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Sachin Question by Sachin on Apr 05, 2023Hindi
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Recently my elder brother has expired. His wife since after marriage has never shown in interest to behave well with my brother nor with my father, mother and me. More of she like to enjoy life, flirting. Since my brother nature was very soft, he never fighted with her on this and she has kept him under her control. She has one 7 year kid and she doesn't care at all about him. My mother and father are taking care of the kid. In such situations l, my father has transferred the house on my name and other finances stuff as well. Since my brother expired, she is now forcing my father to give her house. Nd my father is not willing to give her and want her to leave house. And send the kid to boarding school as he knows that she will ruined the kid life. Pls suggest how we can make her go away from our house and also make the kid future arrnagement.

Ans: I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your brother and the difficult situation you are facing. It's important to handle the situation with sensitivity and compassion, especially for the child involved.

Firstly, it's important to consider the legal aspects of the property transfer and ensure that everything is in order. You may want to consult with a lawyer or legal professional to understand your options and any legal implications of the situation.

In terms of making her leave the house, it's important to approach the situation with empathy and understanding, while also being firm about your boundaries. It may be helpful to have a family meeting to discuss the situation and come up with a plan together. You could suggest alternative housing options for her and the child, or offer to help her find a new place to live.

Regarding the child's future, it's important to prioritize their well-being and ensure that they are provided with a stable and nurturing environment. You may want to consider options such as counseling for the child, or exploring alternative living arrangements that would be in the best interest of the child.

It's also important to approach the situation with compassion and empathy for your brother's wife, even if her behavior has been difficult to deal with. Grief can manifest in different ways, and it's possible that she may be struggling with her own emotions and feelings of loss.

In any case, it may be helpful to seek the guidance of a therapist or counselor who can help you navigate the complexities of the situation and provide support to all involved.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 08, 2024Hindi
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Hi, my only son aged 27yrs is in relationship with a girl aged 22yrs and she kept him as guarantor in her home loan of 20 lacs and took personal loan of 5 lacs from my son (which he took from NBFC and gave it to her). This all done without informing any of us in our family. She is from other state and she donot have any family members except her single mom. We have undivided family with conservative mind set. Our family members are not willing to accept her in the family as she is taking undue advantage from my son and feels untrustworthy....We have clarified to my son that in such a scenario you have to choose her or us leaving behind everything including the ancestral property. His girlfriend is not accepting him this and told him that she will accept him only if our family members accepts her. This has chaos in our calm and cool nature of our home as our son is throwing the tantrums everyday and disturbing the mental peace of every member of our family. Please advice us what can be done in this scenario as none of our family members are willing to accept her and also not wanting to part away my only son. Thanking you
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Either your family sees her as someone who wants family approval and be happy with it OR you can doubt her as someone who has managed to cheat your son.
Which of it is true, only time will tell...Your son is blinded by love...how can you appeal to him? What can you say that will make him realize that he possibly can be cheated?
One way is to invite her to your home and ask her to come out clean about these money dealings and why your son chose to keep this information away from his family...If you are all convinced about her honesty, it will be easier to accept her into the family; otherwise there is a possibility that your son maybe able to see through her lies...
So, whether she is the right person for your son or not will be better known when you warmly invite her over and without any judgements give her a chance...making sense?

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 19, 2024Hindi
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Hi, sorry it's a very long post My mother is 60year old homemaker(nil income) and father is 68yr old retired govt employee (recieving pension).we are 3 children [2 daughters ( all aged between 30-40yr)]to our parents.All of us are married and earning for our livelihood. We sisters are contributing to parents health insurance and other financial things since we started earning and even after marriage ( as my father is an alcoholic too not looking after the household well).Mother has a property in her name given to her by her father as a gift deed. Father had one house and a plot in his name and some ancestral property. Brother went to abroad for studies in 2018 and came back in 2020. He had a girlfriend since his college days( he married to her in 2022, never had objection from anyone of family members ). Since his arrival, he and his girlfriend started involving in all financial matters of my maternal house to the extent he was using my father's debit card for his own use( father says he has given card to brother willfully). Brother wanted to construct a commercial building in my mother's property. He and my father started threatening my mother to register her property ( actually located near Brother's girlfriend house) in name of brother saying if she doesn't agree ,they won't marry off my sister( who got married in 2022 in the presence of grandparents, mother and myself and both my father and brother didn't attend the marriage). They even extracted money from mother's account (which was given now and then to her by me and my sister).During all these process even brother's girlfriend ( wanted a source of income by renting my parents house)also started abusing my mother and involved in all financial matters ( that freedom was given to her by father and brother as my mother was suppressed and we sisters were not aware of things going on). Everything led to the abandonment of my mother who stayed in her friend's place then I brought her to my house. Now after 3 years ( during the course our wellwishers tried counselling and mediation between my father, brother and mother without sisters which didn't work out). my brother got my parents house( and a plot which was in my father's name) registered to his name as a gift deed from my father without informing mother. All the documents of the property gift deeded to my mother by her father is with my brother and father. They are threatening my mother if she enters her own property. Now my mother has no place and income though she had contributed extensively to upliftment of the family all over these years. She ran a grocery store for 15years during which one plot was bought and house was built in that. Another plot was bought after my parents marriage with the help of dowry money given to my father ) but all the properties were registered in my father's name. She has her contribution financially, emotionally and physically. Now doesn't my mother has right to ask back the house and the property given to my brother without her knowledge and to ask for maintenance from my father and also sue all three of them for mental and physical torture..? We sisters want her to lead a peaceful life in her final years of her life.. please guide us.
Ans: Evaluating Your Mother’s Rights

Your mother has been through a lot. Let's explore her legal and financial rights. She deserves to live peacefully in her final years.

Legal Rights Over Property

Your mother owns property gifted by her father. She has full rights over this property. The property can’t be taken without her consent. If your brother and father took documents, this is illegal.

Action Steps for Property

Retrieve Documents: Seek legal help to get back property documents.
Consult a Lawyer: Discuss the possibility of reclaiming the property.
File a Complaint: If threatened, your mother can file a police complaint.
Maintenance from Your Father

Your father has a duty to support your mother. She can claim maintenance from him. This can be done through legal channels.

Action Steps for Maintenance

Seek Legal Advice: A lawyer can help your mother file for maintenance.
Family Court: File a petition in family court for maintenance.
Right to Ancestral Property

Your mother contributed to the family. She can claim a share in ancestral property. The law supports her right to ancestral property.

Action Steps for Ancestral Property

Legal Consultation: Discuss the possibility of claiming ancestral property.
File a Suit: If needed, file a suit for partition of ancestral property.
Mental and Physical Torture

Your mother faced mental and physical torture. This is a serious issue. She can seek legal action against your brother, father, and sister-in-law.

Action Steps for Torture

File a Complaint: Lodge a complaint with the police for harassment.
Protection Orders: Seek protection orders from the court.
Health Insurance and Financial Support

You and your sister have supported your parents. Continue to ensure health insurance coverage. Your mother may need financial support until her rights are restored.

Action Steps for Financial Support

Joint Efforts: Continue supporting your mother financially.
Plan for Future: Set up a fund for your mother’s needs.
Investments for Secure Future

Consider investing in mutual funds for your mother’s secure future. Regular funds with the help of a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) are beneficial. Avoid direct funds due to lack of professional advice.

Benefits of Regular Funds

Professional Management: CFPs manage the funds, ensuring optimal returns.
Less Hassle: No need for your mother to manage investments actively.
Tailored Advice: Investments tailored to her risk profile and needs.
Regular Review of Investments

Regularly review investments with a CFP. Adjust them based on your mother’s needs and market conditions. This ensures her financial security.

Final Insights

Your mother has rights over her property. She can claim maintenance from your father and her share in ancestral property. Legal action can be taken for mental and physical torture. Continue supporting her financially and ensure her health insurance coverage. Invest wisely with professional advice for her secure future.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 23, 2024Hindi
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Hi, I have given my 2bhk family to my mother in law and brother in law. Over past few years they pay less rent 40% of market value rent. from oct 2023 brother in law lost job and he also has housing emi for 21L+ 3L personal loan. He is also not giving any rent also because of the.current situation. Now he is resorting to emotional black mail and citing senior citizen act stating daughter is liable to pay for living expenses. Already the current house they are staying can get 18K rent.We tried to arrange interview for his job but looks like he is not interested and he seems to be pshyco logical disturbed and talking all non sense. My mother in law is playing neutral role and saying yes to both side without taking a correct stand. My brother in-law is two divorce with history of drinking and physiological mental problems as stated by their ex-spouse.My ask 1. What are legal options available for me. 2. We want him to vacate our house and move to his own house or 1 bhk so that we can help with money from my 2bhk rent. 3. If nothing works can we make a first move of filing police compliant which I want as a last resort.
Ans: Firstly, seeking legal advice is crucial. A lawyer who specializes in property and family law can provide you with specific guidance based on your situation. They can review any rental agreements and help you understand the implications of the Senior Citizens Act that your brother-in-law is citing. This legal counsel will be invaluable in navigating the complexities of your situation.

Next, you might need to issue a formal notice to your brother-in-law and mother-in-law, requesting them to vacate the property. This notice should clearly articulate the reasons for your request, including the financial burden their reduced rent and non-payment are causing you. Provide them with a reasonable timeframe to find alternative accommodation, whether in his own house or a more affordable 1BHK apartment. This approach shows your willingness to support them while also addressing your legitimate concerns.

It's also important to communicate directly and openly with your mother-in-law. Her neutral stance may be contributing to the tension, and having a candid conversation about the situation's impact on your family could help her understand the need for a resolution. Explain the financial strain and the efforts you’ve made to assist your brother-in-law in finding employment. Her support could be pivotal in encouraging him to take more responsibility and action.

If these steps do not lead to a satisfactory resolution, you may have to consider involving the authorities. Filing a police complaint should be a last resort, but it is an option if your brother-in-law’s behavior becomes unmanageable or if he refuses to vacate the property despite all reasonable efforts. The aim here is to protect your family’s financial and emotional well-being while ensuring that your legal rights are upheld.

Throughout this process, it's essential to prioritize your mental health and well-being. Dealing with family conflicts can be emotionally draining, and seeking support from friends, a counselor, or a support group can provide you with the strength and perspective needed to handle these challenges effectively.

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Sir i am from ews category preparing for jee main 2026 about how much marks I needed to get cse in mid tier nit or iiit
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Dear sir/ma'am I want to know about top colleges in kolkata for ba/bsc psychology which is rci approved and their entrance exams with lower fees gov/public as i can't afford private college And
Ans: Ayushi, It appears your question is incomplete, as it ends with the word "and," suggesting you intended to ask something further. However, regarding the first part of your question, please note the following: Government psychology education in Kolkata offers exceptional value through merit-based admission systems and negligible fees ranging from INR 1,400-12,000 annually for entire undergraduate duration, making quality psychology education genuinely accessible for economically vulnerable students. Kolkata University system provides the predominant platform for psychology honors programs, with admission determined entirely by 10+2 aggregate marks without entrance examinations for most government colleges, creating transparent, merit-driven selection processes. The typical eligibility requirement mandates minimum 50-60% marks in Class 12 with English as compulsory subject; aggregate score calculation uses best four subjects (excluding environmental education), establishing realistic yet competitive cutoffs ranging 85-95% for psychology specialization in premier government institutions. Calcutta University entrance examination exists as alternative pathway for select programs, though most undergraduate psychology admissions remain purely merit-based. Competition intensity remains moderate-to-high compared to premium private institutions, with government colleges attracting serious, academically-focused students seeking career development over prestige. Average placement outcomes demonstrate solid career prospects, with psychology graduates securing positions in clinical services, education, corporate HR, research, and government departments at approximately INR 2.9-4 LPA entry-level packages. Notably, government colleges do not formally advertise RCI approval for undergraduate BA/BSc Psychology programs—RCI recognition primarily applies to postgraduate clinical psychology credentials (M.A., M.Phil in Clinical Psychology). However, government colleges maintain standardized psychology curricula aligned with university guidelines ensuring quality foundation education. Top 5 Government Psychology Colleges in Kolkata: (1) Bethune College, Kolkata (NIRF #156, established 1873)—Prestigious women's college offering BA Psychology Honours with merit-based admission, 10+2 minimum 60% with English 60%, annual fees approximately INR 1,181-5,000, excellent faculty, placement rate INR 2.2-3 LPA; (2) Asutosh College (Calcutta University affiliated)—Historic government college, BA Psychology honours, merit-based 50% 12th marks, fees INR 2,400-7,200, strong academics reputation; (3) Surendranath College (Calcutta University affiliated, Government)—Located Sealdah, BA Psychology, merit-based admission 50% 12th aggregate, fees approximately INR 3,000-5,000, average placement INR 2.9 LPA; (4) Basanti Devi College (Government affiliated)—Offers BA Psychology, merit-based admission, extremely affordable fees INR 1,400-3,000, dedicated faculty; (5) Sarojini Naidu College for Women (Government)—BA Psychology specialization, merit-based selection, very affordable fees, comprehensive curriculum.?
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son is preparing for JEE. He wants to pursue Mathematics in the future.Just wanted to know, which are the acclaimed universities which are good for research in the field of Maths , which he can aim for?, and can resaerch also be a career option in our country?. Thank you.
Ans: Mithun Sir, Mathematics research represents a genuine and viable career path in India, particularly through premier institutions like IISc Bangalore (NIRF #1), TIFR Mumbai, and Chennai Mathematical Institute, each offering exceptional research infrastructure, distinguished faculty, and proven track records of producing internationally recognized mathematicians. The Indian research ecosystem provides multiple pathways: doctoral programs typically spanning 5-6 years following undergraduate studies, followed by postdoctoral fellowships lasting 2-3 years, ultimately leading to permanent faculty or research scientist positions. Entry-level PhD researchers earn INR 3-5 lakhs annually, with mid-career researchers (4-9 years experience) averaging INR 8-12 lakhs, and senior researchers commanding INR 12-30 lakhs depending on institutional affiliation and seniority. CSIR-Nehru Science Postdoctoral Fellowship represents India's most competitive opportunity, offering INR 80,000 monthly stipend, annual contingency grants, and over 100 fellowships awarded nationally, enabling transition from mentored to independent research. The mathematical research sector demonstrates strong job growth—employment projected to increase 23% with approximately 3,000 new positions generated annually across academic institutions, government laboratories (CSIR, DRDO), and emerging fintech-AI sectors. Mathematics PhD holders experience unemployment rates below 1%, compared to 7% national average, reflecting consistent demand for analytical expertise. Research positions increasingly intersect with applied domains: data science teams earn INR 20+ lakhs (50% of ISI graduates), while pure mathematicians contribute to cryptography, artificial intelligence, financial modeling, and quantum computing applications. The typical pathway—4 years undergraduate → 5 years graduate school → 2-3 postdoc years → permanent position—requires sustained commitment of approximately 11-13 years before achieving independence, reflecting mathematics' theoretical depth requirements. Three Critical Advantages: (1) Intellectual gratification through fundamental discovery creating lasting contributions to human knowledge; (2) Global academic mobility enabling international collaborations and positions; (3) Multiple exit options allowing transitions into academia, research institutions, finance, or technology sectors. Three Significant Challenges: (1) Extended training timeline (11-13 years) with no guaranteed tenured position; (2) Intense competition for limited permanent faculty roles at premier institutions, requiring consistent high-impact publications; (3) Limited immediate financial returns during PhD/postdoc phases (INR 3-5 lakhs initially) compared to technology industry peers earning INR 15-25 lakhs, potentially creating financial strain during formative career years.? Summing up, for your son pursuing mathematics post-JEE, research offers a legitimate, rewarding career path if he possesses genuine passion for theoretical discovery rather than immediate financial gains. Pursuing admission to IISc Bangalore, TIFR Mumbai, or CMI Chennai through competitive entrance exams (GATE, JAM, or direct selection) positions him optimally within India's premier research ecosystem. The mathematical research sector demonstrates robust long-term demand, particularly in AI, cryptography, and quantum computing, where specialized expertise commands premium opportunities globally. Success requires accepting 11-13 year training investment, demonstrating persistent publication record, and developing independent research vision. If your son prioritizes intellectual contribution over immediate wealth, mathematics research represents an excellent, sustainable career leveraging India's strengthening research infrastructure and growing international recognition in mathematical sciences. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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My son is preparing for JEE. He wants to pursue Mathematics in the future.Just wanted to know, which are the acclaimed universities which are good for research in the field of Maths , which he can aim for?, and can research also be a career option in our country?. Thank you.
Ans: Mithun Sir, Mathematics research represents a genuine and viable career path in India, particularly through premier institutions like IISc Bangalore (NIRF #1), TIFR Mumbai, and Chennai Mathematical Institute, each offering exceptional research infrastructure, distinguished faculty, and proven track records of producing internationally recognized mathematicians. The Indian research ecosystem provides multiple pathways: doctoral programs typically spanning 5-6 years following undergraduate studies, followed by postdoctoral fellowships lasting 2-3 years, ultimately leading to permanent faculty or research scientist positions. Entry-level PhD researchers earn INR 3-5 lakhs annually, with mid-career researchers (4-9 years experience) averaging INR 8-12 lakhs, and senior researchers commanding INR 12-30 lakhs depending on institutional affiliation and seniority. CSIR-Nehru Science Postdoctoral Fellowship represents India's most competitive opportunity, offering INR 80,000 monthly stipend, annual contingency grants, and over 100 fellowships awarded nationally, enabling transition from mentored to independent research. The mathematical research sector demonstrates strong job growth—employment projected to increase 23% with approximately 3,000 new positions generated annually across academic institutions, government laboratories (CSIR, DRDO), and emerging fintech-AI sectors. Mathematics PhD holders experience unemployment rates below 1%, compared to 7% national average, reflecting consistent demand for analytical expertise. Research positions increasingly intersect with applied domains: data science teams earn INR 20+ lakhs (50% of ISI graduates), while pure mathematicians contribute to cryptography, artificial intelligence, financial modeling, and quantum computing applications. The typical pathway—4 years undergraduate → 5 years graduate school → 2-3 postdoc years → permanent position—requires sustained commitment of approximately 11-13 years before achieving independence, reflecting mathematics' theoretical depth requirements. Three Critical Advantages: (1) Intellectual gratification through fundamental discovery creating lasting contributions to human knowledge; (2) Global academic mobility enabling international collaborations and positions; (3) Multiple exit options allowing transitions into academia, research institutions, finance, or technology sectors. Three Significant Challenges: (1) Extended training timeline (11-13 years) with no guaranteed tenured position; (2) Intense competition for limited permanent faculty roles at premier institutions, requiring consistent high-impact publications; (3) Limited immediate financial returns during PhD/postdoc phases (INR 3-5 lakhs initially) compared to technology industry peers earning INR 15-25 lakhs, potentially creating financial strain during formative career years.? Summing up, for your son pursuing mathematics post-JEE, research offers a legitimate, rewarding career path if he possesses genuine passion for theoretical discovery rather than immediate financial gains. Pursuing admission to IISc Bangalore, TIFR Mumbai, or CMI Chennai through competitive entrance exams (GATE, JAM, or direct selection) positions him optimally within India's premier research ecosystem. The mathematical research sector demonstrates robust long-term demand, particularly in AI, cryptography, and quantum computing, where specialized expertise commands premium opportunities globally. Success requires accepting 11-13 year training investment, demonstrating persistent publication record, and developing independent research vision. If your son prioritizes intellectual contribution over immediate wealth, mathematics research represents an excellent, sustainable career leveraging India's strengthening research infrastructure and growing international recognition in mathematical sciences. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Hello Sir, i have a PPF account which is matured and have almost 20 lac of money. Kindly let me know how i should invest this money and in what instruments so that it should have a better liquidity with maximum returns.
Ans: Your patience and discipline in completing a full PPF cycle is wonderful. Many investors never stay committed for 15 years. You have done that with care. This shows strong financial behaviour. It also gives you a safe Rs 20 lakh corpus now. You want better liquidity and higher returns. This is a very fair goal. I appreciate your clarity.

Below is a detailed and simple plan. I will cover liquidity, risk, taxes, time horizon, and overall fit in your life. I will also explain the steps in an easy style. Each point stays short for easy reading.

Let us now move through each part in a gentle and structured manner.

» Purpose and clarity
Your money needs direction. Every rupee should have a job.
– First, you need to see if this Rs 20 lakh has a set goal.
– If the goal is near, then safety is key.
– If the goal is far, you can aim for better growth.
– Liquidity is fine, but it must not reduce long-term return.
– You need a mix of safety and growth.
– This mix must suit your age, income, and risk view.

» Why not keep all money in pure safe assets
Safe assets give peace. But they grow slow.
– Bank FD gives fixed return. But it reduces liquidity.
– Interest from FD is taxed as per your slab.
– This lowers your real return.
– You want better liquidity and more growth.
– So FD alone will not support that.
– You need a higher-growth space in your plan.

» Role of debt instruments for stability
Debt instruments can support liquidity.
– Debt mutual funds give better liquidity than FD.
– No lock-in period in most debt funds.
– You can redeem any day.
– Returns are steadier than equity, but still modest.
– They help you park emergency money.
– They help you manage short-term goals.
– Taxation is simple. You pay tax based on your tax slab.
– So debt funds give ease, but not high growth.
– Still they are a must in your mix.

» Role of hybrid instruments
Hybrid instruments can help balance your growth and stability.
– They put part of money in equity.
– They put part in debt.
– This keeps volatility lower than pure equity.
– They can help long-term investors who want stable growth.
– Liquidity is good because you can redeem any time.
– They fit well for medium-term goals.
– They act as a stepping stone between safety and growth.

» Why not depend on index funds
Some people feel index funds give simple growth.
But index funds have limits.
– They copy a market index.
– They cannot change strategy for bad market cycles.
– They cannot reduce risk when markets fall.
– They cannot increase exposure when markets rise.
– They cannot manage sector imbalance.
– They cannot avoid risky stocks inside the index.
– They cannot control concentration risk.
– They also cannot select high-quality active calls.
– In markets with strong cycles, index funds may lag well-run active funds.
– Active funds, when managed well, use research, risk control, and rebalancing.
– Active funds can shift sectors as per conditions.
– This gives scope for better long-term outcomes.

You asked for maximum returns with liquidity.
Index funds cannot fine-tune risk.
So active funds suit you better.

» Why regular funds via an MFD who is also a CFP
Many people try direct plans.
But direct funds have limits.
– Direct funds remove guidance.
– You get no behavioural support.
– You get no portfolio review support.
– You get no risk control support.
– You manage everything alone.
– This leads to emotional decisions.
– Many investors change schemes often.
– Many exit at wrong times.
– Many enter during market peaks.
– Wrong timing reduces return.
– Regular funds taken through an MFD with a CFP background give structure.
– You get discipline.
– You get suitability checks.
– You get goal alignment.
– You get timely review.
– This builds strong long-term results.
– The small extra cost often brings far higher net benefit.

» Liquidity assessment
You want liquidity.
– Liquidity comes from open-ended mutual funds.
– You can redeem any day.
– Money reaches your bank in one to two days.
– You also get steady growth.
– So mutual funds match your need.
– Debt funds and hybrid funds give strong liquidity.
– Equity funds also give good liquidity.
– You must create a liquidity ladder inside funds.
– This gives quick access without disturbing long-term plans.

» Time horizon thinking
Your horizon shapes your plan.
– If you need some part of money in 1 to 3 years, keep it in debt funds.
– If you need some in 3 to 7 years, hybrid funds can fit well.
– If you have a horizon of 7 years or more, equity funds can deliver better growth.
– Time horizon protects you from market noise.
– Longer horizons reduce risk in equity.
– So map your Rs 20 lakh across these buckets.

» Risk assessment
Your risk level is key.
– You want maximum return, but risk must stay controlled.
– Pure equity will give higher growth, but more volatility.
– A balanced mix reduces fear during falls.
– You must avoid sudden big moves.
– You must avoid chasing high returns.
– A steady plan builds wealth quietly.

» Suggested allocation structure
Below is a broad structure.
It keeps liquidity high.
It keeps risk balanced.
It supports growth.

– Keep about 30% in short-term debt funds.
– Keep about 20% in hybrid funds.
– Keep about 50% in well-managed active equity funds.

This is not a scheme list.
This is just a high-level structure.

» Why this structure works
This mix supports you from all sides.
– Debt funds give safety and quick access.
– Hybrid funds give smoother returns.
– Equity funds give long-term wealth.
– The mix fights inflation.
– The mix keeps liquidity strong.
– The mix reduces fear during market swings.

» Tax awareness
You must know tax effects.
– Equity fund gains over Rs 1.25 lakh per year are taxed at 12.5% for LTCG.
– Equity short-term gains are taxed at 20%.
– Debt fund gains are taxed as per your slab.
– This helps long-term planning.
– Use long holding periods for tax efficiency.
– Avoid frequent reshuffling.

» Emergency use clarity
Always keep some quick-access money ready.
– You can keep a part of debt fund money for emergency use.
– This avoids panic selling of equity.
– This gives comfort.
– This gives liquidity at any time.

» Improving return behaviour
Your behaviour plays a big role.
– Stay invested for long.
– Do not react to news.
– Do not change schemes often.
– Stick to your plan.
– Review once or twice a year.
– This improves long-term outcome.

» Why not hold all in PPF again
PPF is safe.
But it lacks liquidity.
– It has long lock-in.
– You cannot access money fast.
– The returns look steady.
– But they are not enough for long-term wealth.
– You already used PPF well.
– Now you need a more flexible mix.

» How reinvestment should be done
Move money step by step.
– Do not invest the full amount in equity in one shot.
– Use staggered entries for the equity portion.
– Put debt and hybrid parts in one go.
– Spread the equity part over few months.
– This reduces timing risk.

» Aligning investment with life goals
Money without goals risks wrong use.
– Identify the needs of next 3 to 10 years.
– Match investments to those periods.
– Keep long-term money in long-term assets.
– Keep near-term money in low-risk assets.
– This brings clarity to you and your family.

» Behavioural discipline
This part is as important as the products.
– You must stay calm in volatility.
– You must avoid excitement during market peaks.
– You must avoid fear during corrections.
– You must avoid listening to random advice.
– You must follow your plan.
– This gives stability to your family wealth.

» Rebalancing
You must rebalance your mix regularly.
– Markets shift.
– Your portfolio may become unbalanced.
– Equity portion may grow too much.
– Debt portion may shrink.
– Rebalancing keeps risk controlled.
– Do it once a year.
– This small step improves returns.

» Liquidity planning for 360-degree comfort
Liquidity is not just quick access.
It is about smart access.
– Keep debt funds for fast needs.
– Keep hybrid funds for mid-term needs.
– Keep equity for long-term creation.
– This creates a 360-degree system.
– It supports all stages of your life.
– You will not feel stuck.
– You will not feel unsafe.
– You will not lose long-term growth.

» Understanding market cycles in simple words
Markets move in cycles.
– There are good periods.
– There are slow periods.
– Equity needs patience.
– Debt needs discipline.
– Hybrid needs time.
– Your mix will ride all cycles in a smoother way.

» Role of income
Your monthly income gives peace.
– Because you have income, you can take moderate equity exposure.
– You can allow long-term money to grow.
– Your salary supports your liquidity too.
– So this Rs 20 lakh can work with balance.

» Reduced emotional pressure
A structured plan removes emotional stress.
– You know where money lies.
– You know why it lies there.
– You know when you can access it.
– You know how it will grow.
– You feel more confident.
– Your family feels more secure.

» Why you should avoid extreme risk
Some people chase high-return ideas.
– But high risk can destroy savings.
– Slow and steady planning builds wealth better.
– Each rupee must be placed with care.
– Safety and growth must stay equal partners.

» Cash flow support
Your portfolio can support future cash needs.
– If you need funds later, take from debt first.
– Do not disturb long-term equity early.
– This keeps compounding on track.
– This helps you enjoy liquidity with stability.

» Inflation awareness
Inflation reduces value of money.
– So pure safe assets cannot beat inflation.
– Equity can beat inflation.
– Hybrid can moderate inflation risk.
– Debt can support short-term needs.
– Together they fight inflation across time.

» Mistakes to avoid
Please avoid these common errors.
– Do not invest all money in one type.
– Do not keep all in PPF again.
– Do not chase index funds.
– Do not choose direct funds without guidance.
– Do not invest full amount in equity at once.
– Do not check returns daily.
– Do not react to rumours.
– Do not skip annual review.

» How to get the best long-term value
You get best results by small consistent steps.
– Focus on goals.
– Focus on discipline.
– Focus on patience.
– Focus on asset mix.
– Focus on review.
– Focus on behaviour.

» Your journey ahead
You have done great work till now.
Your next phase can be even stronger.
Your Rs 20 lakh is a strong base.
You now need a balanced and liquid plan.
This plan can support your family across many years.

» Finally
Your PPF journey shows your strength.
Now your next step needs a mix of safety and growth.
A steady allocation between debt, hybrid, and equity gives this.
Active funds through a regular mode with CFP-led guidance give better strategy and smoother results.
Index funds and direct funds look simple.
But they lack flexibility and professional support.
A balanced structure with regular reviews will serve you well.
Each part of your money will have purpose, peace, and progress.
This 360-degree plan gives liquidity, growth, and discipline.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Nov 15, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 04, 2025Hindi
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Respected sir, I am 42 years young with 2 kids (5 and 10) wife and Mother living in Ahmedabad. I was in IT and got layoff last year since then I haven't got any other job. Here are my asset details. I have 87L in MF with the following folios under my, my wife and my Mother's name. SBI Balanced Advantage Fund Reg (G) HDFC Large And Mid Cap Fund Reg (G) HDFC Low Duration Fund (G) Kotak Multi Asset Allocation Fund Reg (G) Bandhan Multi Asset Allocation Fund Reg (G) ICICI Pru Equity & Debt Fund (G) DSP Aggressive Hybrid Fund Reg (G) ICICI Pru Ultra Short Term Fund Reg (G) SBI Multicap Fund Reg (G) Canara Robeco Mid Cap Fund Reg (G) Apart from this I have 2 houses in Mumbai (1st 2cr value on rent. 2nd under-construction 1cr value), 2 houses in Ahmedabad (1 I am living in 80L value, 2nd on Rent 2cr value), around 15L in Gold. 13L in my Mother's demat and 4cr in my demat account. I am getting 50k as a rent from my Mumbai's house and 60k rent from my Ahmedabad house. 2cr in my retirement account mostly in stocks. The rent is the only income I have currently. Apart from this I have few more real estate investment totaling 30L. Here is my major expenses, 4L/anum for my LIC policies and 2L/anum for my kids education. I dont have any loans. Now I am planning to start a manufacturing business that will cost me 70L. Should I take a loan for this business of liquidate my stocks? Should I take loan on my MF ?
Ans: You have built a very strong base. Your assets show discipline. Many people panic after a layoff. But you stayed steady. That itself is a big strength. Your rent income, mutual funds, equity holdings, and real estate give you stability. Your expenses are also under control. This gives you room to plan your next move with calm. You have clarity in your thoughts. That is rare.

» Your Current Financial Position

Your asset base is very strong. You hold mutual funds worth Rs 87L across family members. You have equity worth Rs 4Cr in your demat account. You have two houses on rent and earn Rs 1.1L per month from rents. You have gold worth Rs 15L. You also have real estate investments around Rs 30L. You have Rs 2Cr in your retirement account. And you have no loans now. This gives a very safe posture.

Your expenses are simple. You spend Rs 4L yearly on LIC plans. You spend Rs 2L yearly on kids’ education. You manage household costs too. With rent income alone, your basic needs get covered. This is a nice comfort level. You are not forced to take risky steps. You can plan each move with logic and patience.

Your age is also ideal. At 42, you have time on your side. You can start a business. You can build it slowly. You can hold for long-term. Your dependents are young, so future planning will matter. But your current asset base supports this.

» Your Mutual Fund Holdings

You are holding many mutual funds through different family accounts. These are a mix of hybrid, short-term, multi-asset and equity funds. This gives enough diversification. Since you are using regular plans through a Certified Financial Planner or MFD, you get proper guidance. This helps you avoid wrong risk steps. It also helps in rebalancing when needed.

Direct plans look cheaper. But they do not give guidance. In your case, guidance matters more because you hold many assets. Without guidance, wrong selling and wrong timing can cause loss. Many investors in direct funds pay low costs but lose big due to poor decisions. Regular plans help you with asset allocation discipline. They help in tax planning. They help in cash flow planning. So your choice to hold regular plans is correct.

Also, you are not holding index funds. That is also helpful. Index funds look simple. But they have limits. They follow the market blindly. They cannot avoid costly stocks. They cannot adjust during fast changes. They cannot manage risk smartly. Actively managed funds have expert teams. They track markets. They remove weak stocks early. They use valuation signals. They work hard to beat inflation. This helps you get better long-term outcomes. So your choice of active funds is justified.

» Your Insurance Commitments

You pay Rs 4L yearly for LIC policies. These are mostly low-return plans. They mix insurance and investment. These plans restrict your cash flow. They give low long-term returns. They lock your money for long periods. They do not align well with your growth needs. Since you asked for deep assessment, I want to highlight this. In such plans, surrendering and shifting to mutual funds helps in long-term growth. If you hold ULIPs or investment-plus-insurance plans, then surrender and reinvest in mutual funds can help you build better wealth. But take final call after checking surrender charges and maturity periods.

» Your Equity Holdings

You have Rs 4Cr in stocks. This is your biggest liquid asset. Stocks can bring high growth. But they can also bring high swings. If you use this money blindly for business funding, it may reduce your safety. But if you use this money with a planned process, you can balance growth and stability.

You also hold Rs 2Cr in your retirement account. This account gives solid long-term security. Avoid touching this for business. It is your future safety net.

» Your Rent Income Comfort

Your rent income is Rs 1.1L per month. This is a very good cash flow. It covers your insurance premiums, school fees, food, routine needs. This is your safety cushion. Many entrepreneurs struggle because they depend on business income for survival. You have freedom from that. You can grow the business without cash flow stress. This is a big blessing. Use it wisely.

» Should You Fund the Business Through a Loan or Liquidation?

This is your main question. You need Rs 70L for your manufacturing business. You want to know if you should take a loan or sell stocks or take a loan on mutual funds.

Let us assess each option.

» Using Your Stocks

Selling stocks now may harm your long-term wealth. Stocks give high compounding over long years. If you sell now for business, you will lose future growth. Also, stock markets move in cycles. If you sell during a low cycle, you lose value. If you sell during a high cycle, you also lose future upside. Business also needs time to become stable. During early years, your business may not give steady returns. So selling long-term growth assets to fund a new business is not ideal. Short-term taxation and long-term taxation also matter. For stocks, short-term gains are taxed. Long-term gains above Rs 1.25L are taxed at 12.5%. This can reduce your capital further.

So avoid selling large portions of your stocks for business.

» Loan Against Mutual Funds

Loan against mutual funds is a flexible option. It is faster. It avoids the need to liquidate. You can borrow a part of your mutual fund value. You continue earning returns on the funds. You pay interest only on the amount used. The loan is usually cheaper than personal loans. But the loan tenure is usually short. The loan limit may change if markets fall. If markets fall sharply, you may get margin calls. This brings stress. Also, loan interest may reduce your free cash. You already have expenses of around Rs 6L per year. You have rent income. But taking a loan will reduce your safety margin.

Still, this is an acceptable option if you borrow only a small part. But for full Rs 70L, this may create pressure.

» Business Loan

A business loan or a working capital loan is also possible. But interest rates can be high. You need strong cash flow planning. You are starting a new venture. New ventures take time to generate steady income. Paying high EMI in early months can break your peace. You have no job now. So lenders may see more risk. They may ask for extra documentation or security. This may delay your business.

Business loan is fine for expansion. But for a fresh start, it increases risk.

» A Balanced Funding Strategy

You need a strategy that protects your long-term wealth. You also need a strategy that reduces your stress. And you need a strategy that helps your business grow step by step.

You have a very large equity portfolio of Rs 4Cr. You have Rs 87L in mutual funds. You have Rs 15L in gold. You have Rs 13L in your mother’s demat. You have Rs 30L in real estate investments. You have Rs 2Cr in retirement funds. So your total liquid and semi-liquid wealth is very strong.

A mixed approach will help.

You can consider these steps:

– Use a small part of your equity portfolio.
– Use a small loan against mutual funds.
– Avoid business loan in the early stage.
– Avoid big selling in mutual funds.
– Avoid touching retirement money.
– Keep rent income for household needs.

This mix gives balance. It keeps your compounding intact. It keeps your safety net solid. It spreads the funding load.

» Step-by-Step Funding View

» Use around 25% to 30% of your stocks

You have Rs 4Cr in stocks. Using around 25% to 30% of this for business is reasonable. This comes to around Rs 1Cr to Rs 1.2Cr. But you do not need full Rs 70L. You only need Rs 70L. So using a much smaller portion is enough. Selling around Rs 30L to Rs 40L from stocks is safe. It will not shake your long-term wealth. It will not disturb your retirement. It keeps your risk moderate.

Using stock money avoids loan burden. You stay stress-free in the early months of business. Business ideas need calm mind. EMI pressure affects decision quality.

» Use around Rs 20L to Rs 30L from a Loan Against Mutual Funds

Use only a small loan. Use it as a support. Do not borrow full Rs 70L. A small loan gives you liquidity. It helps you in working capital. It also keeps your mutual fund compounding alive. You repay this small loan once business cash flow improves. Margin pressure will also be low because you are using a small amount.

This mix creates balance. You use your assets wisely. You keep loans at a safe level. You keep space for future opportunities. Many businesses need follow-up capital. You must keep backup.

» Why Not Use Real Estate for Loan or Sale?

You already hold many houses. But selling a house for business can cause emotional stress. Also, real estate sale takes time. It may not give the right price. You also get good rent now. So do not disturb this. Your rent income is your mental safety. Keep it intact.

» Cash Flow Protection

Your rent income of Rs 1.1L covers your living needs. Your LIC expenses of Rs 4L yearly can be handled. But consider reviewing your LIC plans. If they are low-return plans, consider surrender and reinvest in mutual funds after checking charges. This will free up money. It will reduce unwanted cash flow pressure. It will also improve your long-term wealth.

Your business will take time. But your rent will protect you. You will not depend on business income in early months. This gives you clear mind. Clear mind helps in good business decisions.

» Risk Planning

You have dependents. You must protect them. You should have term insurance. If you have low-cover term plans, increase cover. A term plan gives high protection at low cost. Since your assets are large, even a moderate cover is fine. But term cover must be pure protection. Not investment-plus-insurance.

You also need health insurance for family. You have two kids. Your wife, mother, and yourself need good health cover. This protects your wealth.

» Emergency Fund

Keep an emergency fund of at least 12 months of your family expenses. You can use part of your ultra-short or low-duration funds for this. Emergency fund helps when business gets slow. It avoids panic. It avoids wrong selling.

» Business Risk Strategy

Start your business with clarity. Prepare a plan for machinery, staff, working capital, sales cycles. Keep business account separate. Do not mix personal and business money.

Use a slow start. Do not expand too fast. Test the idea in small scale. If your model works, expand next year. You have good assets. You can scale safely.

» Tax View

If you sell stocks, check long-term and short-term tax impact. Long-term gains above Rs 1.25L are taxed at 12.5%. Short-term gains are taxed at 20%. Keep this in mind while selecting which stocks to sell.

If you take loan against mutual funds, interest will not give tax benefit. But you avoid taxation from selling.

» Final Insights

You are in a strong position. You can start this business without fear. But you must protect your long-term wealth. You must avoid big loans. You must avoid disturbing your core assets.

A balanced funding plan is best. Use limited stock money. Use small loan against mutual funds. Keep rental income safe. Keep retirement funds untouched. Review your LIC plans. Build an emergency fund. Start business slowly. Grow it step-by-step.

Your journey till now shows strength. You will handle this phase also with confidence.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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