Dear Mayank, I am facing a peculiar dilemma regarding one of my subordinates. I recently got to know that the individual in question is operating a manufacturing business on the side in his spouse's name. Should I bring this information to the notice of the Management?

Ans: Dear Kumar,
So revenge? What is your intention?
To gain her attention by maligning her? Do you think a woman is going to like a man who runs after vengeance? And what is her fault in this? Who she is close to is her business.
Whether she is married or not while she is close to anyone, is not open to judgement.
You feel spurned and that does not mean you go around hurting her to feel better.
Kindly, put this to rest and move on with life. Please deal with your insecurities and jealousies. It's not her problem; it's yours!
Best wishes for a better mind space!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Obviously, this is not something that you want to put up with.
2 ways of approaching this:
1. Wait it out; don't say a word about it to him... Very difficult, but as the fling attraction stops, the affair will stop as well. (Maybe he doesn't deserve this BUT it's up to you)
2. Give him an ultimatum; which means you take a bold step of stepping out in case he does not change. (Again this is up to you as it's not easy taking this decision)

See which of the two is something that can work for you. You could also try and involve someone trustworthy who can talk to him out of it. Do this only as long as you trust the person.

All the best!
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