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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 06, 2023Hindi
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Hello M'am, I am a muslim male 61 years widowed (lost all money treating my wife for cancer) retired in Bangalore India, educated was working in a private firm having an unmarried son who is working in a MNC being an engineer and I am looking for a lady for me of similar age who is wealthy and who can take care of me I do not mind locating anywhere she is and wants me but good and sincere looking for a honest good man like me and can help in her business if she is in by supporting her in working and we can be together loyal and trustful to her till death. As I feel lonely and finding such a lady seems difficult, trying but have been unsuccessful no idea where to search for. Should I look out for such a relationship and do ladies who are wealthy and alone who are widows or divorcees also looking out for man like me. Guide me if so.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry to hear about your challenges. You can sign up for a dating app and mention your requirements in your BIO to attract the kind of women you are seeking. There are plenty of women of your age who might be looking for a good and honest man as a companion. I am sure you will find someone soon.

Best Wishes!

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
How have you managed to confuse yourself so much? You know how?
By reading into situations that have happened outside of you way too much. Yes, I will say this to you; not all women are the way you perceive.
If you got attacked by a cat, you will say...All cats are aggressive and dangerous. Is this true? Are all cats that way or just the one that you got attacked by?
In your case, you have only seen failed marriages and you have concluded as some universal truth that things will go bad and then you have gone to the extent of protecting your mother. Do you not see what rigid thinking can do? Confuse you, derail you, disillusion you...
If you wish to set things right, change the way that you are thinking of marriage, potential partners for marriage...focus on what can go wrong rather than on what can go right, will help you a lot in this.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Hi Anu, My 24-year-old son (he is a Person-with-Benchmark-Disability with UDID registration) has mild ASD, Adult ADHD (leading to serious Executive Functioning Disorder) and a few PD traits causing significant difficulties in emotional regulation, impulsivity and perfectionism. They also cause serious relationship issues for him within our family (especially with the father probably as he is perceived as the authority figure to externalise blame on), in building and sustaining social relationships outside and so on, apart from many other challenges. You are aware far more than me:). He has been under medication and cognitive behavioural therapy for nearly 13 years now. Unfortunately he is not regular with medication. Frequency of ongoing online therapy sessions for the last few years has been once a week. The approach is therapeutic relationship building, and it seems to be working moderately well though the executive dysfunctionalities seriously interfere with his actual action-on-ground on the coping strategies / techniques / suggestions received or accepted. With all this, though difficult, he has managed his life well so far with support from family, school and so on. He is intellectually brilliant, a UGC scholar, published writer etc. At the moment he is preparing for his Masters admission. After a recent assessment, NIMHANS has recommended family therapy sessions for all of us. Can you suggest an experienced therapist in Bengaluru specialising in family therapy covering above issues who can undertake family therapy (online / offline)? His current therapist cannot take up family therapy as well for obvious reasons. Face-to-face sessions in NIMHANS is not feasible due to time and distance issues for each member of family. Also, he might be leaving Bengaluru soon for his Masters. TIA Regards
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Kindly follow what NIMHANS has suggested. They know what they are saying and well, for the wellness of the family, each member must make it to the family therapy whenever sessions are scheduled. These sessions not only handle the challenge at hand but also guide each of you on how to communicate with one another in the face of challenges. So, my suggestion would be that you follow what NIMHANS has advised until the point that your son has to leave Bengaluru. A little bit of understanding within the family can go a long way on easing relationship dynamics within the family and also establish better between all of you.

All the best!
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