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Should I Marry My Girlfriend Despite Her Past Physical Relationships?

Ravi Mittal |679 Answers |Ask -Follow

Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Sep 20, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 19, 2024Hindi

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HI i had a girlfriend and she is loyal to me but she had a 2 relationships before this and with both she also physically involved, now we are planning to get married , she did not have any connections with them but I'm unable to forgot that she was physically involved, although she is very loyal and careing to me

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I will tell you what I tell everybody, your partner's past is in the past. There's nothing either of you can do to change it. And remember, your partner is not in the wrong here. But if you have issues with her being physically intimate with her exes, it is high time you air your concerns. If this is going to be an issue forever, it is better to get it out now, and deal with it, than wait for it to get worse. Neither you, nor her, deserves a life that is weighed down by the past. I cannot tell you what should and what shouldn't bother you, but I can tell you one thing- the past should not mess up the chance for a wonderful future. The choice is yours.

Best Wishes.

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