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NITISHA Question by NITISHA on Jan 15, 2024Hindi
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MY HUSBAND INSULTS ME

Ans: Dear Nitisha.
What is your question?
What exactly does your husband do or say that makes you feel insulted? I am sure that there is something that is not right that makes you feel the way that you do...
Do provide me that information for me to be able to guide you accordingly.

All the best!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jul 30, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 27, 2023Hindi
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Hi Anu, My husband always takes sides of his younger brother even when he is wrong. He lives in village and I go there occasionally. Once I had a fight with his brother and he sided him, leaving me in tears. After that I stopped talking to his brother and would only communicate with him when necessary. His behaviour towards me is very disrespectful. He stopped saying hello etc. I did not react. Though he did not say anything, but his behaviour towards me is very rude and disrespctful. When I told this to my husband he said that I say so many things against his brother to him so I did not deserve his brother's respect. His brother's behaviour did not hurt me as he does not matter to me. However, my husband's taking his brother's side hurt me a lot. This has always been the case. I am unable to forgive my husband for taking his brother's side and disrespecting me. Please advise me how I can tolerate my husband and avoid the hatred thoughts from my mind.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
At times, i do ponder over whether Blood is indeed thicker than water!
Since the brother lives in the village and possibly doesn't visit your home often, the best thing is to think of him as that visitor who comes once in every while when there is an occasion at home.
How do we deal with these visitors?
Do we think of them everyday and every moment?
Are we obsessed as to how each member of the family interact with them?

So, the key for you is to treat him in your mind as that visitor and bother about him only when that occasional village trip happens or when he visits. As for what your husband does with that visitor (his brother) is solely his business and not for you to dictate or plan. Because the more you are going to demand that your husband only supports you, the more he is going to fight it and become soft with his brother.
So, now are you still going to be bothered about that visitor having hurt you in the past and rob yourself of a better time now? Think about it!

All the best!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 29, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 23, 2024Hindi
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i got married late in life being a girl which was 30 years old, after i got married my so called husband started harassing me verbally and then in just three months i stayed with him he strangled me 3 times and hit me 2 times, and says sorry everytime and then repeat again according to people this is not even a thing as these things happens between married people, i was a working housewife there as i work from home being a software engineer but still this person and his mom had a lot of issues with me, And just to be in this marriage i did everything to made it work. His efforts which he say he put were he took me to honeymoon(in which he fought with me for day saying why did your brother didn't ask me which car did i will prefer) Basically this man thinks i didn't put much efforts for him in marriage that's arrange like buying things for him and according to his level ( the most irritating word for me he uses for himself, mere level ki watch nhi h, mere level k kpde nhi h, mere level ka hall nhi h). Even after marriage for 2 months he and his mom keeps on saying such things but i tried to ignore them. But how can i do that when at night my husband after my office hours end at 10'o clock starts fighting with me and keep that's up till 12. He don't even care if i eat or not but wants me to feed him with my own hands because according to him being a husband he deserves this kind of love and care from me. And says that you don't know how the world outside is he need to work with people and you just work online so that's not even work( i earn almost same as him). I did every thing washing his undergarments till placing his clothes in almirah. Providing him variety of foods, and make him enjoy a lot of sex which was the only kind of intimacy i had with this person. Even when he fought with me still he forcefully had sex because acc to him its his right and the only way to solve his fights or ruckus he has caused. So after observing his behaviour i am asking him divorce since then but he is not ready to provide me. Legally it will be a very long time, though i have started that too. i am 32 now and case will going to take many years and later even now no one will marry me at this age because i am divorcee & Also 32. What should i do?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are doing what you should do for yourself. Move away from this very toxic person and the marriage. Yes, he may contest and this can be a long drawn affair, be prepared for that.
Consult with a good lawyer who will basically be able to contest it very ably from your side and make sure that it ends fair and square.
There is no need to think of yet another marriage right now as I suggest that you give yourself some time to breathe and move out of this one. Feel your freedom, physically, emotionally and financially and heal from this one. There will be a point in time when you might feel the need for a companion...

All the best!
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