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Mukesh Question by Mukesh on Sep 25, 2024
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Hi Anu, I, 33 years old guy, working in corporate recently entered into an arranged marriage with a simple cultured girl who is also 33 years aold working in corporate, following a previous two-year relationship with another girl who was way hotter than my wife. Although my relationship with ex involved quite a bit of passion and physical chemistry, we had often found ourselves at odds when it came to other aspects of life, such as finances, careers, and family matters. Due to these differences, I chose to get into arranged marriage with the girl of my parents choice through the traditional arrangement process. After ex and I parted ways, she moved abroad to pursue her master's degree. Despite all this, ex and I have managed to maintain a friendship and remain in contact. It has been over seven months since my wife and I tied the knot, and we have been working on developing our sexual connection. To provide some context, here are a few reasons why this aspect of our relationship has been challenging: As my wife has never been in a sexual relationship before, she is not very experienced when it comes to expressing romance or fostering intimacy. Also, we are quite opposite to each other be it movie choices, eating habots, dressing sense, spiritual beliefs etc. I frequently find my thoughts drifting back to my past experiences with ex, which have led me to believe that I may never be able to recreate the same level of passion and excitement in my current relationship. While I used to be instantly aroused by ex, I hardly feel any sexual attraction for my wife. In last 7 months, we got physical only 7-8 times. However, the experience was not so great, and I am left feeling unsure about the future of our intimate relationship and navigating my feelings about my past relationship with ex. It's important to mention that, without a doubt, my wife surpasses ex in all other aspects of life, except for romance.

Ans: Dear Mukesh,
You have not moved past your the relationship with your girlfriend. Till that time, this constant comparison without your knowledge is going to lead you to only more inadequacies within your marriage.
It's looks, it's intimacy, it's likes and dislikes...you will compare just about anything to prove your case that your ex was and is better than your wife. So, it's a dead end. What do you want in life and out of your marriage? It's also not fair on your wife that you are still stuck up on your ex and she is having to share a piece of you with your ex, even if it's just thoughts.
If it's your marriage that you want, then please work on healing from your past relationship and only then you will give yourself and your wife a chance to establish a connection. It is never going to work when you try and live in two places/relationships at the same time.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Dear MamI am a 33 year old male working in a PSU at middle management level. Six years ago I was married happily as per my wish to a girl of my choice.Everything was just perfect. My wife is 4.5 years younger to me. I had to go against my parents wish as they were not comfortable with a non working wife. Mine was not a love story but yes I met girl through a common friend and went ahead for the alliance. Our sex life was also great in the start and we welcomed a baby girl just 2 months short of our first wedding anniversary. However now when I compare I do understand that because of household chores she could not give proper time to me, but still I feel a strong urge to have sex with her. She somehow does not reciprocate well and is dull in having sex. Apart from this we still fight over silly things and tolerance level of both of us have gone very down. Sometimes I feel to this extent that I should walk out from the marriage because I really don't want hot talks in our relationship. I agree I have a 5 year old baby girl. I do control my feelings and anger too to some extent. My wife also does the same but really small things trigger me on. Also I always have a huge sex drive and I feel that if I don't get it from my wife I should look out for other options. I have not cheated with her but I feel that given the option I can because of sex urge. May be this is due to higher libido and I do masturbate occasionally fantasizing my neighbour or other female friends and sometimes my wife too. I don't know what goes through me but seeing your column I felt I should tell you these small details so you could give me an honest answer. I don't want to leave her, I do love her a lot but these fights really make me lose my cool and feel depressed.What should be done according to you ? Should I see a psychiatrist?
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Dear AY,

I will ask you to introspect and ask yourself: When did things start going downhill?

What event led to this? Surely, things don’t happen all of sudden, so something or some thought must have led to this.

Also, it’s important to understand that managing home and a child is a full time job and it tires the woman a lot.

To be in a mood for sex, the woman needs to be relaxed and calm…if the work at home is tiring, try and hire a domestic helper or any extra help that will ease her.

That way she will have more time to care for herself and her needs as well. Offer to pitch in and this will also bring the two of you closer.

Your theory of your high libido which is not being matched by your wife may or may not be true as sometimes that solution is simpler than you think.

Sadly, we are used to complicating things and look at what’s obvious in front of us.

Sex outside of marriage seems to be an option that has crossed your mind, but I do understand from your letter that you care and love your wife a lot.

Let not a moment of weakness make you shake the foundation of a beautiful relationship that the two of you share.

Have an open chat with her. Express how you feel and speak of your sexual needs.

Most often, communication solves most marriage issues. If this doesn’t work, kindly seek professional help with a marriage therapist.

Ultimately, you know why the two of you are married and why you chose her to be your wife.

Bear that in mind and a lot of yours mind struggles will ease and you will be able to think more usefully and also move into a better marriage space.

Happy 2022 and here’s wishing you the best in life!

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In my marriage since the very inception my wife was and is still "sexually immature". I wonder if i am able to make you understand the situation. For the first nine years of marriage she simply resisted/avoided insertion, and finally after compelling her for counselling, etc. she gave in one day, so to say, which led to intercourse on a few occasions and she conceived. Almost 30 years down the line she was simply not interested in intercourse which has become extremely frustrating for me having a great libido. So i have become a man with a roving eye and perennially seek companionship/love/sex with the opposite sex. I wonder if i should feel guilty about it (however i don't feel guilty). As i am kind of personable and engage easily even at the ripe old age of 66, i continue to have a number of girl- friends (married/unmarried). In other words i flirt quite a bit, its become second nature to me. Girls in general take a liking to me too. Not that i am not friendly with my wife. We have a very loving relationship on a level which is not at all sexual. She keeps home very well and takes full care of me other than the sexual aspect. In other words sex is completely out of our relationship. You might not be seeing cases like this often. So i am always kind of sexually alive when i am out of the house. Now if you were to advise me to repair our relationship, take steps etc, i think we have kind of passed that stage primarily because she is peculiarly missing in the vital sex vibrations. I wonder if you understand me. I would like to have your views on all that i have explained. Shall be grateful to have some insights.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
This isn't uncommon when sexual compatibility between couples is totally out of sync. Sometimes it's hard conditioning from childhood or some unpleasant experience or a medical reason that makes one not want sex at all.

When something is put of sync in a core relationship, you don't push the agenda that is actually causing discomfort but in fact deflect and shift focus onto things that actually help bond the two of you together.
When you look at what's not there, it's only going to look bigger and soon it consumes the mind completely and tricks you into believing that everything is wrong; which has possibly what has happened within your marriage. Agreed that your wife did not give sexual intimacy a lot of importance, but maybe something else might have been and is important to her. Maybe connecting at an emotional level, connecting through deep conversations, spending time together with activities...maybe these are something that help her connect better with you...

At whatever age, trying to fill a void through associations outside of marriage can only bring in momentary pleasure...what after that? Someone else and then again someone else...the cycle goes on and on with little inner joy to yourself.
If you feel that you have passed that stage (as mentioned by you) and also you seem to think it's only because your wife is not inclined towards sex, then this is how it will be!
If you wish for any change, then think different and ask yourself:
- what is it that I can do to actually gain her confidence in me?
- how do i shift focus from sexual intimacy to emotional intimacy?

If this is too hard to do, then your present ways of living might be the only way that you know and rely upon...But, there will never be the inner fulfillment that you are looking at. There's still hope; try and put things back in your marriage...you will thank yourself for it.

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Hi, I am 41, salaried with 2 kids (elder one in 8th standard and younger one in Nursery) and earning 2.5 Lakh per month from private IT job. I have 4 dependents including spouse and mother. I have approx. 70 lakhs savings so far in different savings account, but no FD. Around 33 Lakhs in EPF and approx 10 L in PPF (1.5 LPA). A 100sq yard empty plot in rural area worth 15 Lakh (approx 12 km away from current address in Faridabad and school bus facility is not available there). I have paternal small agriculture land in Meerut, approx. 900 sq yard. No other savings or assets. I wanted to buy residential property in urban area but it seems out of reach now and I do not see any value in spending all my savings in small 2 bhk apartment. Here are my monthly expenses - 28K rent related - 20k school fee and tutions - 15k monthly grocery - 2k internet (for tv and home office) - 10k car petrol (3 days weekly office travel to Noida- metro takes additional half an hour to reach office due to indirect connectivity) - around 30k in quarter for family entertainment and other purchases - giving 6K every month to wife and mother for their personal expenses (total 12 k) - additional mediclaim of 27k per month, 50 L SI - free company mediclaim of 10L SI - free company insurance of 50L , but no person insurance I am interested in buying agricultural land of 30 Lakh in my father's village but my lunch has not been great in property investments so far (no gain, just loss). So, I am confused and just trying to save money in bank accounts for my kids. Shall I buy apartment or it's fine to stay in rental property for long time? For unplanned retirement, I can get my rural plot constructed for emergency, right? I believe investment in agriculture land will be better rather than buying apartment or something else. But I get this thought from time to time that I am on a rented property, not my own. Then I think its better to do FD of 70 Lakh and enjoy the interest for easy worry free life. Please share some advise what shall I do to save money safely and wisely.
Ans: You are 41, earning Rs?2.5?lakhs per month with spouse, mother, and two school-aged children. You have Rs?70?lakhs in savings, plus Rs?43?lakhs in EPF/PPF. You also own rural plots but no urban home. You have recurring rent and family expenses. Let’s take a clear 360?degree look at your situation and chart a reliable path forward.

? Clarify Your Goals and Timelines
– Monthly rent, kids’ education, retirement, and own home are key goals.
– Rank them by importance and by when funds are needed.
– Own home may take 5–7 years; education is nearer.

A clear goal list helps choose right investments and timeline.

? Analyse Monthly Cash Flow
– Rent: Rs?28k
– School & tuition: Rs?20k
– Groceries: Rs?15k
– Internet: Rs?2k
– Petrol: Rs?10k
– Entertainment: ~Rs?10k
– Personal allowances: Rs?12k
– Mediclaim premium: Rs?27k

Total: ~Rs?1.24?lakhs (excludes utilities/savings).

This leaves ~Rs?1.26?lakhs per month for investment, savings, and discretionary spending.

? Emergency Fund Status
– You hold Rs?70?lakhs, but none in liquid safety.
– Ideal emergency buffer is 6–12 months of household expenses.
– That is approx Rs?8–10?lakhs.
– Keep this in liquid or ultra?short term mutual funds.

? Deploy Savings Efficiently
– Don’t leave Rs?70?lakhs idle in savings; returns are very low.
– Distribute across safety, medium, and growth buckets:

Safety: Rs?10?lakhs in liquid funds

Medium-term: Rs?15?lakhs in short/mid?duration debt funds

Long-term growth: Remaining Rs?45?lakhs into equity-oriented mutual funds

This ensures extended stability, goal funding, and growth.

? Children’s Education Planning
– Elder is in 8th grade; younger is in nursery.
– Education expenses escalate in higher studies.
– Estimate combined future costs in the next 5–10 years.
– Create dedicated monthly SIPs for each child.

Child?1 goal requires medium?term growth

Child?2 goal allows longer horizon (10–12 years)

Use actively managed equity funds so fund managers adjust with market cycles.

? Own Home vs Renting
– Urban home is out of reach now; better to continue renting.
– Renting gives flexibility, less maintenance burden.
– Apartment purchase may overextend your savings and impact education/retirement.

Renting stays fine until you have 30–40% home cost in savings, plus surplus for education.

? Estate and Construction Plan
– You mentioned constructing on rural plot as emergency fallback.
– Building on rural land may draw permission and utility challenges.
– Also, it may tie up capital and reduce liquidity.

Better to rely on liquid savings for emergency housing needs.

? Agricultural Land Investment
– Farming land may provide future value but no income now.
– It also isn’t liquid or usable immediately.
– Income from land is uncertain.

Its value isn’t clear and is hard to monetize. It's better held alongside diversified financial investments.

? Asset Allocation for Growth
– Equity funds offer potential to beat inflation.
– Debt funds offer stability for medium-term goals.
– EPF/PPF are safe pillars.

Your mix now: 45% growth (equity), 35% stability (debt and PPF/EPF), 20% liquidity.

Rebalance each year towards target mix.

? Importance of Actively Managed Funds
– Index funds track markets rigidly.
– They can underperform in downturns or miss themes.
– Actively managed funds adapt sector exposures.
– Managers can protect downside and pursue growth themes.

Especially useful when funding education, retirement, or home purchase.

? Direct Funds vs Regular Funds
– Direct funds save small fees but give zero guidance.
– Regular funds via Certified Financial Planner provide expert support, emotional discipline, and rebalancing advice.
– This guidance is valuable over decades.

? EPF and PPF Overview
– EPF continues via salary deductions; it's safe and grows.
– PPF offers tax?free return and can complement retirement corpus.
– Let EPF and PPF run until maturity.
– Use rising savings (house, investment) to balance with more equity.

? Retirement Planning Next Steps
– You still have ~19 years until retirement at 60.
– Required corpus must support spouse and children during and after your life.
– Start separate SIP of Rs?25–30k monthly into diversified equity funds.
– This stream builds a long?term corpus for retirement.

? Tax Planning Strategy
– EPF contributions offer 80C deduction.
– PPF contributions also qualify under 80C.
– SIP in ELSS (if used) gives tax deduction but has 3?year lock?in.
– Equity withdrawals: LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%; STCG at 20%.
– Debt fund gains are taxed per your slab.

Plan investment and withdrawal timing to optimise taxes per year.

? Insurance Coverage Check
– Company offers free mediclaim 50L and life insurance 50L.
– You also spend Rs?27k monthly on additional cover.
– Re-evaluate premium if overlap exists.
– Take a separate pure term plan for yourself of 50–75L.
– Ensure your family has financial protection beyond employer policies.

? Monitoring and Review
– Schedule annual financial check-ins.
– Reassess goals, cash flow, investments, and insurance.
– Adjust contributions and asset allocations with life changes.
– A CFP will guide and correct behavioural biases.

? What to Avoid Now
– Avoid buying urban property now; it can stress your finances.
– Stay away from speculative farmland purchase.
– Avoid fixed deposits for large sums; returns are low.
– Don’t chase short-term stock tips or side income schemes.

Stick to a disciplined savings and investment approach.

? Summary of Key Actions
– Keep Rs?10?lakhs liquid as emergency fund.
– Allocate Rs?15?lakhs in debt funds for medium goals.
– Invest Rs?45?lakhs via SIPs in equity funds for long goals.
– Start separate SIPs:

Child education

Home purchase

Retirement corpus (~Rs?25–30k monthly)
– Buy individual term life cover and optimise mediclaim.
– Review portfolio every year with a CFP.

This gives goal clarity, financial safety, and growth potential.

? Finally
– You have stable income and significant savings.
– Owning a home is not mandatory now; renting is fine.
– Keep farmland, but don’t invest more.
– Financial assets are more flexible, safe and growth-oriented.
– Build multiple SIPs aligned to specific goals.
– Use actively managed, regular plan mutual funds.
– Protect yourself and dependents with term and health cover.
– Monitor and adjust the plan every year.

This 360?degree strategy helps your family stay secure and grow wealth.

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Hey, I m 43 yrs old now, working as a freelancer earning around 2L per month, but don't know how long it will work and now not feeling to join any Job, I have a daughter and a son 12 and 6 yrs old respectively. Currently I am holding around 90L in stocks 5.5L in mutual fund with SIP of 50K per month. I own a house, which is debt free Also own a office space and a studio apartment which are rented out and getting around 33K from rent per month.(Both are debt free) Life Policies For LIC policy paying from last 12 years around 3.6L per annum need to for another 10 yrs I think so Hdfc life paid 2.5 per annum for 5 years and waiting for maturity. SBI life paid 1.5 per annum for 5 years and now waiting for maturity. Aditya Birla paying 25k from last 12 years need to pay it for another 18 years Bought a term life plan for 1.75cr and paying 5k per month. Currently I have a car loan and a loan against policy paying around 70K as a EMI per month it will get completed in next 2.5 years. Now my goal is to get 3L per month after 5-6 years. Please let me know how should I achieve this. Thanks
Ans: Your earnings, assets, and goals show you are disciplined and proactive. Let us look at your situation in depth—covering all angles and offering insights that shape a solid path forward.

? Current Financial Snapshot
– Age 43, freelancer, earning around Rs.?2 lakh per month.
– Family: Daughter (12) and son (6).
– Holding Rs.?90 lakh in direct equity stocks.
– Mutual fund investments worth Rs.?5.5 lakh.
– SIP of Rs.?50,000 per month into mutual funds.
– Owns a debt?free home, office space, and studio apartment.
– Rental income of Rs.?33,000 per month.

? Insurance and Loan Overview
– LIC policy premium Rs.?3.6 lakh per annum, continues for 10 more years.
– HDFC Life policy premium Rs.?2.5 lakh per annum, 5 years left.
– SBI Life policy premium Rs.?1.5 lakh per annum, 5 years left.
– Aditya Birla policy premium Rs.?25,000 per annum, 18 years remaining.
– Term life insurance cover Rs.?1.75 crore, premium Rs.?5,000 per month.
– Car loan and loan against policy: EMI Rs.?70,000 per month, ending in 2.5 years.

Your goals: To receive Rs.?3 lakh per month in income after 5–6 years. Let us break down your plan with professional insight.

? Strengths in Your Setup
– Debt?free real estate assets provide passive income and safety.
– You have strong equity holdings for growth potential.
– SIP of Rs.?50k monthly shows systematic investing behaviour.
– Term insurance provides robust life protection.
– Rental income adds stable, recurring cash flow.
– You have clear income goals and timeframe.

Your structure is built on robust foundations. You have the potential for reliable financial freedom.

? Key Challenges to Address
– High exposure to direct stocks (Rs.?90 lakh) increases risk and requires active management.
– Low mutual fund base relative to equity exposure may limit diversification benefits.
– Insurance?linked savings policies with heavy premiums limit fund allocation flexibility.
– EMI of Rs.?70k is delaying capital growth until it ends.
– Freelance income can vary and may not last indefinitely.
– You need to plan for higher income needs in 5–6 years to reach Rs.?3 lakh monthly.

? Goal Definition: Rs.?3 Lakh Monthly Income
– You plan to retire or reduce activity by age 48–49.
– Your target is Rs.?3 lakh monthly sustainable income.
– Current passive income: Rs.?33k (rent) + planned SIP/withdrawal.
– Gap: You need about Rs.?2.7 lakh extra per month in 5–6 years.

To achieve this, you need to build a corpus that can sustainably generate Rs.?32.4 lakh per year. Assuming a safe withdrawal rate near 4–5%, you need a corpus of Rs.?6.5–8 crore by then.

? Fund Allocation Strategy – Balancing Growth and Stability
You need to grow your portfolio significantly while managing risk.

Increase mutual fund investments:
– Gradually rebalance direct stocks into actively managed mutual funds, including:
Large?cap, flexi?cap, multi?asset, balanced advantage.
– Avoid index funds—they cannot protect in market downturns.
– Active funds help adjust allocation, sector mix, and volatility.

Step up your SIP:
– Continue Rs.?50k monthly SIP.
– Each year increase by 10–15% to offset inflation and build corpus faster.

Use car/policy loan EMI savings well:
– When EMI ends in 2.5 years, redirect Rs.?70k monthly to SIPs or discretionary debt.

? Mutual Fund Selection – Validate and Simplify
You hold Rs.?5.5 lakh in mutual funds today. This needs scale and proper distribution.

– Keep only 5–6 high?conviction funds.
– Choose a mix of diversified equity and hybrid funds.
– Balanced advantage funds provide equity exposure with bond protection.
– Avoid sector/thematic funds. They are risky and reduce diversification.
– Continue via regular funds through MFD + CFP‍ for guidance and monitoring.

If any fund underperforms for more than two years, consider switching.
But do not stop SIP during a temporary correction.

? Equity Stocks – Risk Management Needs
Your equity exposure is strong but concentrated in direct holdings.

– Review top 20 holdings for quality, weight, and sector risk.
– If concentration is high in volatile sectors, rebalance into mutual funds.
– Use staggered selling to minimise capital gains tax and market impact.
– LTCG on equity above Rs.?1.25 lakh per year is taxed at 12.5%.
– STCG is taxed at 20%.

Keep direct stocks only if you can track performance and rebalance every year. Otherwise, mutual funds offer effective diversification.

? EMI Impact and Post?Loan Strategy
Your car and policy loan EMI of Rs.?70k monthly ends in 2.5 years.

Once EMI ends:

– Reinvest Rs.?70k monthly into your SIP basket.
– This alone can generate Rs.?2.5–3 crore over 10 years at consistent returns.
– Combined with stepped-up SIP, this positions corpus well for Rs.?3 lakh goal.

Ensure no immediate "lifestyle" spend after EMI ends. Redirect to wealth creation.

? Insurance?Linked Plans – Reevaluate and Reallocate
You hold multiple insurance investment policies (LIC, HDFC Life, SBI, Aditya Birla).

Suggestion:

– These plans give low net returns and lock-in.
– Since you already have term cover and health insurance, these are redundant.
– Consider surrendering them, if surrender value is acceptable.
– Use the freed-up premiums to invest in mutual funds for faster growth.

You need capital growth now. These insurance plans may limit you.

? Income Generation – Building a Sustainable Yield
Rental income of Rs.?33k is stable. But major income must come from investments.

In 5–6 years:

– Assume rental stays Rs.?33k/month (no growth).
– Monthly SIP (with step-ups) and corpus withdrawal/SWP could add Rs.?2 lakh.
– This helps reach Rs.?3 lakh goal.

Maintain a balanced asset allocation that generates both growth and yield.
Hybrid funds will provide dividends and capital appreciation.

? Emergency Fund and Liquidity Cushion
Your freelance income may fluctuate. Maintain buffer liquidity.

– Keep Rs.?6–8 lakh in ultra-short duration or liquid fund.
– Doesn’t earn much, but provides stability.
– Don’t use direct savings account for this.

This fund covers 3–4 months of expenses and cushions income dips.

? Child Education and Family Planning
You have two children. Plan their education separately.

– Son (12) needs funds in 6–8 years for higher studies.
– Daughter (6) needs funds in 12–15 years.
– Start two SIPs: one for each child’s education, separate from retirement SIP.
– Prefer a mix of flexi?cap and conservative hybrid funds.
– Do not dip into this fund for retirement or emergencies.

Separate goals, clear tracking.

? Inflation and Cash Flow Management
Current Rs.?3 lakh goal is good. But inflation will increase costs over time.

– Assume 6% inflation rate. Your target income may reach Rs.?5 lakh per month in 20 years.
– Continue SIP step?ups by at least 10–12% yearly.
– Rebalance portfolio every year with a Certified Financial Planner.
– Monitor healthcare costs as they rise faster than inflation.

Inflation diminishes real purchasing power. Plan accordingly.

? Freelance Income Risk – Insurance and Alternate Sources
Your income is freelance?based and variable.

– Consider income protection insurance (disability/critical illness).
– This protects you if you cannot work for extended periods.
– Consider building a small side income:

Online teaching, consulting, content writing

Skill monetisation in digital or workshops

A fallback income adds stability and financial freedom.

? Healthcare and Term Insurance Adequacy
You have term and multiple insurance covers. Check adequacy.

– Health insurance may need top-up to Rs.?10 lakh or more.
– Term cover of Rs.?1.75 crore is good. Review after policy-linked savings are surrendered.
– Consider raising cover if obligations increase post retirement.

Insurance secures your family’s future and gives financial peace.

? Regular Monitoring and Review Schedule
Your financial world will change. You must adjust accordingly.

– Set review meetings with a Certified Financial Planner every 6 months.
– Track these:

Portfolio returns and allocation

SIP performance and step-ups

Insurance needs

Cash flow and EMIs

Children’s education savings

Freelance income health

This discipline prevents drift and ensures you stay on track toward Rs.?3 lakh goal.

? Why Active Management is Crucial
Even if you think index funds are easy, they lack human oversight.

– Index funds blindly follow markets and can't reduce exposure in downturns.
– Actively managed funds adjust portfolio based on market conditions.
– They help manage downside risk—especially in retirement and goal?withdrawal phase.
– In long-term investment, active funds can deliver better risk?adjusted returns.
– Regular funds via MFD with CFP support guide you through market cycles.

Don’t be tempted by low-cost index funds when your goals require protection and discipline.

? Finally
– Your current position is strong, with assets and income.
– But risks include concentrated equity, heavy insurance savings, and income variability.
– By redirecting insurance savings toward mutual funds, you build faster.
– By stepping up SIP and reallocating EMI savings, you will reach your income goal.
– Maintain liquidity, child education funds, and insurance adequacy.
– Use actively managed and balanced funds.
– Review regularly with your Certified Financial Planner.
– Avoid fixed or complex investment schemes and farmland pitches.
– Build a side income to cushion freelance income risk.
– With discipline and monthly review, achieving Rs.?3 lakh per month in five years is realistic.

Your journey requires steady steps. You are well poised to achieve it with proper structure and support.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jul 15, 2025

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Sir I am now 52 years old.My sip start from this years rs 6000 per month and I have swp of 3lac.I invest 1cr in kvp of post office.Moreover my two ppf are going to mature nxt year.Now what should be my investment goal and what should I do after maturity of ppf
Ans: You are 52 years old. You have started SIP of Rs 6,000 per month. You have a SWP of Rs 3 lakhs. You have invested Rs 1 crore in KVP of post office. You also have two PPF accounts maturing next year. You are moving in the right direction. Still, there is scope for better planning. Let us build a 360-degree plan.

? Understanding Your Current Financial Picture

– You are in the pre-retirement stage now.
– Retirement could be in the next 8 to 10 years.
– You have started SIP of Rs 6,000 per month.
– You hold a SWP of Rs 3 lakhs.
– Rs 1 crore is locked in KVP, which is a fixed return scheme.
– Two PPF accounts are maturing next year.

You have good financial base. But asset allocation needs balancing.
Let’s review your steps ahead carefully.

? Define Your Financial Goals Clearly

– First, identify your life goals from now to retirement.
– Most important will be retirement corpus creation.
– Second may be healthcare planning.
– Third could be child support or legacy planning.

If these goals are not written down yet, please do it now.
Each goal should have timeline and estimated need.

That helps you allocate funds better after PPF maturity.

? Emergency Fund is Always First

– Ensure that you have at least one year’s expenses kept aside.
– Keep it in liquid mutual funds or short-term options.
– Avoid touching long-term investments for sudden needs.

If not done yet, use a portion of PPF maturity to build it.

? Review the Rs 1 Crore KVP Investment

– KVP gives fixed return but no flexibility.
– You will have to wait till maturity to access funds.
– It is safe but returns barely beat inflation.

If you still have 5+ years to maturity, no issue.
But plan liquidity outside this for other needs.

Don’t depend on KVP for short or medium-term goals.

? Smart Use of Upcoming PPF Maturity

– PPF is a great debt product. It gives tax-free returns.
– Maturity of two accounts gives you a good opportunity now.

Avoid spending it casually. Don’t keep it idle in savings account.

Use the maturity amount as per these options:
– Allocate a portion for emergency fund if not yet created.
– Set aside part for upcoming 2–3-year needs in debt mutual funds.
– Invest balance in equity-oriented mutual funds for retirement.

Equity funds help fight inflation over 8–10 years.
You already started Rs 6,000 SIP. That is good.

Now you can boost this using PPF maturity money as lump sum.

Split this amount across 12–18 months using STP (Systematic Transfer Plan).
Don’t invest full lump sum in equity fund in one shot.

? Don’t Mix Insurance with Investment

– If you hold LIC endowment or ULIP, review carefully.
– If returns are below 5% and you don’t need cover, surrender them.

Reinvest that in mutual funds for long-term goals.
Pure term insurance and mutual fund combo is best.

You need protection but not with poor returns.

? Continue and Boost Mutual Fund SIPs

– Rs 6,000 SIP is a good start.
– But it may not be enough for retirement.
– Increase SIP every year by 10–15% if possible.

Also, once PPF matures, start new SIPs with that money.
Use actively managed equity mutual funds.

Avoid index funds. They follow the index blindly.

Index funds can’t reduce risk when market falls.
Actively managed funds give flexibility to move to better sectors.
They adjust portfolio as per market condition.

Also, avoid direct plans unless you can monitor it fully yourself.

Direct funds don’t give advice or reviews.
Better to go with regular plans through Certified Financial Planner.
This gives proper tracking and long-term guidance.

? Plan for Retirement Systematically

– You are 52. So you may have 8 years before retirement.
– It is not too late. But you must act fast.

Estimate how much you need post-retirement per month.
Factor in inflation. Your Rs 50,000 now may need Rs 1 lakh later.

You must build a corpus that can support 25–30 years after retirement.

Use mutual funds for this. A mix of equity and hybrid funds can help.
Increase SIPs. Reinvest maturity money wisely.
Review your plan every year with a Certified Financial Planner.

? Don’t Depend Only on Fixed Instruments

– Many people in their 50s prefer fixed deposits or post office schemes.
– These give safety but don’t beat inflation.

Over 20–30 years post-retirement, inflation eats value.
So you need growth along with safety.

That’s why mutual funds are needed now.
Especially equity-oriented and hybrid mutual funds.

They help grow your wealth and still give flexibility.

? Use SWP Strategy Carefully

– You have a SWP of Rs 3 lakhs.
– Understand why and how it is being used.

If it is being withdrawn from mutual fund, track tax impact.
Use only for planned needs. Don’t use SWP as regular income unless needed.

Instead, reinvest if it’s not being spent. Let it grow further.

? Tax Planning is Important

– Your PPF maturity is tax-free. That’s a plus.
– Mutual fund redemptions can be taxed.

For equity mutual funds:
– LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
– STCG is taxed at 20%.

For debt funds, all gains are taxed as per income slab.
So plan withdrawals smartly. Avoid sudden full redemptions.

Split withdrawals across years to reduce tax burden.

? Health Cover and Long-Term Care

– At this age, health planning is very important.
– Check if you have personal health insurance.

Even if you have office cover, take personal plan.
Also consider top-up policy for high expenses.

Medical inflation is rising. Don't depend only on savings.
Health cover is protection against draining your investments.

? Estate Planning Must Start Now

– Create your Will. Mention all assets and beneficiaries.
– Keep all documents organised and updated.

This avoids legal issues later for family.
It brings peace of mind for you also.

Also consider nomination updates for bank, MF, and insurance.

? What Not to Do Now

– Don’t invest in real estate now.
– It locks your money and gives poor return.
– It needs maintenance and is not liquid.

Also, avoid taking new loans at this stage.
Avoid risky stocks or fancy products.

Stick to mutual funds with proven track record.

? Regular Monitoring and Review

– Set one day every year to review your plan.
– Track SIPs, maturity amounts, tax status, and goal progress.

Discuss with Certified Financial Planner regularly.
Markets change. Life goals shift. Review keeps your plan relevant.

Don’t assume everything will work on autopilot.
Involvement brings better results.

? Finally

– You are in the crucial decade before retirement.
– Decisions made now will define your retired life.

Use your PPF maturity wisely.
Avoid keeping money idle or in low-return options.

Balance between safety and growth is important now.
Continue SIPs. Increase amount gradually.
Avoid index and direct funds.
Use regular mutual funds via Certified Financial Planner.

Don't rush. But don’t delay either.
Start building your post-retirement wealth seriously now.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Nayagam P P  |8850 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Jul 15, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 15, 2025Hindi
Career
Hi Sir, I got 93%ile in MHT CET and 83%ile in JEE mains under general category. I am looking forward for addmission for CS in Pune. Which college can I get with good placements and packages?
Ans: With a 93rd percentile in MHT-CET (General-Home State) and an 83rd percentile in JEE Main, you have assured admission prospects into these fifteen reputable Pune institutes for B.Tech in Computer Science Engineering. All are AICTE-approved, NBA/NAAC-accredited, feature modern computing and AI/ML labs, experienced faculty, strong industry partnerships and placement cells recording 75–92% branch-wise placement consistency over the last three years. MIT World Peace University, Kothrud, Pune. AISSMS College of Engineering, Shivajinagar, Pune. Pimpri Chinchwad College of Engineering, Pimpri, Pune. Dr. D.Y. Patil Institute of Technology, Akurdi, Pune. Vishwakarma Institute of Information Technology, Bibwewadi, Pune. Sinhgad College of Engineering, Vadgaon, Pune. Pune Vidyarthi Griha’s College of Engineering, Pune. JSPM Rajarshi Shahu College of Engineering, Tathawade, Pune. MIT Academy of Engineering, Alandi, Pune. Indira College of Engineering and Management, Pune. Bharati Vidyapeeth College of Engineering, Lavale, Pune. Ajeenkya DY Patil School of Engineering, Lohegaon, Pune. Army Institute of Technology, Dighi, Pune. Cummins College of Engineering for Women, Pune. Symbiosis Institute of Technology, Lavale, Pune.

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