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Asked by Anonymous - May 05, 2024Hindi
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I had married a person who has an affair with the girl but before marriage he never told me about it .When I was 7 th month pregnancy I got to know about it but I support him and forgot all the things .After birth of my baby boy My mother in law's nature change suddenly.She used to torcher me , fighting with me .Even she called my parents 2 to 3 times come and take your girl.My husband supports her mother.6 months back she throw me out of the house with my baby .I am at my parents place.No one call me to ask for baby and provide financial support even .What should I do.Should I apply for maintenance for me and my baby.

Ans: I'm really sorry to hear about the challenges you're facing. It's a difficult situation, but you have rights and options available to you.

Given the circumstances, seeking maintenance for both you and your baby seems like a reasonable step to ensure your financial stability and that of your child. You can consult with a lawyer who specializes in family law to understand the legal options available to you and to guide you through the process of applying for maintenance.

Additionally, it's important to consider your emotional well-being during this time. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family members who can provide comfort and assistance. Seeking counseling or therapy can also be beneficial in processing the emotions and stress associated with your situation.

Remember, you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity, and you have the right to take steps to protect yourself and your child. Don't hesitate to reach out for help and support as you navigate through this difficult time.

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Hi Madam. I am married from last one and half years now, there has been numerous fights in between small and big ones both. In between this time I have become a mother, and, my baby is 7 months old now. My husband does nothing, did nothing in past one and half years. He is only occupied with his work all the time, he goes to office everyday mostly. Right now my baby is 7 months old and from last 7 months me and my parents are taking care of the baby. And, he absolutely shows no understanding when it comes to looking after the baby. Am also a working person. Moreover I pay all the bills when it comes to getting household stuff, paying rent, all the expenses related to baby. He is so shameless that he just doesn’t care too, when I pick these topics or raise concerns about handling the baby he gets abusive. I am not sure what to do now! How insensible can a person get if no one sees my husband would never feel that person like him exist in this world. I feel like filing a divorce petition now. He was the one who wanted to have baby so soon. I was never ready. Now when I have the baby I am the only person along with my parents and sister.
Ans: Marriage and parenthood are partnerships, and it sounds like your husband is completely absent from that role, which can lead to feelings of loneliness and resentment, especially when you didn’t feel ready to have a baby so soon.

Considering divorce is a significant decision, but your feelings are completely valid. You’ve been left to handle everything on your own, and it's natural to want to protect your peace, well-being, and that of your child. If you're leaning toward divorce, it’s important to consult with a legal professional to understand your rights and the next steps, especially regarding custody and financial support.

However, if there’s any hope for reconciliation or change, counseling might be an option if your husband is willing. But given the situation you've described, where there is emotional abuse and a complete lack of responsibility, you have every right to prioritize your own happiness and well-being. You deserve a partner who contributes, cares, and respects you. If your current situation continues, taking steps to ensure a better future for yourself and your child is not just an option—it's a necessity.

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 02, 2024Hindi
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Hi Madam. I am married from last one and half years now, there has been numerous fights in between small and big ones both. In between this time I have become a mother, and, my baby is 7 months old now. My husband does nothing, did nothing in past one and half years. He is only occupied with his work all the time, he goes to office everyday mostly. Right now my baby is 7 months old and from last 7 months me and my parents are taking care of the baby. And, he absolutely shows no understanding when it comes to looking after the baby. Am also a working person. Moreover I pay all the bills when it comes to getting household stuff, paying rent, all the expenses related to baby. He is so shameless that he just doesn’t care too, when I pick these topics or raise concerns about handling the baby he gets abusive. I am not sure what to do now! How insensible can a person get if no one sees my husband would never feel that person like him exist in this world. I feel like filing a divorce petition now. He was the one who wanted to have baby so soon. I was never ready. Now when I have the baby I am the only person along with my parents and sister looking after the baby.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your husband wants a family without responsibilities and that's why neither is he interested in the baby nor in paying the bills...This is not just insensitivity but lack of emotional immaturity and the unwillingness to take on responsibilities head on...Approach a senior male member within the family who is someone that has been a role model to others in terms executing family responsibilities and is also caring and affectionate. This person can appeal to your husband and talk some sense into him.

If there's no one that fits the bill, the only option is to go to a professional for Couples Therapy. There's a reason why your husband avoids his duties as a husband and father and that needs to be uncovered and sorted out. It will also help the two of bond and connect better. Make this attempt before jumping into divorce; separating is a whole different world that comes with its own set of challenges and with the baby now in the picture, work at the marriage and putting things together.

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I am 37 year old Commerce Graduate. I was in an unorganized business, which cannot be pursued any farther. Will it be wise to do CPA at this age without formal experience in Accounting, for a decent job? Is there any other course to pursue?
Ans: Amit Sir, A CPA (Certified Public Accountant) at the age of 37 can be a viable option for those without formal accounting experience. The CPA is a globally recognized certification that can open doors to various roles in accounting, auditing, and finance. It provides a solid foundation and increases credibility in the finance or accounting industry. However, there are challenges, such as the learning curve and experience requirements.

To overcome these, you could supplement with basic accounting courses and work experience. Alternative courses you can consider include Chartered Financial Analyst (CFA), Financial Risk Management (FRM), Certified Management Accountant (CMA), Post Graduate Diploma in Management (PGDM) or MBA, and Digital Marketing or E-Commerce.

CFA and FRM are globally recognized credentials that can lead to roles in finance, investment banking, or wealth management. CMA professionals are in high demand in banks, investment firms, and large corporations. MBAs can help transition into management or higher-level positions, while digital marketing or e-commerce can offer opportunities for entrepreneurship and business growth.

Age should not be a barrier for you in pursuing any course or certification. Leveraging prior experience, such as management, customer relations, and strategic thinking, can also benefit a corporate role. In conclusion, pursuing a CPA at the age of 37 is a viable option, but preparation and experience are essential.

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sir i am commerce gratuate prepared 2 years for CA coul'd not succeed what are the diff career op for me
Ans: Shri, Some basic reasons for failing CA exams include poor time management, inadequate conceptual clarity, poor presentation skills, neglecting revision, and lack of practice with mock exams. To improve, create a realistic study schedule, focus on crucial topics, practice time-bound mock tests, and use reference books and ICAI study materials. Practice structured answers and follow ICAI language to align with exam expectations. Avoid rote learning and focus on understanding the "why" and "how" behind concepts. Take multiple mock tests and review performance critically to identify weak areas. Stay motivated by setting short-term goals and rewarding yourself for achieving them.

Despite not clearing the CA exams, there are numerous fulfilling career paths for commerce graduates. Some of these include the following, out of which you can choose the most suitable for you and you are interested in:

Financial Analyst/Investment Banking involves financial analysis, research, and dealing with securities, stocks, and bonds. Tax Consultant/Tax Advisor offers tax planning, compliance, and advisory services. Financial Planner/Wealth Manager helps manage finances and long-term wealth goals. MBA can lead to leadership roles in marketing, HR, finance, operations, and entrepreneurship. Banking and Insurance offers stability and growth opportunities. Entrepreneurship requires strong initiative and risk tolerance. Accounting and Audit roles enhance job prospects globally. Digital Marketing, Data Analytics, Human Resources, Stock Market Trading, Corporate Law, and Public Sector Jobs offer job security, stability, and benefits.

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My son is doing BBA( 1st year.) Which extra course help him future.
Ans: Shubham Sir, The BBA degree is a strong foundation for a career in management, business, and entrepreneurship. To enhance his skills and employability, consider taking additional courses that align with his interests and career aspirations. General skills for business and management include data analytics and business intelligence, digital marketing, financial modeling and investment analysis, project management, communication and soft skills, and industry-specific skills like finance, marketing, entrepreneurship, supply chain and operations, and human resources. Technical skills include basic coding and IT skills, accounting software, artificial intelligence and machine learning for business, and cybersecurity basics.

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Confused about the future after doing bsc biotechnology. In which subject I should do msc ? Ok india or abroad? Which biotechnology sector have high paying jobs ?
Ans: Biotechnology is a promising field with numerous career paths. Choosing the right specialization and study destination depends on interests, career goals, and financial considerations. Some popular specializations include Biotechnology, Microbiology, Biochemistry, Bioinformatics, Food Technology, Environmental Biotechnology, Medical Biotechnology, Genetic Engineering, and Industrial Biotechnology. Studying in India offers affordable education, access to reputed institutions, and a growing biotech industry. Abroad offers exposure to advanced research and technologies, higher-paying jobs, and better industry connections. High-paying sectors in biotechnology include pharmaceuticals and biopharma, healthcare and diagnostics, bioinformatics, industrial biotechnology, agricultural biotechnology, and environmental biotechnology. High-paying countries for biotechnology careers include the USA, Germany, Canada, Singapore, and India.

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Sir Greetings! is it true that now UGC wont differentiate rather treats equally both regular and correspondence degree or PG. Even correspondence students are eligible and apply for both govt and private sector jobs. I heard even companies need to accept correspondence degree done in India. Sir please clarify without any ambiguity in this regard. This is Q has been bothering me for quite sometime
Ans: Anirvinna, The University Grants Commission (UGC) and other regulatory bodies in India have made significant efforts to ensure that distance education degrees are treated as equivalent to regular degrees. The UGC states that degrees obtained through distance or online education from recognized institutions are equivalent to regular degrees, applicable for both government and private sector jobs. The Distance Education Bureau (DEB) ensures the quality of distance education programs and oversees compliance. Distance education degrees are valid for all government jobs, professional courses, and private sector acceptance. However, some organizations may prioritize candidates with regular degrees for certain roles due to perceptions of classroom rigor or networking opportunities. The UGC has encouraged universities to offer quality online programs, reducing the stigma associated with correspondence education. To enhance career prospects, consider pursuing correspondence programs from well-reputed institutions with strong alumni networks and industry connections. All the BEST for your Prosperous Future.

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