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Relationships Expert - Answered on Oct 13, 2021

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Manav Question by Manav on Oct 13, 2021Hindi
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Dear Love Guru,
Is attraction and friendship a good enough basis for a relationship?
What is love? How do I know if I am in love?
I have been dating since I was 16 and there are many times when I have liked more than one person very much.
I don’t think I am the playboy type. I know I am not out to hurt anyone, but how can I help how I feel?
I am 25 now. I have had some serious relationships but they have not got more serious. Break-ups are painful but I am able to move on.
I am wondering if there something wrong with me.
Manav

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There’s nothing wrong with you, Manav; your love life sounds like that of a normal person.

You’ve had a few serious relationships and you’re only 25.

Being able to move on is a good thing, so stop worrying needlessly.

And yes, attraction and compatibility are a good foundation for any relationship. When that bond grows strong enough that you see yourself with a person for the foreseeable future… well, that’s love!

Hope I answered your question.

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Hi,i am a 28 year old woman being at crossroads when it comes to relationships. I am one of the unluckiest souls in this universe.An old school romantic being following the philosophy of one man woman.My love life consists of numerous one sided loves,crushes,2 three year old failed long distance relationships and terminating one potential long term romance(this was also long distance)See,I would want to be in a loving and long term relationship resulting in marriage.I guess i have always dated to marry. But unfortunately, my search for that one true love is still not coming to an end. I don’t know where am i going wrong? Am i asking for too much? Because the moment i said yes or responded to their advances ,they would become way too busy and i become an option. Before i say yes,they would always court me. I have to initiate the conversations every single time. As i result i stopped looking for love and start working on myself. I don't mind being single forever and skip marriage.I know there's something wrong in my apporach. Just tell me where am i going wrong?
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There's nothing wrong with your approach but I want to share a piece of advice that might help you in your dating journey. Instead of approaching relationships with the sole intention of finding a life partner, consider dating for the sake of love and happiness. Not every person you meet will be your soulmate, and that's perfectly okay. Sometimes, we need to experience a few heartbreaks and failed relationships before finding the right one. I appreciate that you have started focusing on yourself, but that does not mean you have to stop looking for a companion. Both are not mutually exclusive. And it's sad but some men indeed lose their interest in a woman as soon as the "chase" is over. But the good news is, it is only some men, not all.

I say stop looking for a man to settle down with because that might lead to compromises to make the relationship work. Instead, find a man who makes you happy. Enjoy the process of dating and evaluate the individual based on genuine compatibility and shared happiness.

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