Confused About HMAAGRO?

Ans: In a partnership, mutual support and shared responsibilities are essential, and it’s natural to feel frustrated and even resentful if your husband is prioritizing his comfort over your needs and well-being. Since he’s not providing emotional or financial support, it might be time to set some boundaries and expectations to protect your own peace and ensure you’re not carrying everything alone.

Start by calmly sharing how this situation affects you—not just financially but emotionally and physically. Emphasize that while you understand his desire to stay close to his family, your situation is not sustainable, and you need him to step up. You might also consider counseling, either together or on your own, to find ways to cope with your stress and explore solutions to address this imbalance in your relationship.

If he’s unwilling to make changes or support you even after open conversations, it may be necessary to think about your long-term well-being and that of your children. Your strength and resilience in handling so much on your own are admirable, but you also deserve a partner who is invested in your happiness and shares the load.

In the meantime, is there any possibility of support from family, friends, or childcare services near your work location? Having some practical help, even temporarily, could relieve some of your stress and allow you to focus on what’s best for you and your children going forward. Remember, you are not alone, and reaching out to build a support network can make a world of difference in helping you navigate this challenging time.

Ans: Right now, it might be helpful to take a step back from the relationship to regain your sense of self and control over your life. Talking to a trusted friend, family member, or even a counselor could help you find clarity, and having a support system can make it easier to make decisions that protect your well-being.

It’s understandable that you feel torn, especially since you’ve invested years and finances into this relationship. But it’s important to remember that you deserve a relationship where you feel valued, safe, and equal. The feelings of guilt about talking to others on dating apps are natural, but they’re also a sign that you might be searching for connection and respect that you’re not receiving in your current relationship.

Consider reclaiming control over your finances immediately. Seek guidance on how to separate your financial dealings from him, as it’s essential for you to be able to support and manage yourself independently. Ending this relationship might be difficult, but it could also give you the freedom to rebuild your confidence, focus on your goals, and find the stability and respect you deserve.

It’s clear that you’re strong enough to make changes; the courage you’ve shown in questioning his control and sharing your story here is proof. With the support of loved ones and professionals, you can find a way out of this painful situation and start building a life that brings you peace and happiness.

Ans: In your heart, it’s clear that you love him deeply and that, ideally, you want to preserve your family and relationship. However, it’s important not to dismiss your own needs for validation, love, and respect. Sometimes, the process of forgiveness includes setting strong, clear boundaries. Your husband needs to understand that while you’re willing to work on the relationship, trust is fragile and requires commitment to restore. This might mean a commitment on his part to keep all communication with this colleague strictly professional and transparent, or even a decision to minimize interactions with her entirely if necessary. Expressing these boundaries clearly may help him see the gravity of what’s at stake.

It’s also valuable to remember that healing from betrayal is not a quick process. Even with reassurances and boundaries in place, your feelings of hurt, betrayal, and anger may surface unexpectedly. Be gentle with yourself in this process and consider turning inward to strengthen your own resilience. Financial independence is an incredible strength, and leaning into the aspects of your life that bring you personal fulfillment can be grounding. Investing in your own well-being will help you feel more centered, no matter where this journey takes you.

If, at any point, you feel that his actions aren’t aligning with his words and that trust cannot be rebuilt, remember that choosing a path that prioritizes your mental peace is not a failure. Some couples also find that a temporary separation helps provide clarity; this doesn’t have to mean ending the relationship but could be a chance to reset, reflect, and decide if you both are truly aligned in your vision for the future.

In the end, what matters most is that you feel respected, valued, and loved in a way that doesn’t compromise your self-worth. This situation is a challenging chapter, but with clarity, boundaries, and professional support, you can find a path that honors both your love for your husband and your own dignity.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Gyms, open parks, theater groups, dance classes, expressive art classes...the list is endless...you can definitely find like-minded women here who obviously may not be looking for a relationship. So, start by being friends and please hold your horses on making the first move as many times, a woman is happy just having you as a friend. Don't lose hope; but be a bit restrained in your approach. Now, I have no clue why with an MBA, you can't find something that pays you better...that information I don't have...so, find ways to find a place that appreciates your skill and that can pay you better.

All the best!
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Either she is very smart to suggest this OR very silly...you will know it!
Please stay away from it; it will lead to serious complications within the family and also may result in breaking relationships. They have a family; respect it and first thing, stop communicating with her. She seems to have some agenda in mind or is also attracted to you and trying to mask it as HELP to you.
At least you be the smarter one and think! Stay off of this please...

All the best!
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Moving out is difficult, so then are you okay with his threats of him wanting to kill you?
Obviously this is taking a toll on your mental health and it's possibly getting worse. Yes, move out for your own sanity and safety. Approach a local NGO who can interact with the police and have them deal with your husband in the time frame that it takes you to find courage and move out. To do this, take help from your close friends OR some family member who you know will stand by you.
Yes, these decisions are hard, but you will thank yourself...safety first!

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What exactly is your question for me? Since you haven't asked me one, I am just going to give you my observations and suggestions.

Your husband is possibly a lazy person OR scared of taking on anything due to fear of failure and is okay being stagnant due to these fears.
Please re-think your decision of having a second child until the time your husband assumes certain responsibilities that bring in steady income. Till your financial position is secure, there's no point in adding any sort of new responsibilities to your lives, right?
As far as what makes your husband do what he is doing, and sticking by his friend; there is not much information that I have...maybe you know this better...ask an elder male member from his family to speak with him and hope things fall in place.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
How can your lives be the same like before?
Your trust has been broken and for things to work, you must rebuild that trust. Now the question is: Are you going to be able to believe your wife again? What must she say or do for you to gain that trust back in her?
And this is something that the two of you need to work on; though you also need to be sure is she is also interested in wanting things to work.
Work with an expert who can help the two of you on this...mere talking amongst yourselves and empty promises will not work. The trust lost, the communication lost...these need a guiding force to bring them back to where they belong in a marriage. So, seek professional help NOW...honestly make this attempt!

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: ‘It is painful to contest as an independent’

It was and it is very much painful for me. Because the reason behind (contesting as an independent candidate against a BJP candidate from Borivali Vidhan Sabha seat) it is the people were saying that if a man of your stature is not taking any decision against such happenings then who will take (such decisions). In the coming 50 years no one will take. So you have to take the decision.
You have to react against this (unfair) decision, which party has taken to nominate Sanjay Upadhyay from Borivali. Once again I'm not totally against any outsiders because if you don't have a strong candidate in a given assembly and if you have good candidates from other assembly constituency then party should field (an outsider from other place). But once, twice (is fine); thrice is much more. This is the fourth time this has happened (that the BJP fielded an outsider from Borivali).
First, Vinod Tawdeji contested; second time, Sunil Raneji contested, third time Piyush Goyalji contested in 2024 Lok Sabha election. Now in this assembly election Sanjay Upadhyay's name has been (announced).

On his decision to contest as an independent…
Let me make it very, very clear that I have not asked ticket from party to contest this election. Party workers suggested my name; in party’s survey from the public, my name had come forward.
It was discussed and party has taken decision to not field Sunil Raneji, the present MLA, again. The news was in media that Gopal Shetty will be given a chance (to contest from Borivali). It was not by party but it was by media. Yesterday, my party’s district president Ganesh Khandkar's name was in discussion in the morning. I don't know how far it was right or wrong but it was in public domain. (But when eve his name was not announced) party karyakartas (workers) approached me yesterday (on October 28) noon time. I had made very much clear to them (people who make the decision in BJP who distribute tickets) that if any party worker from whether it was from Borivali or Magathane (Borivali’s adjoining neighbourhood from where Ganesh Khandkar belongs) because there’s just a road (in between these two Vidhan Sabha constituencies) in the middle. It doesn't make any difference. So we should accept (Khandkar’s name). Because if (I were to take) any decision against that (Khandkar’s nomination) also then people would not have liked it. People have seen me; what I am and (in that spirit) we should support that new party worker, whom the party has nominated (and get him elected). I made all party workers to understand the situation. But suddenly sometime between 3 and 3:30 pm, TV channels broke the news came that Sanjay Upadhyay has been nominated from Borivali.
From morning (of October 28) I was with Piyush Goyalji. We filed the nomination of Vinod Shelar (who is contesting from Malad). We filed nomination of Yogesh Sagarji (who is contesting again from Charkop), of Manishatai Chowdhary (from Dahisar) and Prakash Surve (BJP ally Shiv Sena’s nominee from Magathane).
After filling all four nominations we went to party office at Kandivali. Piyush Goyalji was also with me. He told (me) that party has taken the decision (to field Sanjay Upadhyay from Borivali).
I told him at that moment only that this decision is not right (the decision that BJP has taken). People will not accept it. I told him yesterday (October 28) that I am going to file (my nomination) as an independent candidate tomorrow (October 29, the last date for filing nominations in Maharashtra).

On fighting against friends and family…
Friends are always friends. Piyush Goyalji is also ours. All Bharatiya Janta Party workers are mine. I am for them.
I have appealed not only to Bharatiya Janta Party workers but of all the political parties that they should stand behind me in this fight because this is not a political fight. This is the fight to give justice to the party workers and to the people of Borivali.
This particular subject (of not giving party ticket to loyalists) is not only (an issue limited) to Borivali. It is for the entire nation. I will say everywhere such things (loyal workers are not getting tickets to contest election) are happening. It should not happen.
Again I will say this that I am not 100% against any outsider coming and contesting. Let me make it very clear again and again. It's okay once or twice. But successively four times it is not acceptable. It is not acceptable.

‘I have not resigned from BJP’
Definitely it is wrong because the party workers are working day and night to build this party, to serve the people. And if anyone from anywhere comes and contests then what is the use of party and sanghatna (organisation)?
I have told yesterday only I have not resigned. I am not going to resign. I am not going to leave my party’s principles and ideologies. I am not going to contest this election by going to any other party. That's why I have chosen to fight as an independent candidate’ all are mine and I am for all.

On his supporters hounding Piyush Goyal…
I don't think any such thing has happened. But if it has happened (then) that it is wrong. I will say such things should not happen because we are one. We all are one. Piyush Goyalji is a cabinet minister elected from this constituency. And he's our leader. We should respect him. I will appeal to all the party workers.
(We must respect) not just Piyush Goyalji but even the small party workers. We are all. We all are one.
Such things should not happen again.

About having second thoughts while vacating his seat for Piyush Goyal
Never. Never. Never. Never. Let me make it very clear that North Mumbai constituency was not my father's property. It was party’s (prerogative to decide who gets to contest from where) and it should always be party’s decision to decide who gets to contest from where. That was not my personal property.
Party has given me opportunity seven times. I fought, I won.
When Prime Minister (Narendra Modi) decided that North Mumbai is a very safe constituency and Piyush Goyalji should constitute contest contact from there then it was my duty to fulfill the wish of my Prime Minister. I am proud he chose North Mumbai for that job.

On withdrawing his nomination if the Prime Minister calls him to do so...

I don't think that Prime Minister or any big other leaders will do such things to me. Because we all are of one thought and thinking, I don't think what I have done is wrong. No one can tell me that you are doing something wrong. If I had gone to some other party to fight election, and win election and go to the Maharashtra Legislative Assembly, that would have been wrong.
When I sought support from other political parties (to help me win this seat) also I have made it very clearly that I will not join any party and contest this election. This election is something different which I am contesting. I am hopeful that people of other party and sections will also support me.




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