I have a GF who wanted to get intimate with me within the first week of our relation, though taken aback,I finally gave in. Such encounters became regular. But over time I realized that she gets intimate with many other male friends of her as well.I even caught her in middle of one such act .I confronted her and she partially admitted it and told that she wouldn't repeat it. But ever since I have lost trust with her. I plan to unilaterally break the relationship. But Since I am emotionally still stuck with guilt, not sure if it is the right thing to do. Please advise.

Ans:

Dear MB,

Time to bring in that wise conversation, that will be open, vocal and honest.

Tell her how you feel; wait for her to respond without judging or demanding.

Also, ask yourself if you are being possessive and jealous and if your imagination is leading you to be insecure!

Whatever it is, do sit down and have that frank discussion with her before you decide one way or the other. Communication does solve a lot of things; so please use it wisely.

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Why haven't you yet broken up? What signs are you waiting for?
(Just a suggestion: That lady's life's choice are hers...you or anyone has nothing to do about it. Stay away from labeling or giving her name tags...Plus all hear-says may not be true or they maybe...)

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry that you are hurting but her past truly should not matter to you in the present. Ideally, I am not in favor of pushing people to disclose their past experiences, especially if they are not comfortable with it. But I agree that she was wrong to get into a relationship with you when you specifically showed dislike towards the things you mentioned. I suppose she liked you too much and did not want to ruin her chances. I should also mention that judging a person by their past or because they had certain kinds of relations with their ex is not fair; you were not in the picture. Regardless of it, your pain is valid. It isn't easy to come to terms with new information about your partner's past.

Now hear me out, past is in the past. It can only hurt you if you let it. Think about it properly- did she do anything in the present to hurt you? NO. Can you or she change the past? NO. Should she apologize for having a past? NO. Should you move past this and work towards a better future? That's the only thing in your control. Chose wisely. If you think you will hold her accountable for this forever, then you both should reconsider this relationship. If you think this fight is meaningless, and want to move forward with your relationship, then great.

Best Wishes.