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Personality Development Expert, Career Coach - Answered on May 01, 2024

Ashwini Dasgupta is a personality development coach and a neuro-linguistic programming trainer.
She has 15 years of experience training corporate professionals and has worked at Amazon, JP Morgan, Nomura and Satyam among others.
As a career coach, Ashwini specialises in helping growth-minded IT corporate managers develop their self-worth and create the right mindset so that they can achieve their career goals.
Besides corporate training, she offers personal consultations as well.
Ashwini holds a master’s degree in human resources from the Narsee Monjee Institute of Management Studies, Mumbai, and is a certified NLP trainer from the National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA.
She has completed her soft skills training and image consultancy course from the Image Consulting Business Institute, Mumbai
Ashwini is also a PoSH trainer, certified by the Society for Human Resource Management.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 19, 2024Hindi
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I am working for more than 12 years and does not have a clarity on my experience. I have been into multiple LOB due to financial concerns and there was no one to provide guidance about the career path and career growth. I have been rejected by employers due to age factor and want to pursue a career in AML/KYC/Compliance. People often talk about the difficulty in clearing certification courses which makes me feel deflated and feel like I cannot proceed ahead. Please guide how I can avoid all and have a fruitful career

Ans: Dear Sir/ Madam,

Please look into the following aspects

Clarify Your Goals- take some time to understand what is your interest. Identify your strengths, interests and now consider them aligning it with AML/ KYS / Compliance or any other. Have focus. It's good to hear other's opinions at the end you have to deep dive and see what you want to do.

Look for a mentor or guidance in the area of your interest. For example if you are keen to pursue AML/ KYC and Compliance then look for someone from the same industry who can guide you better and what steps you need to take to prepare yourself to get the success and clear the exams.

Secondly age is something we can not anything about instead focus on the skills you bring on the table.

Increase your networking and connections this should help you land where to aim to.

Mostly important be positive and focussed. People are going to speak out their opinions the only thing you can do is make a choice and stick to that.

Hope this helps

Thanks and Regards
Ashwini Dasgupta
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