
Dear Sir/Madam,
I am 36 years old and married, currently saving up to 70,000 INR per month. I live abroad, and my wife will be joining me next month. My brother earns 25,000 INR per month. He is married and lives in a village in rural India with his wife and our parents, who are in their 60s. The family's monthly expenses amount to 22,000 INR, and I contribute 15,000 INR to support them. My father has a yearly passive income of 50,000 INR, which is managed by my brother.
Recently, my brother and his wife have expressed that he is struggling to manage the family's financial burden. He feels the need to support his family independently to improve his mental well-being and financial situation.
Meanwhile, my wife is currently living with her parents, and I cover her monthly expenses. I have total savings of around 2 million INR in fixed deposits. As we plan to have a baby soon, I am concerned about maintaining my financial stability.
I would appreciate your financial suggestions on how I can approach discussions with my brother and parents, as I am considering how to gradually support both my family and my parents toward achieving financial freedom. Additionally, I kindly request a step-by-step investment plan tailored to my circumstances.
Thank you for your assistance.
Ans: You have strong savings habits. You also show deep care for both families. That is truly valuable. Now let’s work on building a 360-degree solution.
Understanding Your Financial Snapshot
Age: 36 years
Marital Status: Married
Living abroad (NRI status)
Savings potential: Rs. 70,000 per month
Fixed Deposits: Rs. 20 lakh
Family supported in India: Parents + brother’s family
Your monthly support: Rs. 15,000 to parents and brother
Parents’ income: Rs. 50,000 annually
Brother’s income: Rs. 25,000 monthly
Brother’s household expenses: Rs. 22,000 monthly
Wife currently dependent, joining you soon
Planning for a child soon
This is a crucial stage. Many responsibilities are approaching together. Let's plan each area carefully.
Immediate Assessment of Cash Flow
Break down your outflow:
Support to India: Rs. 15,000 monthly
Wife’s expenses (currently in India): assumed Rs. 10,000–12,000
Savings: Rs. 70,000 monthly
So, your monthly financial capacity is strong. You are able to save consistently. That’s a very positive start. But new life stages need new strategies.
Step 1: Financial Clarity in Family Support
You support your brother and parents out of love. But your brother is feeling pressure. He wants to become more independent. You must support this move. Not only financially, but also emotionally.
Here’s what you can do:
Discuss clearly with brother. Tell him your role will gradually reduce.
Agree on a fixed timeline. Maybe 1–2 years support, then reduce it.
Ask him to increase savings. Even Rs. 1,000–2,000 per month is a start.
Encourage part-time work for his wife. Rural areas now offer online jobs too.
Help brother learn digital skills. That can lead to better income later.
You don’t have to stop support suddenly. Reduce it in steps. Support mentally and financially both. Involve him in decisions. He will feel respected.
Step 2: Structuring Parents’ Expenses and Income
Parents are aged. Their passive income is Rs. 50,000 annually. That is only Rs. 4,000 per month. It is insufficient. Their actual expenses are part of the Rs. 22,000 handled by your brother.
Plan this way:
Maintain Rs. 15,000 support from your side for now
Encourage low-risk, stable investments for their savings
Avoid risky products or unregulated agents in villages
Use post office or senior citizen savings schemes for safety
No need for market-linked products at this age
If they have LIC, ULIP or investment policies, review immediately. These often give poor returns. If they are ongoing, check surrender value. Exit and reinvest only if beneficial.
Step 3: Prepare for Wife's Arrival and Baby Planning
When your wife joins you, expenses will increase. Later, child-related costs will also begin. So, you need to build buffers for these.
Action plan:
Create 2 separate emergency funds:
Rs. 3–4 lakh for family in India (already part of your FD)
Rs. 4–5 lakh for your wife and new family life abroad
Start health insurance for both of you, even abroad
Set aside Rs. 2–3 lakh in a short-term mutual fund for childbirth-related expenses
These buffers protect you from dipping into long-term savings.
Step 4: Review and Reallocate Your Rs. 20 Lakh Fixed Deposit
FD is safe. But FD returns don’t beat inflation. Your money is losing value in long run. You must divide this corpus into goal-based buckets.
Bucket 1: Emergency Corpus (Rs. 4–5 lakh)
Keep in FD or sweep-in savings account
Can also use liquid mutual fund
Should be instantly accessible
Bucket 2: Short-Term Goal (Rs. 3 lakh)
Child delivery and setup
Invest in short-duration debt mutual funds
Do not use equity
Bucket 3: Medium-Term Goal (Rs. 5–6 lakh)
Possible home or car in 5–7 years
Invest in balanced hybrid mutual funds
Avoid locking in too long
Bucket 4: Long-Term Goal (Rs. 6–7 lakh)
Retirement and child education
Invest in active equity mutual funds through MFD + CFP
Avoid direct and index funds
Why Not Index Funds?
Index funds follow the market passively
They offer no downside protection
Cannot skip poor-performing sectors
Can never beat the index
Active funds give better performance over time
Skilled fund managers can rotate between sectors smartly
Why Not Direct Mutual Funds?
Direct plans may look cheaper
But offer no ongoing guidance
No asset allocation, review, or tax planning support
Wrong decisions cost more than expense ratio savings
Regular plans through CFP + MFD give full-service support
So always invest through regular plans with expert involvement.
Step 5: Monthly Savings of Rs. 70,000 – Strategic Allocation
You are saving Rs. 70,000 monthly. That gives you power to build wealth fast. But do not invest it blindly. Use a structured flow.
Suggested Monthly Allocation:
Rs. 10,000 – Ongoing family support (adjust later as planned)
Rs. 10,000 – Emergency/top-up buffer fund (for 6 months only)
Rs. 30,000 – Long-term SIP in equity mutual funds
Rs. 10,000 – Medium-term SIP in hybrid mutual funds
Rs. 5,000 – Child-related savings (monthly RD or mutual fund)
Rs. 5,000 – Term insurance + health insurance premiums
This gives you a balanced structure for the present and future.
Review your SIPs every year with a Certified Financial Planner.
Step 6: Retirement Planning Strategy
You are 36. Retirement is 24 years away. Start building it today. Don’t wait. PF or NPS alone won’t give enough. Use equity for growth.
Action Points:
Start Rs. 30,000 monthly SIP in active equity funds
Split across large-cap, flexi-cap and mid-cap
Review SIPs yearly with your MFD
Avoid short-term exits
Stick to SIP in all market conditions
Later, shift to safer funds after age 55.
After 60, start a Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP).
Don’t choose annuities. They give low returns.
Mutual Fund SWP is more flexible and tax-efficient.
Step 7: Insurance Protection for Your Family
You need pure protection plans. Do not mix investment.
Buy Rs. 1 crore term plan for yourself
Cover until age 60
Premium is low when bought early
Get Rs. 10–15 lakh health insurance for family
Include wife and baby later
Don’t depend only on employer plan
Insurance is safety. Investment is growth. Keep both separate.
Finally
Start reducing support to brother slowly
Help him become financially independent
Review your FDs and redeploy for better returns
Use SIPs in regular active mutual funds with CFP help
Avoid direct or index funds
Build safety nets for new family life
Allocate goals in buckets: short, mid and long
Insure yourself fully before starting big investments
Discuss with family with empathy and clarity
Maintain records of all help you give
Review plans every year with your Certified Financial Planner
Stick to process, not emotions
Secure today first, then prepare for tomorrow
Your situation is unique. But your direction is right. Your future can be stable and strong.
Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP
Chief Financial Planner
www.holisticinvestment.in
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