I was married 3 years before and I found that my wife had relationship with another man prior to the marriage itself. She continues physical relationship with him even after our marriage and got pregnant by him. I am unable to prove there relationship because they are very secret about this and calls him brother Infront of others. How can I come out from this marriage provided I am legally father of a child now. Please help!!

Ans: Dear Pawan,

I'm afraid I can't side with you, or your girlfriend. I could not gather from your question if you are still married or a single father, but now that your partner is married to someone else, letting her go would be the best thing. And especially so if you are no longer interested in dating her. It would be exceptionally wrong if the two of you continued your relationship even after she got married to another man. The only guidance I can offer you is to end it before more people get pulled into this and end up getting hurt.

Best Wishes!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am glad you came clean to your wife and she is helping you come out of this mess. I am sure you know this, but still, I'd like to point out that you are a lucky man to have a partner such as your wife. Focus on that.

You might be in love but you are also married and that makes your love unethical. And meditation does not help in all things, and it's a tough feat to achieve. I suggest you see a marriage counselor or seek therapy yourself. There's no shame in seeking help. You left your concerns and questions here for me, and that's seeking help too. That is a good start. Now I recommend you see a professional who can help you with structured guidance. Before your marriage falls to pieces, I highly recommend taking proactive steps. Sometimes we can't do it alone and that's when licensed therapists come in. Please think about seeing one.

Best Wishes!