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Is My Interreligious Love Ruining My Life? Seeking Support From Emotionally Drained Daughter

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 16, 2025Hindi
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after revealing my interreligious love, my parents emotionally drained me, blackmailing me, as I'm their only child(girl)... Even I went to counsellor for emotional support but nothing works, that counsellor also made me feel guilty. Religion is not a problem between us, but for my parents and relatives that's their only concern and they afraid of future generation may be changed to other religion....I believe all god is one ...I need my parents and my love ....

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Since it's not an issue of inter-religion that bothers them but what will happen to the future generation, I guess things get a bit simpler to deal with...
Confide in your parents who eventually will understand that it's their daughter who they need to be worried about and not her children as she is there to take care of her children whenever they come along. So, ask them to support you and assure them that when the children arrive, they will obviously be exposed to both faiths which is a great bonus anyway. Children born into inter-faith homes do have an advantage of knowing both faiths and with that comes a lot of maturity. Talk to them as their loving daughter; they will come around.

All the best!
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Asked on - Feb 17, 2025 | Answered on Feb 17, 2025
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But my parents don't like to follow both religion for future children. They are against inter-faith by saying society, relatives will be separated from us and they want only Christian religion for future. Me and my partner are not over religious person. My parents sometimes blackmailing me to choose them or my love.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Whose children are they going to be? Yours and your partner's right? So, should it not be the decision that the two of you make?
And hey, the kids are not even here yet? And you guys are actually squabbling over this? Seriously?

All the best!
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Asked on - Feb 18, 2025 | Answered on Feb 18, 2025
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They make me stressed out. I love my parents, as being the only child, loving someone else other than parents considered as a crime?! . According to them, relatives,and their society, giving so much freedom is the reason for my love. Relatives going to blame them, society going to make fun of them in my area. Am I thinking about only my happiness not my parents happiness!!By thinking all these, giving me a guilt...
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
My dear girl, sometimes you need to take a stand for yourself. Love happens and it isn't well-defined to fit into every person's frame of reference and it is bound to ruffle feathers. That's when you need to work on your mind and understand what this LOVE means to you and whether giving it up OR protecting it will give you peace. So, sit down and think hard. What will taking a stand give you? What will giving it up take away from you? What will either of these decisions do for you in the long run?

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Asked on - Feb 19, 2025 | Answered on Feb 22, 2025
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I need my love, that gives me happiness, trust and loyalty. The problem is my parents not accept this, they are adamant in their decision. If I choose my love, this society and the relatives made them to commit suicide , because this is the condition of my surroundings and how they grow up. If anything like that happened to my parents, how can I lead a happy life?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Sadly, you can't control anything which means you can't have things going you way all the way. Some compromises are to be made. Now, you decide how much of what you can compromise and work on to make things work for you.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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