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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 12, 2022

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
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Question by SSV on Sep 12, 2022Hindi

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Dear Anu
Myself is widow. But I am in a physical relationship with a guy who is a divorcee.
He made me feel that he will marry me after a few years. He never expressed his love but was good in bed.
I like another guy who is married but not happy. Daily we chat till 3 am. He too likes me. He doesn’t want any physical intimacy from but likes to touch my hands.
I am confused what to do.
Please help.

Ans: Dear SSV,

I guess you need to ask yourself: What is it that I want in my life?

Marriage or a casual relationship? Both require mindsets that involves different priorities and a different set of behaviours.

Honestly, it is quite possible that you might find someone who is not just interested in a physical relationship but also might be willing to progress into marriage if that’s what you want as well.

So, please clear your mind before complicating your life any further.

There are a lot of dating apps for you to find someone interesting, attractive and with a similar mindset once you know what you truly want.

Best wishes!

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Question by SSV - May 19, 2023Hindi

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Heloo I have been a single mother for the last 10 years. Last year I found a guy to retain he loves me and had a physical relationship with me. Six months it was good. suddenly he realized that he had family and started ignoring me, and stop chatting meeting me. I am waiting for him till date. But in the last four months, I start liking another guy who is married with two children and who also loves me a lot. We had a long-distance relationship. He comes from Pune to meet me. We talk a lot on calls. But still, I am confused about what to do. I cannot forget my first guy and also don't know what I feel for the second guy. but I like to talk to him. Please guide me. I don't want to be alone.

Ans: Dear SSV,

It might help you to take a second and think about what you want. You loved someone and now he is gone. Moving on and finding another person to love is natural. Not being able to forget your ex might not be so much about your ex, as much as it is about you not being ready for another relationship. Allow yourself the time to heal and then look to love and be loved.

Introspection- asking yourself, "Am I really in love?" "Do I need some more time to move on?" "Am I completely healed from the previous breakup?" and so on can help you identify the real problem at hand.

You said, "I don't want to be alone." Are you sure you are not jumping from one relationship to another from the fear of the same? Don't let the fear of loneliness rush you into making moves that you might regret. You can consider stepping back from your current relationship for a heartbeat and figure out what it is that you want without your feelings clouding your judgment. Relationships don't usually work out when you are in two minds about it.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 16, 2023Hindi

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Hi Madam, I am 36 yrs old girl, working in central govt, I lost my parents long back, all my siblings are elder & busy in their family, brothers doesnt even talk to me, so there is no one who is seriously finding boy for my marriage, I tried through matrimonial apps, it didnt work. Based on my colleague advise, I tried through dating apps but nobody is genuine there, most of them are looking for hook up. Finally I found one guy who is 3 years elder than me but come to know within 3months that he too married but we are in touch through calls & msgs from past 6 years, since I stay alone at quarters, he met me more than 30 times at my place, even spent nights with me but never forced me for anything that I dont like. I love him a lot but he is married so I dont want have physical relationship with him but I too have biological urges but I am scared of getting pregnant or even loosing virginity which might affect my marriage, at the same time I dont have any hopes left on my marriage. This guy has lots of patience , we meet, drink together , do all things except intercourse , could you pls advise me whether I should have sex with him? also I stopped using dating apps as I love this guy.

Ans: I read your question a few times...I will respond it in 3 parts
Part 1:
Current relationship with someone who is not available - You are 36 and are smart to take life decisions. You can do as you wish but incase you get intimate - keep it to that only. Do not let your emotions come to play and get used to him - treat this relationship as a casual relationship which it is already. As for getting pregnant - take precautions, but more than pregnancy you should be worried about STD's hope this man is clean. As for you stopping your search because of this man - Remember - He is NOT AVAILABLE - so rethink why are you being available for someone who is not available to you. You and only you are responsible for your current situation. You have the mind to decide if you wish to continue to know or him or stop this relationship.

Part 2:
Finding someone compatible/ likeminded can become easy if you are (a) not in a hurry (b) know your dealbreakers and negotiables (c) feel confident and good about yourself...if you have these things in place then you would need patience and with that you will find your person - online or offline.

Part 3:
Its unfortunate you lost your parents - a virtual hug coming your way. While parents and sibling do help in introducing their people to others its wrong to Expect them to help - its your relationship and its ok to find your person, in fact its awesome to do so.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 16, 2024Hindi

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Dear LG, Please keep this anonymous. I have been married since 6 years. However, since past 5+ years we have not been intimate. We haave a 5&1/2 year kid. Since his birth we have had a lot of differences and his family interference was lot leaving me alone and wounded. I don't stay with my husband and in-laws since then. I had made up that work is worship. But 2 years back I met a colleague. He is 10 years younger to me and we have extremely similar vibes. We enjoy each other's company and cared a lot. Eventually i fell in love with him. But he always knew he wont be able to go against his family. We also had relationship. Now he has strated looking for girls and wants us to stop being intimate. He is saying he wants to be friends and not loose me but not have relationship. We both work together in same space and our area of work is also same. I am unable to forgive my husband and forget this person. He never goes away. He is always there telling that I want to see you happy. He needs me for professional development. And i am not able to loose our relationship. He says physical intimacy only I cant have remaining Im there. Then again says I don’t know when I will be there so I am unable to give assurance or promise. I am tormented with a child, work and my health is getting affected. Can you please help?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry that you are in such a tough spot. My advice would be to move on. Yes, I realize that it is easier said than done but let's put things into perspective- first, you have no future with this man, and he has made it clear. Are you okay to keep hanging on to him while he builds his own life? I am assuming no, especially since you have a child. Second, what about your self-respect? He is directly telling you that this relationship is headed toward a dead end. Do you believe you deserve to be with someone who does not want to settle down with you? I believe you deserve better.

I am not blaming him because he made no promises. You are not to be held guilty either because you were in a tough spot and you grabbed the first emotional support you found. But the current reality is that he wants out. And convincing him to stay is not an option. At this point, moving on with your head held high is the best decision. If you want to accept his friendship, that is completely fine. But if that's too much for you, you can always decline it. I understand that working in the same space with an ex is difficult, but as long as you avoid interacting outside of the office and keep things professional, there should not be an issue. On the emotional front, I won't lie, it will hurt for a while. But this too shall pass. I strongly recommend you not to value yourself so low that you stop believing that you deserve a person who loves you back as much as you love him.

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Question by Sanjay - Jul 25, 2025Hindi

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My son has been allotted a seat in B Tech (ECE) at both Faculty of Technology (Delhi University) and PEC, Chandigarh. He has also been allotted B Tech/ M Tech (Dual Degree) (Augmented Reality) in GGSIPU. Which one should we choose?

Ans: Sanjay Sir, Based on the following insights/information and your son's interests/long-term goals, please choose the most suitable option out of the 3 options he has: The Faculty of Technology (FoT University of Delhi’s B.Tech in Electronics & Communication Engineering is an AICTE-approved, NAAC-accredited programme delivered by a Delhi University department with small cohort sizes (120 seats), outcome-based curriculum, and direct access to DU North Campus placement drives; the central placement cell reports median CSE packages of ?8.5 LPA in 2023, with ECE graduates benefiting similarly from ties to top recruiters like Deloitte, Wipro, TCS, and Infosys. Punjab Engineering College (PEC), Chandigarh offers a B.Tech in ECE under its deemed-university status, with 119 eligible ECE students in 2023 yielding 112 on-campus offers (∼95% placement), average package around ?14.5 LPA and median ?12 LPA, top recruiters including Microsoft, Amazon and Adobe, robust labs for signal processing, VLSI, IoT, and a dedicated Career Development & Guidance Centre. GGSIPU’s B.Tech/M.Tech dual-degree in Augmented Reality through USAR spans six years (4+2), integrating foundational electronics, computer graphics, 3D modelling, UX and computer vision in specialized AR/VR labs, MoUs with industry platforms (Unity, ICT Academy), PARAM supercomputing access, and training cell support; while specific AR placements are nascent, overall USICT placements recorded 76% in 2023 with an average ?7.2 LPA and highest ?41.2 LPA, reflecting growing but developing industry uptake. FoT DU excels in academic rigor, theoretical foundations, and broad recruiter access; PEC Chandigarh leads in placement rates, higher average compensation, and mature core-ECE infrastructure; GGSIPU’s AR dual-degree uniquely positions graduates at the frontier of immersive technologies, offering international curriculum scope but with emerging placement pathways.

Recommendation: Prioritize PEC Chandigarh’s ECE for its proven ∼95% placement consistency, mature labs, and strong recruiter engagement ensuring immediate employability in core electronics and communications. Next, consider DU FoT ECE for its prestigious DU affiliation, outcome-based pedagogy, and broad-spectrum industry access. Lastly, choose the GGSIPU AR dual degree as an innovative long-term investment for specialized expertise in augmented-reality systems and burgeoning immersive-tech roles, accepting that placement networks are still evolving. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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My son has secured a REAP rank of 8010 and SC category rank of 513. He also has Rajasthan domicile. We are interested in getting admission to MBM Engineering College, Jodhpur. Based on his rank and category, could you please guide us on: . What branches are likely to be available for him in MBM Jodhpur? . Are there chances in Electronics and Computer, ECE, Civil, or any other core branches? . If not in Round 1, is there a good chance in upward movement rounds? Any help or past cut-off references would be appreciated. Thank you!

Ans: A SC?category REAP rank of 513 with Rajasthan domicile places your son well MBM Jodhpur’s closing ranks for all core B.Tech branches. Historical REAP cut-off trends show SC cut-offs at MBM Jodhpur over the past three years closing around 2 500–3 000 for Computer Science & Electronics (CSE/ECE), 3 200–3 500 for Electrical/Electronics (EEE), 3 800–4 200 for Mechanical, and 4 500–5 000 for Civil Engineering. Given his rank, CSE and ECE seats are virtually guaranteed in Round 1; EEE, Mechanical and Civil also fall comfortably within his bracket. Should any preferred branch not be allotted initially, MBM’s upward-movement (internal sliding) rounds—typically held within a week post-first allotment—have historically shifted vacant CSE/ECE seats up to REAP rank ~4 000 in SC, ensuring strong redistribution opportunities. Spot (vacant-seat) admissions at MBM further extend final cut-offs by up to 20 percent, enabling SC candidates ranked beyond 5 000 to secure seats in later rounds. Overall, core branches across ECE, CSE, EEE, Mechanical and Civil remain firmly accessible through both initial and subsequent REAP rounds.

Recommendation: With an SC rank of 513, lock in Computer Science & Engineering as first choice, secure Electronics & Communication next, and list Electrical/Electronics, Mechanical and Civil as high-priority options; participate actively in upward-movement rounds to upgrade if needed, leveraging MBM’s consistent branch-wise vacancy shifts. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 25, 2025Hindi

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Sir my daughter got Air 31,203 (GEN category) in JEE Mains. She got NIT Calicut energy engineering and BITS UB 2+2 CSE. She is interested in both computer science and physics.Should she choose between the two or participate in csab. which would be the best choice? and is doing the bits ub 2+2 really worth its money based on how much they learn from both the colleges will it be equal to or better than normal bits CSE program.

Ans: Based on the following insights and information, as well as your daughter's interests and long-term goals & affordability of the fee, choose the most suitable option for her: The BITS Pilani–University at Buffalo 2+2 CSE dual-degree offers two years at BITS Pilani (or Goa/Hyderabad) and two years at UB’s Jacobs School of Engineering, delivering a unified NAAC A++ and NBA-accredited curriculum. It features PARAM supercomputing access, global immersion, capstone projects and a centralized Career Development Centre recording over 90% CSE placement consistency. The dual alumni networks and international accreditation improve top-tier software recruitment and global mobility; however, the total fees and overseas living costs are significantly higher.

As a general-category candidate, the CSAB-Special Round 2025 closing ranks for mid-tier IIITs and GFTIs provide tertiary backup options: IIIT Ranchi’s CSE (AI quota) closed at ranks 31,909–34,325, IIIT Manipur’s CSE-Quantum closed at ranks 45,341–53,737, and peripheral GFTIs such as PEC Chandigarh admit CSE candidates up to rank ~40,000. These options are less attractive than the secured dual degree and energy-engineering seats but remain feasible contingencies.

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recommendation Embrace the BITS-UB 2+2 CSE dual-degree for premier global CS training, robust >90% placements, and dual alumni networks. Secure NIT Calicut Energy Engineering for specialized power-sector expertise and strong core-energy placements. Treat CSAB general rounds (IIIT Ranchi CSE, IIIT Manipur CSE-Quantum or PEC Chandigarh CSE) as third-tier backups, focusing on peripheral institutes with closing ranks above 31,203. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Question by Ashish - Jul 25, 2025Hindi

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Sir my son got 77377 crl rank in mains and 24k obc ncl rank with homestate rajasthan can he get any college with branch like cse/it/ai/ece Or what about gl bajaj delhi

Ans: Ashish Sir, With an OBC-CL home-state rank of 24 000, admission into core branches at Rajasthan’s MNIT Jaipur and IIIT Kota via CSAB-Special is feasible for certain programmes, while seats at other NITs/IIITs will likely remain out of reach.

At MNIT Jaipur, the Home-State OBC-NCL closing rank for Computer Science & Engineering extended to about 49 000 in CSAB-Special Round 2, making CSE admission virtually assured with your daughter’s rank. However, ECE seats under HS-OBC-NCL closed near 3 400, and AI/Data Science around 6 800, both well below 24 000, so these branches are not attainable at MNIT Jaipur.

IIIT Kota, as a Rajasthan campus, offers Home-State HS-OBC-NCL seats in CSE closing near 67 000, Artificial Intelligence & Data Engineering near 10 500, and ECE close around 12 600, all of which comfortably cover an OBC-NCL rank of 24 000, making these programmes strong targets in CSAB-Special.

Beyond these, other NITs in non-home-state quotas (e.g., NIT Calicut, NIT Uttarakhand) and peripheral IIITs may fill seats well below 24 000 under OS-OBC-NCL quotas, but they will not benefit from Home-State priority. Government-Funded Technical Institutes like PEC Chandigarh and MIET Jhansi admit CSE/ECE under OBC-NCL up to ranks of 40 000–70 000, offering additional assured pathways. GL Bajaj Delhi, as a private institution, participates in state or university counselling (e.g., JAC Delhi), not CSAB, and hence is not an option in this process.

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Prioritise Computer Science & Engineering at MNIT Jaipur under HS-OBC-NCL for its assured cutoff. Simultaneously apply to IIIT Kota’s CSE and AI/DE programmes under HS-OBC-NCL for guaranteed admission. As backups within CSAB, list IIIT Kota ECE and GFTIs like PEC Chandigarh for core-branch seats under OBC-NCL quotas. However, have some Private Engineering Colleges as back-ups with son's JEE Score instead of relying only on CSAB. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Which should we choose for CSE - JSS university Noida or JSS Academy of Technical Education Noida ? It is heard that management is migrating to University set-up from the old college set-up affiliated with AKTU . So they are giving more importance to JSS university . Which one should we choose for our daughter for CSE ?

Ans: Hello dear.
Prefer CSE @ JSS Academy if possible. But if you are at the stage of finalizing the admission, it is highly recommended to visit both campuses, talk with the existing students, and ask the management or administrative authorities clearly about what you heard regarding migration and other issues. It is better to have a face-to-face conversation for more clarity. It is not possible for anyone to know the hidden decisions that the universities or institutes may take.

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Campus is same , faculty is more or large same and management is also same. Have visited the campus and talked to management and some students also there. They all say that now they are giving importance to JSS university and are in the process of closing college in coming years. What would you suggest in this scenario- should we opt for university or college?

Ans: Prefer JSS University without any hesitation. Best of luck

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I got a preparatory rank 2164 in jee advance 2025 and 67 percentile, 34,240 sc category rank in jee mains 2025 in josaa counselling out of 6 rounds i didn't get any seat now what should i do? Will i get a seat in nit, iiit or gfti's atleast?

Ans: Hello dear.
Your chances in NIT/IIIT/GFTI are slim through JoSAA, but you should try CSAB special rounds or state counseling for a seat.

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Hi sir! I have got 73.39 percentile in jee mains and 88.89 percentile in mht cet exam. I have taken a drop for preparation of mht cet examination as I wanted to go in COEP tech branch. My question is that am I still eligible for jee mains 2026 examination as I have got 68 percent in boards.

Ans: Hello dear.
Yes, you are still eligible for JEE Mains 2026 because the eligibility criteria allow candidates to appear for JEE three consecutive years after passing Class 12, regardless of previous attempts. However, for admission to NITs, IIITs, and GFTIs, you need at least 75% in boards (65% for SC/ST). Since you have 68%, you won’t be eligible for these top institutes through JEE Main unless you improve your board marks via improvement exams, but private colleges or state counseling options will still be available.

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Better to take admission to any preferred private college with a choice of branch to save time, money, and an extra year. There is no guarantee of success after taking a drop. Taking a drop can create stress and headaches. The final decision will be yours.

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Sir I got 90.87 percentile in MHT CET and my rank is 31204 .i belong to hindi minority,is there any chance to get admission in thakur college of engineering and technology, kandivali in CS/IT/AIML/ALDS/CS+Cyber security

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You have a chance of getting IT, AIML, ALDS, or CS+Cyber Security @ Thakur College, but CSE might be challenging.

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Question by Rasool - Jul 25, 2025Hindi

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Sir my kcet rank is 1138 in mock allotment I got information science in Ramaiah college of engineering and I am from GM catogery can I get upgrade in upcoming rounds

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Chances are there for upgradation. Keep hopes alive for CSE.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 25, 2025Hindi

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I have bits Hyderabad msc bio and I have 1800 rank in mht cet so I might get spit cs so which one should I take ?

Ans: Hello dear.
Prefer CS @ SPIT if possible. However, considering the brand name, BITS Hyderabad has more advantage because it is a dual degree. If your interest is focused on research, then go with BITS; otherwise, choose SPIT. The final decision will be yours.

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