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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 01, 2025
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my gf and i started sexual talking from a week and we both have done alot of activities but through call and during doing this thing she tells that she get physical when we'll meet but after doing all this the next day she tells that no its too early for all this and we should not talk or do such activities at night we are doing things too early she has done this thing 3 times during night she is ready but during day when she calls she says when we'll meet we'll not do anything and its been 4 months of our relation and after this whole week i really wanna get involved physically what should i do ? is it really too early to get physical

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There isn't really a timeframe "set in stone." It's all about comfort. Everyone has their own pace; if she says that she isn't ready to be intimate in real life, then respect that. Do not rush her. There's nothing wrong with taking things slow. Also, you have to understand that there is a big difference between texting about intimacy and doing the same in reality. While she might be comfortable with the first one, she might not be ready for the latter. Please respect that.

Hope this helps

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Refusing for a kiss isn't as concerning as her saying she will have feelings for you. Not everyone is ready for intimacy at the same time in all their relationships. As I mentioned earlier, there can be several reasons for this behavior. Please have an open conversation with her. Let her know that her behavior is bothering you and you want some clarity. If she still continues to say the same thing, you have the option to rethink the relationship.

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Hi Anu I am a married woman with a very supportive husband and daughter. For last 10 years I am having an affair with a colleague and things are pretty well between us. Both of us have found the comfort and requisite from each other which we missed in married life and it saved our respective marriage though none of our family are aware of it. We balanced this till now effectively. Recently I got an opportunity within the company which is very lucrative and will enhance my career goals altogether however, for this I have to shift to another state. Now , my bf is very upset on this as it means he will not be able to meet me as we do every day. My husband and Daughter is fine with my shifting however my parents who are old are also apprehensive since I am the only child and do take care of them. My husband has assured to support them in absence of me and I have full confidence on him. All throughout my life I have focused on my professional career and have worked towards that and now when I got this opportunity I am emotionally unstable and unable to take the decision. My dilemma is surrounding various aspects. 1- Don’t want to leave my BF as he is my strength. 2- My parents are old and since I being the only child,they ae 3- If I could not perform in the new role then? 4- The daily hardship that I have to take over in a new place as my husband will not shift. 5- Remuneration wise not as such however if you say power then yes. Learning – knowledge enhancement and career upliftment - yes very much. 6- Current role will not grow much however stability as of now do exists. Can you help me to take the decision ?
Ans: Dear Nibedita,
What is important to you and what helps you grow professionally and personally must be looked at? Constraints are always going to play a role BUT working around it may help you make a decision. If professionally you are going to grow into the role and for this you need to work around things for the time being, then you must do just that. But in all this, do factor that you have a daughter who is still young and will need your presence a lot; physically and emotionally.
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Also, talk to your family and come to an arrangement whereby they also become your pillar of strength and support. You will then be able to come to a viable decision.

All the best!
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