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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 30, 2024Hindi
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Hi Anu, I am a 53 years male, widowed since last 3 years having grown up children pursuing higher studies, have been feeling very lonely since the demise of my wife and am unable to forget it, sometimes feel like having a female friend/ partner with whom i can share my thoughts, there is nobody to talk to since 3 years. My wife's sister who also got widowed since 4 years is also at the same stage i believe. Many a times I think of having her as my partner, though we both have never talked about it and we are mostly not in touch. Is this thinking of mine correct or is there something wrong with me. If it is ok then how to move ahead as she is a very conservative lady with 2 grown up children who have started their jobs recently. Please advise

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am sorry for your loss...
There can be a huge void and there will surely be thoughts on in what way you can fill that void. There is nothing wrong in wanting to have a life partner at this stage and having grown up children, there is a necessity to run it by them...
Initially, they may feel that you are trying to replace their mother and in this case, you need to provide them that reassurance to them that you are always going to keep their mother's memories alive. You maybe surprised that they may also willing be on your side...talk to them...
Now, in the context of your wife's sister...this becomes family and there are complications that may arise out of it as we are conditioned to only accept and live relationships that society has defined for us. But having said that, you and your wife's sister are adults...
Also, you have no clue on how she perceives all of this...so, before placing too much of hopes on this, do try and figure out where her mind is...if you even get a slight feel that she might be offended, DO NOT broach the topic at all...Within the family, these kind of talks can ruin relationships...so be very careful...

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 30, 2023Hindi
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Hi, I am a 53 years old male, lost my loving wife last year who was 46, I do have 2 kids who are into higher studies now aged 22 and 18, off late have been feeling very lonely and upset and have not been able to forget my late wife, life seems to be too useless now. Many a times i think of having a new partner for the rest of my life then these feelings also die down. Am quiet worried as to how I will be able to live second half of my life as sooner or later the children will be busy in their own lives, what to do?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am truly sorry for your loss...
The journey of grief is so different for each person and you can feel alright on one day and devastated on another day...Give your self ample time to grieve and speak about her; it will be painful but the more you allow yourself to speak about her, you will notice that you are closer to accepting the fact of your loss...it is a journey, so do take your time...
But in the meantime, do make sure that you do take help in the form of a support system of your family and friends. Yes, they do have their own lives but I am sure that they will step in kindly when it is required.
Also, you might find that you socially isolate yourself and move away from everything that used to give you joy. You must find a way of getting back to all of those things reminding yourself that you must live your life too...this is initially a way of filling the vacuum, but soon you will find that it does more that just distract you.

Finding another life partner is a decision that is yours to make; but I will suggest that you heal from the loss and then if and when you feel the time is right, you may seek a life partner. But right now, all you will do is find a huge respite to fill in your loneliness and not be able to form a connection with that person. So, take care of yourself first, heal well and then slowly make life-altering decisions.

All the best...I am sure you can do this!

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 14, 2024Hindi
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I am happily married man of age 51 years having daughter of 20 years .recently i got normal friendship with a female colleague we discuss usually our office, children and health .Recently she was under depression and i counseled her a lot and she got better. My wife got to know about this through my daughter who checked my phone , my wife got anxious thinking i am having affair with her ,as she being widow .My wife charcter assanated me when there is no such thing in between me and my colleague .i am depressed please advise
Ans: It’s understandable that you're feeling hurt and frustrated, especially since your intentions were pure and your wife’s reaction came from a place of misunderstanding. In situations like this, transparency and communication are key to mending the trust that’s been shaken.

First, it's important to have a calm, honest conversation with your wife. Explain the nature of your friendship with your colleague, emphasizing that it was based on helping her through a difficult time and nothing more. Be open about why you supported your colleague and reassure your wife that there is no romantic involvement. Acknowledge her feelings, as it’s clear she is reacting out of fear and concern for your relationship.

Your daughter’s involvement complicates the situation, but it can also be an opportunity to show both your wife and daughter that there’s nothing to hide. Let them see your messages if that reassures them, and express that your commitment to your family is unwavering.

Additionally, emphasize that you understand why your wife may have felt uneasy, especially since the colleague is a widow. Sometimes, just being heard and understood can help ease her anxiety. Reassure her that your focus is on your family and that you’re willing to make any adjustments necessary to rebuild her trust.

If the situation continues to cause tension, consider seeking professional counseling as a couple. A therapist can help mediate the conversation and provide tools for rebuilding trust and communication in a healthy way. By showing your commitment to resolving the issue and prioritizing your family, you can work through this misunderstanding together.

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Hello, I fell in love with a boy 6 years younger than me. Besides knowing that family and society will not accept this relationship I fell in love with him and we spend a beautiful nice happy moments with each other. My parents when get to know they forced me to stop my job snatched my phone stopped me to use any social media so that I cannot contact him. And I was not allowed to leave house alone. It's been 9 years now I still don't have my own mobile phone or are not allowed to leave house alone. In these years twice or thrice my partner's parents have called my father regarding our marriage proposal but my father refused. I have tried him alot of time that I can't marry anyone else we want to be with each other we love each other he just don't understand. I have even told him if not him I will always stay here without marrying anyone he said okay love here but I will not allow you to marry him. They are not of our standard he is younger than you he can't keep you. They even have told me false things like he has a girlfriend outside we have seen him with girl. He is alcoholic etc. my partner is now out of patience he said I need you with me now and when are you coming your parents are not agreeing it's been 9 years and same situation. So I initiated a healthy calm talk to my father again three days back. I told him I am 32 now and it's my decision I want to marry him. It might be a bad decision like you think but it would be my decision and I will bear the responsibility of that. And it will also help me to move on. I want to give a chance and want you to respect my decisions and he said you decision or wrong. He is not a good guy his mother has insulted me. And I said I am not living with his mother its him I want to spend my life with. He said I can't see your future their but I was firm on my decision and than he said I will think about it. Today my mother told my younger brother that father has said no to my decision. I don't understand i don't trust my mother she has lied to me before many times. And I am feeling stucked here
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Well, whatever the reason, it is not fair to make your partner wait any longer. 9 years is a long time and from their side, they have tried to approach your family.
Why your family does not want this to happen can have many reasons, but what is it that you want? What makes you stuck? 32 is a great age to start taking decisions of life, you don't think? Move on this else, you will wait another couple of years and then realize that you have wasted enough time.
So, for once, keep your side of the family aside (in thoughts) and then ask yourself: Am I ready to marry my partner?
If YES, you know what to do and if NO, then you are perhaps making your family an excuse and not willing to move into marriage.
Reality check, but a necessary one...

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 24, 2024Hindi
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Hi, I am 51 year old male having one son 21 years. Myself and my wife love each other very much however there is no intimacy between us for nearly 12 years now for a simple reason that my wife doesn't want it. I am now frustrated. I feel physically strangulated. One of friends asked me seek pleasure outside but i am avert to it. I want feel very depressed sometimes and get a strong urge but to no help. What should I do?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are not alone! There are many couples in this age bracket who have very mismatched sexual urges; but that doesn't take the fact away that there is a marriage and love within it, right?

What do we do when children grow from a baby to a adult? Every phase requires us to interact with them very differently. From being instructional to giving them their space, we have managed it all...How? Because we have acknowledged that children grow up and that we need to keep adapting to suit their minds and their age then.

It's the same with marriage as well. It's not fair to expect that your wife will be sexually active and highly charged up like she used to in the early days of marriage. She possibly is going through her perimenopause or some changes emotionally that is possibly deterring her from getting intimate. Talk to her, care for her, support her and also know that there are other forms of sexual intimacy other than sex alone. Start slowly, like you are still dating and bring back the spice element. Get a general check-up done to rule out any deficiencies in terms of vitamins so that this can be added as supplements.

Now, does this mean that she will be back with the energy and urge of a 25-year old? Possibly not, but at least it will give you both time to appreciate that there are phases in life and to accept this calls for maturity and a great deal of understanding. So, start by talking about it and take it slowly...

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Okay this is the first time, I am opening to some mind coach, glad to have your opinion, I am 24 now, and I have been working with a start up since last 3 years, As a male I have my big dreams, my passion and added a lot of responsibilities, thinking of which, I ain't satisfied with where I am currently, with the same I have even lost my motivation to work harder- falling into the trap of being comfortable with where I am, which I really don't like, I have multiple passions, I was a good music lover with singer and instruments, I was also into workout a keen interest and built muscles which are going down now, more onto it, I was into sketching and art, a really fine one, I am a short of traveller where I make videos for editing to show them to the world, but it didn't came out from my phone memory ever after I returned from any trip, matter of fact I didn't learn them, but I wanted to, but now tragically I have lost interest in all these passions, I am worried because I am being too comfortable with things, I desperately want to achieve milestones but don't wanna work for it. Sometimes it feels like this chaos in mind, it was far worse than adolescence, zest of everything I want to do miracles but won't move a muscle for it, I had doses of motivation and it doesn't work for me now.
Ans: Dear Yuvraj,
I do see a lot of youngsters jumping into the bandwagon of start-ups without realizing the twists and turns in it. It's not about churning the next best revolutionary idea but it comes with a mindset that understands perseverance, resilience and a lot of compromises. Now, maybe you already know that, but at a certain point, the demands go beyond all of this where a failure would mean to start all over again OR complete change of the idea and back to the drawing board OR a feeling that joining a start up was a wrong move, and all these can be frustrating.

Now, I do not have all that information, so I can assume that maybe you are just tired from all of it and seek a break. Not interested in your passions could mean that you are possibly tired. So, take a break from it all and actually figure out if the start-up scene is actually right for you. And there is nothing wrong in admitting that it isn't, right? At least you won't learn that a few years down the line and regret wasting time...

But if you come back from the break, feeling rejuvenated, then you know that you can get back into the start-up with renewed vigor. Either case, that break will give you some reflection time. During the break, connect with a mentor or a coach who can actually help you dig deep down and get to the bottom of this...Motivation is just a step away provided you do something to wake it up...

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 18, 2024Hindi
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Hi I am married for 2 years. My husband and FIL runs a business. My MIL is a retird HM from govt school. I am married to a lovable family. I am for ever grateful to my inlaws. We stay together and i have one SIL. All of the expenses and invesments are made by my husband. We have a 1yr daughter. Till date me and my husband had no financial communication. He gets whatever i what but we dont discuss how much income he has got and what he does. Also i dont know what my inlaws income and what they do and i dont want to interfere in it. Its none of my business. Its me who asks my husband to let me know our financial status. Sometimes he say but its not a regular financial discussion. I came to know that he is investing in lic policies for all of them. 50% spending 50%investmnts. Ofcourse my inlaws share some amount but major expenses and all major investments are from my husbands income. I expect him to let me know the financial status so that i can also have a knowledge on it but he never opens up and but he always gets me want i want. I had never asked him like wht are you spending for your mom dad sis when they are still independant.I never questioned him and i will not. Its our duty to look after parents without any expectation. i promised him that i will not be a hurdle in this. But recently he gave huge amount to my inlaws and he dint even tell me. I felt upset when I got to know it later. It had happend many times.The thing that made me sad is that my husband dint even consider me in this. Like after giving also he dint utter a word to me. i I would have not said dont give. I would have felt happy only. Because he is giving to his parents only. But my concern is he is not sharing his financial commitments with me. Is it ok for me to expect that he should share his financial status with me so that we can plan our future or am i wrong? When my inlaws questions me about finance that something he did to them i am like when iam unware of it. Its embrassing. I feel that a couple should have a financial communication without discrepancy. But my husband does not do it intentionally. He always says he forgot. But i think that a couple should spend time having a healthy talk about their own commitments and investments. Marriage is not always about fantacy, shopping, romance, relaxing cooking playin work etc... there should be some serious talks discussions right which will pave way for a healthy relationship growth understanding and a better future and healthy finacially stablev family let me know whether i am wrong or right. And also is it ok to talk to my husband to let my inlaws share his burden financially as they are financially independent too ( atleast their lics they can invest) not sure to discuss this. But i feel my husband is over burdened. Btw iam a homemaker
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There's nothing wrong in you wanting transparency when it comes to the family's finances. But the way it has been right from the beginning of your marriage, is that you did not ask and you were not told.
So, suddenly when you have expressed an interest in knowing and participating, your husband has not understood this. Be clear when you discuss with him that you wish to talk about it not to deter him from anything but to actually support him in whatever he does. He also is perhaps used to taking financial decisions all by himself and continues to do so...So, if something has changed within you, express it and allow him the time to change as well...

In your words: But i think that a couple should spend time having a healthy talk about their own commitments and investments.

Yes, but if it was this way right from the time when you two married, it would not be an issue. Your want now is not wrong, but has changed from what it sued to be...so, express, let him reflect on it and then have a healthy debate/discussion on it.

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Sir i am investing in follwing manner in mutual funds please suggest me in this regard 1 ICICI blue chip direct growth for Rs 1000 2 ICICI nifty fifty index fund for RS 1000 3 Nippon india multy cap for Rs 1000 4 Nippon india small cap for Rs 1000 5 Quant small cap for RS 1000 6 motilal oswal mid cap for Rs 1000 7 hdfc oppurtunities mid cap for Rs1000 8 quant mid cap for Rs 1000 9 parag parik flexi cap for Rs2000 10 hdfc flexi cap for Rs 2000 11 JM flexi cap for rs 2000 12 Quant flexi cap for Rs 2000 My invsestment horizon s Is 10 to 12 years , Please suggest any rebalancing is required
Ans: You've built a diversified mutual fund portfolio across multiple categories and fund houses, which is commendable. Let’s review this structure to ensure it aligns with your goals and maximises growth potential for your 10-12 year horizon.

In the following suggestions, I’ll focus on streamlining your portfolio for balanced growth, minimising overlap, and optimising returns.

Review of Current Portfolio Structure
Your portfolio spans several categories, including large-cap, index, mid-cap, small-cap, and flexi-cap funds. While this diversification reduces risk, it may also lead to redundancy and portfolio overlap. Let’s evaluate each category:

Large-Cap: Provides stability and moderate growth.

Mid-Cap and Small-Cap: Offers higher growth potential but comes with more volatility.

Flexi-Cap: Adds flexibility, allowing fund managers to adjust holdings based on market conditions.

Index Fund: Index funds often carry lower costs but may underperform actively managed funds over time.

Analysis of Each Fund Category and Suggested Adjustments
1. Large-Cap Funds
Current Investment: Rs 1,000 in ICICI Bluechip Fund (Direct Growth).

Assessment: A large-cap fund adds stability to the portfolio, which is beneficial.

Suggested Action: Continue with this allocation, as large-cap funds provide balanced growth and less volatility.

2. Index Fund
Current Investment: Rs 1,000 in ICICI Nifty Fifty Index Fund.

Assessment: Index funds may offer stable returns but lack active fund management benefits. Actively managed funds typically outperform index funds in the long run, especially for a 10-12 year horizon.

Suggested Action: Consider switching this allocation to an actively managed large-cap or flexi-cap fund. Actively managed funds provide potential for enhanced returns with the support of skilled fund managers.

3. Mid-Cap Funds
Current Investment: Rs 3,000 (split across Motilal Oswal Mid Cap, HDFC Opportunities Mid Cap, and Quant Mid Cap).

Assessment: While mid-cap funds offer growth, holding three funds within the same category may create overlap. Mid-cap funds can be volatile but generally perform well in the long term.

Suggested Action: Consider consolidating to two funds within this category. Reducing overlap allows for easier tracking and reduces redundant exposure. Continue with HDFC Opportunities and one other mid-cap fund of your choice.

4. Small-Cap Funds
Current Investment: Rs 2,000 (Rs 1,000 each in Nippon India Small Cap and Quant Small Cap).

Assessment: Small-cap funds have high growth potential but also high risk. Limiting to one small-cap fund can manage risk more effectively, especially as the portfolio already has mid-cap exposure.

Suggested Action: Consolidate to one small-cap fund. Select the fund that has consistently performed well and aligns with your risk tolerance.

5. Flexi-Cap Funds
Current Investment: Rs 8,000 (allocated across Parag Parikh Flexi Cap, HDFC Flexi Cap, JM Flexi Cap, and Quant Flexi Cap).

Assessment: Flexi-cap funds are a good choice for your investment horizon, as they allow fund managers to adjust between large-, mid-, and small-cap stocks. However, having four funds in this category may lead to redundancy.

Suggested Action: Narrow down to two or three flexi-cap funds. This streamlines your portfolio and reduces tracking complexity.

Recommended Portfolio Structure for a Balanced, Growth-Oriented Approach
After the above adjustments, here’s a suggested rebalancing strategy:

Large-Cap Funds: Maintain your allocation in ICICI Bluechip. Large-cap stability is crucial for a well-rounded portfolio.

Flexi-Cap Funds: Retain Parag Parikh Flexi Cap and one or two others of your choice. Flexi-caps should form a significant portion, as they offer the flexibility to adjust across market caps.

Mid-Cap Funds: Retain two mid-cap funds for growth potential. HDFC Opportunities Mid Cap and one other mid-cap fund should be sufficient.

Small-Cap Funds: Retain one small-cap fund for high growth potential. Select the one that best suits your risk tolerance.

Benefits of This Streamlined Approach
A simplified portfolio offers multiple benefits for long-term wealth creation:

Reduced Overlap: Minimising fund overlap reduces redundant exposure within the same asset class. This makes your portfolio more efficient.

Enhanced Returns: Actively managed funds in flexi-cap and large-cap categories are likely to yield better returns over time than index funds.

Easier Management: Fewer funds mean easier tracking and management. A simplified portfolio enables regular reviews without added complexity.

Taxation Awareness for Mutual Funds
Understanding taxation helps in planning withdrawals and tax savings effectively.

Equity Mutual Funds: Long-term capital gains (LTCG) over Rs 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%. Short-term capital gains (STCG) are taxed at 20%.

Debt Mutual Funds: Both LTCG and STCG are taxed as per your income tax slab, which can impact post-tax returns.

Tax-Efficient Withdrawals: Plan withdrawals strategically to minimise taxes and maximise returns. A Certified Financial Planner can guide on the tax-efficient withdrawal approach.

Final Insights
Your diversified portfolio shows a good approach towards growth. With a few adjustments, it can become more streamlined and focused on high returns. Aim for a balance of stability and growth with carefully chosen large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds.

A well-maintained portfolio with annual reviews, consolidation, and tax-aware strategies will bring you closer to achieving your financial goals.

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Hi Sir, I have started Lumpsom of 10K each in almost all 17 Portfolios Companies in Large, Mid, Small, Flexi Funds.. and planned not to withdraw for min 3-5 years, Kindly suggest is this good or bad
Ans: Your decision to invest across multiple funds shows commitment to wealth creation. However, the number of funds and strategy needs some fine-tuning. A 17-fund portfolio may lead to overlap and make it harder to manage. Let’s assess the pros and suggest adjustments for optimal growth.

Key Observations
Too Many Funds Reduce Focus:
Investing in 17 funds dilutes portfolio efficiency. It also creates duplication, as many funds may hold similar stocks, especially in large-cap or flexi-cap categories.

Increased Management Difficulty:
Monitoring multiple funds is time-consuming. It becomes harder to assess performance regularly. A compact portfolio ensures better tracking and rebalancing.

Overlapping Risks:
Some funds from different categories may invest in the same companies. This reduces diversification benefits and makes the portfolio less efficient.

Short Investment Horizon:
A 3-5 year horizon is quite short, especially for equity-heavy portfolios. For maximum returns, equities perform better over 7-10 years. Consider this when planning your exit strategy.

Suggested Adjustments
Optimise Fund Selection:
Instead of investing in many funds, reduce to 7-8 high-performing ones. This makes it easier to monitor, and your returns won't get diluted.

Choose Multi-Cap and Hybrid Funds:
Multi-cap and hybrid funds offer flexibility by allocating across market caps. They also shift between equity and debt, providing better stability during volatile markets.

Avoid Category Overlap:
Too many funds in the same category (like multiple large-caps) add redundancy. Choose one or two high-quality funds from each category—large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap.

Long-Term Benefits of Compact Portfolio
Better Performance Tracking:
With fewer funds, it's easier to track performance and make timely adjustments. You will also benefit from concentrated growth.

Higher Returns Potential:
When you hold fewer, well-chosen funds, each has a meaningful impact on the overall portfolio. Returns are less likely to get diluted by overlapping holdings.

Easy Rebalancing:
A smaller portfolio allows smoother rebalancing between equity and debt, ensuring long-term stability.

Recommended Action Plan
Review Current Holdings:
Identify the overlapping funds and remove similar ones to avoid redundancy.

Select 1-2 Funds per Category:
Keep a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, small-cap, and multi-cap funds for balanced growth.

Add Hybrid Fund for Stability:
Include one hybrid or dynamic fund to safeguard the portfolio during volatile periods.

Extend Investment Horizon:
Increase your horizon to 7-10 years for better returns from equity investments. If liquidity is a concern, plan partial withdrawals systematically.

Invest via Regular Plans:
Investing through Certified Financial Planners (CFP) and mutual fund distributors (MFDs) ensures guidance and better fund selection over time.

Taxation Awareness
Capital Gains Tax:
For equity mutual funds, long-term capital gains (LTCG) above Rs. 1.25 lakh attract 12.5% tax. Short-term capital gains (STCG) are taxed at 20%.

Debt Fund Taxation:
Both LTCG and STCG are taxed according to your income slab.

Plan your withdrawals carefully to minimise tax liabilities and maintain returns.

Final Insights
Your commitment to investing is a great step towards wealth creation. However, reducing the number of funds will streamline your portfolio and improve performance. A smaller, focused portfolio ensures better returns with less management hassle. Also, extending your investment horizon will unlock the full potential of equity growth.

Invest through regular funds with professional guidance, ensuring you receive ongoing support from your CFP or MFD. Finally, stay invested for the long term to achieve your financial goals confidently.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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Give me the full detailed investing steps for 27 year old guy to become a millionaire in India in next 18 -20 years time frame maintaining both short term goals like travelling within 5 years( 5 lakhs) ,buying plots of 50 lakhs( within next 10 years) , car of 5-7 lakhs ( within 5 years) adjusted with inflation, and long term goals ( more than 15 years) , with proper asset allocation with rebalancing, mitigating life risk and health risk, emergency fund, moderate to high risk appetite, how to deal with sequence of return risk in retirement phase, by investing 60K / month and monthly expenses of 13K.
Ans: To achieve millionaire status within an 18-20 year timeline while balancing short-term and long-term goals, a structured and disciplined approach is essential. With your strong savings capability, moderate-to-high risk appetite, and desire for comprehensive financial planning, these steps provide a 360-degree view for building a substantial corpus. Let’s break down the strategy.

1. Foundation: Emergency Fund Setup
Building an emergency fund is the foundation of financial stability. Set aside funds equal to 6-12 months of expenses.

Place Rs 1 lakh initially in a liquid fund for emergencies.
Aim to gradually build up to Rs 2-3 lakh.
Use a mix of bank savings and liquid funds for liquidity and slight growth.
Maintaining this reserve prevents you from touching your investments during unexpected events.

2. Mitigating Life and Health Risks
Protecting your income and wealth through insurance is a key step.

Life Insurance: Opt for a term life policy that covers 10-12 times your annual income. This ensures financial protection for your family. Avoid investment-linked insurance like ULIPs; they often underperform compared to mutual funds.

Health Insurance: A family floater health plan with at least Rs 10 lakh cover is ideal. Supplement this with a top-up or super top-up plan to handle inflation in healthcare.

This coverage ensures minimal impact on your financial goals in case of any health emergency.

3. Asset Allocation for Balanced Growth
An effective asset allocation strategy balances growth and risk. Here’s a breakdown tailored to your needs:

Equity Mutual Funds (60%): For long-term growth, allocate Rs 36,000 monthly into well-chosen active mutual funds focusing on large-cap, flexi-cap, and mid-cap categories. Actively managed funds, with a Certified Financial Planner’s guidance, provide potential for better returns over index funds by adjusting to market dynamics.

Debt Mutual Funds (30%): Direct Rs 18,000 monthly towards debt funds like short-duration or dynamic bond funds. These reduce portfolio volatility while providing stability.

Gold (10%): Invest Rs 6,000 monthly in digital gold or gold ETFs. This small portion hedges against inflation and market uncertainty.

This allocation balances high-growth potential and stability.

4. Targeting Short-Term Goals (5-10 Years)
To meet your short-term goals without disrupting long-term wealth, set up dedicated funds.

Goal 1: Travelling (Rs 5 lakh in 5 years)

Invest Rs 6,500 monthly in a short-term debt mutual fund or recurring deposit.
This will help you reach the required amount with minimal risk exposure.
Goal 2: Car Purchase (Rs 7 lakh in 5 years)

Allocate Rs 9,000 monthly into a balanced hybrid mutual fund.
Hybrid funds offer moderate growth and reduce the risk of market volatility.
Goal 3: Buying Plots (Rs 50 lakh in 10 years)

Invest Rs 15,000 monthly in a combination of flexi-cap and large-cap funds.
These funds provide potential capital appreciation while balancing risks associated with market fluctuations.
These steps ensure goal-specific investments without impacting your core wealth accumulation.

5. Wealth Accumulation for Long-Term Goals
For wealth accumulation over the next 18-20 years, steady SIPs and disciplined reinvestments are key.

Equity Growth through SIPs:

Contribute Rs 20,000 monthly towards aggressive funds targeting wealth accumulation.
Use diversified and flexi-cap mutual funds that adjust to market opportunities and risks.
Avoid Direct Funds:

Direct funds often lack personalized advice, which can lead to portfolio misalignment with your risk profile and goals.
Investing through an MFD with CFP credentials ensures periodic review and aligns with evolving market trends, maximizing returns over the long term.
With this approach, compounding will work effectively towards achieving millionaire status.

6. Managing Inflation Impact on Goals
Inflation erodes purchasing power over time, impacting long-term financial goals.

Adjust SIP amounts annually to account for inflation, especially for goals like retirement and buying a plot.

A 5-10% increase in SIP every year can keep your investments aligned with inflation, preserving their real value.

This adjustment keeps your corpus growth in line with inflation, ensuring goals remain achievable.

7. Rebalancing and Reviewing Portfolio
Regular rebalancing keeps your portfolio aligned with your risk tolerance and goals.

Annual Rebalancing: Review your asset allocation every year and shift funds if any asset class has deviated beyond 5%.

Market-Linked Adjustments: In market downturns, consider shifting debt funds to equity for long-term gains, while reversing in high markets.

Consistent rebalancing enhances risk management and captures growth opportunities.

8. Mitigating Sequence of Return Risk in Retirement
During retirement, sequence of return risk can deplete your savings faster. To counter this:

Maintain a 3-year buffer in a liquid fund or conservative debt fund. Draw from this in years when market returns are low.

Implement a systematic withdrawal plan (SWP) from equity funds for monthly needs. This minimizes the impact of poor market years by not selling equities during downturns.

This approach ensures that market downturns in retirement won’t impact your lifestyle.

9. Optimizing Tax Efficiency
Proper tax management improves net returns on investments.

Equity Mutual Fund Taxation: Long-term capital gains (LTCG) on equity funds above Rs 1.25 lakh annually are taxed at 12.5%. Short-term gains are taxed at 20%. Plan withdrawals to minimize tax impact.

Debt Mutual Fund Taxation: LTCG and STCG are taxed as per your income slab. Consider holding debt investments for longer terms to benefit from indexation on capital gains.

This tax awareness maximizes the effective returns from your investments.

10. Systematic Withdrawal for Sustained Retirement Income
When you approach retirement, a systematic withdrawal plan (SWP) from mutual funds can provide a steady income.

Set up an SWP from balanced or hybrid funds to provide monthly income while keeping the principal invested.

Rebalance annually to ensure the withdrawal amount doesn’t deplete the portfolio prematurely.

This approach ensures a continuous income flow and longevity of your retirement corpus.

Finally: Maintaining Discipline and Consistency
Achieving your financial goals requires unwavering consistency and discipline.

Regular SIPs, consistent portfolio reviews, and disciplined asset allocation will steadily build wealth.

With rising market opportunities, stay invested and avoid withdrawing from core investments before maturity.

Through commitment and systematic investing, you’re set for a financially secure future.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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I am 40 year old working class person can U suggest the sip amount for corplus of 3 cr after 10 years Also please suggest 10 funds name
Ans: Reaching a corpus of Rs 3 crore in 10 years is an admirable financial goal. I will guide you on structuring a strategy to achieve this target and help you choose the appropriate investment approach.

Below is a structured approach with detailed guidance on the SIP amount and fund selection strategy to help you reach your Rs 3 crore target.

Setting Your Monthly SIP Investment Amount
Since your goal is Rs 3 crore in 10 years, your investment plan should focus on a disciplined monthly SIP with growth-oriented funds. Here’s how to proceed:

Expected Returns: For a 10-year period, an expected return of 12-14% from equity mutual funds is achievable. This range considers market cycles and compounding benefits over time.

Monthly SIP Amount: To achieve Rs 3 crore in 10 years, a monthly SIP investment of approximately Rs 1.5 lakh will be necessary. This amount is based on target growth rates in equity mutual funds. Adjustments may be required based on actual returns, so ongoing review is essential.

Role of Regular SIP Investments: Consistent monthly SIPs ensure disciplined investing. This approach benefits from rupee cost averaging, reducing the impact of market volatility on long-term returns.

Actively Managed Funds for Growth
Actively managed funds are preferred over index funds for their flexibility and potential for higher returns. These funds adjust their portfolio based on market conditions, which can provide better returns over the long term.

Key Benefits of Actively Managed Funds
Professional Management: Actively managed funds are run by skilled fund managers who analyse and adjust portfolios to capture market opportunities.

Potential for Outperformance: Unlike index funds, actively managed funds can strive to outperform the broader market.

Diversification Across Sectors: Active funds spread investments across varied sectors and asset classes, providing balanced exposure to market upsides.

Recommended Categories for a Balanced Portfolio
Your portfolio should include a diversified mix of equity funds focused on long-term capital appreciation. Let’s explore suitable fund categories:

1. Large-Cap Equity Funds
These funds invest in top companies with a strong market presence. They offer stable growth with relatively lower volatility.

Ideal for core portfolio stability, large-cap funds balance the riskier mid- and small-cap segments.

2. Flexi-Cap Funds
Flexi-cap funds invest across companies of varying market capitalisations. Their dynamic approach helps them capitalise on market shifts.

They adjust allocations based on market trends, giving flexibility and growth potential.

3. Mid-Cap Equity Funds
Mid-cap funds focus on companies with growth potential. They carry moderate risk and offer higher returns compared to large-caps.

Including mid-caps in your portfolio enhances growth prospects while maintaining a balanced risk level.

4. Small-Cap Equity Funds
Small-cap funds are for high growth but come with higher risk. These funds have the potential to provide significant returns over time.

An allocation to small-cap funds can boost the portfolio’s growth when markets perform well, but ensure this is limited to manage volatility.

5. Balanced Advantage Funds (BAF)
Balanced Advantage Funds invest in both equity and debt, adjusting based on market conditions. They reduce risk while offering potential for stable returns.

BAFs provide a cushion during market downturns, ensuring a balanced approach towards your corpus.

Ideal Portfolio Allocation
A balanced approach across different categories can help you achieve optimal growth while managing risks. Here’s a suggested allocation strategy:

Large-Cap Funds: 30% of your SIP amount
Flexi-Cap Funds: 25% of your SIP amount
Mid-Cap Funds: 20% of your SIP amount
Small-Cap Funds: 15% of your SIP amount
Balanced Advantage Funds: 10% of your SIP amount
Monitoring and Reviewing Your Portfolio
Regularly reviewing your portfolio is essential for staying on track to meet your financial goals.

Annual Review: Evaluate the performance of your funds once a year with the guidance of a Certified Financial Planner. This helps ensure that you meet expected growth rates.

Rebalancing as Needed: Over time, some funds may outperform while others lag. Rebalance your portfolio to maintain your ideal allocation.

Adjusting SIP Contributions: Depending on market conditions, you may adjust SIP amounts to stay aligned with your Rs 3 crore target.

Benefits of Investing Through an MFD with CFP Credential
Choosing regular funds via an MFD with CFP credentials offers several advantages over direct funds.

Advantages of MFD-Assisted Investments
Guided Fund Selection: A Certified Financial Planner will help you choose funds aligned with your goals and risk tolerance.

Periodic Monitoring: Professional oversight ensures that your portfolio performs optimally and adjusts to market changes.

Comprehensive Financial Advice: An MFD with CFP credentials can advise on all aspects of financial planning, from tax to estate planning, ensuring a holistic approach.

Avoids Common Pitfalls: Direct investments may lack guidance, leading to emotional decisions. Professional advice provides a buffer against such pitfalls.

Tax Considerations for Long-Term Gains
Knowing the tax implications on your investments helps optimise your returns.

New Mutual Fund Taxation Rules
Equity Mutual Funds: Long-Term Capital Gains (LTCG) exceeding Rs 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%. Short-term gains are taxed at 20%.

Debt Mutual Funds: Both LTCG and STCG are taxed as per your tax slab, affecting the post-tax return.

Tax-Efficient Withdrawal Strategy: Plan withdrawals to minimise tax liability. Work with a CFP to devise a tax-efficient approach.

Final Insights
To reach your Rs 3 crore target, focus on disciplined SIPs in growth-oriented funds. Actively managed funds provide the flexibility and potential for higher returns necessary for your goal.

Balancing risk across large-cap, flexi-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds with a touch of stability from balanced funds can give you a well-rounded portfolio. Regular reviews and professional guidance will keep your strategy aligned with market conditions.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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