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William Question by William on May 26, 2023Hindi
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Hi sir. My daughter is 25 years old. She is Mass Media Graduate & done a Masters course in Photography. She wants to pursue career in Photography but not finding suitable job. She has left few jobs in last one year due to her aloof nature & relationship problems. She has low self esteem due to this & sliping into depression. What can be done?

Ans: Dear William,
Expectations v/s Reality

The nature of jobs like the one your daughter wants to do is not like a regular 9-5 job that is mostly predictable. A career in Photography means freelancing, shadowing an expert, willingness to absorb failure as a part of life, watch and wait games, over-demanding work schedules and superiors...
Does she have the mindset for this? If NO, and she is adamant about Photography as a career, she must develop a mindset that will support that career. Otherwise, everyday is going to be a struggle.

If she expects life to somewhat rosy right at the beginning, the reality is vastly different and this is what is also making her aloof and self-esteem issues.
I suggest that you find a mentor who can guide her towards reality and also re-orient her mind to adapt to the nature of her career and job. This mentor must be an expert in the fields of Photography and/or Videography and/or Film-making...these fields are more less similar in terms of their demands and attributes and this person can valuably suggest on what you daughter can do to feel at ease with the reality is.

All the best!

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My 24 yr old daughter is very anxious about her career. She wants power, money, highest post. So that she is recognised by everybody in the society. As she is from Arts background for which she is regretting. And blaming parents that they have not guided her properly. If she would have taken science stream she might be doctor or engineer by which she can earn money more. Now she is preparing for bank exam. She is doing hard work. But she has closed herself in her room, windows are shut. Not interacting with parents or guests. She is taking medicine stalopam 15 and taken help of psychologist for three sitting which is incomplete. Now she is not willing to go to psychologist because psychologist has not listened to her empathically ( her version). We parents helpless donot know what is our next step. Please can you help me in this regard. Please send reply in my email if possible.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
At 24, if she is still looking for validation from the external world to create her identity, she's again setting herself up for failure. If she still thinks that money, name and fame is what is going to earn her recognition from the society, she really needs a course that will change her mindset.
As parents, kindly call out such behavior that is messing with her mind. Talk therapy or advice from home isn't going to help anymore...she hasn't had much exposure of what the outside world is like...
Every stream of education brings with it many opportunities that can be explored!
My suggestion would be for her to be part of activities, communities and the like where she will be able to interact with different people from various backgrounds...Even volunteering opportunities can give good exposure...
Now, she may not be willing to do this as she finds comfort in what she is doing by shutting herself from the outside world...again 'CALL OUT' this behavior and that you as parents don't support her self-pity tirade. Also, as parents you can become part of any community or volunteering opportunity that 'shows' her that her parents are not just preaching to her but actually living it...
Just to reiterate, do not feel sorry for her; she will thrive on that sympathy...if you want to see a change in her, then it's time to shake things up so she knows that her parents mean business...remember, she is an adult...so, treat her as one!

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