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Riya Question by Riya on Jan 04, 2022Hindi
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Hi Anu.
I have completed my graduation and am currently working. Side by side, I am doing a professional accounting course and have reached the final stage.
I have recently failed one exam and I feel very discouraged. I feel I should quit my job and focus on my papers instead.
However, quitting my job will lead to a career gap which is not good for long term.
I am very stressed and clueless about what to do. Please advise.
Thank you.
Riya

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Dear Riya,

Failure is only feedback. Understand what fell short while studying for the examination. Was it stress or anxiety or lack of time or simply no planning?

When you work and study, it is imperative that you manage time very well.

1. Clearly state what your goal is; break it down into mini daily goals.

2. Have a timeline for each mini goal.

3. Visualise the way you will achieve these mini goals on a daily basis.

4. Follow your visualisation strictly.

5. Pat yourself on your back every day after achieving all your mini goals.

If this doesn’t work, simply check why you are pursuing this course on the side.

If you do not have a compelling answer, you may want to ask yourself if you truly want to pursue the course or change it altogether or only focus on your career for the time being.

Whatever you come up with, remember to enjoy yourself even if it means studies…

All the best and a Happy 2022!

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Sir, I am 27 years old, Single. Its been 2 years + I am doing private 3 years project contractual job this contractual job.its going to complete in Dec 31st 2024. I gave Ctet teacher exam but i failed 3 time. But i m not focusing in State tet so, i want focus but in market lots of content and i dont have gude what shall i do. I am not happy with my current job. This job changes me alot in my caracter now, i cant sleep properly because if this job will finished what shall i do, till yet i have not creck any exam. And if i go in market i started to forgot ex:- After giving money i forgot to take back, after giving money i forgot to take things sometime. My age also gainig if want to marry so, i have earned money or save money i have to bear all expenses because my parents financially poor if I want save, same time i need to look my younger brother study expenses i need to bear and family running mantainance and also have EMI loans need to pay and also i am helping my parents to build their house with my own money my parents does not have money for my marriage. Now i have overthinking, depression, fear, feeling lossing confident, my dream job also get critical in this situation what shall i do. In office also staff try to polling down because i am getting higher salary what shall i do. For this reason just resently my health conditions because worse my pressure 139 felt vomit feel dizzy. What shall I do now Sir.
Ans: I have gone through your query and understand that you are at the Cross roads of Life.

It's at these times... When the going gets tough... The tough gets gong.
That's your strength.. A tough resilient young lady!
Kindly note you are doing an excellent job hence rewarded with better pay in your organization.. Obviously there's going to be jealousy..Be calm & Handle it with maturity.

Now I understand you are very committed selfless person. Who's contributing a lot to your family,... Wow in fact helping build your own new house. !

In regards to your contractual job, talk to your employer, let them know, that you would have to look for another job post December 2024 if there's no clear further commitment.

In regard to your marriage at 27 you aren't too old to find a like minded partner don't rush and regret, start the process through matrimonial apps.

I see you talk about your health, especially blood pressure, well that's because you are unduly stressed.
Add tender coconut water to your diet, talk to a proper Ayurvedic doctor..!

I am sure you will get over this mid life syndrome and invite us all for your happy day!

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Hello Sir/Ma’am, I needed some genuine advice for getting a grab on my career. I am currently working as an 'Accountant' in a CA firm. Since passing my school, I wanted to become a Chartered Accountant. I pursued this course jn tje year 2018 along side my graduation in B.com (Hons.) . I cleared the CA Foundation exam November 2018 attempt but I have been struggling to clear CA Intermediate exams since the year 2019. Meanwhile, I completed my MBA (Finance) from distance and got a job in a CA firm but the salary is not promising. As I started to prepare for my CA exams again, I took a leave for 3 months from my office for the upcoming CA Inter exams in January 2025. Now the problem is that while I was focusing on my exam preparation, I had to urgently attend a crucial personal matter. This was regarding my marriage. I had to introduce my family to my boyfriend's. Since my boyfriend os much older, his.parents want me to get married to him.as soon as possible. Me , my boyfriend and my family however handled this situation and asked his parents to wait until January 2025. Ever since then I am not able to focus on my studies as I used to. I know the situation is difficult but it is my dream to become a CA. Could you please help me to bring back my focus ?
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1) Change Your Mindset. Accept that life disruptions arise and your focus may wander during personal struggles. Remember that you can recover. Reclaim Your Purpose: Recall why getting a CA is important for your career. 2) Make a Flexible Study Plan. Adjust your study regimen to maximize time given your exam and personal obligations. 3) 12) Focus Methods
Pomodoro Method: Focused 25-minute sessions with 5-minute breaks.
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4) Daily Study Goals: Break concepts into manageable parts. Set aside 3–4 hours for dedicated study daily. 5) Focus on Weaknesses: Study subjects you've difficulty with. Practice with prior papers and simulated examinations to simulate the real exam. 6) Utilize Support: Talk to your family and boyfriend about your problems. Their understanding and support can reduce emotional stress.
7) Mentors and Study Groups: Attend a CA study group or hire a mentor for help and accountability.
8) If possible try to avail the services of professional coaching or counseling to manage your stress and focus. 9) Address Distractions. Define limits: Inform both families of your study regimen and exam relevance. Digital detox: Limit social media and other digital distractions that lower productivity.
10) Mental Health and Self-Care. Physical Health: Exercise and a balanced diet improve attention.
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12) Planning Marriage: Make sure both families support your marriage timeline and job goals.

With careful planning and support, CA preparation, work, and personal life can be balanced. Focus on each day and remember that long-term ambitions are worth the short-term sacrifices.

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