2 years (almost). After such a long time I got to know that she had 2 relationships before me that too she didn't told I got to know it by third person she was sexually involved too (not intercourse but yes other things with one of them)... When I asked her that why you didn't told anything to me before she said she was scared that if she'll tell it to me so I'll leave her and she really did not wanted that... She was scared to loose me. And she was still in contact with that guy and when I asked her that why you were still in contact with him (it's been around 3 years they got separated) so she says that she is like that only... She can't deny anyone because of her soft hearted nature but she did not had any feelings for him. She also said that once she even went to meet him when he requested to meet and also on the same she claims that her soft hearted nature has done that she wasn't able to deny. I loved her too much but now all these things are hurting me like anything. (She is my first relationship before her i never had anyone)
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that you are hurt and the complexities of the hearts might be difficult sometimes to grasp. The first reason for your sorrow, her past relationship, and the fact that she was physically intimate with them is not completely justifiable. Though I understand that you feel hurt because she did not disclose it to you, still it should not matter so much as to ruin your present relationship. And whether she will open up about such sensitive details is actually up to her. It has nothing to do with how much she loves you or trusts you. Please understand that.

Now coming to the next thing, the fact that she is still in touch with them and has even met one of them, that is slightly concerning. It would have been okay if she did that openly- please understand that I am not saying she should have asked for your permission, but rather discuss the same with you. Moreover, in a relationship, it is also important to understand how much your partner is comfortable with- goes for both men and women. If you are uncomfortable with her relationship with her exes, she should consider that. I would have said the same if the table was turned. I suggest you have a clear conversation with her and express how you feel about this situation- depending on how she reacts and how the conversation goes, you both can think about the next step.

Hope this helps.

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