Hello sir/mam My age is 24 years I have completed my Bsc(MECS) In the year of 2021 Later i completed my MBA in marketing in september (2023) While working as a manager in Fitness industry Taking on responsibilities of sales & operations, During the same time period ,as a means to support myself and family financially to an extent Reason for doing mba instead of mca , i was not sure ,if i would go work in IT ,so, i did my mba with plans of doing course from outside, if i ended up switching Currently i have completed 2.6 years in my current role, I feel like ,i am stuck,burnt out, I am planning for a switch in my career But ,i am confused between IT, & Non IT My friends are suggesting me to do DEVops, which requires me to learn coding language Some are saying to go for Businesses Analysts, as you are a very good communicator, and it requires very less coding I am confused on what should i do Should i switch to IT, If i do ,what are the challenges,that i need to overcome, Are there any other roles which i can try for ,based on my qualifications I am currently earning a salary of 25k per month plus incentives which varies on monthly basis

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are not overthinking. Wanting privacy about your relationship is a reasonable boundary. His friendship might be older than your marriage, your consent to share sensitive information which involves you still applies. And friendship and marriage are two different things, and each has its own place.

The best solution to this situation is to have a conversation, the right time, right place and right way. Pick a time when both of you are calm and relaxed. Frame the conversation around trust, not control. If it sounds like you are asking him to choose marriage over friendship, he might get defensive. So, highlight your emotional safety instead of sounding accusatory that he is making you feel a certain way. Be specific about your boundaries: bedroom talks are off limits, or personal insecurities should not be shared outside of the marriage. Everyone needs someone to vent to, and talking to friends is okay, but not when it makes your partner uncomfortable. Acknowledge that he needs to talk to someone about things, but remain firm about your boundaries. If he still brushes it off, let him know that joking about your private matters hurt your deeply. If nothing else works, I really suggest marriage counseling. Sometimes people need to hear the hard things from others, instead of their partner, to understand it's validity.

Hope this helps.