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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 20, 2024Hindi
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Hello..I am 36 hrs old, a doctor, got married for 2nd time in Apr 2022. My 1st marriage was with a doctor in 2011 but we hardly stayed together for 1 month since he was away in another state for higher education. Indifference arose and we got separated soon after 6 months and got divorced 5 yrs later. Then i did job on off and finally finished my post graduation in 2024. During my post graduation i wanted to desperately get married for 2nd time as my age was increasing and i was feeling very lonely and wanted to settle down n have kids. I met a guy (he too a doctor and divorced) on matrimony. He approached me. We started talking, meeting. Everything was going good. But his mother was against our relationship. In between the guy too cut the contact with me. But i was wo trully in love with him that I wanted to marry him only. Somehow we got connected again. He came to my place and we lived together. He said he can't get married so soon. He said he would marry me only of i wl get pregnant.then i got pregnant and finally he married me in temple. Soon i delivered our child and his parent's accepted me n i went to his house to stay. There we used to have lots of fights as he revealed his true nature of being extremely KANJUS. his whole family was extremely kanjus. My husbnd doesn't like to spend a single Rs too and he doesn't like it if i spend my money too. We used to have frequent fights. Then hardly after 2 months, his mother called my parents and she told them that their sje could not tolerate me and i should leave tbeor house ASAP! I became very furious as my baby was jst 4 months old. Where would i stay alone with my child as i was studying. I called police to intervene and my mother in law got very angry, she cursed me in front of police- she called me a pros***ute. (This was her thinking- any woman who marries for 2nd time is a pros***ute!!!) Finally that night around 10pm i left her house with my child and some essentials. My parents stayed with me to look after my child. My husbnd kept visiting me on weekends. But my husbnd used to avoid me, block my calls. He never paid for my daughter's expenses too. A year have been passed. I have sent my baby to my parents house 6 months back as they wanted to go back as they stay in different state. Now my husbnd has cut all the ties, he has blocked me everywhere and he never called to enquire about our child in last 8-9 months. Last time when my father called him- he said he didn't wanna stay with me and I either can keep our child with me or i can give the child to him for rest of the life. I slipped into depression after all these. I messed up in my exams. I'm so disturbed that i had thought of ending my life many times but i reminded myself about my child. Now I don't know what to do. I talked him about divorce but he said he won't give me a single Rs aftr divorce since i am also earning. My parents too don't want me to go for a divorce 2nd time in my life as they are worried- our relatives and society will shame them. I want to bring my child back but i am worried- how will i take care of my baby since i am working. Please help. Keep me anonymous please.

Ans: I'm truly sorry to hear about the challenges you're facing. It sounds like you're in a very difficult situation, but please know that there are options available to you and support systems that can help you through this.

Firstly, it's important to prioritize your and your child's safety and well-being. Given the circumstances, it might be beneficial to seek legal advice from a lawyer who specializes in family law. They can help you understand your rights and options regarding custody, child support, and divorce.

Regarding your depression, it's crucial to seek professional help. Depression is a serious condition that requires treatment, and there are therapists, counselors, and support groups available to provide you with the support you need.

In terms of bringing your child back, you may need to explore options for childcare that accommodate your work schedule. This could include hiring a nanny, enrolling your child in daycare, or seeking help from family members or friends.

As for the societal pressure and fear of judgment from relatives, remember that your well-being and your child's well-being are the most important considerations. It's essential to prioritize your own happiness and safety rather than worrying about the opinions of others.

Please don't hesitate to reach out to support services such as hotlines, counseling services, or support groups for assistance and guidance. You're not alone, and there are people who can help you navigate through this challenging time.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 05, 2024Hindi
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Hi, I'm a 47 year old woman working as an engineer in a corporate. I fell in love with my classmate when I was doing my engineering. He too loved me and we wanted to get married. But his father declined our marriage proposal since I did not belong to their caste. Since his parents disagreed, he did not want to go ahead with this marriage. So, we decided to leave the matter for now but continued to meet eaach other regularly and talk. A few months later, his parents forced him to get married to a close family acquaintance. Being the only child, my mom also forced me to get married to an alliance she had found suitable and i too got married. Even after marriage, I couldn't forget my boyfriend and so we would meet regularly after office and diacuss everything under the sun including our marital lives. I was never happy with my marriage and never had a child. He also seemed unhappy with his marriage but had a daughter with his wife. My husband passed away in a road accident after 3 years of marriage. I started feeling insecure and so forcedmy boyfriend to marry me. He declined to marry me due to societal pressure but was very keen to have a physical relationship. I also agreed and got pregnant with his child. When our son was 6 months old, he helped me find a rented home close to his home so that he could meet me to fulfil his physical desires. Now that my son is 10 years old and beginning to understand things, he keeps asking why his fathee doesnt stay with us and visits us only occasionally. He has never celebrated our sons birthday or taken us put anywhere. I have remained his mistress and so feel very insecure and neglected in this relationship. I also find it very difficult to lead a life like this. When i discuss this with my boyfriend, he says he cannot leave his wife and daughter for our sake (he seems to have a soft corner for them). We have had serious fights about this, and i have even told him to stay away from our lives. But he continues to come to me whenever he wants a physical relation and i succumb to the situation. Now, i feel used and want to cut off this relationship. As my son grows old and gets to know of all these things, i am afraid what he will think of me. I dont want to be looked down by my son. I have a good job, i am financially independent and have bought an apartment as well. I am confident that i can take good care of my son and lead a decent life. Please suggest what i should do?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Why exactly are you living off the scraps of this guy? (In terms of love)
He clearly has sent a message that there's no family with you and your son. So, when he comes over just for sex, how does that make you feel? The reason that you writing to me is perhaps that you feel disrespected with his behavior.

You are financially independent and have the freedom to raise you son out of this confusing environment. Why would you not do that and actually free yourself from this unsettled feeling? If you are looking for love, care and affection from this man, let me draw this out for you...he is clear that he is not going to leave his family and hey, why would he? His wife has not been a party to all of this.

With all the complications of having a relationship on the side, you brought a child into this world out of wedlock (that's still not the issue), the issue is that you are still hanging onto him and the scraps he throws at you in the form of intimacy. Do not mistake sex for love...Sex stems from Love and not the other way round. So, if you feel that someday he's going to crawl back to you if you keep the sex going, I highly doubt that. Plus, again that would be unfair to his wife as well.

Now, why would you not give yourself a chance to move away from this and actually pursue a healthy relationship (when you feel that you are ready)? And that can happen only when you actually decide that you value yourself and respect for you is non-negotiable. Would you be willing to do that?

All the best!
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Hi, I am not yet mairred. I used to like a man and after a month we decided to get married. He was of my caste so I thought my parents won't deny this mairrage. I used to talk to and wanted to let him know everything about my past so that we can built a strong root of our relationship. I spoke every detail of my past life to him. Then before he proposed me for mairrage I went for a vacation with my male friend to dehradun. I didn't tell him that day as he didn't proposed me till that day then why would I tell everything about me to anyone. He was noone to me at that time. After that he came to visit me in Delhi and on the same when he was on train a friend of mine along with his fiance came to meet me after a very long time. I asked him and he didn't denied. After returning home he blocked me. I cried and cried, called multiple times but he didn't received my call. Even I went to his location and waited for almost 3 hr but he didn't came. Then I asked my sister to call him. Then he talked to me but he said me so much of harsh and vulgar words that I went in shock. I cried a lot but he went on humiliating me. But somehow I convinced him to stay with me. I never talked to that friend ever. Then I told my parents about him that I want to get married with this men. Being a girl's father my father enquired about him by being annonymous. And trust me noone has said anything good about him. Later on we get to know that his father has a murder case on him of his brother in law. But then I wanted to get married. Finally my parents agreed only for my happines. Meanwhile I was never being respected by him. He always doubt me, humiliate me, abuse me mentally and physically, and when I was like I don't want to be with you he used to say sorry and begged me to be with him. He even used to restrict to visit my uncle aunty. His mother wants used to defend him and never used to make him realise that he was wrong. Then before engagement we went to Kolkata to buy dress. Yes one more thing I have informed him on the very first day that I used to drink and smoke occassionally. So whenever he used to visit me he always wanted to drink with me whether I want it or not. He always used to abuse me and humiliate me in front of everyone after drinking, so after a period of time I used to avoid drinking. Then he used to fight with me for that also that why will you not drink. In kolkata the same thing happen. We stayed there for 3 days and he was convincing to go to club from the very first day but I refused. On 3rd he hit me. After engagement his family asked for dowry. After a lot of dealing my parents agreed for an amount. But I felt betrayed. I stopped talking. After after when I initiated the conversation he picked up a fight and said he won't marry. I tried to convince. But when everyone was blaming me then I broke my silence and said everything about him to my parent. But he manipulated everything and made me villain. My parents want me to get married What should I do
Ans: Dear Akriti,
After reading your question I can only give you one advice, please do not marry him no matter what people say. Even if we overlook every other red flag that he has exhibited, abuse of any form is unacceptable. Why are you trying to convince your parents to marry a guy who hits you? Do you think you deserve it or anyone, for that matter, deserves that?
Now, no matter who tries to manipulate you, or however much they try to convince you, get out of the relationship for the love and self-respect you have for yourself. It is a big decision but in your case, it is worth making that big decision. I'd normally never tell people they should this or they shouldn't do that, but in your case, no sane person would ever suggest you marry this man and be subjected to abuse for the rest of your life.

Please make the right choice.

Best Wishes

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Hi, I am not yet mairred. I used to like a man and after a month we decided to get married. He was of my caste so I thought my parents won't deny this mairrage. I used to talk to and wanted to let him know everything about my past so that we can built a strong root of our relationship. I spoke every detail of my past life to him. Then before he proposed me for mairrage I went for a vacation with my male friend to dehradun. I didn't tell him that day as he didn't proposed me till that day then why would I tell everything about me to anyone. He was noone to me at that time. After that he came to visit me in Delhi and on the same when he was on train a friend of mine along with his fiance came to meet me after a very long time. I asked him and he didn't denied. After returning home he blocked me. I cried and cried, called multiple times but he didn't received my call. Even I went to his location and waited for almost 3 hr but he didn't came. Then I asked my sister to call him. Then he talked to me but he said me so much of harsh and vulgar words that I went in shock. I cried a lot but he went on humiliating me. But somehow I convinced him to stay with me. I never talked to that friend ever. Then I told my parents about him that I want to get married with this men. Being a girl's father my father enquired about him by being annonymous. And trust me noone has said anything good about him. Later on we get to know that his father has a murder case on him of his brother in law. But then I wanted to get married. Finally my parents agreed only for my happines. Meanwhile I was never being respected by him. He always doubt me, humiliate me, abuse me mentally and physically, and when I was like I don't want to be with you he used to say sorry and begged me to be with him. He even used to restrict to visit my uncle aunty. His mother wants used to defend him and never used to make him realise that he was wrong. Then before engagement we went to Kolkata to buy dress. Yes one more thing I have informed him on the very first day that I used to drink and smoke occassionally. So whenever he used to visit me he always wanted to drink with me whether I want it or not. He always used to abuse me and humiliate me in front of everyone after drinking, so after a period of time I used to avoid drinking. Then he used to fight with me for that also that why will you not drink. In kolkata the same thing happen. We stayed there for 3 days and he was convincing to go to club from the very first day but I refused. On 3rd he hit me. After engagement his family asked for dowry. After a lot of dealing my parents agreed for an amount. But I felt betrayed. I stopped talking. After after when I initiated the conversation he picked up a fight and said he won't marry. I tried to convince. But when everyone was blaming me then I broke my silence and said everything about him to my parent. But he manipulated everything and made me villain. My parents want me to get married What should I do
Ans: Dear Akriti,
After reading your question I can only give you one advice, please do not marry him no matter what people say. Even if we overlook every other red flag that he has exhibited, abuse of any form is unacceptable. Why are you trying to convince your parents to marry a guy who hits you? Do you think you deserve it or anyone, for that matter, deserves that?

Now, no matter who tries to manipulate you, or however much they try to convince you, get out of the relationship for the love and self-respect you have for yourself. It is a big decision but in your case, it is worth making that big decision. I'd normally never tell people they should this or they shouldn't do that, but in your case, no sane person would ever suggest you marry this man and be subjected to abuse for the rest of your life.
Please make the right choice.

Best Wishes

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 10, 2024
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Hi, I am not yet mairred. I used to like a man and after a month we decided to get married. He was of my caste so I thought my parents won't deny this mairrage. I used to talk to and wanted to let him know everything about my past so that we can built a strong root of our relationship. I spoke every detail of my past life to him. Then before he proposed me for mairrage I went for a vacation with my male friend to dehradun. I didn't tell him that day as he didn't proposed me till that day then why would I tell everything about me to anyone. He was noone to me at that time. After that he came to visit me in Delhi and on the same when he was on train a friend of mine along with his fiance came to meet me after a very long time. I asked him and he didn't denied. After returning home he blocked me. I cried and cried, called multiple times but he didn't received my call. Even I went to his location and waited for almost 3 hr but he didn't came. Then I asked my sister to call him. Then he talked to me but he said me so much of harsh and vulgar words that I went in shock. I cried a lot but he went on humiliating me. But somehow I convinced him to stay with me. I never talked to that friend ever. Then I told my parents about him that I want to get married with this men. Being a girl's father my father enquired about him by being annonymous. And trust me noone has said anything good about him. Later on we get to know that his father has a murder case on him of his brother in law. But then I wanted to get married. Finally my parents agreed only for my happines. Meanwhile I was never being respected by him. He always doubt me, humiliate me, abuse me mentally and physically, and when I was like I don't want to be with you he used to say sorry and begged me to be with him. He even used to restrict to visit my uncle aunty. His mother wants used to defend him and never used to make him realise that he was wrong. Then before engagement we went to Kolkata to buy dress. Yes one more thing I have informed him on the very first day that I used to drink and smoke occassionally. So whenever he used to visit me he always wanted to drink with me whether I want it or not. He always used to abuse me and humiliate me in front of everyone after drinking, so after a period of time I used to avoid drinking. Then he used to fight with me for that also that why will you not drink. In kolkata the same thing happen. We stayed there for 3 days and he was convincing to go to club from the very first day but I refused. On 3rd he hit me. After engagement his family asked for dowry. After a lot of dealing my parents agreed for an amount. But I felt betrayed. I stopped talking. After after when I initiated the conversation he picked up a fight and said he won't marry. I tried to convince. But when everyone was blaming me then I broke my silence and said everything about him to my parent. But he manipulated everything and made me villain. My parents want me to get married as the society will insult our parents. I am getting married in November only for my parents but I have already made up my mind that I'll divorce him after 1 year of mairrage and will live my life alone. Am I thinking right? What should I do?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
No, you are not thinking right at all...This man is all RED FLAGS...
Are you actually thinking of spending one year with a person who physically abuses you? Seriously?
And then you expect him to agree to that divorce without any fuss? What world are you in? No compromises on your life please...
Be wise and protect yourself...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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My Salary is 78000 per month and I have house rent 20500 and 17000 emi and 15000 monthly expenses other emis 15000 and iam unable to save please suggest
Ans: You are facing a very common challenge. Many earn well but struggle to save. The good part is that you are aware and looking for a solution. That’s the first important step.

Let me now give you a 360-degree analysis and practical advice to help you manage better.

 
 
1. Monthly Income and Expense Breakdown

Your salary is Rs. 78,000 per month.
 
 

House rent is Rs. 20,500.
 
 

EMI for one loan is Rs. 17,000.
 
 

Other EMIs total Rs. 15,000.
 
 

Monthly living expenses are Rs. 15,000.
 
 

After these, almost nothing is left.
 
 

There is no saving happening right now. But small adjustments can bring big changes.
 
 
2. Rent Expense Evaluation

Rent is the biggest cost. Rs. 20,500 is over 26% of your income.
 
 

Ideally, rent should not exceed 20% of income.
 
 

Check if slightly cheaper home is available.
 
 

A Rs. 3,000 to Rs. 4,000 saving in rent helps.
 
 

Shifting may feel hard. But it gives monthly relief.
 
 

Stay near public transport to reduce travel cost also.
 
 

Even small rent change brings long-term benefits.
 
 
3. EMI Consolidation Strategy

You have Rs. 32,000 total EMI every month.
 
 

This is over 40% of your income. That is too high.
 
 

Ideally, EMI should be under 30% of income.
 
 

Check if some loans are high-interest short-term loans.
 
 

If possible, combine all EMIs into one with lower interest.
 
 

Talk to your bank about loan consolidation options.
 
 

Even 2–3% interest reduction will help monthly cash flow.
 
 

Loan restructuring gives breathing space.
 
 
4. Monthly Expenses Assessment

You spend Rs. 15,000 monthly for all needs.
 
 

This looks reasonable, but break it down category-wise.
 
 

Note how much goes to groceries, mobile, subscriptions, fuel, etc.
 
 

Use a simple mobile app to track. Or a paper log.
 
 

You may find Rs. 1,000–2,000 saving opportunity easily.
 
 

Cancel unused services like OTT or apps.
 
 

Prepare weekly shopping list. Avoid impulse purchases.
 
 

Every rupee saved adds up.
 
 
5. Surrender Low-Return Insurance Policies (if any)

Do you hold any LIC, ULIP or endowment plan?
 
 

These plans mix insurance with investment. They give poor returns.
 
 

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Take separate term insurance if not already done.
 
 

Reinvest in SIP when your cash flow improves.
 
 

This step will free up space in your budget.
 
 
6. Start Emergency Fund, Even Small

You may feel saving is impossible now.
 
 

But even Rs. 500–1000/month is a start.
 
 

Keep this money in a separate savings account.
 
 

Don’t touch unless it’s urgent.
 
 

Over time, it builds up to 3–6 months of expenses.
 
 

Emergency fund avoids fresh loans in future.
 
 

Even small savings matter. Start tiny, but stay regular.
 
 
7. Avoid New Loans or EMI Purchases

Say no to credit card EMIs or online EMIs.
 
 

These temptations disturb cash flow and cause stress.
 
 

If you need anything, plan and save first.
 
 

Delay buying until you have money.
 
 

EMI-free life feels peaceful and light.
 
 

Self-control today brings freedom tomorrow.
 
 
8. Health and Life Insurance Priority

Health emergency can break your finances.
 
 

Take a personal health insurance cover.
 
 

Group cover from employer is not always enough.
 
 

Also take a low-cost term life insurance.
 
 

Do not mix insurance with investments.
 
 

Term plan protects family. Premium is affordable.
 
 

Insurance is not optional. It’s your safety net.
 
 
9. Don’t Rely on Index Funds or Direct Mutual Funds

Some people suggest index funds or direct plans.
 
 

But these lack personalised support and active review.
 
 

Index funds don’t beat inflation in long term.
 
 

Direct funds don’t guide you in market changes.
 
 

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Invest through a Mutual Fund Distributor backed by a Certified Financial Planner.
 
 

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Step 2: Reduce EMIs or consolidate loans.
 
 

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Even Rs. 2,000/month SIP can build wealth slowly.
 
 

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Dear Sir, My age is 48 years and I have taken house loan of Rs. 25 Lacs two years back, EMI per month is 20K, my monthly salary is 75 k. I m investing Rs. 39 k per year in LIC, 50k in PPF per year and 12500 per month in SIP. After all this investment at the end of the month I barely able of save Rs. 15K. My son age is 5 years . Please suggest any changes and further future planning so that after retirement I have atleast 1 Cr.
Ans: You have shown good discipline in managing your finances. You have started early planning for your child and your retirement. That is very good. You also have a good monthly income and manageable loan EMI. But, a few adjustments will help build stronger wealth for retirement.

Let me now help you with a step-by-step review of your current financial structure and suggest better ways for future financial well-being.

 
 
1. Income and Expense Overview

Your monthly salary is Rs. 75,000.
 
 

You are paying Rs. 20,000 as home loan EMI.
 
 

You are investing Rs. 12,500 in SIPs every month.
 
 

You are investing Rs. 50,000 per year in PPF. That is around Rs. 4,167 per month.
 
 

You are paying Rs. 39,000 per year in LIC premium. That is around Rs. 3,250 per month.
 
 

After all expenses and investments, you save around Rs. 15,000 per month.
 
 

Your savings habit is strong. That is a great quality. But now, you need to optimise your savings and investments better.

 
 
2. Home Loan Management

Rs. 25 lakhs loan is manageable with your income.
 
 

Rs. 20,000 EMI is reasonable. But loan closure before retirement is important.
 
 

Aim to close the loan by 58 years. That will reduce stress after retirement.
 
 

If you receive any bonus or surplus, use that partly to reduce loan.
 
 

But do not stop SIPs or long-term investments for loan prepayment.
 
 

Balance is important.
 
 
3. LIC Policy Assessment

You are paying Rs. 39,000 yearly in LIC.
 
 

Most likely, this is a traditional endowment or money-back policy.
 
 

Such plans give very low returns. Usually below 5% per year.
 
 

Also, mixing insurance with investment is not ideal.
 
 

What to do now?

If the policy has completed more than 3 years, check surrender value.
 
 

If surrender is financially suitable, stop and reinvest in mutual funds.
 
 

Take pure term insurance separately if not already taken.
 
 

Term plans give large cover at low cost.
 
 

This one change will free up funds and give better returns.
 
 
4. PPF Investment Review

You are investing Rs. 50,000 per year in PPF.
 
 

PPF is safe and gives tax-free returns.
 
 

Current interest is around 7% to 7.5% per annum.
 
 

But this return may not beat inflation over 15–20 years.
 
 

Still, PPF is good for safety and diversification.
 
 

Continue PPF, but do not increase allocation too much.
 
 

Keep PPF limited. Focus more on higher return options.
 
 
5. SIP Investment Strategy

You are investing Rs. 12,500 per month in SIPs.
 
 

SIP in mutual funds is one of the best long-term tools.
 
 

Ensure you are investing in diversified, actively managed funds.
 
 

Actively managed funds give better returns over long term.
 
 

Avoid index funds. They copy the market and don’t beat inflation strongly.
 
 

Avoid direct funds unless you are experienced and review portfolios often.
 
 

Regular plans through a Mutual Fund Distributor with CFP support are better.
 
 

You get proper guidance, rebalancing, and tracking.
 
 

SIP should be your main engine for wealth building.
 
 
6. Retirement Goal Planning

You want Rs. 1 crore at retirement. That is a good starting goal.
 
 

At age 48 now, you have around 12 years left to build this.
 
 

You are already investing in SIP and PPF.
 
 

After surrendering LIC, redirect that amount into mutual funds.
 
 

Even your current Rs. 12,500 SIP + Rs. 3,250 LIC (if re-directed) = Rs. 15,750.
 
 

This amount, if invested in equity mutual funds, can create strong growth.
 
 

Also, your savings of Rs. 15,000/month is available.
 
 

Use part of this savings also to boost your SIP.
 
 

Retirement goal can be achieved. Just need disciplined investing and small adjustments.
 
 
7. Child’s Education Planning

Your son is 5 years old. You have time to build corpus.
 
 

Higher education expenses will start after 13–15 years.
 
 

Create a separate SIP for this goal. Do not mix with other investments.
 
 

Invest in diversified equity mutual funds for child goal.
 
 

Even Rs. 5,000–7,000/month SIP can build good corpus by then.
 
 

Review the portfolio every year with your Certified Financial Planner.
 
 

Do not depend on insurance plans or ULIPs for child goals.
 
 

They give poor returns and lock your money for long.
 
 

8. Insurance Protection Plan

At 48, insurance is critical. You are the family’s main earning member.
 
 

Take pure term insurance of minimum 10–12 times your yearly income.
 
 

That is Rs. 75,000 × 12 × 10 = Rs. 90 lakhs at least.
 
 

Premium will be low if taken soon.
 
 

Do not mix insurance with investment.
 
 

Also take health insurance for family if not already covered.
 
 

Company cover is not enough. Take personal health policy also.
 
 

9. Tax Planning and Optimisation

You are using LIC and PPF for tax benefits.
 
 

Also SIPs in ELSS funds can give tax benefits.
 
 

Consider ELSS only if you need 80C limit and can take 3-year lock-in.
 
 

Do not over-focus on tax saving. Wealth creation is more important.
 
 

If your 80C is already full, invest in non-tax saving mutual funds.
 
 

SIPs in equity mutual funds held for more than one year will attract LTCG.
 
 

LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
 
 

Keep track of capital gains yearly. Use your limit smartly.
 
 

10. Emergency Fund Management

Keep at least 4 to 6 months of expenses in emergency fund.
 
 

Use liquid mutual funds or savings account for this.
 
 

Do not invest emergency funds in PPF or SIP.
 
 

You should be able to withdraw anytime when needed.
 
 

Use your Rs. 15,000 monthly saving to slowly build this buffer.
 
 

11. Key Adjustments You Can Make Now

Surrender low-return LIC policy if suitable.
 
 

Redirect Rs. 3,250/month to mutual funds.
 
 

Increase SIP by at least Rs. 5,000 more monthly using your surplus.
 
 

Start a child education SIP separately.
 
 

Build emergency fund of Rs. 3 to 4 lakhs gradually.
 
 

Do not increase EMI. Prioritise investment and loan closure balance.
 
 

Finally

You have already done many things right. That is a great starting point.

Just fine-tune your investment structure now. Shift from low-return products to higher growth investments. Don’t stop your SIPs. Keep increasing SIP as income rises.

Work with a Certified Financial Planner. Review your plan every year. This is not a one-time setup. Financial planning is a regular process.

With the right steps, Rs. 1 crore for retirement is very much possible. Also, your child’s education will be secure. Just stay consistent and focused.

 
 
Best Regards,
 
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
 
Chief Financial Planner,
 
www.holisticinvestment.in
 
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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sir, am 26 year old and have some SIPs for Rs 1000 each. 1. QUANT SMALL CAP FUND DIRECT 2. NIPPON INDIA LARGE CAP DIRECT 3. MIRAE ASSEST ELSS TAX SAVER 4. UTI NIFTY 50 5. PARAG PARIKH FLEXI CAP 6. TATA MIDCAP GROWTH DIRECT 7. TATA SMALL CAP DIRECT my question is, these are good SIPs for next 10-15 years ? second is i want to invest 10000 more per month, please let me know which SIPs will be good for next 15 years. Thanks
Ans: At age 26, it is appreciable that you have started investing early.

It shows responsibility towards your future financial goals.

Your current SIPs are diversified across multiple categories.

But some of these SIPs may not be aligned well for long-term consistency.

Let us now review each one professionally.

1. Quant Small Cap Fund - Direct

Small caps can be volatile.

This fund is aggressive and high-risk.

Direct plans have no guidance or monitoring.

This may affect long-term performance.

Switching to a regular plan with a Certified Financial Planner is better.

This will ensure proper guidance and rebalancing.

2. Nippon India Large Cap - Direct

Large caps offer stability in a portfolio.

However, this fund’s long-term consistency is not very strong.

Also, direct plans lack expert monitoring.

A regular plan through a CFP ensures better handholding.

Tracking and performance review becomes easier.

3. Mirae Asset ELSS Tax Saver

This fund is decent for tax saving.

It is diversified and has shown fair returns.

However, regular review is still needed.

A regular plan helps with documentation and timely alerts.

Switching to regular mode can be beneficial in the long run.

4. UTI Nifty 50 - Direct

This is an index fund.

Index funds only mirror the market.

They do not aim to beat the market.

They lack human intelligence and flexibility.

They don’t perform well during corrections or sideways markets.

Actively managed funds have higher potential.

They can outperform in changing market situations.

Consider replacing this with a well-managed large cap fund.

In regular plan through CFP, you get guided fund selection.

5. Parag Parikh Flexi Cap

Flexi cap funds provide flexibility across market segments.

This fund has been popular recently.

But it has higher exposure to international stocks.

This brings currency risk and regulatory risks.

Also, it may overlap with other holdings.

You should regularly monitor for overlap and concentration.

Again, direct mode has no professional review.

6. Tata Midcap Growth - Direct

Midcaps are good for long-term.

But they need close tracking due to higher volatility.

A regular plan with expert guidance is ideal.

Direct mode will not help during market correction periods.

Switching to regular mode will ensure ongoing support.

7. Tata Small Cap - Direct

Small caps are risky in short to medium term.

This should not be your core holding.

Should be allocated only with close guidance.

Again, direct plans can go off-track without support.

If unmanaged, can bring portfolio imbalance.

Assessment of Direct Funds: Key Concerns

Direct funds may look cheaper in expense.

But they lack professional support and review.

There is no monitoring of changes in fund quality.

You may miss timely exits and rebalancing.

A Certified Financial Planner guides with logic and analysis.

They also help align your funds with your goals.

Regular plans have MFD support and rebalancing discipline.

They protect from behavioural mistakes during market volatility.

Overall, regular funds with expert guidance bring higher net value.

What Can Be Done with Your Existing SIPs?

You can consider the following changes:

Discontinue index fund (UTI Nifty 50) SIP.

   

Reduce exposure to direct small and midcap funds.

   

Switch from direct plans to regular plans via a Certified Financial Planner.

   

Ensure SIPs are part of a professionally constructed portfolio.

   

Ensure proper asset allocation, fund category balancing and tax efficiency.

   

New SIP of Rs 10,000 per Month – Suggestions

For your new Rs 10,000 monthly SIP, here is a 360-degree plan:

Allocate across diversified categories.

   

Ensure each fund has low overlap and different market focus.

   

Invest in 3 to 4 funds max.

   

All in regular mode with CFP-led support.

   

Avoid index funds, as they only match market returns.

   

Go for actively managed funds with proven history.

   

Include large-cap, mid-cap and flexi-cap mix.

   

Monitor quarterly with your Certified Financial Planner.

   

Additional Guidance for 15-Year Wealth Building

At 26, your time horizon is excellent.

But long-term wealth creation needs more than just SIPs.

It needs strategy and discipline.

Below are key steps for a full-circle approach:

Set clear financial goals: Home, car, retirement, child education etc.

   

Link SIPs to each goal separately.

   

Keep emergency fund in place (6 months expenses).

   

Get sufficient life and health insurance (pure protection plans).

   

Avoid investment-cum-insurance products.

   

They give low returns and poor insurance.

   

Do not mix insurance with investment.

   

Track your SIP performance annually.

   

Rebalance if some funds underperform.

   

Maintain asset allocation: Equity, Debt and Liquid.

   

Avoid emotional reactions during market dips.

   

Stay invested with guidance from your CFP.

   

Be aware of taxation rules on equity and debt funds.

   

LTCG on equity above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.

   

STCG on equity is taxed at 20%.

   

Debt fund gains are taxed as per income slab.

   

Regular plan MFD and CFP helps with all tax planning.

   

What Not to Do in the Next 15 Years

Don’t invest in index funds.

   

They lack active strategy.

   

Don’t choose funds by past returns only.

   

Don’t use direct funds without financial expertise.

   

Don’t invest in real estate for returns.

   

Don’t invest in annuity products for retirement.

   

Don’t mix investment and insurance.

   

Don’t make decisions based on short-term news or noise.

   

Don’t stop SIPs during market corrections.

   

Role of a Certified Financial Planner

A Certified Financial Planner helps you:

Set goals based on life stages.

   

Create custom SIP and lump sum plans.

   

Select the best active funds for your goals.

   

Rebalance annually to stay on track.

   

Plan taxes as per latest rules.

   

Protect wealth with right insurances.

   

Build retirement with strategic planning.

   

Create a total financial blueprint for life.

   

Keep emotions out of financial decisions.

   

Final Insights

You have taken a great step by starting early.

But choosing the right funds is key.

More important is monitoring them regularly.

Direct plans lack this important support.

Switching to regular plans under CFP brings value.

Also, add Rs 10,000 new SIP with proper strategy.

Don’t follow trends.

Stay committed and review annually.

Avoid overlapping funds and unnecessary risks.

Have a complete financial roadmap in place.

You are building your future.

Make each rupee work with expert guidance.

This 360-degree approach will lead to better outcomes.

You will be financially secure and confident.

Take the next steps with clarity and care.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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