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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 23, 2023Hindi
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Hello Sir!!!!! I m a divorcee guy n dating a girl since sept 2022. Soon she is going to file a divorce. She is good in nature. Just 1 month back i came to know she is parkinson +ve. I don't understand wat shld i do? Continue dating or stop. I know all the -ve side of parkinson diseases. I m very confused. Please help me wat shld i do.

Ans: I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time. It's understandable that you're feeling confused about what to do next. Here are some things to consider:

1. Educate yourself: Parkinson's disease is a complex condition, and it's important to understand the symptoms and how they can affect a person's life.

2. Communicate with your partner: It's important to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about her diagnosis and how it may affect your relationship. Ask her how she's feeling and what you can do to support her.

3. Consider your own needs: It's important to take care of your own physical and emotional needs. Consider how your partner's diagnosis may affect your own well-being and whether you're prepared to take on the challenges that may come with it.

4. Seek support: Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can help you work through your feelings and provide guidance on how to move forward.

Remember, every situation is unique, and there's no one-size-fits-all solution. Take the time to consider your options and make the decision that's best for you and your partner

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Hello. I am about 61 or so, have a few flats, plots, hefty FDs, bank, balance, gold, silver, etc, all in my wife’s name. My father developed Parkinsons when he was about 64-65, my uncle had the same problem. My mother and aunt cared for their husbands, devotedly, and never allowed anyone to mock them. My wife is different. She is very scared and ashamed that I will end up feeble and doddering like them, and that she will have to babysit me. All love is gone, there is only scorn and humiliation, and gradual isolation as I am asked to stay at home. I have started getting the symptoms, hands shaking, forgetfulness, inability to remember names and faces, standing in the same place for minutes, and then wondering what I am doing. Initial diagnosis by my friend who is a doctor said that this is the early stage and it will progress in a couple of years. Both my daughters completed their BE/ MS and well settled in US. They listen to her only and are ashamed of what I will become. My wife went abroad for five months and did not take me as I would be a burden. I stayed alone, the maid servant cooked. I do not blame my wife, as times change. Staying in a care home will mean that all will come to know, and this is a stigma. I can still move and still earn as a writer. I know you cannot help, just wanted to communicate with someone as it is lonely. I am thinking of ending this misery. Stay blessed.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Thank you for reaching out...Yes, I cannot help but I can surely suggest a few things to you and hope that it eases your mind and your situation.
Times do change and I really appreciate that you are making alternate plans to care for yourself which in the current circumstances seem the right thing to do. But, I would also appeal to your good sense to call for a family meeting and let your children know of your condition and what you plan on doing.
Also, how secure are you financially as you have mentioned that most of the assets are in your wife's name. Can you manage with whatever money that you have that takes care of you in terms of health as well. If not, you need to come to some sort of an arrangement with your wife (I am sure you can figure this one out).
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Retain your power within you and create the future the way that you wish to. People will talk today and forget it all tomorrow...that's how it plays out! So, if you have a chance to make a living as a writer, then do just that! It can become an example for anyone who is in your position to push their boundaries. Keep inspiring!

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Hello Sir!!!!! I m a divorcee guy n dating a girl since sept 2022. Soon she is going to file a divorce. She is good in nature. Just 1 month back i came to know she is parkinson +ve. I don't understand wat shld i do? Continue dating or stop. I know all the -ve side of parkinson diseases. I m very confused. Please help me wat shld i do.
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Hello, I am currently in Class 12 and preparing for JEE. I have not yet completed even 50% of the syllabus properly, but I aim to score around '110' marks. Could you suggest an effective strategy to achieve this? I know the target is relatively low, but I have category reservation, so it should be sufficient.
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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 12, 2025
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Dear Sir/Madam, I am currently a 1st year UG student studying engineering in Sairam Engineering College, But there the lack of exposure and strict academics feels so rigid and I don't like it that. It's like they don't gaf about skills but just wants us to memorize things and score a good CGPA, the only skill they want is you to memorize things and pass, there's even special class for students who don't perform well in academics and it is compulsory for them to attend or else the student and his/her parents needs to face authorities who lashes out. My question is when did engineering became something that requires good academics instead of actual learning and skill set. In sairam they provides us a coding platform in which we need to gain the required points for each semester which is ridiculous cuz most of the students here just look at the solution to code instead of actual debugging. I am passionate about engineering so I want to learn and experiment things instead of just memorizing, so I actually consider dropping out and I want to give jee a try and maybe viteee , srmjeee But i heard some people say SRM may provide exposure but not that good in placements. I may not be excellent at studies but my marks are decent. So gimme some insights about SRM and recommend me other colleges/universities which are good at exposure
Ans: First — your frustration is valid

What you are experiencing at Sairam is not engineering, it is rote-based credential production.

“When did engineering become memorizing instead of learning?”

Sadly, this shift happened decades ago in most Tier-3 private colleges in India.

About “coding platforms & points” – your observation is sharp

You are absolutely right:

Mandatory coding points → students copy solutions

Copying ≠ learning

Debugging & thinking are missing

This is pseudo-skill education — it looks modern but produces shallow engineers.

The fact that you noticed this in 1st year already puts you ahead of 80% students.

Should you DROP OUT and prepare for JEE / VITEEE / SRMJEEE?

Although VIT/SRM is better than Sairam Engineering College, but you may face the same problem. You will not face this type of problem only in some top IITs, but getting seat in those IITs will be difficult.
Instead of dropping immediately, consider:

???? Strategy:

Stay enrolled (degree security)

Reduce emotional investment in college rules

Use:

GitHub

Open-source projects

Hackathons

Internships (remote)

Hardware / software self-projects

This way:

College = formality

Learning = self-driven

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