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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 05, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 01, 2024Hindi
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Hello Anu Ji, I have cheated by one of my friend for almost 2 lakh rupees Plus i have my own personal loan of nearly 4 Lakhs in addition i have debt of nearly 3 lakh rupees of credit cards every thing was going well until jan 2024, suddenly i lost my job 2 months back. Now due to heavy loan bank people keeps calling me for repayment. I am under lot of pressure and think of ending my life some times. what should i do in this situation

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's time to buckle up NOW!
Stop all wasteful expenditure first...
Clear pending bills by selling immovable properties/other investments if any.
Also, if it is possible to invite a trusted friend/relative who can help you plan on how to get you out of this, that will be a good thing to do...
Ending your life is only giving up...hold on, seek help and people are willing to step in. Be graceful to whoever is willing to help you to plan on easing this mess and promise to make it up to them when things get better for you...AND keep this promise...
The future can be bright BUT only if you take the right steps now to ensure that...
Push on and keep at it...it's a phase that you are going through; it will ease!

All the best!
Asked on - Mar 05, 2024 | Answered on Mar 08, 2024
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Thanks for the Answer. Started doing exactly the same as you said. And i am not going to end my life anyway.....because many difficult situations before and i came through by Gods Grace. ....and i am Gods favourate child... God Testing me
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am happy to know that you trust yourself more than ever before.
Things sort themselves out only if we strongly believe that everything is a phase; keep the mind steady through these phases that are challenging and you will have a clear mind to solve any issue that might come your way.

All the best!

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Ans: Referring to your query regarding the debt and uncertain expenses at all times. Please find some suggestions for your reference.

• Get a part-time job (Increase your Source of Income): If you have the time and energy, getting a part-time job can be a great way to earn extra money to pay down your debt.

• Make a budget: Once you have a good understanding of your cash flows, you can create a budget to help you track your spending and make sure your cash flow will be managed properly (Expenses are not more than your earnings)

• Prioritize your debts: Not all debts are the same. Some debts, like credit card bills, have higher interest rates, which means that you will be paying more in interest over time. Focus on paying off these debts first.

• Negotiate with your creditors: If you are struggling to make your payments, contact your creditors and see if they are willing to negotiate with you. Many creditors may adjust the repayment schedule you can afford.

There are some resources that may be helpful:

Debt relief organizations: There are a number of organizations that can help you get out of debt. They can provide you with counseling, and they can also help you negotiate with your creditors to reduce your payments or create a repayment plan.
• National Foundation for Credit Counseling: 1-800-388-2227
• Consumer Credit Counseling Service: 1-800-642-2227
• Credit Karma: 1-888-239-7066

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Sir my monthly salary is 28000 and I took a personal loan of 5lacs last year and I have credit card also but with my daily expenses I couldn't pay the total emis and bills so I took some credit from cred application it's almost 3lacs and now I'm unable to pay any of them as my salary is very low to pay so many emis I can't stop thinking about all this I'm facing anxiety and depression due to debts. I want to come out of this debt and get clean from all this problem. I want to save money and live a normal life. I couldn't share it with anyone also. My father us retired and he couldn't help me.
Ans: I'm truly sorry to hear about the challenges you're facing with your debts, and I understand how overwhelming and stressful it can be. Please know that you're not alone, and there are steps you can take to work towards financial stability and peace of mind.

Assess Your Debts: Start by listing out all your debts, including personal loans, credit card dues, and any other outstanding amounts. Understanding the total amount owed and the interest rates associated with each debt is the first step towards managing them effectively.
Create a Budget: Evaluate your monthly income and expenses to create a realistic budget. Prioritize essential expenses such as food, rent, and utilities, and allocate any remaining funds towards debt repayment.
Communicate with Creditors: Reach out to your creditors to discuss your financial situation and explore options for repayment. They may be willing to negotiate a payment plan or offer assistance programs to help you manage your debts.
Explore Debt Consolidation: Consider consolidating your debts into a single loan with a lower interest rate, if possible. This can simplify your repayment process and potentially reduce the overall amount you owe.
Seek Professional Help: If you're feeling overwhelmed or unsure about how to proceed, consider seeking assistance from a financial counselor or debt management agency. They can provide guidance, support, and practical strategies for managing your debts and improving your financial situation.
Take Care of Your Mental Health: Remember to prioritize your mental health during this challenging time. Practice self-care techniques such as exercise, meditation, or talking to a trusted friend or therapist to help alleviate anxiety and depression associated with financial stress.
Lastly, please know that it's okay to ask for help, and reaching out for support is a positive step towards regaining control of your finances and your life. You have the strength and resilience to overcome these challenges, and with determination and perseverance, you can work towards a brighter financial future.

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sir Mera 12 lacs ka loss ho rakha hai share market mei. job chal rahi salary 60 k hai. lekin emi proper nhi de pa raha hoon aur ghar par kharcha bhi nhi chala pa raha hoon.4 credit cards hai aur 1 bajaj finserv aur 2 app loan hai. app loan 3-4 mahine se emi nhi di hai. depression mei chal reha hoon. Har time yahi dhar laga rehata hai koi legal action na ho jaaye. koi solution batayen please
Ans: I understand that you're going through a tough time with a significant loss in the stock market and financial challenges. Here are some steps you can take to address your situation:

Seek Professional Help: Consider consulting a financial advisor or counselor who can provide guidance on managing your debts and creating a budget plan.
Prioritize Payments: Make a list of all your debts, including credit cards and loans, and prioritize payments based on interest rates and penalties for late payments.
Communicate with Lenders: Reach out to your lenders and explain your situation. Many financial institutions offer hardship programs or repayment plans that may help alleviate some of the financial pressure.
Budgeting: Create a detailed budget to track your income and expenses. Identify areas where you can cut back on spending to free up funds for debt repayment.
Focus on Mental Health: It's essential to prioritize your mental health during this challenging time. Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can help you cope with depression and anxiety related to financial stress.
Explore Legal Options: If you're concerned about potential legal action, consider consulting with a legal professional to understand your rights and options.
Take Small Steps: Remember that addressing financial challenges takes time, and it's okay to take small steps towards improvement. Celebrate each milestone along the way, no matter how small.
Stay Positive: While it may seem overwhelming now, remember that there are solutions available, and you're not alone. Stay positive and focus on taking proactive steps towards improving your financial situation.
Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. By taking proactive steps and reaching out for support, you can overcome these challenges and regain financial stability.

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Dear LG, Please keep this anonymous. I have been married since 6 years. However, since past 5+ years we have not been intimate. We haave a 5&1/2 year kid. Since his birth we have had a lot of differences and his family interference was lot leaving me alone and wounded. I don't stay with my husband and in-laws since then. I had made up that work is worship. But 2 years back I met a colleague. He is 10 years younger to me and we have extremely similar vibes. We enjoy each other's company and cared a lot. Eventually i fell in love with him. But he always knew he wont be able to go against his family. We also had relationship. Now he has strated looking for girls and wants us to stop being intimate. He is saying he wants to be friends and not loose me but not have relationship. We both work together in same space and our area of work is also same. I am unable to forgive my husband and forget this person. He never goes away. He is always there telling that I want to see you happy. He needs me for professional development. And i am not able to loose our relationship. He says physical intimacy only I cant have remaining Im there. Then again says I don’t know when I will be there so I am unable to give assurance or promise. I am tormented with a child, work and my health is getting affected. Can you please help?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry that you are in such a tough spot. My advice would be to move on. Yes, I realize that it is easier said than done but let's put things into perspective- first, you have no future with this man, and he has made it clear. Are you okay to keep hanging on to him while he builds his own life? I am assuming no, especially since you have a child. Second, what about your self-respect? He is directly telling you that this relationship is headed toward a dead end. Do you believe you deserve to be with someone who does not want to settle down with you? I believe you deserve better.

I am not blaming him because he made no promises. You are not to be held guilty either because you were in a tough spot and you grabbed the first emotional support you found. But the current reality is that he wants out. And convincing him to stay is not an option. At this point, moving on with your head held high is the best decision. If you want to accept his friendship, that is completely fine. But if that's too much for you, you can always decline it. I understand that working in the same space with an ex is difficult, but as long as you avoid interacting outside of the office and keep things professional, there should not be an issue. On the emotional front, I won't lie, it will hurt for a while. But this too shall pass. I strongly recommend you not to value yourself so low that you stop believing that you deserve a person who loves you back as much as you love him.

Best Wishes.

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