I have a GF who wanted to get intimate with me within the first week of our relation, though taken aback,I finally gave in. Such encounters became regular. But over time I realized that she gets intimate with many other male friends of her as well.I even caught her in middle of one such act .I confronted her and she partially admitted it and told that she wouldn't repeat it. But ever since I have lost trust with her. I plan to unilaterally break the relationship. But Since I am emotionally still stuck with guilt, not sure if it is the right thing to do. Please advise.

Ans:

Dear MB,

Time to bring in that wise conversation, that will be open, vocal and honest.

Tell her how you feel; wait for her to respond without judging or demanding.

Also, ask yourself if you are being possessive and jealous and if your imagination is leading you to be insecure!

Whatever it is, do sit down and have that frank discussion with her before you decide one way or the other. Communication does solve a lot of things; so please use it wisely.

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Why haven't you yet broken up? What signs are you waiting for?
(Just a suggestion: That lady's life's choice are hers...you or anyone has nothing to do about it. Stay away from labeling or giving her name tags...Plus all hear-says may not be true or they maybe...)

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that you are hurt and the complexities of the hearts might be difficult sometimes to grasp. The first reason for your sorrow, her past relationship, and the fact that she was physically intimate with them is not completely justifiable. Though I understand that you feel hurt because she did not disclose it to you, still it should not matter so much as to ruin your present relationship. And whether she will open up about such sensitive details is actually up to her. It has nothing to do with how much she loves you or trusts you. Please understand that.

Now coming to the next thing, the fact that she is still in touch with them and has even met one of them, that is slightly concerning. It would have been okay if she did that openly- please understand that I am not saying she should have asked for your permission, but rather discuss the same with you. Moreover, in a relationship, it is also important to understand how much your partner is comfortable with- goes for both men and women. If you are uncomfortable with her relationship with her exes, she should consider that. I would have said the same if the table was turned. I suggest you have a clear conversation with her and express how you feel about this situation- depending on how she reacts and how the conversation goes, you both can think about the next step.

Hope this helps.