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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Aug 13, 2025

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Sirisha Question by Sirisha on Apr 16, 2025Hindi
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hi i completed my MSc and working as assistant professor from 1 year along with my studies i am doing corresponding course for my career last year on october i informed my parents that i am loving one person since 8 years he was my childhood friend immediately they forcefully bought me to home they taken my mobile i didnt put proper resignation also they house arrested me since three months i lost my job now there are not allowing me to take exam of my course i tried a lot to convience about my love they are not even listening about him . he was getting 25k salery we both are at 25 age and i trust him he will get more salery in future and we both supports each other in our life to secure our life but my parents are not trusting me and him they always distrust about my abilities regarding my job my education. can anyone please tell me what should i do know

Ans: Dear Sirisha,
First, you need to get your independence back—both physically and financially. Being kept at home against your will and cut off from communication is a form of confinement. If you feel unsafe or unable to leave freely, you have the legal right to seek help from the police, women’s helpline numbers, or local women’s support organisations. In India, the law recognises your right to choose your partner once you are an adult, and your parents cannot legally stop you from working, studying, or marrying someone of your choice.

Second, you should try to quietly gather your important documents (ID proofs, educational certificates, job-related papers) and contact trusted friends, colleagues, or relatives who can support you. Once you have some safe place to go, you can work on getting your career back on track—either by rejoining work or preparing for your exam.

Finally, you need to decide whether you want to continue trying to convince your parents or take steps independently. Some families change their stance once they realise you are firm and financially independent, but in many cases, waiting for their approval just keeps you stuck.

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Anu

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 18, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 17, 2024Hindi
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Mam i am in relationship for 9 years now..he became my boyfriend when i shifted in my new house he was my neighbour..i was in 10th when i got caught and since then my parents hate my boyfriend , i apologized to my parents then and said to have no contact with my boyfriend but 9 years down the lane ..we are totally connected and living a peaceful healthy relationship..my parents hate my boyfriend and his family to the core..my relationship with ny parents are.mixed someday they will be super nice to me , another day they will abuse me for evn small things..we have ups and down in our relationship but i love them a lott , i want to care of them in their old age..but at this point i want to talk to them about my boyfriend but seeinng that they hate him so much i am literally very very afraid that my parents will hate me to their core knowing about someone i want to marry whoom they hate soo much ..... i don't know how will they react .. i am been through physcial and verbal abuse earlier too but i don't know how much worse it can get this time..for them the girl who marry their parents choice is the best in the world..my boyfriend and i have no caste issue its just the ego issues with my parents they think karrying into that house they will never able to have good enough respect though my mother and his mother talk..but that too my mother bitch a lott about her mother for even nonsensical things..i am 24 now and preparing for government exam ...i am soo much stress knowing i have to choose between my love or my parents.....i think so even if i marry him with their superficail consent they will never be happy woth me..and can even cut contacts with me...i don't know what to do i have no elder in my house to make parents explain...mam plss show me some path
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
No where have you mentioned what your boyfriend does for a living? Could this be the reason that your parents refuse to acknowledge your relationship?
Parents want the best for their children but at times their own beliefs on love marriages etc can come in the way. Since you are an adult, it is time to actually start acting like one. My suggestion is to have a conversation with them and understand the reason for their refusal to accept your boyfriend. If it is one of society and family objection, then you know how to handle it BUT if their concern is more about his character or his job, you both need to make an effort to take away that concern so that they accept all this wholeheartedly.
Find the reason and things will become clearer as to how you must handle the situation.

All the best!

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Anu

Anu Krishna  |1809 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 22, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 18, 2024Hindi
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Hello mam, in the school days I loved a boy which was for 8 years relationship and unfortunately we broke up.. again after some days i was in the love with another guy he tortured me so bad. These two love stories know to my parents. When I told about second person they reacted very badly and they said that they would kill that boy . But now I wanted to marry the first boy which was of 8 years relationship. My parents are very serious about it and they are trying to get matches for me. How can I tell this matter to them?. What if they threaten to kill us? I know I made a mistake but it was so unfortunate. In my whole family no one is supportive to me..
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
How old are you now?
And just to protect you, your family will find it hard supporting you on this decision.
How is your relationship with the first boy now? Is he aware of your second relationship? Does the first boy also want to be married to you?
There was a reason why the two of you had broken up, has that reason now been eliminated?
All these questions must be answered before you make a decision to marry the first boy and only after that can you have an sort of debate with your parents on the decision. Obviously, they are concerned for you and what you have gone through and hence feel that who they choose for you will be the best for you...
So, to have them on your side, you need to work on the above questions and also make sure that you have a future with the boy and that you can take care of yourself. This involves a lot of work...

All the best!
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Ramalingam

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Aug 29, 2026

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i am having happy family floater policy from oriental insurance company for medical insurance.The policy amount is Rs.8,00,000/-This policy covers my family .In my family,myself(AGE 66years),my wife (Age 51 years) And my son (AGE 21 years).Since 8 lakhs is not sufficient amount now a days for health coverage,I want to enhance the mediclaim policy amount.Since I am 66 years old,including my self in the same policy may increase premium amount.Please suggest me a good policy giving direction whether I should take 3 different policies individually for each one of us,or shall I make my wife and son a separate group.suggest me if I have take any separate policy for any type of critical illness like cancer?I was a smoke from my 22nd year to 50th year,i.e. from 1982 t0 2010.Since then I stopped smoking.But I was a heavy smoker smoking on average 20 cigarettes a day.If Iincrease our coverages to 15 lakhs rupees,is it sufficient.or any other suggestion.Similarly suggest a good policy and from whom I should take these policies.I can not enhance the existing policy as oriental insurance is not interested to enhance the policy amount because of certain claims which were there in this year and previous year. Thanks and Regards.
Ans: » Current position

Your concern is valid. At age 66, medical costs can rise sharply.

Your existing Rs.8 lakh cover should not be discontinued casually.

It has valuable continuity benefits.

Keep the existing Oriental Insurance policy active for now.
Do not cancel it before securing alternative coverage.
Your wife and son need not remain in the same floater.
Your age can significantly increase the floater premium.

» My preferred structure

I would consider a two-layer arrangement.

You: separate individual health policy.
Wife and son: separate family floater policy.
Existing Oriental policy: retain as an additional layer initially.

This structure gives better control over future premiums.

Your son is only 21, so his medical risk is relatively lower.

Your wife is 51, so a family floater can still work well.

For you, an individual policy is more suitable at age 66.

» Is Rs.15 lakh enough?

Rs.15 lakh is a reasonable minimum target today.

However, I would prefer higher overall protection.

Hospitalisation costs can become very high for major surgeries.

Cancer and prolonged treatment can also create large bills.

A practical structure could be:

Existing Rs.8 lakh policy as the base.
Separate individual cover for you.
Additional super top-up protection for the family.
Suitable cover for your wife and son through a floater.

This can provide stronger protection without a very high base premium.

» Why super top-up can help

A super top-up can provide additional protection above a chosen deductible.

It can be more economical than buying a very large base policy.

But please check the deductible carefully.

Also check whether the deductible works on annual aggregate claims.

This point is very important.

Do not buy a super top-up only because its premium looks cheap.

» Should you take separate policies?

For you, yes, I would seriously consider an individual policy.

For your wife and son, a floater can still work well.

There is no strong need to create three separate policies immediately.

The better structure depends on age and medical risk.

» About your previous smoking

You smoked heavily from age 22 to 50.

You have now stopped smoking for around 16 years.

That is a positive factor.

However, disclose your complete smoking history.

Do not hide it while purchasing a new policy.

The insurer may ask about smoking and previous medical conditions.

Your previous claims must also be disclosed correctly.

Non-disclosure can create problems during a future claim.

» Do you need a separate cancer policy?

I would not make a standalone critical illness policy your first priority.

First secure strong comprehensive health insurance.

Then consider critical illness protection if suitable.

Critical illness insurance generally pays a fixed amount after covered diagnosis.

It is different from regular health insurance.

Regular health insurance mainly covers eligible medical expenses.

Therefore, critical illness cover should be supplementary protection.

» Important conditions to check

Before selecting another policy, carefully check these points:

Room rent restrictions.
ICU restrictions.
Disease-wise sub-limits.
Co-payment requirements.
Pre-existing disease waiting period.
Specific disease waiting periods.
Maximum entry age.
Lifetime renewal availability.
Restoration benefit.
Day-care treatment coverage.
Non-medical expense coverage.
Claim settlement process.
Cashless hospital network.
Premium increases with age.

Avoid policies with heavy sub-limits.

Also be careful with compulsory co-payment at your age.

A lower premium may come with higher out-of-pocket expenses.

» What about portability?

Your existing policy has considerable value because of its continuity.

Health insurance portability can preserve certain accrued continuity benefits.

However, the new insurer will still perform medical underwriting.

Additional coverage can also have applicable waiting periods.

Therefore, do not surrender your existing policy casually.

» One important strategy

Since Oriental Insurance has declined enhancement, do not focus only on enhancement.

Instead, explore a fresh policy alongside the existing policy.

Your existing Rs.8 lakh cover can remain useful.

The new policy can provide additional protection.

This may be better than replacing the existing policy completely.

» What I would do in your case

My preference would be:

Continue the existing Rs.8 lakh Oriental policy.
Take a separate individual policy for yourself.
Take a separate family floater for your wife and son.
Add a suitable super top-up after checking conditions.
Consider critical illness protection separately.
Review the complete structure every year.

At age 66, continuity is extremely valuable.

Therefore, replacement should happen only after careful underwriting.

» One more important point

Because you mentioned previous claims, insurers may scrutinise your medical history.

Please obtain your complete claim history and current policy wording.

Also collect your recent medical reports.

This will help in getting accurate underwriting decisions.

Do not make decisions only from premium quotations.

» Final Insights

Your Rs.8 lakh cover should not be considered useless.

It is an important foundation because of its continuity.

Your next objective should be additional protection.

I would consider Rs.15 lakh as the minimum overall base protection.

However, I would prefer larger total protection through a super top-up.

For your age, policy conditions matter more than the cheapest premium.

For your wife and son, a floater can remain practical.

For yourself, an individual cover deserves serious consideration.

The final insurer should be selected after comparing policy wording.

Also compare exclusions, co-pay, waiting periods and underwriting.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

AMFI-Registered MFD – ARN 4188

www.holisticinvestment.in/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

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Vivek

Vivek Lala  |326 Answers  |Ask -

Tax, MF Expert - Answered on Aug 29, 2026

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Hi, Myself Raj Banerjee aged 49 years. I am single. I work as IT professional and currently facing some challenges in job. My current annual expense in approximately 12L. I have small house and do not plan / aspire for any more real estate. Till now I have been able to accumulate 7.8cr all in Bank FD/savings, 90L in PF, 20L in PPF (still 7 years to mature), 25L in stocks and gold (50:50 split). I do not have any Life Insurance but have medical insurance for myself (5L retail policy + 8L corporate policy). Recently, I have started moving money from Bank to Mutual Fund monthly as below: ABSL MediumTerm Debt Direct Growth: 1L Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Direct Growth : 25K HDFC Flexi Cap Direct Growth: 25K Quant Multi Asset Direct Growth: 25K Nippon Multi Asset Direct Growth: 25K I plan to follow this till Bank FD falls to 2 cr, then in such case my tax out flow will be negligible in case of job loss and I can have expenses covered from interest. I am requesting help that assuming if I lose / leave job immediately is my approach looks okay or suggest better option so that I can generate income from investment and plan for living till 90 years.
Ans: Hello,

I’m glad to see that you understand the importance of personal finance and have built a strong financial position at the age of 49. Having said that, after reviewing the information shared, I believe there are a few important changes that can significantly improve the efficiency of your portfolio.

My observations:

1. Term Insurance
Based on your current financial position and the corpus you have already accumulated, I don’t believe term insurance is essential purely from a financial dependency perspective, provided your existing investments are sufficient to meet your family’s long-term requirements and there are no significant outstanding liabilities.

2. Current Asset Allocation
Your total liquid net worth is approximately ?9.15 crore, of which nearly 97% is invested in debt/liquid assets.

3. The biggest concern : excessive allocation to debt.
At your age and with your investment horizon, I believe the current debt allocation is too conservative.

A debt portfolio may reasonably generate around 7% over the long term, while your personal/real-life inflation could be closer to 8% or more, despite the official CPI inflation number being lower. This means that after adjusting for inflation, your purchasing power could actually decline over time.

The objective shouldn’t simply be preservation of the ?9.15 crore corpus, it should be preserving and growing its purchasing power for the next 30–40 years.

4. Retirement Readiness
Based on the numbers shared, your current annual withdrawal requirement is only around 1.3% of your total portfolio.

That is an extremely comfortable withdrawal rate. Subject to your future goals, liabilities and lifestyle requirements, I believe you are financially well positioned to consider retirement even today.

Changes I would recommend:

1. Maintain an emergency/liquidity corpus of approximately ?1 crore
Keep this in liquid/debt-oriented instruments for emergencies, near-term requirements and peace of mind.

The remaining corpus can be gradually moved towards a well-diversified portfolio of equity-oriented investments, including Mutual Funds, PMS and AIFs, depending on your risk appetite and suitability.

2. Re-evaluate your existing Mutual Fund portfolio
From the information shared, several of the funds appear to have been selected based on recommendations commonly seen on social media platforms.

There is nothing inherently wrong with that, but I would strongly recommend evaluating each fund based on portfolio quality, consistency, downside protection, fund manager track record, valuation, risk-adjusted returns and its role within the overall portfolio, rather than simply looking at past returns or popularity.

Appropriate changes can then be made wherever required.

3. Suggested allocation for the 7 crore Mutual Fund portfolio

As a starting framework, I would consider:

15% — Large & Mid Cap
15% — Multi Cap
15% — Mid Cap
15% — Small Cap
15% — Value
15% — Flexi/Value-oriented strategies
10% — Select thematic opportunities

The exact funds and final allocation should, of course, be decided after understanding your risk tolerance, investment horizon, cash-flow requirements and specific financial goals.

My overall view

You have already done the difficult part is building a substantial corpus.

The next stage is not about taking unnecessary risk. It is about putting the corpus to work efficiently while ensuring that it continues to grow faster than inflation.

With a 9.15 crore liquid corpus and a withdrawal requirement of only around 1.3%, I believe your financial position is extremely strong. The focus now should be on asset allocation, portfolio quality and long-term wealth preservation, rather than simply accumulating more money.

These are my preliminary observations based on the information shared. A detailed recommendation would require a deeper understanding of your goals, liabilities, risk profile, family requirements and existing investments.

Would be happy to hear your views and discuss the same further.

Do let me know your views on this on my website or on my LinkedIn profile, attaching the link :
https://www.slwealthsolutions.com/
- CA VIVEK LALA

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Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |12535 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Aug 27, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 27, 2026
Career
Sir I took admission to uvce cse after kcet round 2 results. Should I take part in round 3 of kcet now? I missed cse at bmsce by 335 ranks (general merit category) Will my original documents be given back? They also made us enter our details in the college ledger of uvce which was part of the admission process. I am also scared because of the huge seat intake of bmsce.Should I stay with uvce or is bmsce worth applying for next round ? Where do I have better placements guaranteed?
Ans: It is better to stay with UVCE CSE. You might be ineligible for KCET Round 3 after taking admission. UVCE offers better ROI, lower fees, and strong CSE placements; BMSCE’s higher intake doesn’t guarantee better outcomes. Over the next four years, focus on continuously strengthening your technical and non-technical skills, building a strong project and internship profile, and developing a professional network through LinkedIn with college faculty, seniors, alumni and professionals in your areas of interest. Also, keep yourself updated with evolving industry and job-market trends so that you can plan and prepare effectively for campus placements by the time you reach your final year. All The Best for Your Prosperous Future!

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