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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 02, 2024

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Brijesh Question by Brijesh on May 01, 2024Hindi
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To be honest I already told her many times that I want to get seperated but she says that she has not thought about it and it she is dragging it so that she gets money from me every month nor we have marriage certificate nor any legal docs she wants me to take the initiative for seperation and her decisions is been taken by her mom and brother just imagine 17+ yrs of marriage and not stayed together even for 6 months

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Then if what you say is true, if you have not stayed together for so many years, possibly the marriage is already null and void. You might want to check the legal status with a lawyer who will then advice you on what to pay as support for your daughter. Holidays etc are a matter of choice whether you wish to pay or not for them. Kindly contact a lawyer...

All the best!

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