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Mutual Funds Expert - Answered on May 23, 2023

Nikunj Saraf has more than five years of experience in financial markets and offers advice about mutual funds. He is vice president at Choice Wealth, a financial institution that offers broking, insurance, loans and government advisory services. Saraf, who is a member of the Institute Of Chartered Accountants of India, has a strong base in financial markets and wealth management.... more

Question by abhijeet on May 09, 2023Hindi

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Hello nikunj, Iam 40 years I have following MF portfolio with total investment of 5,000/- per month. Can you please suggest if i should continue them to generate good returns in long run. axis blues chip growth- 1500 ICICI value discovery direct -holding Quant Active Fund - Growth =2000, Quant Tax Plan - Direct Plan-1500 would like to have 50lkhs+ till 55yrs age

Ans: Hello Abhijeet. Your portfolio is well chosen and aligned with market. To achieve a corpus of 50 Lakhs, I would recommend to increase your sip to 7500 monthly. You can introduce the small cap category in your portfolio.

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Question by Mahesh - May 03, 2023Hindi

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Hello Hardik, I have following MF portfolio with total investment of 16,000/- per month. Can you please suggest if i should continue them to generate good returns in long run (10 years horizon). Nippon small cap direct - 3000 ICICI value discovery direct - 3000 Motilal Oswal mulitcap direct - 2000 Tata Digital India direct - 2000 Parag Parekh multicap direct - 3000 Mirae Asset Large cap Direct - 3000

Ans: Hello Mahesh,

I appreciate your interest in seeking advice for your mutual fund portfolio. Considering your 10-year investment horizon, it's essential to maintain a well-diversified portfolio that balances risk and return. Based on the funds you've mentioned, here's a brief overview of your current investments:

Nippon Small Cap Direct - A small-cap fund with potential for high returns but also carries higher risk.
ICICI Value Discovery Direct - A value-oriented fund focusing on undervalued stocks with growth potential.
Motilal Oswal Multicap Direct - A diversified multicap fund investing across market capitalizations and sectors.
Tata Digital India Direct - A sector-specific fund concentrating on technology and digital companies.
Parag Parekh Multicap Direct - A multicap fund with a focus on high-quality companies with a long-term growth perspective.
Mirae Asset Large Cap Direct - A large-cap fund investing in well-established, market-leading companies.
Your current portfolio exhibits a mix of small-cap, multicap, value-oriented, and sector-specific funds. While it has potential for good returns, I would recommend a few adjustments to make it more balanced:

Continue with Nippon Small Cap Direct, ICICI Value Discovery Direct, and Parag Parekh Multicap Direct as they cater to different market segments and investment styles.
Consider reducing the allocation to Tata Digital India Direct, as sector-specific funds carry higher risk. You may allocate this portion to a more diversified equity fund.
Maintain your investments in Motilal Oswal Multicap Direct and Mirae Asset Large Cap Direct, as they provide stability and exposure to large-cap stocks.
To further diversify your portfolio, consider adding a mid-cap fund and an international fund to give you exposure to different market segments and geographies, or a short duration debt fund (given increasing interest rate cycle) if you wish to be risk averse.
Please remember that these suggestions are based on a general analysis of your portfolio. I recommend consulting a professional financial advisor to discuss your specific risk appetite, financial goals, and requirements before making any changes.

Wishing you success in your investment journey!

Best regards,
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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 10, 2024Hindi

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Below is my MF Portfolio(with Profit/Loss). Investing for the past 1.5 Years (SIP : 2000rs each) HDFC Focused 30 Fund - Regular Plan - Growth --> 15.04% HDFC MID-CAP OPPORTUNITIES FUND - GROWTH OPTION --> 14.46% HDFC LARGE AND MID CAP FUND - REGULAR PLAN - GROWT --> 13.15% HDFC Top 100 Fund - Regular Plan - Growth --> 12.9% HDFC Balance Advantage Fund - Regular Plan - Growth --> 12.36% NIPPON INDIA SMALL CAP FUND - GROWTH PLAN - GROWTH --> 10.78% HDFC SMALL CAP FUND - REGULAR PLAN - GROWTH --> 9.2% SBI Large & Midcap Fund Regular Growth --> 7.19% ICICI Prudential Savings Fund - Growth --> 4.47% SBI MAGNUM GLOBAL FUND - REGULAR PLAN - GROWTH --> -0.73% Should I continue or make any changes ? Please do suggest My Objective is to invest for Long Term. Returns should exceed the inflation(anything above that is bonus).

Ans: Your MF portfolio demonstrates a diversified mix of funds, reflecting your intention to invest for the long term. It's commendable that you've been consistently investing through SIPs, as this strategy promotes disciplined investing and helps navigate market volatility.

Considering your objective of investing for the long term and aiming for returns that exceed inflation, here are a few suggestions:

Review Fund Performance: Evaluate the performance of each fund relative to its benchmark and peers. Funds that consistently underperform may warrant reconsideration.
Asset Allocation: Ensure your portfolio maintains a balanced allocation across different asset classes, including large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds. This diversification helps manage risk and capture growth opportunities across market segments.
Rebalance if Necessary: If any fund significantly deviates from its intended allocation or fails to meet performance expectations, consider reallocating your investments accordingly.
Stay Informed: Keep abreast of market developments, economic trends, and fund manager changes that may impact your investments. Regularly review your portfolio to ensure it remains aligned with your financial goals.
Consult with a Certified Financial Planner: Seeking professional advice can provide valuable insights and help you make informed decisions about your investments. A financial planner can assess your risk tolerance, investment horizon, and financial objectives to provide personalized recommendations.
Remember, investing for the long term requires patience and discipline. While short-term fluctuations are inevitable, staying focused on your financial goals will help you navigate market volatility and achieve long-term success.

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Question by giridhar - Oct 11, 2024Hindi

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Please review my MF Portfolio....Aditya Birla Sun Life Nifty Midcap 150 Index Fund - Direct Plan - Growth 6000, HDFC Flexi Cap Fund - Direct Plan - Growth- 6000, Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund - Direct Plan - Growth 6000, Quant Small Cap Fund - Direct Plan - Growth 3000, SBI Small Cap Fund - Direct Plan - Growth2000. With setp up of 10% every year. is this portfolio Good or should I change my funds or add more funds & which funds I should add. My age is 24yrs

Ans: Hello;

Nice to see your enthusiasm and discipline towards investments at 24.

Invest in NPS for retirement planning, if not offered through your office.

Regarding your MF portfolio, I would suggest you may replace HDFC flexicap with Kotak equity opportunities fund(Large and Midcap type Fund).

Also you may use Nippon India Small cap fund to channelise your investments into small caps instead of the two funds.

You may add two thematic funds with 10-15% allocation for eg. SBI Technology Opportunities Fund and ICICI Pru Infrastructure Fund.

The risks with thematic funds are relatively high but since you are an early starter, I have suggested these schemes with good returns.

Hope you have already signed for a sufficient term life insurance cover with suitable riders for protection.

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This is my second attempt at SSC CGL, and I’ve improved since last year. But I’m still anxious about the descriptive paper. Can you suggest ways to stand out in this section and make my essay and letter writing more impactful?

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Ans: The key here is to approach the situation with empathy and open communication. Your husband likely feels a strong sense of duty towards his parents, which is understandable given cultural and familial expectations. However, it’s also important for him to recognize the commitments and plans you’ve both made as a couple. Balancing these two responsibilities can be difficult, but it’s essential for the health of your relationship.

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Encourage him to discuss his feelings and the pressure he’s experiencing from his parents. Sometimes, partners may feel caught between their familial obligations and their commitments to their spouse, leading to stress and internal conflict. Understanding his point of view can help you find common ground.

You might also explore practical solutions together, such as setting clear boundaries on financial support or finding a compromise that allows both your goals and his familial obligations to be met to some extent. This could involve budgeting, setting financial priorities, or seeking financial counseling to help manage the situation more effectively.

Ultimately, it’s about finding a balance that respects both of your needs and ensures that your marriage remains a priority. By working together and communicating openly, you can navigate this challenge and strengthen your relationship.

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Hi Mam, I met my ex wife in the college where we both were pursuing out studies. We exchanged contacts and started speaking over phone like couple does. When we fall in live we ourselves don't know as no one propose to each other. As i finished my studies, she quit studies in the middle and decided to do hotel management course. Amd it so happened, next day her interview was lined up but unfortunately due to unavoidable circumstances she has to go to her native place. As Covid struck she git stuck in her native place and couldn't come back. And when everything became normal i insisted her to come but her mom was not allowing. After a lot of struggle her mom allowed her and she came back. In this course of time both families was aware about our relationship. My mom was against her because of 2 reasons, 1) Intercaste 2) She was from very poor and low caste background. Them too i continued the relationship and i convinced to my sister and she convinced to mom. And when she was in native place, she said once that her voice has gone has gone she need 50k for operation. I trying madly to arrange funds and one of my friend told me that she is playing with you be careful but as i was blind in love i necer listened him. When she came to Mumbai i arranged a pg accommodation for her for some time and i use to take her out for dinner as there use to be regular fights with owner. Somehow i convinced my mom and shifted her to my place. There use to be fights but we use to care for each other also at the same time. She started to do events and slowly and steadily started to work in media. She was well aware that i dont like girls working media then too i have her permission to work in media temporary. I went against everyone, my family and friend and after 7yrs of relationship we decided to get marry and it was working fine. After marriage fight increased and she used to taunt though i did so much for her. Once she was not well and as she used to taunt me i never took care of her. One day my dear friend told me to check her phone, she might be seeing someone. And when i checked she was having an affair with Assistant director, i saw msgs photos. And when i confronted she said "He is just a friend and we talk normally" I saw they both on one bed and when i forward their pics to her mom she said "There might be some problem in you only." And when i asked to my ex wife about all this she said "A person goes where he or she gets love and care" All this happened within 6-8 months of our marriage. When i came to know about all this i tod her to leave my house and she was asking for divorce because of my mon's behavior also. I think i should have not tell her to leave as when she left i don't know but i love her very much. I even told her to give me one chance as i gave her but she didn't stopped talking with her bf. And she didn't gave me a chance and went away. We have been legally divorced but still i love her and ready to accept her. But she doesn't want to come back. I am trying to forget her but couldn't. Luckily we don't have kids. Sometimes my heart says let her go she cheated you. Sometimes it says i love now also. I am struggling to forgot her as i am in contact now also. Please suggest. Thank you

Ans: it's important to acknowledge and honor the love you felt and still feel. Love doesn’t simply disappear overnight, and it’s natural to have lingering emotions, especially when you’ve shared so much history and effort to keep the relationship going. However, it’s also crucial to recognize the harm and hurt caused by her actions and the unresolved issues that led to the breakdown of your marriage.

The fact that she chose not to return and continues to maintain contact with the person she was involved with suggests that she has moved on emotionally, even if you haven’t. Holding onto hope for reconciliation can keep you trapped in a cycle of pain and longing, which makes it harder to heal and move forward.

Your heart and mind are sending you mixed signals because you’re torn between the love you still feel and the reality of the betrayal. This is a common struggle after a significant loss, but it’s important to focus on what’s best for your emotional well-being. Continuing to be in contact with her may be preventing you from healing fully. It might be beneficial to create some distance, at least temporarily, to allow yourself the space to process your feelings and begin the healing process.

Focusing on yourself and your own growth is essential. Consider engaging in activities that bring you joy, spending time with supportive friends and family, and possibly seeking professional counseling to help you work through your emotions and develop strategies to move forward.

Letting go is difficult, especially when you still have love for someone, but it’s a crucial step towards healing. Accepting that the relationship has ended and focusing on your future can help you find peace and eventually open the door to new possibilities for love and happiness.

Asked on - Jan 15, 2025 | Answered on Jan 15, 2025

Thank you very much for ur reply. But i am finding difficult to forget her.

Ans: It might be helpful to focus on the following steps to move forward:

Acceptance: Accept that the relationship has ended and that continuing to hold on to it may be preventing you from healing. Acceptance doesn’t mean you have to stop loving her immediately, but it does mean recognizing that the relationship is no longer viable.
Self-Care: Prioritize your emotional well-being by engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family who can help you through this process. Consider exploring new hobbies or interests that can redirect your focus and bring positive energy into your life.
Boundaries: It might be time to set boundaries with your ex-wife, especially if staying in contact is causing you more pain. Taking a step back from communication can provide the space you need to heal and gain clarity.
Professional Support: Consider speaking with a therapist or counselor who can help you process your feelings and guide you through the healing journey. Professional support can offer valuable tools and strategies to navigate the complex emotions you’re experiencing.
Remember, healing takes time, and it’s okay to grieve the loss of the relationship. With patience and self-compassion, you can move forward, find peace, and eventually open yourself up to new possibilities and happiness in life.

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Sir, is it difficult to crack the All India Bar Exam? My son is in class 11 arts. He is interested in law and wants to work in the public sector. What is the eligibility for AIBE? Does it happen twice a year? What are some of the entrance exams he should be preparing for?

Ans: The All India Bar Examination (AIBE) is a compulsory (moderate difficulty) test for law graduates to obtain the Certificate of Practice (COP) required to practice law in India. It is conducted twice a year by the Bar Council of India and focuses on core law subjects like Constitutional Law, IPC, CPC, CrPC, and professional ethics. Key law entrance exams include the Common Law Admission Test (CLAT), All India Law Entrance Test (AILET), LSAT India, and Symbiosis Law Admission Test (SLAT). Preparation for AIBE involves practicing current affairs, participating in debates, MUNs, and public speaking, and considering coaching for CLAT in Class 12. All The Best for Your Prosperous Future. Follow RediffGURUS to Know More on ' Careers | Health | Money | Relationship'. All The Best for Your Son's Prosperous Future. Follow RediffGURUS to Know More on ' Careers | Health | Money | Relationship'.

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My partner and I are from different cultural backgrounds. She has always felt a strong spiritual connection to events like the Kumbh Mela. Earlier this year, while booking the tickets she had asked if I would like to join her as she is travelling solo. While I respect her beliefs, I refused to join because I am not a religious person. Now that she has booked her tickets, I am worried about her safety. Should I tell her to cancel her trip? I don't want her to think that I am disrespecting her choices or religion. Or should I just tag along and make her feel safe? How do I address these concerns and have a healthy conversation?

Ans: Start by having an honest conversation with her. Share your feelings about her safety in a caring and non-confrontational way. Let her know that your concern comes from a place of love and care, not from a lack of respect for her spiritual journey. It’s important to express that you understand her desire to attend the Kumbh Mela and that you support her connection to this event.

If you’re considering joining her, it could be a gesture of solidarity and support, even if you’re not personally invested in the spiritual aspect. However, it’s crucial to approach this as a way to share the experience together and ensure her safety, rather than as an obligation or with reluctance. If you decide to join her, communicate that you’re doing so because you want to be there for her, which could strengthen your relationship.

On the other hand, if you feel strongly about not attending due to personal beliefs, you can suggest other ways to support her. This might include discussing safety plans or staying in close communication while she’s there. This approach shows that you trust her decisions while still being there for her in a supportive way.

Ultimately, the conversation should aim to understand each other’s perspectives and find a solution that makes both of you feel comfortable and respected. Balancing your care for her safety with respect for her independence and beliefs is key to maintaining a healthy, supportive relationship.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jan 15, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 09, 2025Hindi

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I am 42 Female currently, last marriage didn't go well, afraid of new start, I neither type of person who can go to club etc etc to "find someone" - What's the best way to move forward, Do we have genuine way of finding someone who can become reliable partner too (No tinder etc as again I knw myself now at this age, I can't) - Please guide

Ans: One of the best ways to meet someone compatible is through shared interests and environments where you feel at ease. Consider engaging in activities or communities that resonate with you. This could include joining local interest groups, volunteering, or taking classes in areas you’re passionate about. These settings not only provide opportunities to meet like-minded individuals but also allow connections to develop organically over shared experiences and values.

Another valuable approach is to lean on your existing network. Friends, family, and colleagues often know you well and can introduce you to others who might be a good match. These introductions can be more comfortable and trustworthy since they come from people who understand your personality and values.

It’s also important to give yourself time and space to heal and grow from past experiences. Building a reliable and meaningful relationship starts with being in a place where you feel confident and whole on your own. This self-awareness and emotional readiness will naturally attract the right kind of partner who values and respects you for who you are.

Remember, there’s no rush or specific timeline you need to adhere to. Allow relationships to develop at a pace that feels right for you, and focus on building connections that are based on mutual respect, understanding, and shared values. Trust that the right person will come into your life when the time is right, and until then, prioritize your own happiness and well-being.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jan 15, 2025

Question by Dinesh - Oct 09, 2024Hindi

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My age is 48 years and i have one son aged 17 years and i am single son of my parents ,one and half year back my wife expired and upon insisted by my parents and close relatives i got remarried and she has one girl aged 8 years, after passing of six months she has started showing her true colors and it has become very difficult for me to continue and i want to get rid of this . Please guide me what should i do now.

Ans: Dear Dinesh,
it’s important to reflect on what is making the relationship difficult. Understanding the specific issues—whether they stem from differences in values, communication problems, or other conflicts—can provide clarity on how to move forward.

If you haven't already, consider having an open and honest conversation with your wife about your concerns. Sometimes, addressing issues directly can lead to resolutions or at least a better understanding of each other's perspectives. Counseling, either individually or as a couple, can also be a valuable tool in navigating these challenges and deciding the best course of action.

However, if you’ve already tried addressing these issues and find that the relationship is still untenable, it may be time to consider ending the marriage. It’s important to prioritize your emotional and mental well-being, as well as that of your son and stepdaughter. Divorce is never an easy decision, especially when children are involved, but staying in an unhappy and unhealthy relationship can have long-term negative impacts on everyone.

As you contemplate your next steps, it’s also important to lean on your support system. Friends, family, or a counselor can provide guidance and help you navigate this difficult period. Remember, prioritizing your well-being is not only crucial for you but also for your children, as they look to you for stability and emotional guidance. Making decisions that lead to a healthier and happier environment for everyone involved is ultimately the most important goal.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jan 15, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Oct 08, 2024

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Hello mam.I know a girl since college days.She is married to a guy since last 15 years.Since last 3 years we had an affair.I did take her for granted after our 2 nd half 3 years of relationship.Since a year now she has been giving me some or the other reason such as she is not getting feeling for me,husband is taking much care now so cant handle our relationship,then she told she has some health issue and now recently she tells me she has been telling me indirectly since a year to move on as she was in a relationship with some guy whom she got attracted in a mutual connection.But now she has discontinued with him as well. We do chat on message and call sometime but now since a year she herself has stopped calling or messaging.She replies only when i message or call. I want her back in my life and improve my relationship with her.Please guide me to get her back and have a relationship with her as we had till last year.What steps should I take to win her heart back and make her mine?

Ans: The first step is to acknowledge and respect her current feelings and boundaries. It’s clear she’s navigating her own emotional journey and trying to find clarity in her life. Pressuring her or trying to win her back without considering her current stance may push her further away.

Instead, focus on open and honest communication. If you genuinely care for her, it’s important to express your feelings without being demanding. Share how you feel, but also be willing to listen to her perspective fully. Understand that love and relationships are mutual, and both parties need to feel connected and invested.

During this time, it’s also essential to reflect on your own needs and emotional well-being. Ask yourself if this relationship, as it currently stands, is fulfilling and healthy for you. Relationships can be complicated, and sometimes stepping back to allow both people space to understand their feelings can lead to a clearer path forward, whether that’s together or apart.

Ultimately, your focus should be on building healthy, honest connections and prioritizing emotional well-being for both yourself and the people involved. If there’s a possibility of rekindling the relationship, it will come from mutual understanding, respect, and willingness from both sides.

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