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IIT-JEE, NEET-UG, SAT, CLAT, CA, CS Exam Expert - Answered on Jul 11, 2023

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yadnya Question by yadnya on Jun 04, 2023Hindi
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Hi i always wanted to be a doctor so i tried to crack neet but my parents not allowed to do drop so along with bsc i am prepared for neet but at last do to both college and neet exam come together i tried hard eventually score higher then previous attempt but didn't able to give my hundred percent now i will. Be 20 in in next four months also in last year of bsc though i never really paid intrest to bsc i always scored high in it but i always wanted to crack neet now i feel like failure ,started self doubt ,spent days just on crying can't decide one what i want while everyone go ahead i feel like stuck i am losing my confidence ,intrest in life i see no hope now can you guide me as each day feel like suffering all say they are supporting me do whatever you want but i feel very low i started doubting myself please tell me something

Ans: Yadnya,
stop feeling negative about yourself. There are phases in life and you have to come out of it strong. If you are really interested in becoming a doctor only then why not you try exploring the MBBS from abroad? Since NEXT is going to be compulsory for both Indian & Foreign students. It won't affect you.

In India there is cut-throat competition for medical seats plus the fees of private medical colleges are very high.
Try talking to your parents openly and make them understand your state of mind and your passion. I think they will understand you. If you need any help further you can contact me.
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Sir as i do partial drop with bsc i decided to give my third attempt in last but at end 3 months before my exams i feel ill ,my both college exam and this exam come college exam finish exactly 1 day ago i am always a topper in school ,college but i feel like devested i am 19 soon to be 20 i know i can't give my 100 percent but i feel like dead now getting depressed as my brother ,sister get their respective dream college i am still struggling i feel like a lost ,failure ,directionless ,defeated daily i feel like miserable althought it not my fault I feel bad like how miserable i become because of that i can't even focus a single thing i even started eating less food ,locking myself ,silence nobody is mocking me but i feel like i lost myself how should I will be successful again Being doctor is my always dream ,i standup on my own 2 times but now i feel like devested can you please tell me how to get harmony and again in my life and be successful
Ans: I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way, but I can offer some guidance and support to help you regain your motivation and find success again.

Recognize that setbacks are normal: It's important to understand that setbacks and challenges are a part of life. Many successful individuals have faced failures before achieving their goals. It's essential to see this phase as a temporary setback rather than a reflection of your worth or abilities.

Take care of your mental and physical health: Your well-being should be your top priority. Make sure you're getting enough sleep, eating nutritious meals, and engaging in regular exercise. Taking care of your physical health can positively impact your mental well-being and help you regain focus and motivation.

Seek support: Talk to someone you trust about your feelings. It could be a family member, friend, or a professional counselor. Sharing your emotions can provide relief and help you gain a fresh perspective on your situation. Additionally, professional guidance can assist you in developing coping strategies and setting realistic goals.

Set small, achievable goals: Rather than overwhelming yourself with the pressure of becoming successful immediately, break down your ultimate goal of becoming a doctor into smaller, manageable steps. Celebrate each milestone you achieve, no matter how small. This will help you stay motivated and build momentum.

Learn from your experiences: Reflect on the challenges you've faced and the mistakes you've made. Use them as opportunities for growth and learning. Understand that setbacks can provide valuable lessons that contribute to future success. Embrace a growth mindset that sees failures as stepping stones toward improvement.

Rediscover your passion: Reconnect with your love for becoming a doctor. Remember why you initially pursued this dream and the impact you hope to make in people's lives. Reignite your passion by researching inspiring stories, engaging in related activities, or volunteering in healthcare settings.

Develop a routine and study plan: Establish a structured routine that includes dedicated study time. Break down your syllabus into manageable portions and create a study plan to cover all the necessary topics. Consistency and discipline will help you regain focus and make progress toward your goals.

Celebrate your strengths: Acknowledge your past achievements and the strengths that have helped you succeed in the past. Remind yourself of your abilities and the qualities that make you unique. Cultivating a positive self-image can boost your confidence and motivation.

Stay positive and resilient: Avoid dwelling on negative thoughts or comparing yourself to others. Remember that everyone has their own journey, and success comes at different times for different people. Maintain a positive outlook, even during challenging times, and believe in your ability to overcome obstacles.

Take breaks and practice self-care: It's important to take breaks and engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Engage in hobbies, spend time with loved ones, or engage in mindfulness practices like meditation or yoga. Self-care is essential for maintaining a healthy balance in life.

Remember, success is a journey, and setbacks are part of the process. Stay resilient, believe in yourself, and keep moving forward. With determination, perseverance, and the right support, you can regain your harmony, rediscover your path, and achieve your dreams.

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Hi mam i give neet with partial drop three times i always wanted to be a doctor in my whole family my brother and sister get their desired colleges i am not jealous of them but i sometimes feel neglected then i worked hard on my dreams as at my third attempt as i give at three months before it my final exam of college of other subject start i can't even quit that because i fear my family disappointment then i didn't able to give my 100 fully that makes me satisfied i feel so depressed that i didn't have courage to check marks while everyone is celebrating their success i feel lost can't i feel complete one good dream for myself all my family support me to do whatever you want but i can't decide i feel like tragiec the faith all i have put in myself feel like useless i crave to be success do something for my own but i can't known that such thing occur unexpectedly i feel depressed and my family think i am just doing because to gain their attention ,i keep unnessary exceptions from me ,is it crime to keep big dream althought i worked hard but it didn't take outi feel like lost all how can I get up and achieve something feel proud of myself
Ans: Dear Yadnya,
Dream Big and never be afraid to Fail. Most often, we are told that failure is not an option. Failure when accepted as a part of life, then loses power over us.
1. Never become attached to the outcome so that fear does not play in your mind
2. Understand that We win some and Lose some and losing does not mean all is lost
3. Draw a clear plan to achieve your goal
4. Work on your state of mind for optimum performance
5. Develop hobbies outside of studies that can support you have a positive outlook on a daily basis
6. Family and friends are your best support system, so talk to them regularly about your challenges to enable them to support you

Smile and dream big again; tomorrow is another new day.

All the best!

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Hi, We will be having 15 Lakhs in hand by April 3rd week and can hold for next 3 years as we are planning to build a house at a tier 2 city - Coimbatore because I don't believe in flats system for a longer run as I am skeptical on the Uds and re-construction in the future. Also, monthly we can invest 15k in mutual funds and 80k for which we have decided to go for RD (conservative approach). Some of the apps are providing attractive offers to get higher FD returns from small finance banks (Ujjivan and North East Sf bank etc) , should we invest or to stick with HDFC and ICICI banks. Provide us a mix of plan (debt, equity and FD if possible) for 15 lacs and time horizon is 3 years. Thanks for your help!
Ans: Your approach is well thought out. You have a clear goal and a conservative mindset for short-term funds. Since the time frame is only three years, capital protection is the priority. Equity is not recommended for short durations due to volatility. A balanced mix of debt, FD, and liquid instruments will be suitable.

Allocation Strategy
Fixed Deposits (FDs) – 50% (Rs. 7.5 Lakhs)

Large banks like HDFC, ICICI, and SBI are safer for significant amounts.

Small finance banks offer higher interest, but risk levels are slightly higher.

Consider splitting FD amounts across large banks and reputed small finance banks.

Prefer banks with high credit ratings and check premature withdrawal terms.

Debt Mutual Funds – 30% (Rs. 4.5 Lakhs)

Choose high-quality short-duration funds with low credit risk.

Avoid long-duration debt funds as they are sensitive to interest rate changes.

Ensure the fund has a stable past record and consistent returns.

Ultra Short-Term/Liquid Funds – 20% (Rs. 3 Lakhs)

Suitable for flexibility and better returns than savings accounts.
Provides liquidity in case of urgent requirements.
Low risk compared to other debt instruments.
Monthly Investment Plan
Recurring Deposit (RD) – Rs. 80,000 per month

A conservative option ensuring stability.

Good for funds that need to be available within 3 years.

Choose banks offering competitive interest rates.

Mutual Fund SIP – Rs. 15,000 per month

Prefer actively managed equity funds for long-term wealth creation.
Avoid index funds due to lack of active risk management.
Opt for a mix of flexi-cap and mid-cap funds.
Small Finance Banks vs Large Banks
Small finance banks like Ujjivan and North East offer higher FD rates.
They are safe under Rs. 5 lakh due to DICGC insurance.
If investing above Rs. 5 lakh in such banks, evaluate their financial health.
For higher safety, prefer top private and PSU banks.
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Interest from FDs and RDs is taxable as per your income slab.
Debt fund gains are taxed based on your income slab.
Plan withdrawals strategically to reduce tax burden.
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Capital protection should be the priority for short-term funds.
Diversify into FDs, debt funds, and liquid funds.
Invest in small finance banks cautiously.
Continue SIPs for long-term wealth creation.
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Ans: I understand that you are going through a difficult time in your marriage. Relationships have ups and downs, and long-term conflicts can create emotional distress. However, before making any major decisions, I encourage you to reflect deeply on the situation.

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Communication is Key – Have you tried open and honest communication with your spouse? Sometimes, expressing feelings calmly can help in resolving misunderstandings.
Professional Help – Marriage counseling or relationship therapy can provide guidance and help both partners understand each other better.
Impact on Children – Your children observe and absorb the environment at home. A peaceful and respectful atmosphere will shape their emotional well-being.
Seeking Happiness Outside Marriage – Instead of looking for temporary relief outside the marriage, try to work on improving the current relationship. If separation feels necessary, it should be done with mutual understanding and respect.
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Practice meditation to calm your mind and gain clarity.
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Try couple’s yoga or activities that promote bonding.
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Hi, I m a 37 year old professional. I want to save for a corpus of 5 Cr in next 15-20 Years. I am presently invested in equity and LIC. What should I change pls advice. 6.5 lakhs already invested in 15 stocks Indus ind, IDFC first, Yes bank, GMM f, orient cem, Niacl, DB Realty, Athenaglo, sail, Hcc, Bombay dyeing, DCAL, Ovi eke foods, igl, EaseMyTrip, somatex, Bajaj hind sugar. Also have 14 lakhs in LIC ULIP AND 1.5 lakhs in ICICI SIGNATURE PLAN AND 1 lakh in DSP NIFTY madcap 150 quality 50 Kindly advise. Currently investing 25k per month, planning to do a step up 10% sip every year.
Ans: You are on the right track, but some changes will improve your wealth creation strategy.

Here’s a step-by-step approach to help you achieve your Rs. 5 crore target in 15-20 years.

Equity Portfolio Assessment
You have Rs. 6.5 lakh in 15 stocks. This is a highly scattered portfolio.

Many of your stocks are small-cap and volatile. Some lack strong financials or growth potential.

Too many stocks reduce focus and make it difficult to track performance.

Reduce the number of stocks to 8-10 strong businesses with consistent growth.

Focus more on large-cap and quality mid-cap companies.

Exit weak, low-growth, or speculative stocks and reinvest in quality businesses.

Mutual Fund Investments
Your current SIP of Rs. 25,000 is a good start.

A step-up SIP of 10% yearly will help you reach your goal faster.

However, your only mutual fund holding is a DSP Nifty Midcap 150 Index Fund.

Index funds do not outperform in all market cycles.

Actively managed mutual funds give better flexibility and higher returns in long-term investing.

Shift to a well-diversified mix of actively managed large-cap, mid-cap, small-cap, and flexi-cap funds.

Invest in 3-4 high-quality mutual funds with experienced fund managers.

This will help in better risk-adjusted returns than a single midcap index fund.

LIC and ULIP Investments
You have Rs. 14 lakh in LIC ULIP and Rs. 1.5 lakh in ICICI Signature Plan.

Investment-cum-insurance products like ULIPs have high charges and low returns.

The annual cost and fund management fees eat into returns.

Consider surrendering these policies and reinvesting in mutual funds for better growth.

Use pure term insurance instead of investment-linked insurance plans.

SIP Step-up Strategy
Your step-up plan of 10% yearly is a good strategy.

Ensure discipline in increasing the SIP each year.

Automate your SIPs to avoid missing any investments.

If you get any bonus or extra income, invest that in lump sum for faster corpus growth.

Debt Allocation for Stability
A 100% equity portfolio is risky, especially as your corpus grows.

Slowly add debt investments like short-term bonds, SDLs, or target maturity funds after 10 years.

A small allocation (10-20%) will help reduce volatility closer to your goal year.

Tax Efficiency and Withdrawal Planning
Long-term capital gains (LTCG) above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term gains (STCG) are taxed at 20%.

Plan redemptions smartly to minimise tax impact.

Use SWP (Systematic Withdrawal Plan) post-retirement for tax-efficient withdrawals.

Final Insights
Reduce your direct stock holdings and focus on quality businesses.

Move from index funds to actively managed mutual funds for better returns.

Surrender low-return ULIPs and reinvest in equity mutual funds.

Stick to your step-up SIP strategy for compounding benefits.

Add some debt allocation in later years for portfolio stability.

Review and rebalance your portfolio every year.

Following this disciplined approach will help you reach your Rs. 5 crore goal efficiently.

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