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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 22, 2024

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
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Raji Question by Raji on Sep 20, 2024Hindi
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Hi Anu Im 40 plus married without child ,have sleep issue sometime take medication ,thyroid problem .After 2 ivf cycle procedure lead to broader line sugar without tablet .Now husband mother and sister continuous Husband in October 2023 file for divorce. He without job past 3 year. I want to continue marriage filed section 9 ..What can be done with life ..

Ans: Dear Raji,
It will help me if you ask me a very relevant pointed question that will enable me to guide you accordingly. You have stated a legal, a medical and a professional issue. But what exactly is happening to you and with you because of all of this?
We as humans take action only when we know what is bothering us and what we stand to lose because of it and what we will gain by getting rid of the problem.
So, state very clearly how is your life getting affected by all the issues that you have mentioned else you will find me telling you: Stay positive or Time will heal when we know that this does not happen that way...So, try to move towards clarity about your problem for a clarity towards a solution...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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I m 35 years old woman I married twice but my marriage not success first marriage in religion and second is interfaith marriage which I have two kid one son he is 16 year old and one daughter she is 8 year old I married my second one husband in 2009 he is in relationship with other women he have 1 kids with her then also I accepted because of my of my dad woh is poor and I have no family no house infact I have nobody support I stay with mother in laws in 2016 my daughter was born after that 6 months my inlaws is expired and after that my husband who sold the house my 2 kids and me on road nobody is helping me out he left me with kids. How I manage to register a dv case in 2020 but the case will go on an on in 2022 the order is pass for maintenance which he is not pay single money till know to me after this he is in jail for a month. my kids and I leaving alone on rent house . I am not working because of my health issues I m bagging for my kids to feed both .
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
This is so unfair and I do feel for you...
What I suggest is approach a family member who can support you for a while. During this time, contact a local NGO that helps women facing domestic issues. They will be able to put you in touch with a lawyer who in turn will work out on how the maintenance money can come to you.
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All the best!
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Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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01. The Buyer will make payment to the owner of property. Has property been transferred in favor of both of you ?
If Yes, then he shall make payment to both of you, separately, as desired by you.
02. The buyer should not make any direct payment to your sister.
After receiving the sale proceeds, both of you, may Gift some amount to your sister. It will be a separate transaction. Please note that your sister will not have any income tax implications, in case of gift from brothers.
03. You are free to use the sale proceeds of property in any way, even for re-payment of housing loan.
04. You need to work out LTCG in both ways, i.e., 20% with Indexation & 12.50% without Indexation. You may choose the option, in which you tax liability is minimum.
Most welcome for any further clarifications. Thanks.

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Hi, I'm Ritu from Patna. I've got two kids, 12 and 9, and we're covered under a family floater health insurance policy. But I'm wondering, should I also get a separate critical illness insurance policy for extra protection? Any pros and cons of it?
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Given that you have a young family and if your current health coverage isn’t very high, adding critical illness insurance could be a good idea. It’s worth discussing options with your insurer to tailor coverage to your family’s needs, ensuring a balance between adequate protection and affordability.

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