Hello Madam. I had qualified the CA final exam in 2016 in 2nd attempt. Thereafter I immediately started preparing for UPSC CSE. Exhausted all attempts in UPSC with no success. Can you guide about suitable career opportunities for me other than government exams?

Ans: What you have described is not a small marital conflict—it is a serious breach of trust, emotional safety, and dignity.
Let’s look at this with clarity, not emotion alone.
You entered this marriage with hesitation, fear, and eventually honesty. You disclosed something deeply personal, and importantly, something that involved lack of consent. In a healthy partnership, that moment should have been met with empathy, protection, and maturity. Instead, it was met with judgment, withdrawal, and later, humiliation. That is not a difference of opinion—that is a failure of emotional responsibility.
At the same time, your husband’s conduct shows a clear pattern of double standards. He withheld his own past, avoided transparency, and yet demanded complete disclosure from you. When he later accused and defamed you, despite his own undisclosed history, it indicates not confusion but control and moral inconsistency.
Your decision to look into his past did not arise in isolation. It came after sustained emotional distress, repeated accusations, and a breakdown of trust. In such circumstances, people seek evidence not out of curiosity, but out of a need to anchor themselves in reality. So no, it was not ideal—but it was understandable. More importantly, it is not the central issue.
The central issue is this:
You are in a relationship where your vulnerability has been used against you, your character has been questioned, and your emotional needs have been consistently disregarded.
Also note his behavioral responses—avoidance, verbal aggression, solo travel without communication, maintaining explicit material from past relationships, and involving his parents in a way that damages your dignity. These are not isolated incidents. They reflect emotional immaturity, lack of accountability, and poor boundaries.
So the real question is not “Was I wrong?”
The real question is: Is this a relationship that offers mutual respect, psychological safety, and the possibility of repair?
Marriage can survive difficult truths, even past experiences—but only when both partners are willing to engage with honesty, empathy, and accountability. At present, there is no indication that he is willing to do that.
Before taking any decision, it would be wise to step back and stabilise yourself emotionally. Consider individual counselling, not to fix the marriage, but to regain clarity and strength. If there is any attempt to continue this relationship, it must involve structured intervention—such as couples therapy—with clear expectations around respect, truthfulness, and boundaries.
But equally, you must allow yourself to acknowledge a difficult possibility:
Sometimes, the issue is not what went wrong in the marriage.
It is whether the person you are with is capable of sustaining a healthy one.
You were not wrong for having a past.
You were not wrong for telling the truth.
And you are not wrong for expecting dignity in your marriage.

Ans: Hi Shyamal
ECE at NIT- Jaipur is possible. You will get CSE in DTU & IIITD

Ans: IIITs possible hai, Tier-1 k alawa. NITs milenge par north east k. Good branches are not possible.

Ans: Hello
IIT-Delhi Admissions are done based on JEE-Advanced.

Ans: Hi
it seems possible in NITs of northeast, PEC, chandigarh. Maximum IIITs are possible leaving Tier-1.

Ans: HI ANKIT,
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POSSIBLE, BUT A BIT DIFFICULT. JUST FOLLOW UP THE NFSU ADMISSION PORTAL FOR FURTHER DETAILS.

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Ans: Hello Sir
NITs and IIITs are not possible at this rank.

Ans: Hello Sudarsan
these branches are possible only in NITs of northeast, or Andhra. And in Ghani Khan Choudhary Institute of Engineering and Technology, Malda, West Bengal in JOSAA rounds.

Ans: Hi
at this percentile, it's very difficult to get these branches