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Naveenn Kummar has over 16 years of experience in banking and financial services.
He is an Association of Mutual Funds in India (AMFI)-registered mutual fund distributor, an Insurance Regulatory and Development Authority of India (IRDAI)-licensed insurance advisor and a qualified personal finance professional (QPFP) certified by Network FP.
An engineering graduate with an MBA in management, he leads Alenova Financial Services under Vadula Consultancy Services, offering solutions in mutual funds, insurance, retirement planning and wealth management.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Aug 24, 2025
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My salary is 25k -My sister is earning 30k and my dad is 10k. We have one loan which we need to pay for next 3.5 years 6500. We are living in lease house for 6.5 lakhs that personal loan emi monthly repayment is 15507 and it is ending in coming november and now the lease is being increases to 10 lakhs. Our family have around 7.5 lakhs of gold loan from relatives gold. We have other 10 Lakhs plus loan with other relatives which we are not paying now and asked for a time. I suggested now my family to go for rent house and not to take a new loan for other 3.5 lakhs and settle the gold loan and then later we can again go to lease house if possible but my family is suggesting even if we take loan these lease money will be back to us and that should be the wise decision. I am in a confused state. Other than this we have house expenses that is around 15k. Help pls

Ans: ???? Family Financial Roadmap (Oct 2025 – Mar 2029)
Current Snapshot (Sep 2025)

Income: ?65,000/month (you 25k + sister 30k + father 10k)

Expenses: ?15,000/month

Loans:

EMI1 = ?6,500 (3.5 years left)

EMI2 = ?15,507 (ends Nov 2025)

Gold loan = ?7.5L

Relatives = ?10L+

Lease Deposit: ?6.5L (to be refunded when shifting to rental)

Phase 1: Immediate (Oct–Nov 2025)

Action: Vacate lease → get ?6.5L back.

Use:

?5.5L → Gold loan (reduces to ?2L).

?75k → Keep as emergency buffer.

?25k → Small repayment to relatives.

Ongoing:

EMI1 = 6.5k

EMI2 = 15.5k (last 2 months)

Rent = 10k

Expenses = 15k

Surplus: ~?18k/month → Gold loan.

? By Nov end: Gold loan down to ~?1.64L.

Phase 2: Attack Gold Loan (Dec 2025 – May 2026)

EMI2 ends → frees ?15.5k.

New surplus = ~?33.5k/month.

Pay full surplus to Gold loan.

? By May 2026: Gold loan = 0 (fully closed, gold asset safe).

Emergency buffer intact (?75k).

Relatives’ loan already reduced by ~?45k.

Phase 3: Focus on Relatives’ Loan (Jun 2026 – Mar 2029)

Now only Relatives’ loan (~?9.7L) + EMI1 (6.5k) remain.

Monthly surplus = ?33.5k → Pay relatives consistently.

Timeline

Jun 2026 – Mar 2029 = 34 months × 33.5k = ?11.39L available.

Relatives’ loan (~?9.7L) cleared by early 2029.

Any extra goes to close EMI1 earlier if pre-closure allowed.

Phase 4: Debt-Free Life (Apr 2029 onwards)

EMI1 finishes.

No debts.

Income (65k) – Expenses (15k + Rent 10k) = ?40k surplus every month.

Can now plan for:

Buying own house (instead of lease)

Building investments

Expanding emergency fund

???? Summary

Gold loan cleared by May 2026.

Relatives’ loan cleared by Mar 2029.

All EMIs closed by Mar 2029.

From Apr 2029: debt-free, surplus ?40k+ per month.

? Core Rules to Stick To

No new loans till all current loans are cleared.

Gold loan first priority → Relatives’ loan → EMI1.

Keep ?75k buffer untouched.

Channel every extra rupee (bonus, increments, gifts) to loans.

Track monthly to ensure no slippage.

Best regards,
Naveenn Kummar, BE, MBA, QPFP
Chief Financial Planner | AMFI Registered MFD
https://members.networkfp.com/member/naveenkumarreddy-vadula-chennai
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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 01, 2025Hindi
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Hii sir I have a personal loan of 1 lakh and i have borrowed 70k from friends and family my salary is only 35000 in which i am paying 7k room rent and 8k EMI, I have a family to feed what should i do
Ans: You are strong to face your situation and ask for help.

Let us guide you with care, clarity, and practical steps.

We will review your income, loans, spending, and give a 360-degree solution.

Your Current Situation – Income and Obligations

Monthly salary is Rs 35,000.

Paying Rs 8,000 as EMI for Rs 1 lakh personal loan.

Room rent is Rs 7,000 per month.

You borrowed Rs 70,000 from friends and family.

You are supporting your family with limited income.

You are responsible and trying hard. That effort matters a lot.

Fixed Costs vs Available Income

Rent + EMI = Rs 15,000

Balance income = Rs 20,000

This Rs 20,000 must cover food, family needs, transport, school (if any), and savings.

This is tight, but not hopeless. It just needs strong decisions.

Immediate Action Plan – First 3 Months

Stop all non-essential expenses. Every rupee must count now.

Talk to your family openly. Let them support emotionally.

Reduce mobile bills, subscriptions, and luxury food spends.

Cook at home. Avoid travel and outings for now.

Postpone buying clothes, gadgets, or festival gifts.

Your goal is to build a Rs 5,000 surplus monthly.

Clear the Informal Loans First

Friends and family loans don’t charge interest.

But they affect relationships if delayed.

Use your surplus to repay Rs 5,000–7,000 monthly to them.

Target clearing this Rs 70,000 in 10–12 months.

Be honest with them and explain your plan.

Avoid taking more informal loans. That worsens things.

Negotiate Your Personal Loan EMI

Visit the bank or NBFC. Explain your hardship clearly.

Ask for tenure extension or lower EMI restructuring.

Even a Rs 2,000 EMI drop helps you breathe.

Avoid skipping EMIs without informing them. That affects credit badly.

If EMI becomes unmanageable, ask for temporary pause.

Banks do consider genuine cases, especially for salaried borrowers.

Increase Income — Even Small Addition Matters

Look for part-time jobs on weekends.

Consider teaching tuition if you are good at any subject.

If your spouse or sibling can work part-time, encourage them.

Try freelance or delivery work outside office hours.

Rs 5,000 extra monthly income changes your position a lot.

Even if temporary, it gives you breathing space.

Debt Traps to Avoid Right Now

Do not take new personal loans.

Avoid payday loan apps. They trap you in high-interest cycles.

Don’t swipe credit cards for cash or bills.

Don’t convert spends to EMI unless emergency.

If you have a credit card, repay in full always.

High-interest debt destroys your progress. Stay away for now.

Saving While in Debt – Smart and Realistic

Keep Rs 1,000–2,000 monthly in a separate savings account.

This acts as emergency buffer. Don’t touch it unless urgent.

Once you clear informal loan, increase this savings slowly.

Aim to build Rs 10,000–15,000 savings in a year.

Do not invest in mutual funds or gold until debt is cleared.

Safety comes before growth at this stage.

Health and Risk Protection – Do This Right Away

If your employer offers health insurance, ensure your family is covered.

If not, buy a Rs 5 lakh health cover for family.

Use a basic family floater. Keep premium below Rs 500/month.

Do not buy LIC or ULIPs now. They reduce cash flow badly.

Do not mix insurance with savings.

If you already have LIC or ULIP, surrender them and use to repay loans.

Mindset and Family Communication

You are doing your best. Be proud of your honesty.

Sit with your family and explain. They will adjust.

Avoid guilt or shame. This is a phase. Not permanent.

Stay calm and focused. Stress kills clarity.

Build the habit of noting every expense. Even Rs 10.

Awareness alone reduces monthly spending by 10–20%.

After 12 Months – Next Phase Planning

Aim to repay Rs 70,000 personal borrowings in one year.

Continue paying EMI consistently. Try prepayment if bonus comes.

Once clear, build Rs 30,000–50,000 emergency savings in next 6 months.

Then start SIP of Rs 1,000–2,000 monthly through Certified Financial Planner.

Use only regular plans with MFD guidance. Direct funds can confuse first-timers.

Don’t use index funds. They don’t protect capital during market fall.

Actively managed funds handle risk better and give consistent growth.

Step by step, you can move from debt to savings to investment.

If You Receive Bonus or Lump Sum

First clear all dues to friends and family.

Then repay some portion of personal loan.

Keep at least Rs 10,000 aside as emergency fund.

Only after this, think of small fixed deposit or SIP.

Don’t put in gold or property. Liquidity is key now.

Every decision must help you move forward, not sideways.

What Not to Do in This Situation

Don’t feel pressure to match others' lifestyle.

Don’t hide your struggle from family.

Don’t invest blindly because someone said “double in 3 years”.

Don’t use chit funds, MLM, or money chain schemes.

Don’t stop tracking your spending even if things improve.

Your biggest strength is your discipline and clarity.

Finally

You are not alone. Many go through this phase silently.

You are facing it head-on. That is strength.

Start with expense control. Build Rs 5,000 surplus monthly.

Repay friends and family on priority. Then personal loan.

Build Rs 15,000–30,000 savings in 12–18 months.

After that, start SIPs via Certified Financial Planner.

Avoid index funds, direct funds, and insurance-linked investments.

Health insurance is a must. Avoid real estate investments for now.

Track your spending. Review monthly. Appreciate progress.

You can stand again. You can move forward. One step at a time.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jun 05, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 01, 2025
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Hii sir I have a personal loan of 1 lakh and i have borrowed 70k from friends and family my salary is only 35000 in which i am paying 7k room rent and 8k EMI, I have a family to feed what should i do
Ans: You are in a tight situation. Still, it is not impossible.

Many people have come out of such a position with right steps.

You must now follow a simple but strict financial plan.

Let us go step by step.

Face Your Situation Honestly, Without Panic
You are earning Rs. 35,000 per month

Rent is Rs. 7,000

Personal loan EMI is Rs. 8,000

Total fixed outgoing is already Rs. 15,000

You also need to feed your family

Plus, you have Rs. 70,000 informal debt to friends and family

This is serious, but not hopeless

First Target: Stop Any Further Borrowing
Do not take any more loans

Don’t swipe credit cards for monthly expenses

Avoid BNPL apps or payday loans — they are dangerous traps

If possible, stop using credit completely until situation improves

Any new borrowing will sink you deeper

Speak to Lender and Restructure EMI
Talk to your bank about your Rs. 1 lakh loan

Request for EMI reduction or tenure extension

You can also ask for 3-month relief or restructuring

Many lenders offer hardship support if you request with documents

Lower EMI gives you breathing space for 6–12 months

Use this wisely to repay informal loans

Inform Friends and Family About Repayment Plan
Be honest and humble to those who helped you

Don’t go silent. It spoils relationships forever

Say clearly that you need 6–12 months to repay

Commit to a monthly repayment plan of Rs. 4,000 or Rs. 5,000

Even if slow, show that you are serious and consistent

Trust grows when they see you try your best

Family Must Support with Simple Living
Share the real picture with your spouse or elders

Reduce every avoidable cost from today

Stop outside food, cab rides, OTT subscriptions, online shopping

Choose budget groceries, public transport, and home-cooked meals

Use every leftover rupee to clear loans step by step

This phase is temporary — if all cooperate

Start a Monthly Repayment Budget Immediately
Let’s build a basic plan from your Rs. 35,000 salary:

Rs. 7,000 for rent

Rs. 8,000 (or restructured EMI of Rs. 5,000)

Rs. 12,000 for food and home running (strictly budgeted)

Rs. 5,000 repayment to family/friends

Rs. 3,000 as buffer/emergency money

This is tight — but you can survive and repay

Create a Side Income or Temporary Gig
You must try to earn an extra Rs. 5,000 to Rs. 10,000 monthly

Many options exist, even in part-time or online mode:

Weekend delivery work (Zomato, Swiggy)

Data entry, basic design, or social media work from home

Tuition to school kids or help for local shops

Evening freelance work from your own skills (Excel, writing, customer service)

Even 2 hours a day can add Rs. 5,000–Rs. 7,000 monthly

Use this extra only for loan repayment or emergency

Don’t Start SIPs or Investments Now
This is not the time to invest

Every rupee must go to debt clearing

Investment can wait — clearing debt is higher priority

Once you are debt-free, SIP can start later

If any LIC or ULIP policy exists, stop paying premium

Investment-cum-insurance is useless when you are in debt

Surrender it and use the value to reduce debt

Only pure term insurance must continue — no other product

Health and Emergency Protection Must Be Reviewed
If your employer gives health cover, confirm its details

If not, check if your spouse or parents have health policy that includes you

If no insurance exists, keep Rs. 3,000 buffer each month for health needs

Sudden medical bills can break your entire plan

Protect this buffer — don’t spend it on shopping

If needed, buy Rs. 5 lakh family floater later — not now

Right now, focus only on survival and stability

One Family, One Goal, One Plan
All family members must support your efforts

Avoid blame, fights or stress — work together

Make this financial stress your shared project

Keep a notebook or Excel sheet to track every rupee spent

Celebrate small wins — like clearing Rs. 10,000 debt in one month

Every small repayment brings mental peace

Avoid These Mistakes
Don’t take gold loan to repay personal loan

Don’t sell essential things like phone, scooter or ration card

Don’t get lured by chit funds or income-doubling apps

Don’t trust anyone who says “give Rs. 10,000 now to earn Rs. 1 lakh”

Don’t quit job suddenly — even if salary feels low

Focus on increasing income slowly — not chasing shortcuts

Use Free Government and NGO Support
Many government schemes can help people in tight situations

Free ration cards (check if you’re eligible)

Midday meal or nutrition support for small children

School fee help in some private schools (talk directly to principal)

Free or low-cost medical treatment in government hospitals

If you look around, help is available — ask without shame

This phase is not failure — it is just a passing storm

Personal Mindset Is the Biggest Tool Now
You must believe you can come out of this mess

It will not happen in one or two months

But it will happen within 12 to 18 months

If you stay consistent, reduce expenses, earn extra, and repay steadily

Millions have done it — you can too

Don’t hide your stress. Talk to 1 trusted person

Even 1 call from a friend or mentor helps you think clearly

Sample 6-Month Plan (For Action)
Month 1 to 3:

Request EMI reduction or relief from bank

Start Rs. 5,000 repayment to friends

Earn extra Rs. 3,000–Rs. 5,000 from weekend work

Cut home cost to Rs. 12,000 with family support

Maintain Rs. 2,000 emergency buffer

No new loans, no new spending

Month 4 to 6:

Use all extra income for Rs. 70,000 repayment

Try to clear informal debt first

Continue Rs. 5,000–Rs. 8,000 bank EMI

Rebuild family trust with consistent payments

Track your progress every 7 days

This will change your mental energy and financial reality

You will feel in control again

Finally
You’re in a financially weak place now, but not defeated.

You still have a job, courage, and support from family and friends.

Start one small action today — everything else will follow.

Avoid shortcuts. Stay honest, focused, and consistent.

After 12 months, your life will look completely different.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Aug 02, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 10, 2025Hindi
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Im 31 years old women, getting married soon, i have mortage loan runing from 2 years worth 14 lakhs and my whole salary go into EMI, now i have better salary where i can save 10k per month but, due to marriage we are taking topup loan for more money for expenses and my salary will be going into EMIs and my parents have an house on which loan is running, we have few credit cards in full limit used and few personal loans worth 10 lakhs , i bit stressed about my parents and my future , i have a sister who is in 1st year now and educational costs are at hype. Please suggest
Ans: Thanks for sharing your situation so openly. It shows your courage and commitment. You are already thinking of your family’s and your future security. That’s a very good start. Managing multiple loans, marriage expenses, and family needs together can feel heavy. But you can come out stronger by planning carefully. Here’s a detailed approach to reduce stress and get control over your finances.

» Assessing Your Financial Snapshot

– You are 31 and getting married soon.
– Your existing mortgage loan has Rs. 14 lakhs outstanding.
– Your old salary went entirely into paying this EMI.
– You have better salary now, freeing Rs. 10,000 per month.
– But you plan a top-up loan for marriage expenses.
– Your parents have a home loan ongoing.
– Credit cards are maxed out, adding big interest burden.
– Personal loans of around Rs. 10 lakhs exist.
– You have a sister in 1st year of college.
– Rising educational costs add more pressure.

This shows a heavy debt situation needing an urgent reset.

» Don’t Take More Loans for Marriage

– It’s very risky to take a top-up loan for marriage.
– It adds to your existing EMI burden.
– Marriage celebrations can be done modestly.
– Focus on rituals, not big parties or costly arrangements.
– Save money by having small gatherings or temple ceremonies.
– Borrowing more now will lock your future income.
– Delaying expensive celebrations is better than increasing stress.

Keep expenses minimal so you don’t get into a debt trap.

» Take Control of Credit Card Debts

– Credit card debt charges 36%–45% yearly interest.
– Paying only minimum keeps you trapped in endless payments.
– First, stop using credit cards immediately.
– Pay them off one by one using debt avalanche or snowball method.
– Avalanche: pay highest-interest card first.
– Snowball: pay smallest outstanding first.
– Choose what suits you emotionally.
– Any bonus, gift, or extra income should first go to clear cards.
– Avoid personal loans to pay credit cards; it only shifts the problem.
– Don’t use balance transfers as they add hidden charges.

Become credit card debt-free as top priority.

» Rework on Existing Loans

– Talk to your mortgage lender.
– Negotiate for lower interest or longer tenure.
– Consolidate high-interest loans into one lower-interest loan if possible.
– Avoid new personal loans; they worsen your EMI burden.
– For parents’ house loan, see if they can refinance.
– If family income sources are there, share EMI burden among members.
– Keep EMIs to max 35% of your combined income.
– Anything beyond that risks your lifestyle and future savings.

Avoid adding EMIs even if your salary increases in future.

» Build Emergency Savings

– You must have Rs. 1.5–2 lakh as emergency fund.
– This covers 3 months of basic family expenses.
– Build it in a bank RD or sweep-in FD.
– This fund prevents future debts during crises.
– Prioritise this after clearing credit cards.
– Continue even if you save only Rs. 2,000 monthly initially.

Emergency fund gives confidence and stability during tough times.

» Plan Your Sister’s Education Smartly

– Explore scholarships, education loans in her name, not yours.
– Education loans have lower rates and long tenures.
– They don’t burden your immediate cash flow much.
– Colleges offer merit-based or need-based scholarships.
– Motivate your sister to perform well to earn discounts.
– Don’t sacrifice your retirement or life goals for education costs.
– Support her emotionally and guide her choices.

Keep education separate from personal debt obligations.

» Reduce Lifestyle Expenses

– For next 3 years, live frugally.
– Cut outings, avoid luxury items, use public transport where possible.
– Make home-cooked meals, avoid online orders.
– Buy only essentials, skip brand-conscious buying.
– Save every rupee to clear debts faster.
– Track expenses on a notebook or free app daily.

Lifestyle changes compound into big savings over time.

» Use Your New Salary Raise Wisely

– Don’t inflate lifestyle with your increased salary.
– Channel Rs. 10,000/month entirely to pay off credit cards.
– Once cards are cleared, use same amount to pay personal loans faster.
– Once loans clear, start SIPs for your future goals.
– This keeps momentum going and avoids income wastage.

Avoid new loans thinking you can now “afford” more EMIs.

» Don’t Depend on Marriage Gifts or Loans

– Marriage gifts from relatives are unpredictable.
– Don’t plan big expenses expecting gifts to fund them.
– Same goes for informal family loans, which add obligations.
– Keep wedding expenses within what you can pay with current savings.

Simple weddings reduce financial and emotional stress.

» Importance of Insurance

– Buy term insurance worth Rs. 50 lakhs immediately.
– You are the earning member. Family depends on you.
– Don’t take insurance-cum-investment plans.
– Take separate health insurance covering you and your future spouse.
– Without insurance, one hospitalisation can push you back into debts.
– Insurance is cheaper when you are young.

Term and health insurance give peace of mind and stability.

» Avoid Index and Direct Funds

– You mentioned investing only Rs. 10,000/month.
– When you start investing later, avoid index funds.
– Index funds lack active risk management during market fall.
– Active funds have fund managers who adjust portfolio for better safety.
– Direct funds don’t offer human advice or monitoring.
– Investing through regular funds with Certified Financial Planner ensures guidance.
– This guidance prevents panic selling and wrong decisions.

This discipline is crucial for long-term success.

» Set Financial Goals for Next 5 Years

– Year 1–2: Clear credit card and personal loans.
– Year 3: Build emergency fund of Rs. 2 lakhs.
– Year 4: Start Rs. 5,000 SIP towards retirement.
– Year 5: Increase SIPs to Rs. 10,000/month.
– Throughout: Avoid taking any new loans.

Goals give direction and remove confusion.

» Involve Future Spouse in Planning

– Share your exact financial position honestly before marriage.
– Discuss your debts, liabilities, and your plan to resolve them.
– Jointly decide wedding budget to avoid fights later.
– Fix roles for who pays which bills post marriage.
– Maintain transparency about income and expenses.
– This ensures trust and strengthens your relationship.

A shared financial plan is foundation for a strong marriage.

» Focus on Mental Health

– Debt stress can affect your confidence and health.
– Talk to friends or family to vent worries.
– Practice meditation or yoga.
– Focus on one step at a time.
– Celebrate small victories like paying off one card or loan.

Your mental health is as important as money.

» Stay Disciplined After Marriage

– Don’t upgrade lifestyle to impress others.
– Don’t take personal loans for furniture, jewellery, or honeymoon.
– Save first, spend later should be the mantra.
– Continue tracking expenses even when life gets busy.
– Fix monthly review meetings with your spouse on finances.

Financial discipline builds lasting peace and security.

» Seek Professional Guidance

– Consider hiring a Certified Financial Planner.
– They will create a realistic, step-by-step debt payoff plan.
– They can guide investment options after debts clear.
– Regular plans through MFDs with CFP credentials give better results.
– Avoid direct funds and index funds to get proper handholding.

Professional advice saves time, mistakes, and money.

» Finally

– You’re brave for thinking of your family’s and your future needs.
– Say no to top-up loans for marriage.
– Prioritise clearing credit card and personal loans.
– Build emergency fund next.
– Plan investments only after debts clear.
– Maintain transparency with your spouse.
– Avoid index funds and direct plans later.
– Stay patient, disciplined and keep focus.

You can turn this around with steady steps.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 12, 2025
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Dear Sir/Madam, I am currently a 1st year UG student studying engineering in Sairam Engineering College, But there the lack of exposure and strict academics feels so rigid and I don't like it that. It's like they don't gaf about skills but just wants us to memorize things and score a good CGPA, the only skill they want is you to memorize things and pass, there's even special class for students who don't perform well in academics and it is compulsory for them to attend or else the student and his/her parents needs to face authorities who lashes out. My question is when did engineering became something that requires good academics instead of actual learning and skill set. In sairam they provides us a coding platform in which we need to gain the required points for each semester which is ridiculous cuz most of the students here just look at the solution to code instead of actual debugging. I am passionate about engineering so I want to learn and experiment things instead of just memorizing, so I actually consider dropping out and I want to give jee a try and maybe viteee , srmjeee But i heard some people say SRM may provide exposure but not that good in placements. I may not be excellent at studies but my marks are decent. So gimme some insights about SRM and recommend me other colleges/universities which are good at exposure
Ans: First — your frustration is valid

What you are experiencing at Sairam is not engineering, it is rote-based credential production.

“When did engineering become memorizing instead of learning?”

Sadly, this shift happened decades ago in most Tier-3 private colleges in India.

About “coding platforms & points” – your observation is sharp

You are absolutely right:

Mandatory coding points → students copy solutions

Copying ≠ learning

Debugging & thinking are missing

This is pseudo-skill education — it looks modern but produces shallow engineers.

The fact that you noticed this in 1st year already puts you ahead of 80% students.

Should you DROP OUT and prepare for JEE / VITEEE / SRMJEEE?

Although VIT/SRM is better than Sairam Engineering College, but you may face the same problem. You will not face this type of problem only in some top IITs, but getting seat in those IITs will be difficult.
Instead of dropping immediately, consider:

???? Strategy:

Stay enrolled (degree security)

Reduce emotional investment in college rules

Use:

GitHub

Open-source projects

Hackathons

Internships (remote)

Hardware / software self-projects

This way:

College = formality

Learning = self-driven

Risk = minimal

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 07, 2025Hindi
Relationship
Dear Madam, I was a bright student during my school days and my plan was to become a civil servant but that did not succeed even after several attempts. With the advise of my brother i went ahead and pursued Masters at a normal university in Sydney. I did internship and continued staying with my job though it wasn't my field of study. After that what came as a shock was my brother's divorce. We don't know what is the actual issue till date but I tried a lot to fix the gap by talking to his ex-wife but they were very orthodox. I couldn't see my brother suffer because he had planned and arranged so much for her. I had no choice then so i try to harm his ex-wife by spoiling her reputation thinking she will come back for him. In the mean time i got married to a girl who was her relative too thinking my wife can help us in some case but she turned out to be completely in the opposite direction. She was probably convinced by my brother's ex-wife or their relatives that she is not coming back. Even then my brother tried to go meet his ex-wife through many channels. My wife did not help him at all in any aspect. Finally the divorced happened and everything ended. Now we have sought several proposals but nothing seem to be a good fit for him. Most of the girls whom we met on matrimonial sites are fake profiles with something hidden or falsely represented. I would say my brother escaped all this. But we are worried about his life now as he is already in his 40's and he seem to be struggling for a good job and finance. He is very picky probably but doesn't talk much to all of us. Sometimes he even says the game is over so no point looking at a second marriage. My wife and he fought once when he visited us because she didn't want him in our house and she created a fight putting me in the front. After that he stopped coming to our house or see us or talk to us. Things even gets worse sometimes when her brother comes and visits us and stays at our house which my parents don't like. My parents argue that your brother was not allowed to stay for few months then how come her brother is allowed for several months. What kind of partiality is that? I feel i could not do anything for him despite the fact that he is my only brother. He is good at heart and looked after me when i went abroad financially and even came to meet me few times. I tried to send him money, gifts but he is still the same. He communicates with our parents but not with me nor my wife anymore. Kindly give us a good advise.
Ans: Your brother’s distance is not a rejection of you. It is his way of protecting himself. He went through a difficult marriage, an emotional collapse, and then watched people around him — including you — react out of desperation to fix things for him. Even though your intentions came from love, he may have associated those actions with more pain and pressure. When a person has been wounded, silence feels safer than conversation. His withdrawal simply means he is tired, not that he dislikes you.
You also need to understand that the guilt you are carrying is heavier than it needs to be. You tried to intervene in his marriage because you wanted to protect him, not because you wanted to cause harm. Looking back now, with more maturity and clarity, you see the mistakes, but at that time, you were acting out of fear and love. This is why it’s important to forgive yourself instead of punishing yourself over and over.
The conflict between your wife and your brother only added another layer of stress, because it forced you into choosing sides. Your wife reacted emotionally, your brother pulled away, your parents questioned the imbalance — and in the middle of all this, you lost your sense of peace. But their disagreements are not failures on your part. They are the natural result of people operating from insecurity, fear, and past hurt.
What needs to happen now is a shift in your role. You cannot continue trying to solve everything for everyone. You cannot carry your brother’s marriage, your wife’s fears, and your parents’ judgments all at once. It’s time to step out of the role of rescuer and step into the role of a grounded, calm brother who offers presence, not solutions.
Rebuilding your bond with your brother will not come from pushing proposals, sending gifts, or trying to fix his life. It will come from offering him emotional safety. A simple message, expressing that you are sorry for any hurt, that you care for him, and that you are available whenever he feels ready, will speak louder than any effort to arrange his future. Once you send such a message, the healthiest thing you can do is give him space. Sometimes relationships repair themselves in silence, when pressure is removed.
And for yourself, healing begins when you stop believing that every problem in the family rests on your shoulders. You have given more than enough over the years. Now you deserve emotional rest. You deserve peace. You deserve to feel like a brother, not a crisis manager.
Your brother may take time, but distance does not erase love. When he feels safe, he will come closer again. Your responsibility is not to force that moment, but to make sure you are emotionally steady and ready when it happens.

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Dec 12, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 11, 2025Hindi
Money
Dear sir This is regarding my mother's financials. She is 71 years old and she earns a pension of 31k p.m. She has FD's worth 60 lacs and earns interest income of Rs.25k. I wish to know if we can buy mutual funds worth 10 lacs by diverting funds from FD for better returns. She owns a house and does not have house rent commitment . She is currently investing 10k p.m in SIP . Now the lump sum investment of 5 lacs each is intended to be done in HDFC balanced advantage fund Direct Growth and ICICI Prudential balanced advantage fund . Please advise
Ans: You are caring about your mother’s future.
This shows deep responsibility.
Her financial base also looks strong today.
Her pension gives steady cash.
Her FD interest gives extra safety.
Her home is secure.
Her SIP shows healthy discipline.

» Her Present Financial Position
Your mother is 71.
Her age makes safety a key priority.
But some growth is also needed.

She gets Rs 31000 pension each month.
This covers most basic needs.
Her FD interest adds Rs 25000 per month.
So her total monthly inflow is near Rs 56000.
This is healthy at her age.

She owns her house.
She has no rent stress.
This gives great relief.

She has FD worth Rs 60 lakh.
This gives safe income.
She also runs a SIP of Rs 10000 per month.
This is a good step.
It keeps her connected to long-term growth.

Her total structure looks balanced.
She has safety.
She has income.
She has some growth exposure.
She has low liabilities.

This is a very stable base for her age.

» Understanding Her Risk Level
At age 71, risk must be low.
But risk cannot be zero.
Zero risk pushes money into FD only.
FD return stays low.
FD return sometimes falls after tax.
FD return often stays below inflation.

This reduces future buying power.
Inflation in India stays high.
Medical costs rise fast.
Home repair costs rise.
Daily needs rise.
So some growth is needed.

Balanced exposure gives stability.
Balanced allocation protects both sides.
She should not go too high on equity.
She should not avoid equity fully.
A middle path works best at this age.

Your idea of shifting Rs 10 lakh for growth is fine.
But the type of fund must be chosen well.
The plan must also follow her age.
Her risk must be respected.

» Impact of Growth Options at Her Age
Growth funds move with markets.
Markets move up and down.
These swings can disturb seniors.
But some controlled equity helps fight inflation.

Funds with mix of equity and debt help.
They adjust risk.
They protect capital better.
They manage volatility better.
They offer smoother experience.
They suit senior citizens more.

So a mild growth approach is healthy.
This gives better long-term value.
This gives inflation protection.
This reduces long-term stress.

Still, the fund choice must be careful.
And the plan style must be guided.

» Concerns With Direct Plans
You mentioned direct funds.
Direct funds seem cheap.
But cheap is not always better.

Direct funds give no guidance.
Direct funds give no review support.
Direct funds give no risk matching.
Direct funds need constant study.
Direct funds need skill.
Direct funds need time.

Many investors think direct plans save money.
But small savings can cause big losses.
Wrong choices reduce returns.
Wrong timing reduces gains.
Wrong exit increases tax.

Regular plans bring professional support through MFDs with CFP credentials.
They offer yearly reviews.
They track risk closely.
They guide corrections.
They support crisis moments.
They help in asset mix.
They help keep emotions stable.

This support is very helpful for seniors.
Your mother will not need to study markets.
She will not need to track cycles.
She will not need to worry about volatility.
She can stay calm.

So regular plans may suit her better.
The small extra fee is actually buying professional hand-holding.
This hand-holding protects wealth.
This reduces mistakes.
This brings long-term peace.

» Her Liquidity Need
At age 71, liquidity matters.
She must access money fast during emergencies.
Medical needs can arise.
Health cost can be sudden.
She must be ready.

FD gives quick access.
This is useful.
So FD should not be reduced too much.

Shifting Rs 10 lakh is acceptable.
But shifting more may reduce comfort.
She must always feel safe.
Her emotional comfort is important.

So Rs 10 lakh is the right level.
It keeps major FD corpus safe.
It keeps growth exposure controlled.

This balance supports her peace.

» Her Current SIP
She puts Rs 10000 per month in SIP.
This is positive.
This brings slow steady growth.
This builds long-term value.

She should continue this SIP.
She may reduce it later based on comfort.
But she should not stop it now.
This SIP adds inflation protection.
This SIP builds a small buffer.

A continuous SIP helps smooth markets.
It builds confidence.

» Income Stability for Her
Her pension covers needs.
Her FD interest adds comfort.
Her SIP invests for future needs.
Her home saves rent.

So she has stable income.
Her life standard is maintained.
Her risk level can stay low.

Her monthly cash flow is positive.
Her needs are covered.
So she need not worry about returns too much.
But a little growth is still healthy.

» Should She Shift Rs 10 Lakh From FD?
Yes, she can shift Rs 10 lakh.
This does not hurt her safety.
This does not shake her cash flow.
This supports inflation protection.

But the fund must be right.
The plan must match her age.
The risk must stay low.
The allocation must stay controlled.

A balanced strategy is better.
Smooth returns suit seniors.
Moderate risk suits her age.

Still, the fund must be in regular plan.
Direct plan may cause long-term risk.
Direct plans place the heavy load on the investor.
At her age, this stress is avoidable.
Regular plans give smoother support.

» Why Not Use the Specific Schemes Mentioned
The schemes you named are direct plans.
Direct plans give no support.
Direct plans leave all decisions to you.
Direct plans leave all risk checks on you.

Also, each fund has its own style.
Each adjusts differently.
You must check suitability.
You must review them yearly.
This needs time and skill.

For her age, this is not ideal.
A simple, guided, regular plan works better.

Also, some funds change risk levels fast.
Some increase equity without warning.
Some change style in market shifts.
This can disturb seniors.
She must stay with stable funds.
She must stay with guided models.

This protects her long-term peace.

» The Role of Actively Managed Funds
Actively managed funds suit Indian markets.
India grows fast.
Sectors rise and fall fast.
Many companies grow fast.
Many also fall fast.

Active managers study these shifts.
They adjust quicker.
They avoid weak sectors.
They add strong businesses.
They protect downside.
They enhance upside.

Index funds cannot do this.
Index funds copy indices.
Indices carry weak companies also.
Indices carry overpriced stocks.
Indices do not avoid bad phases.
Indices cannot change weight fast.
So index funds give no defensive shield.

Actively managed funds work harder.
They try to reduce shocks.
They try to smooth volatility.
This suits seniors more.

So an active regular plan through an MFD with CFP credentials is better for her.

» Tax Angle on Mutual Fund Redemption
Capital gain rules matter.
For equity funds, long-term gains above Rs 1.25 lakh have 12.5% tax.
Short-term gains have 20% tax.
Debt fund gains follow your tax slab.

Senior investors must plan exits well.
They must avoid excess tax shock.
They must stagger withdrawals.
They must redeem only when needed.

A guided regular plan helps avoid tax mistakes.
Direct funds offer no such guidance.

» Her Emergency Preparedness
At her age, emergency readiness is key.
She must have quick cash.
She must have easy access.
Her FD base helps this.

She has Rs 60 lakh in FD.
This is strong.
She should keep most of this.
Maybe an emergency bucket of Rs 5 to 10 lakh must stay fully liquid.

This brings peace.
This prevents panic.
This avoids forced redemption.

» Family Support System
You are involved.
This protects her retirement.
You can offer emotional help.
You can offer decision help.
This support makes her financial life safe.

Family support keeps stress low for seniors.
She will feel secure.
She will stay calm during market changes.

» How Her Future Years Can Stay Stable
She needs comfort.
She needs safety.
She needs liquidity.
She needs some growth.
She needs health cover.
She needs emotional peace.

A control-based plan helps:
– Keep most money in FD
– Keep some in balanced mutual funds
– Keep SIP running
– Keep money easily accessible
– Keep risk low
– Keep asset mix simple
– Keep tax impact low
– Keep reviews yearly

This keeps her retirement smooth.

» Built-In Protection for Senior Life
Her plan must also protect future risk.
Medical cost may rise.
Home repairs may occur.
Occasional family support may be needed.

So she must:
– Keep cash bucket
– Keep healthy insurance
– Keep documents updated
– Keep financial papers organised
– Keep digital and physical files safe

This brings long-term safety.

» Withdrawal Strategy
She may not need withdrawals now.
Her income covers expenses.
But she may need money in later years.

She should follow a layered method:

Short-term needs from FD

Medium needs from balanced funds

Long-term needs from SIP corpus

Emergency money from liquid FD

This spreads risk.
This avoids sudden losses.
This protects her capital.

» Assessing the Rs 10 Lakh Transfer
This transfer is fine.
But it must not go to direct plans.
It must go to regular plans.
Guided plans reduce mistakes.
Guided plans suit seniors.

Split into two funds is fine.
But avoid too much complexity.
Simple structure reduces stress.
Easy structure improves clarity.

So two regular plans through an MFD with CFP credentials is ideal.

» Final Insights
Your mother has a strong base.
Her pension is stable.
Her FD pool is healthy.
Her home reduces cost.
Her SIP adds growth.

Adding Rs 10 lakh into balanced mutual funds is a good idea.
But shift to regular plans with expert guidance.
Direct plans are not suitable for seniors.
They bring more risk.
They bring more complexity.
They bring more stress.

Regular plans bring reviews.
Regular plans match risk.
Regular plans reduce mistakes.
Regular plans suit her age.

Her future looks stable with this mix.
Her life can stay comfortable.
She can enjoy her senior years with peace.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Dec 12, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 12, 2025Hindi
Money
Hi, I am 53 years with a wife and two children. My total savings comprising of MF, Shares, PDF,EPF, NPS & FD are approx. 3Cr. Our current monthly outgoing including SIPs is approximately 100000. Will the above savings amount be sufficient to sustain for the next 20 years?
Ans: You have managed to build Rs 3 Cr by age 53.
This shows steady discipline.
Your savings mix also looks balanced.
Your family seems stable.
Your cost control also looks fair.
This gives a good base for the next stage of life.

» Your Current Position
Your savings stand near Rs 3 Cr.
Your monthly outflow is near Rs 100000.
This includes your SIP amount also.
Your family has four members.
You have two children.
Your wife is with you.
You have a mixed pool across MF, shares, PF, EPF, NPS, and FD.
This mix brings both growth and stability.
This gives you a good base.

Your age is 53.
You have around 7 to 12 working years left.
This period is crucial.
Your decisions now shape the next 20 years.
Your savings rate also matters.
Your cost control also shapes the future.

Today’s numbers show you have a good foundation.
But sustainability depends on many factors.
We must study inflation, spending pattern, growth pattern, tax, risk level, health cost, and cash flow flexibility.

» Understanding the Cash Flow Stress
Your family spends around Rs 100000 today.
This includes SIP.
After retirement, SIP will stop.
But living costs will continue.
Costs increase each year.
Inflation can eat cash fast.
So we must ensure growth in wealth.
Slow growth can stress the corpus.
Fast growth brings more shocks.
So balance is key.

Rs 3 Cr looks large today.
But 20 years is long.
Inflation reduces buying power.
Medical costs also rise.
Family needs also shift.

Your money can last 20 years.
But it needs correct planning.
Blind use of the corpus will not help.
Proper flow matters.
Proper asset selection also matters.
You need steady growth.
You need low shocks.
You need stable income.

» Role of Growth Assets
Many families fear growth assets.
But growth assets are needed today.
Inflation is strong in India.
If money stays in FD only, it suffers.
FD return stays low.
Post-tax return stays even lower.
FD return does not beat inflation.
FD cannot support long-term plans.

Mutual funds bring better growth.
Actively managed funds bring better research.
They allow expert judgement.
They can handle market swings better.
They study sectors and businesses.
They adjust the portfolio.
They aim for more consistent returns.
This helps protect wealth.

Some people choose direct plans.
But direct plans need full time study.
They need skill.
They need discipline.
Most investors do not have the time.
Wrong choices can reduce returns.
Direct plans give no guidance.
Direct plans can reduce long-term peace.

Regular plans through an MFD with CFP credential give better support.
They help with reviews.
They help with corrections.
They help with rebalancing.
They help manage behaviour.
They save time and stress.

You already have MF exposure.
This is good.
You should keep this path.
Active fund management will help long-term stability.

» Role of Safety Assets
You have EPF, PPF, NPS, FD.
These give safety.
They give peace.
But they give lower return.
Too much safety reduces future income.
A mix of both is needed.

Safety assets give steady income.
But they do not grow fast.
They cannot support 20 years alone.
So balance must be kept.

» Assessing the Sustainability for 20 Years
Rs 3 Cr can support 20 years.
But it depends on:

Your retirement age

Your spending pattern

Your ability to reduce costs

Your asset mix

Your growth rate

Your inflation level

Your health cost

Your emergency needs

If your core expenses stay in control, your corpus can last.
If you invest well, your corpus can support you.
If you avoid panic, your wealth will grow.
Your children may also get settled.
Your own needs may reduce.

The key is proper planning.
Without planning, the corpus can shrink fast.
With planning, it will last long.

» Inflation Impact
Inflation is silent.
It eats buying power.
Costs double every few years.
Food rises.
Health rises.
Daily life rises.
School fees rise.
Lifestyle rises.

If your money grows slower than inflation, you lose power.
So growth assets must be part of the plan.
They help beat inflation.
They help protect lifestyle.
They help support long-term needs.

This is why active mutual funds stay useful.
They bring research-driven decisions.
They help fight inflation better.
They stay flexible.
They move with the economy.

» Evaluating Your Retirement Readiness
You stand near retirement zone.
You still have some working life.
You still earn.
You still save.
Your income supports your SIP.
This is good.
This is the right stage to improve planning.

Your SIP amount builds future cash.
Your insurance must be proper.
Your emergency fund must be strong.
Your health cover must be strong.

You have PF and NPS.
These give safety.
They bring stability.
They give steady return.
But they do not give high return.
Growth will come from MF and equity.

Your retirement readiness depends on:

Cash flow plan

Growth plan

Insurance plan

Medical cover plan

Long-term income plan

Withdrawal plan

When all parts align, you will stay secure.

» Withdrawal Strategy for the Future
When you retire, cash flow must stay smooth.
You cannot depend on FD alone.
You cannot depend only on EPF.
You cannot depend on one asset class.
You need a mix.

Your withdrawal should come from:

Some from safety assets

Some from growth assets

Some from periodic rebalancing

This helps you avoid panic selling.
This helps you maintain stability.
This protects your lifestyle.

Tax must also be managed.
Tax on equity MF has new rules.
Long-term gain above Rs 1.25 lakh has 12.5% tax.
Short-term gain has 20% tax.
Debt MF gain follows your tax slab.
These rules shape your withdrawal plan.
You must plan redemptions wisely.

» Health and Family Factors
Health cost is rising in India.
Hospital bills rise fast.
Health shocks drain savings.
So good health cover is needed.
Family needs must be studied.

Your children may still need some support.
Their education or marriage may need funds.
These costs must be planned early.
You should not dip into retirement money.
Clear planning avoids stress.

Your wife also needs future support.
Joint planning is better.
Shared decisions help discipline.

» Need for a Structured Review
A structured review every year is needed.
Your income may change.
Your savings may rise.
Your spending may shift.
Your goals may change.
Your risk level may shift.
Your family needs may change.

Review helps you stay on track.
Review helps catch issues early.
Review helps you correct mistakes.
Review brings peace.

A Certified Financial Planner can guide reviews.
This support builds confidence.
This reduces stress.
This brings clarity.

» How to Strengthen Your Position
You already stand strong.
But you can still improve.
Here are some steps to make your 20 years safer.

Keep your growth-safety mix balanced

Increase your SIP when income allows

Avoid direct plans if guidance needed

Use regular plans for proper support

Avoid real estate due to low returns

Increase your emergency fund

Improve your health cover

Avoid ULIP and mixed plans if you ever have them

Review your EPF and NPS allocation

Track your spending carefully

Plan for yearly rebalancing

Keep enough liquidity for short needs

Keep boredom decisions away

Stay invested even in tough times

Trust long-term compounding

Each step adds stability.
Your family will feel safe.

» Building a Strong Future Income Flow
Income must not come from one basket.
Income should come from:

MF SWP

PF interest

FD ladder

NPS withdrawal in a slow way

Equity redemption in a planned way

This spreads risk.
This spreads tax.
This spreads stress.

Staggered withdrawal helps peace.
Your money grows even while you spend.
Your corpus stays healthy.

» Maintaining Low Stress in Retirement
Retirement should be peaceful.
Money stress should be low.
Good planning ensures this.

Keep clear communication with your family.
Keep your files organised.
Keep your goals updated.
Keep calm during market swings.

Your corpus can support you.
Your strategy will shape your peace.

» Final Insights
Your Rs 3 Cr corpus is a strong base.
Your age gives you time to improve more.
Your monthly spending is manageable.
Your asset mix supports your future.

But planning is needed.
Cash flow must be aligned with inflation.
Growth assets must stay active.
Safety assets must be balanced.
Withdrawal must be planned wisely.
Health cost must be covered.
Risk must be contained.

With proper planning, your wealth can support the next 20 years.
Your family can live with comfort.
Your lifestyle can stay stable.
Your future can stay safe.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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