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raghu Question by raghu on Dec 03, 2024
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Hi Madam, i am in dilemma due to family pressured i got arrage marriage by spending two months time her.During chat or call its only casual discussion. I told abt my past love and told her i may come out from that but instead i convntinued my realtion with girl friend.now after 15 days of marriages i am feeling my girl is best for me. I am unable to adjust wth her. I told everyting abt this.its difficult to continue with her because of huge difference her love irritates me. Pls adviae how to come out from this.

Ans: Dear Raghu,
Did you imagine that relationships are like ice-cream? You taste one and then you move onto another and then decide the first flavor is better?
Oh, her love is not irritating; (at the risk of sounding judgemental) it's possibly your dishonesty, your selfishness that is actually pouring into the marriage and making you feel the way that you are. What wrong did your wife do? Why should she be punished for you still latching onto your past love?
A question for you: If it were your wife in your place and she finds your love irritating because she compares her marriage to her past relationship, what would you do? How would you deal with it? That should tell you what to do!

All the best!
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I don't mean to sound judgemental here...but what exactly are you stressed about? You seem to be hopping about from one relationship to another without working on things when they get stressful.
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