Hi Anu.
I have completed my graduation and am currently working. Side by side, I am doing a professional accounting course and have reached the final stage.
I have recently failed one exam and I feel very discouraged. I feel I should quit my job and focus on my papers instead.
However, quitting my job will lead to a career gap which is not good for long term.
I am very stressed and clueless about what to do. Please advise.
Thank you.
Riya

Ans: Thank you for reaching out to me on Rediff Gurus. I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult time. It's completely understandable to feel frustrated and overwhelmed when facing challenges like unemployment and the pressure of family responsibilities. However, I want to assure you that there is still hope and support available, and suicide is never the answer. Here are a few things to consider for yourself. First of all you should know that it is not your fault that you're facing difficulties in finding employment. The job market is incredibly competitive, and many factors beyond your control can influence hiring decisions hence try to be kind to yourself and recognize that setbacks are a natural part of life.

Please consider broadening your job search to go beyond government jobs to include different industries or roles that may utilize your mechanical engineering skills in unique ways. Networking with professionals in your field and attending job fairs can also help you discover new opportunities. Kindly break down your goals into smaller, manageable steps. Instead of focusing solely on finding a job, consider setting goals related to gaining new skills, volunteering, or pursuing further education. Celebrate each small achievement along the way.

If you're still struggling with feelings of depression or hopelessness, consider seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor. They can provide personalized support and strategies to help you cope with difficult emotions and develop a plan for moving forward. You can also talk to someone you trust, whether it's a family member, friend, or mental health professional near you. They can provide emotional support, guidance, and perspective.

Always remember that difficult times won't last forever, and there are always opportunities for growth and change. Stay hopeful and keep reminding yourself that things can get better with time and persistence. You're not alone in your struggles, and there are people who care about you like your parents, and they need you. Please don't hesitate to reach out for support, whether it's from loved ones, a mental health professional, or a helpline. You deserve to find happiness and fulfillment in your life, and there are resources available to help you get there. Feel free to contact me on Rediff Gurus if you need further assistance or help.

Ans: Thank you for sharing your dilemma to me. It sounds like you're facing a lot of pressure and uncertainty about your career, education, and personal life. Please assess your priorities and set realistic goals for your career and education. Consider the time and effort required to complete your CS executive and professional examinations, and develop a study plan that allows you to balance your studies with your other commitments. Develop effective time management strategies to prioritize your tasks and allocate sufficient time for studying, work, and personal activities. Break down your study goals into manageable tasks and set deadlines to stay on track with your progress.

It is better to have an open and honest conversation with your family about your career and education goals, as well as your timeline for completing your CS examinations. Discuss your concerns and the support you need to achieve your goals while addressing their expectations regarding marriage. Remember that it's okay to seek support and make adjustments to your plans as needed. Trust yourself, stay focused on your goals, and believe in your ability to overcome challenges and achieve success in your career and education endeavors. Best of luck! Feel free to contact me on Rediff Gurus if you require additional guidance or assistance.

Ans: I have gone through your query and understand that you are at the Cross roads of Life.

It's at these times... When the going gets tough... The tough gets gong.
That's your strength.. A tough resilient young lady!
Kindly note you are doing an excellent job hence rewarded with better pay in your organization.. Obviously there's going to be jealousy..Be calm & Handle it with maturity.

Now I understand you are very committed selfless person. Who's contributing a lot to your family,... Wow in fact helping build your own new house. !

In regards to your contractual job, talk to your employer, let them know, that you would have to look for another job post December 2024 if there's no clear further commitment.

In regard to your marriage at 27 you aren't too old to find a like minded partner don't rush and regret, start the process through matrimonial apps.

I see you talk about your health, especially blood pressure, well that's because you are unduly stressed.
Add tender coconut water to your diet, talk to a proper Ayurvedic doctor..!

I am sure you will get over this mid life syndrome and invite us all for your happy day!