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Sir I retired from crpf on 30 sep 2023 My pension is about 36 thousand and recieved 75 lacs retirement benefits I am 55 years old how to plan my future investments to recieve minimum 50 k from retirement benefits Rajesh kumar

Ans: Future investment planning is critical for financial security and reaching your targeted income after retirement.

Given your age and desire consider the following investment options:

(SCSS) Senior Citizen Saving Scheme: A savings plan intended specifically for senior citizens, with quarterly interest payments and competitive interest rates.

Mutual Funds: You can also explore mutual funds such as Debt Funds, which can provide consistent income while being less risky than equity funds. Consider Hybrid funds, which invest in a mix of equity and debt, aiming for moderate returns while managing risk.

Annuities: Consider investing a portion of your retirement benefits into a good annuity plan to get monthly payments, within specified limit to enjoy tax free returns.

To attain your objective you'll need to build a diversified portfolio with a healthy mix of risk and return. We recommend consulting a qualified advisor/personnel who can provide personalized advice based on your risk tolerance, financial goals, and specific circumstances.
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I am retiring on 31 March 2024 from a private company . My age is 55. My investment is around 1.20 cr in Mutual funds, 38L in PPF 10L in FD. I want 10L to keep aside for my daughter's marriage and I need 60k for monthly exp. How should I plan for it? Request your advice.
Ans: Congratulations on your upcoming retirement! It's crucial to plan your finances carefully to ensure a comfortable retirement lifestyle and meet your financial goals. Let's devise a strategy to address your needs:
1. Monthly Expenses: With a monthly expense requirement of 60k, we'll first ensure that your investment portfolio generates sufficient passive income to cover this expense. Considering your retirement corpus and expected returns, we'll create a withdrawal strategy to meet your monthly cash flow needs.
2. Investment Portfolio: Your investment portfolio of 1.20 cr in mutual funds, 38L in PPF, and 10L in FD provides a solid foundation. We'll assess the asset allocation and risk profile of your investments to ensure they align with your retirement goals and risk tolerance.
3. Monthly Income Generation: We'll structure your investment portfolio to generate regular income streams to cover your monthly expenses. This may include dividends from mutual funds, interest income from fixed deposits, and partial withdrawals from PPF.
4. Emergency Fund: It's essential to maintain an emergency fund to cover unexpected expenses or emergencies. We'll set aside a portion of your corpus as an emergency fund, typically equivalent to 6-12 months' worth of expenses, to provide financial security during retirement.
5. Daughter's Marriage Fund: We'll allocate 10L from your investment corpus specifically for your daughter's marriage. Depending on the timeline of the event, we may consider investing this amount in relatively low-risk instruments to preserve capital while earning moderate returns.
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7. Regular Review: Regularly review your investment portfolio and financial plan to ensure it remains aligned with your retirement goals and evolving financial needs. Adjustments may be necessary based on changing market conditions, inflation, or personal circumstances.
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Hello sir, I am 42 years old and want to retire by age of 55. My current savings is 303L in EPF. 307L in equity, 9.6L in nps. Investment I does as follows 1. Epf - 45000 by employer and same contribution by me as well which combined around 90000/- 2. 27000/- monthly sip , Nippon small cap 6000, axis small cap 6000, quant infrastructure fund 6000/-, quant small cap 6000/-l miarae asset blue chi large cap 3000/- all started very soon having corpus of 4L as of today. 3. Investing 25000/- in nps monthly. 4. Around 50k monthly in equity I have a liability of 50L home loan which I have planned to get rid off by 2028. I have another home loan which will be closed by end of 2025. I have a daughter which is doing CA and for marriage it will be required around 1 cr. I have a son who are going to persue medical which will cost me 50-75L. How I can plan my retirement to get atleast 3L monthly by age of 55. My current monthly take home salary is 3L around.
Ans: Given your goal to retire by 55 with a monthly income of ?3L, you have a comprehensive plan with a mix of investments and savings. Here's a suggested strategy:

EPF: Continue the contribution as it offers tax benefits and stable returns.

SIPs: Your SIPs in small and large-cap funds are good for growth. Consider adding a diversified equity fund for balance. Monitor and rebalance annually.

NPS: Since you're investing ?25,000 monthly, ensure you choose the auto-choice option for a balanced allocation between equity, corporate bonds, and government securities.

Home Loans: Prioritize closing the higher interest rate loan first while maintaining EMIs for both.

Children’s Education and Marriage: Start separate SIPs or investments earmarked for these goals to reach 1 cr for your daughter's marriage and 50-75L for your son's medical studies.

Emergency Fund: Maintain an emergency fund of at least 6 months' expenses.

Retirement Corpus: Aim to build a corpus that can generate ?3L/month. Based on a conservative estimate, a corpus of around ?6-7 crores by 55 might be needed. Regularly review and adjust your investments to align with this target.

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Hello Sir, I am 53 years, planned for retirement after 3 years. Have MF investment about 50 lacs, FDs about 50 Lacs, will accumulate 50 lacs in the coming three years through investment in MF. My monthly expenditure is Rs 65,000. How can I plan with the above corpus for my retirement so as get monthly payout? Whether to go for SWP - Balanced advantage funds or SWP- Debt funds for my monthly income? Is this correct plan? I will be needing 75,000 per month after my retirement. How much tax will I have to pay on 75,000 per month? Will there be any exit load while changing to SWP? What should be my investment strategy?
Ans: It's great to see that you've already started planning for your retirement and have a diversified investment portfolio. You're taking the right steps towards securing your financial future.

Given your situation, it's essential to ensure that your investments align with your retirement income needs. SWP (Systematic Withdrawal Plan) can indeed be a useful tool to generate a regular income from your mutual fund investments.

Balanced advantage funds and debt funds both have their merits. Balanced advantage funds dynamically manage their equity exposure based on market conditions, offering potential for growth while managing risk. Debt funds, on the other hand, provide stability and regular income with lower risk.

Your plan to accumulate an additional 50 lakhs in MF over the next three years is commendable. It adds to your retirement corpus and potentially increases your income-generating capacity.

To meet your monthly expenditure of Rs. 65,000 during retirement, you'll need to generate a monthly payout of Rs. 75,000, considering inflation and unforeseen expenses.

Regarding taxation, withdrawals from debt funds attract taxation based on the holding period and are subject to indexation benefits. As for balanced advantage funds, equity taxation rules apply if the holding period exceeds one year. It's advisable to consult with a tax advisor for personalized guidance.

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Good morning Sir, I retired on 30 April 2024 and recieved around 1cr as retirement benefits. I am not receiving any pension. I am 58 years old how to plan my future investments to recieve minimum 100k from retirement benefits. Kindly help me please. Thank you
Ans: Firstly, congratulations on your retirement! It marks the beginning of a new chapter in your life journey. Transitioning from a structured work routine to retirement can bring a mix of emotions, from excitement about newfound freedom to apprehension about financial security. As a Certified Financial Planner, I'm here to help you navigate this phase with confidence and peace of mind.

Retirement brings a shift in financial priorities, and it's essential to ensure that your retirement benefits are managed effectively to sustain your desired lifestyle. With your retirement benefits totaling around 1 crore, the goal of generating a minimum of 100,000 rupees per month is certainly achievable with careful planning and strategic investment.

Let's delve into crafting a personalized retirement income plan that aligns with your financial goals and aspirations.

Assessing Your Needs:

Understanding your current financial needs and future aspirations is the foundation of any retirement plan. Take some time to reflect on your lifestyle preferences, anticipated expenses, and any specific financial goals you wish to accomplish during retirement. This self-reflection will guide us in designing a customized plan tailored to your unique circumstances.

Creating a Balanced Portfolio:

Diversification is key to managing risk and optimizing returns in retirement. By spreading your retirement benefits across a mix of investment avenues, we can strive for stability, growth, and income generation. We'll explore various asset classes, such as fixed income instruments, equities, and alternative investments, to construct a balanced portfolio that suits your risk tolerance and financial objectives.

Generating Regular Income:

Your objective of generating a minimum of 100,000 rupees per month from retirement benefits requires a strategic approach. We'll focus on income-generating investments, such as fixed deposits, bonds, and dividend-paying stocks or mutual funds. These investments offer regular cash flows that can supplement your retirement income and provide financial stability throughout your retired life.

Managing Withdrawal Strategies:

Systematic Withdrawal Plans (SWPs) from mutual funds can be an effective tool for managing cash flow in retirement. By setting up SWPs, you can establish a regular withdrawal schedule tailored to your income needs while keeping the remaining investment corpus intact for future growth. We'll design a withdrawal strategy that strikes a balance between meeting your short-term income requirements and preserving capital for the long term.

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Understanding Your Needs

First things first, we need to understand your lifestyle and spending habits. Knowing your monthly expenses will help decide how much you can safely withdraw from your corpus each month.

Security and Stability

Since retirement is about enjoying life without worry, focus on a good mix of secure and growth-oriented investments. This will provide you with a regular income and the potential for future growth.

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Senior Citizen Savings Scheme (SCSS): SCSS offers a safe and guaranteed return, with interest credited quarterly. It's a good option for a portion of your corpus.

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Debt Funds: Less risky than stocks, debt funds invest in government bonds and corporate bonds. They provide stable returns and are good for building a buffer.

Actively Managed Equity Funds (AMCs): AMCs invest in stocks, aiming for capital appreciation over the long term. They can be riskier, but offer the potential for higher returns if the fund manager makes good choices.

Remember, diversification is key! Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Spread your corpus across different asset classes to manage risk.

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The market keeps changing, so your investment plan needs to adapt as well. Schedule regular reviews with your CFP to ensure your investments are still on track.

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I am 27 years old and have investment goal of 2 crs of by the age of 31. please suggest some sip or mutual munds which is the better
Ans: That's a fantastic ambition you have! Setting a clear goal like this at 27 shows real planning smarts. Reaching 2 crores by 31 through SIPs is possible, but it requires a well-crafted investment strategy. Here's why actively managed mutual funds might be a good fit for you:

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First things first, we need to figure out your risk tolerance. Actively managed funds are generally considered riskier than passively managed options like index funds. This is because actively managed funds have a fund manager who tries to outperform the market by picking individual stocks. This can lead to higher returns, but also comes with the chance of underperformance.

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While index funds offer a diversified, market-matching approach, actively managed funds can potentially deliver higher returns if the fund manager makes good stock selection calls. This "outperformance" can be crucial for achieving your ambitious goal within a shorter timeframe. However, remember, actively managed funds aren't guaranteed to outperform!

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Here's the key: Don't put all your eggs in one basket! To manage risk, consider a diversified portfolio of actively managed funds across different asset classes like large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap stocks. You can also explore sectoral funds that focus on specific industries like IT or pharma.

Remember, diversification is your friend!

Seeking Professional Guidance

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Remember, this is a marathon, not a sprint!

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Don't get swayed by market fluctuations. Actively managed funds aim for long-term growth. Stay invested and avoid frequent withdrawals to benefit from the power of compounding.

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Consistent SIP contributions are key to reaching your goal. Even small amounts invested regularly can grow significantly over time.

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Hi Sir, Me and my wife both are 40 years old. Together, we both earn around Rs. 2.5 lacs per month. We have around Rs. 1cr in MF and 50 lacs in Stocks. We are investing monthly SIP of Rs. 1 lacs per month.All the SIPs are equity oriented.Paying Rent Rs. 45k and our monthly expense is around 90 k (including rent). We have 2 kids ( 7 years and 2 years), one is having medical (Cerebral Palsy) Issue. We plan to buy a house in Gurgaon. What should be our Ideal budget to buy a property? Understanding 1 kid will always be dependent on us . No other EMI as of now.
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Combined Income: Rs. 2.5 lacs per month is a good starting point.
Savings: Rs. 1.5 cr (Rs. 1 cr in MF + Rs. 50 lacs in Stocks) is a significant sum.
Investments: Rs. 1 lac monthly SIP shows strong saving habits.
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Dependent Child: Having a child with Cerebral Palsy will require long-term financial planning for their care.
Monthly Expenses: Your current expenses are Rs. 1.35 lacs (including rent).
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Don't stretch too thin: While you have a good income and savings, prioritize your child's needs and future medical care.
Target a 15-20 year loan term: This keeps your monthly EMI manageable.
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Focus on affordability: Aim for a property with a total cost (including registration and other charges) between Rs. 50 lacs - Rs. 1 crore. This translates to a monthly EMI of around Rs. 30,000 - Rs. 60,000 (assuming a 15-20 year loan term).
Location: Consider areas in Gurgaon with good healthcare facilities and accessibility for your child's needs. Explore areas like Sectors 56, 70, 84 or Gurgaon outskirts like Sohna or New Palam Vihar which may offer better affordability.
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Research Property Options: Look for resale flats, builder floors, or upcoming projects in your budget range. Use online portals like MagicBricks or NoBroker to get an idea of prevailing prices.
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Clearly your son has gotten used to all the comforts at home. What is the necessity to do anything?
Also, I suspect that writing one exam or the other is a way of escaping from what he truly wants to do in life. He is unclear and afraid to face what he might want and afraid that he might fail. This fear of failure will simply make him write one exam after the other in the hope that he does not have to decide what he needs to do.
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I don't mean to sound judgemental here...but what exactly are you stressed about? You seem to be hopping about from one relationship to another without working on things when they get stressful.
Did it occur to you that when things sour between two people that it is possible with some effort to work on things? The answer does not lie in running away and jump into the arms of another women.
There's a clear pattern of possible 'escapism' when things get uncomfortable...So, STOP and reevaluate what you are running from, what comfort do you run towards and how is this actually helping your mental state...
Do the right thing for yourself and your wife...take care of your marriage first before jumping into another relationship; you will only find something wrong with that as well...So, please STOP and check what exactly is happening...

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