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I am 41 and working in a private organisation. I have started investing in MFs since the last three years.

Please find below my investment portfolio. Request your valuable advice.

Product Name SIP/PM Purchase Value
1. Axis Flexi Cap Fund Regular Growth Rs 2,000 Rs 87,000
2. Aditya Birla Sun Life Equity Fund Regular Growth Rs 2,000 Rs 87,000
3. HDFC Mid-Cap Opportunities Fund Regular Growth Rs 2,000 Rs 87,000
4. Nippon India Small Cap Fund, Regular Growth Rs 2,000 Rs 92,000
5. ICICI Prudential Value Discovery Fund, Regular Growth Rs 2,000 Rs 87,000
6. HDFC Low Duration Fund, Growth (formerly HDFC Cash Management Fund -- Treasury Advantage Plan) Rs 5,000 Rs 20,000
7. HRERP/Retirement Savings Equity Regular GR Rs 5,000 Rs 20,000
8. Kotak Flexi Cap Fund, (G) Regular Rs 1,300 Rs 27,300
9. Aditya Birla Sun Life Pure Value Fund, Regular Growth Rs 1,200 Rs 18,000
10. L&T Midcap Fund, (G) Rs 1,200 Rs 25,200
11. Franklin India Feeder Franklin US Opportunities Fund, (G) Rs 1,300 Rs 7,200
Product Name Purchase Value
1. SBI Flexicap Fund-Dir Gr Rs 20,000
2. SBI Large & Midcap Fund Direct Gr (formerly SBI Magnum Multiplier Fund) Rs 20,000
3. SBI Magnum MidCap Dir Fund-G Rs 20,000
4. SBI Blue Chip Fund -- Direct Plan, Growth Rs 5,000
SBI Magnum Constant Maturity Fund Direct Growth Rs 5,000

Ans: Too many funds; please continue with 1, 3, 4, 5 and 11.

Keep the lumpsums invested.

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It's great to see that you've been disciplined with your investments and have built a sizable corpus already. To assess if your current investments will help you achieve your goals of 8 crores in the next 10 years, let's take a closer look at your financial situation and goals.

Current Investments:
Mutual Funds: ~30.5 lakhs
Direct stocks: 30k
LIC policies and term insurance: Not considered for investment purposes
Bank FDs: 27 lakhs
PPF: 3 lakhs
Total: ~60.5 lakhs
Monthly SIP investments: ~45k
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Children's marriage and education: 2 crores
Buying a home: 2 crores
Retirement life (in 10 years): 4 crores
Total: 8 crores
Assuming an average annual return of 12% on your equity investments, here's a rough projection of your portfolio's growth:

Current investments (60.5 lakhs) in 10 years: ~1.87 crores
Monthly SIPs (45k) in 10 years: ~1.05 crores
Total: ~2.92 crores
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Reassess your goals: Consider if your goals are realistic and if there's any flexibility in the amounts or timelines.
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