Anu Krishna |1321 Answers |Ask -Follow
Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 19, 2022
Dear K,
If your wife has felt snubbed and you feel that she is being unreasonable, what can you do if you wife isn’t willing to befriend M?
The more you fight this, the more your wife feels that there is something going on.
Doubts in the mind spread like slow fire consuming the mind and you are adding fuel to the fire by being adamant on maintaining the connection with M.
Now you wife is convinced that she must not have anything to do with her and you should not as well.
What do you want to do? Spoil the peace at home because of an external connection?
It may not seem fair to you, but there is a reason why your wife felt snubbed by M at that time.
She is unrelenting and does not want M in the equation. Why are you fighting this?
I am asking you choose between the peace within the marriage and an external connection.
There will be a point in time when your wife will be willing to look at this objectively and that is the time to talk to her about it.
Right now, it will be like forcing her, having fights over this and maintaining a connection with M within all of this/ Do you really feel that a connection is made suppressing another one?
Connections are made in complete peace and harmony with existing connections growing because of the new one.
What you have is the existing connection being threatened because of the other.
Be patient and reasonable and wait for the time to emerge for connections to co-exist and in the meantime, reassure your wife that your marriage means a lot to you.
May not sound fair, but it’s the only way to honour the marriage.
All the best!
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