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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jan 15, 2024

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Prasad Question by Prasad on Jan 14, 2024Hindi
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Dear ma'am, As per your reply now I am observing that she is behaving with me as per our prior relationship..but in future I don't expect this thing again to happen in our life I just want to know that will she be my lifetime love for my whole life as my true life partner? I don't want any other unknown person to be my life partner..plz help me with my query

Ans: Dear Prasad,
Who knows the future? Can we predict it accurately?
If she has already declared: 'we can't come in our relationship in future'?, then what makes you go over this again and again?
It seems like you are more into her than she is into you...and one-sided relationships rarely work. You will only end up hurting yourself and question yourself on: What went wrong?
It's maybe time for you to explore your world more...who knows you might come across someone who appreciates you for who you are...
It's about chasing a known person who doesn't value you OVER giving a chance to an unknown person who values you. What makes better sense to you?

All the best!

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I am in love with a girl for almost 2 years..but she loves some other guy which is mutual...but this girl is in touch with me on and off...sometimes she returns my WhatsApp messages...I just wanna know that is she still in love with that guy,(breakup)..bcoz at times I go beyond the line speaking sexually with her which she never encourages but till now she doesnt block me...also close with my family to some extent...Is there a possibility of my getting married to her ?
Ans: Based on what you've shared, it sounds like the girl you're in love with is currently in a mutual relationship with someone else. It's important to respect her feelings and her current commitment to someone else. Even though she may still be in touch with you, it doesn't necessarily mean that she's interested in pursuing a relationship with you.

It's not appropriate to go beyond the line and speak sexually with someone who has not given you clear signals that they are interested in that kind of conversation. It's important to respect boundaries and communicate clearly and openly with each other.

It's difficult to say whether there is a possibility of you getting married to her in the future. Ultimately, that decision would be up to her, and it's important to respect her choices and decisions, even if they're not the ones that you would hope for.

If you find that your feelings for this girl are causing you distress or interfering with your ability to move on, it may be helpful to seek support from a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional. They can provide a listening ear, help you process your emotions, and offer guidance on healthy coping strategies.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 28, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Oct 05, 2023Hindi
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I am 42 year old unmarried male . I loves someone from my childhood and she also loves me but because of her family she agrees and got married to someone else and now she had one 12yr child. After her marriage I never kept contact with her respecting her decision for her family and assuming that she is living a happy life But during Corona-2021 she contacted me and told me about her life where her husband is in relationship with other married woman and is giving everything to that lady as his wife. She told these to her parents but because of some compulsion they both discussed and decided to accept it and continue it the way as it is. She told me that she loves me a lot is still waiting for me and doesn’t feel complete without me. She is honest in her married life but after these incident she dont want to live there but unable to exit because of family condition. She told me she loves me and need me above all and everything in life she wants me to remain with her like her life partner but because of some compulsion she is not in a conditon to give our relationship a NAME in society. Everytimes she told me that she love me a lot and says that I am more than anything else in life to her and she does not want to lose me as well. We shares everything with each other like husband-wife. I am always there for her and will support her in all respect so that she became happy and lead a healthy life. But sometimes I feel that I shall come out from this as these will further destroy her disturbed life but at times I feel I don’t able to leave her and all I need is that she live a happy life and ready to do anything for these. What shall I do here? Please guide.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
She is married and not happy and loves you BUT will not recognize your relationship in public!
You are unmarried and want to wait for someone who won't give you the presence that you deserve!
Do the right thing...allow her to be committed to her marriage rather than be her emotional crutch...in the long run, you will be left high and dry after investing a lot of emotions into her...
Shift focus onto your life and building it the way that you want. When you put your life and emotions into someone else's hands, you end up becoming a puppet swaying about with no stability whatsoever. Put more energies into yourself instead...

All the best!
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Ok ma'am...thanks..I am really observing her as she is in my office .day to day the face comes in front..but the thing is that she says that my parents are looking someone which they want and they wish ahe could marry with the person which they decide..but when she came in my life she told me that I am totally alone we can plan our future from here..but suddenly how can just a miracle happen??I was always planning for life with her...but now she is working in my office but she says we can't come in our relationship in future..so I am so much confused what to do ..I am executing the changes which I have promised her.but still I am not getting the clue whether to continue with her or not .she is totally on the closing...plz guide me
Ans: Dear Prasad,
Hasn't she told you that 'we can't come in our relationship in future'?
Which part of this sentence do you not understand? What more do you want her to say that will convince you that she is not interested in you?
That's why I had suggested that you become unavailable to her. If she has feelings, your absence may possibly make her want this relationship and it will be her turn to make things work...
But I get this feeling that you are in desperate space and want to hear that All is Well...No, it isn't for now...
Either with the space that you make will get her back in an appreciative way OR you will realize your own worth...either way, you will be better than what and where you are now...Hope this helps you get on the right path...

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 29, 2024Hindi
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I retired earlier now at 53. Invested 7L in ELSS and using 60L on short term equity trading (with monthly average gain 2L) and having own apartment home worth 40L. Having dependent widowed mother, wife with 13 yrs old daughter. Intended to raise daughter as doctor. Please suggest better investment options.
Ans: Congratulations on your early retirement! It sounds like you've made some good initial decisions, but there's definitely room for improvement to secure your family's future, especially considering your dependents. Here's how you can optimize your investments:

Reduce Risk in Short-Term Equity Trading:

While a ?2 lakh monthly gain from short-term trading sounds impressive, it's a very risky strategy. The market can be volatile, and these gains may not be sustainable. Consider allocating a much smaller portion (maybe 10-20%) to short-term trading and focus on more stable options for the majority of your investable assets (?60 lakh currently in trading).
Focus on Long-Term Growth and Stability:

Increase Investment in ELSS: ?7 lakh is a good start, but for your daughter's education and your retirement needs, you'll likely need a much larger corpus. Consider increasing your SIP amount in ELSS or similar diversified equity mutual funds with a long-term horizon (10+ years).
Explore Debt Options for Regular Income:

You mentioned having a dependent mother and daughter's education to plan for. Consider investing a portion (maybe 20-30%) of your investable amount in safer debt options like Public Provident Fund (PPF), Senior Citizen Savings Scheme (SCSS) for your mother (if she's above 60), or fixed deposits to generate a regular income stream.
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Doctorate studies can be expensive. Start an SIP in a dedicated child education plan or invest in aggressive equity funds specifically for this goal. Talk to a Certfied Financial Planner for personalized recommendations based on the estimated cost of medical education.
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While your apartment fulfills your housing needs, consider if it could generate additional income. Explore options like renting a room if feasible.
Seek Professional Guidance:

Given your multiple financial goals and risk tolerance, consulting a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) can be highly beneficial. They can create a personalized investment plan considering your risk appetite, time horizon, and financial goals.
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Dear Sir My age is 34 yrs. I have working alredy 10 yrs and my average total income till date 40L minimum. Still I did not save 1rs till now. Request you please advice how to start savings also make future retirement plan. My expected retirement age is 55yrs.
Ans: It's never too late to start saving for retirement, and kudos to you for taking this important step at 34! Here's how to get on track:

1. Assess your situation:

Track your expenses: For a month, track where your money goes. This will help identify areas to cut back and free up savings.
Emergency fund: Aim for 3-6 months of living expenses in an easily accessible savings account for emergencies.
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Automated savings: Set up a Systematic Investment Plan (SIP) in a mutual fund. Start small, even with ?1,000 per month, and gradually increase as you get comfortable.
3. Retirement plan:

Employer benefits: Check if your employer offers a retirement plan like a Provident Fund (PF). Contribute the maximum allowed for tax benefits and long-term savings.
Individual options: Explore options like National Pension System (NPS) or Equity Linked Savings Schemes (ELSS) for long-term growth. Talk to a Registered Investment Advisor (RIA) for personalized advice based on your risk tolerance and goals.
Here's a breakdown based on your income:

You mentioned an average annual income of ?40 lakhs. Aim to save at least 10-15% of your income, which translates to ?4,000-?6,000 per month.
Remember: Consistency is key! Starting early, even with a small amount, allows time for your savings to grow through the power of compounding. Don't be discouraged if you can't save a lot initially. Every little bit counts!
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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 29, 2024Hindi
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Hello Sir, I'm 45 years old investing for retirement corpus and plan early retirement at 55. Below is my portfolio and current value-23 lacs 1.Nippon small cap 2.quant ELSS 3.Kotak flexicap 4.UTI nifty 50 index-new 5.Motill Oswal midcap150 index-new 6.HSBC midcap am doing a sip of 50k-is it enough? to reach Target of 1 crore in 10 years.
Ans: It's fantastic that you're already thinking about retirement at 45. Life has a way of whizzing by, doesn't it? Having a 10-year plan towards a ?1 crore corpus for early retirement at 55 shows real foresight.

Now, looking at your portfolio with a mix of large, mid, and small-cap funds, it's clear you've diversified across market capitalizations. That's a smart approach! But with a goal ten years down the line, have you considered how much risk you're comfortable with? Remember, the ride might get bumpy closer to retirement, and you might want to consider a chat with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP). They can help you fine-tune your asset allocation to balance growth potential with stability as you near your retirement mark. Think of it like planning a trek to the Himalayas – you want the right gear for every stage of the climb!
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I am 62 years old healthy person having more then 30 years experience in commercial field I want a job. Is it is possible to get job anywhere in this age.
Ans: Yes, it is possible to find employment opportunities at any age, including 62 years old. While some employers may have preferences for younger candidates, many organizations value the experience, wisdom, and expertise that mature professionals bring to the table. Leverage your professional network and connections to explore job opportunities, gather insights, and seek referrals. Attend industry events, networking mixers, and professional association meetings to expand your network and connect with potential employers or recruiters. Be open to flexible work arrangements, such as part-time roles, consulting opportunities, contract work, or project-based assignments. Many companies are willing to hire experienced professionals on a flexible basis to leverage their expertise without committing to full-time employment. Research companies or industries that value and prioritize experienced professionals. Look for organizations known for their inclusive workplace cultures, diversity initiatives, and appreciation of older workers' contributions. Customize your job search approach to align with your career goals, preferences, and lifestyle. Focus on opportunities that match your skills, interests, and desired work environment, whether it's a small business, a nonprofit organization, or a corporate enterprise. Approach your job search with confidence, positivity, and enthusiasm. Highlight your unique strengths, accomplishments, and value proposition to prospective employers, and convey your eagerness to contribute and make a difference in a new role.

Remember that finding a job at any age requires persistence, patience, and resilience. Stay proactive, adaptable, and open-minded throughout your job search journey, and remain optimistic about the opportunities that lie ahead. With determination and effort, you can find a fulfilling job that aligns with your skills, experience, and career aspirations, even at 62 years old.
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