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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on May 22, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - May 21, 2024Hindi

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Any reservations/reasons for not answering my question DTD 16/5 ? I hv tried hard to make peace with this observation over the years but hv failed. I hoped for help from u. ALSO, I hv not forgotten a relationship that failed 20+ yrs back. Why m I not able to move-on as easily as girls do or as easily as u suggest to some who ask u a question? Seriously, suggest a way to let it go.. & keep it between us only pls. Thnx.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry to have made you feel overlooked but the matter of the fact is that the previously-asked question, as you mentioned, is and was not visible to me. I would be happy to try and help you. But I need to know a little more detailed picture of your concern. But generally speaking, every individual is different. Some cope better and move on faster and some don't. It has nothing to do with gender. Since it has been 20 years, I am not sure how helpful it will be to suggest focusing on your friendships, career and other important aspects of life. I am sure you have tried them all. It might help you to see a professional counselor who can help you cope in a more structured manner. But till you make up your mind about seeking professional help, I would suggest taking baby steps. Obsessing about moving on can hinder the process too. Introspect about some things- would your life have been so much better if you hadn't lost your ex? Is your life so bad right now? Are you not worth being in love with someone who loves you back? Should you really be spending your precious time thinking about someone who's long gone? And understand that it's okay to remember your past relationship as long as you are not acting on it. Having memories is not a crime.

Hope this helps.

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Question by Raajp - Apr 20, 2023Hindi

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Hello Anu Ji, Firstly thank you very much for your valuable time and feedback on problem. Thanks for understanding me & my POV in this small conversation. After so long Its you who had read between the lines .I am really very thankful of you , that you have given me such a lovely advice. But I am bit confused. After reading mail I was really get very positive and optimistic about my decision. I read ur mail 4 times , I got a positive ray of hope with lot of confusion comes with it . You said “You are possibly still healing from your divorce and are not ready to get into another marriage.” Yes this is the question. Its almost 7 years why I can’t be able to overcome from that dilemma and trauma which I got in past . You said “First, sort your mind out and then think of another relationship” , yes another question what should I sort it down and how ? You said “ what is it that you want and want to do?” this the problem which is not letting me move on.bcoz of this I am so much confused I can’t express you in word . I am not able to understand my wants ……………there is a Cat- Rat Race from Head to heart………from Heart to head all day. In simple words its (Kashmakash). You know ……….. I also want to get married, I want a companion …partner with whom I want to share my emotions, joy’s,……..happiness….etc., I want kids , I want to go for long drives , outings , dance with my wife , and lot of other small big things in my mind, which I was not able to do in past marriage. I want someone, to whom I can share my feeling when I am low. I am strong enough to take care of myself but u know … You need someone who say’s “Don’t worry Allz be well, I am with you “. But for this I have to Trust the other person that’s the thing I Am unable to do it . I don’t know why, I don’t Trust anybody now? why I am creating a vicious circle about trust .? You said one thing very beautiful “So, if you want to stop feeling helpless, take charge of your life and do what you think is right for you” these words really touched my heart .thanks for the encouragement and the words of strength. I really need it very badly. These words give me a new direction to think and bit of strength to my POV. Please forgive me about my English language ……. I am not very good at it and may be you find few thing repetitive and irritating. Pls ignore it . Hoping that I am able convey my POV and feelings of my problem so that u can easily understand…….and on that basis you give Your valuable feedback and advice. Thanks R@@J

Ans: Dear Raaj,
Thank you for your kind words.
The follow-up questions that you have asked me requires a deep-dive introspection from you. You have very clearly and intelligently come up with these questions which is difficult to do when in a problem. But you have managed to do that. So congratulations on taking the first step!

To clarify, always clear any remnants from the previous relationship before you begin a new one. Also, any relationship including marriage is something never to be entered into to please anyone. Do this only when you are ready and there is no need to give into any pressure. Your longing for a companion is sweet but as I have mentioned, ask all these questions to yourself and reflect.
Also, ask:
- am I completely ready to commit to a marriage?
- am I carrying any fear/anger from the previous marriage?
- how will I keep my relationship with my daughter after my marriage?

And yes, the day you learn to love yourself again, you will find it easier to trust again and that's why I said: Heal first...and then think of a companion. Without that trust, you will be playing a game again and it will not end well.
Take some time off to rediscover yourself and heal. Heal by loving yourself and things will flow without you having to chase one lady after the other. Love must be effortless and not chased or forced. Take a break; fear nothing...All will be well...

All the best!

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