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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 30, 2024
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Hey...i am 25F and i am dating a guy 3 year younger than me we met online and he is all that i want on paper and he loves me so much go lengths for me i can feel his love but i don't feel the same for him i do care about him but not getting those butterflies for him i something thinks he is immature still and i don't wanna hurt him what to do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Sometimes, things look better on paper than in reality. You might have had a list and he checks almost all the boxes but that does not mean there is chemistry between the two of you. I understand your dilemma but I would strongly suggest letting him go if you don't love him the way he does. I am sure you would agree that he deserves better. You do not have to be brutally honest about it. You can just be kind and let him know that things are not working out the way you thought they would and it is completely a "you issue" and not on him at all. Do not gaslight him into breaking up or try any other juvenile techniques. This is the best way to part ways.

Best Wishes.

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Hi. I am female. I got attracted to this male. But it is not that much enough to fall in love. My friends thought that we will make a good pair. They kinda told me that he was in love with me for past one year. Due to the workplace he didnt reciprocate and to the close dates of my resignation due to my friends i told him that we can talk like a friends and we have to go with the flow. As of now we are talking and he is good. But still i am in dilemma. Due to my fear i told him that we wont work out and i stopped the conversation. But after some days he iniated the conversation and started to develop like a general talk. Later i told him that i liked him partially but not fully. He said that he will wait till i become comfortable. I dont have the oppurtunity to go out with him we are completely in chatting only. Sometimes i feel happy to chat with him but sometimes i dont feel anything i just feel numb. This is the first time for me in all the stuff. I told about this to my brother he didnt liked him. He know about my msgs and everything. But sometimes i think that i need better person than him but sometimes i need him. So what should i do?
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Seems like you are not quite in love with this person. Not everyone experiences love at first sight. Some love stories grow over time. You can try spending some more time with him and see where it goes. But if you are not satisfied with how strongly you feel for him or if you continue to feel that you deserve better, I strongly recommend giving it a thought. You don't want to settle for less out of peer pressure. And it would not be right to drag him and give him hope, especially since he has feelings for you.

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Understanding Index Funds and ETFs
Index Funds: These passively replicate an index like NIFTY 50 or SENSEX. They aim to match the market’s performance, not beat it.

ETFs (Exchange Traded Funds): Similar to index funds but trade like stocks on exchanges. They require a Demat account.

Disadvantages of Index Funds and ETFs
Limited Returns Potential
Index funds and ETFs only track the market.
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No Protection in Market Downturns
Index funds replicate the index, so they fall equally during market downturns.
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Index funds follow pre-set rules, ignoring company-specific fundamentals.
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ETFs may seem cost-effective but involve additional brokerage and Demat account charges.
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